 hello love bugs and welcome back to my youtube channel i'm interested in starting a new series so i want to get your input on it uh what i'm going to be doing is reviewing a book that i read called lovable by kelly flanagan if you haven't read it go go freaking read it seriously anyone could benefit from this book but basically what i want to do is go through some of the main key points in the book because i just found it so beautiful so beautifully written so important especially in our society today if you're new here i'm sara and i help teach people find inner happiness through fitness and spirituality and today we're going to try something new this type of book review please let me know in the comments below and i'll continue making them otherwise we'll scratch it okay this is our channel not mine ours it's sort of mine but you know it's a little bit yours too this book lovable i actually listen to it on audio so i don't have the physical book with me i'm a huge bookworm i always have been i mean i have a degree in journalism so writing reading always kind of been my thing this book was so amazing it inspired me to make this video and i realized with how many books i read and and i listen to an audio like i should be sharing this stuff with you guys because it's amazing it's life changing i was blown away by kelly's writing it was so relatable so raw so real and just so wonderfully written that within the first few minutes i was like oh oh my gosh like it was just amazing and basically what this book is about is it kind of stems off from him writing letters to his children and basically him finding himself again after getting slaughtered and weighted down by society and through experiences and growing into adulthood and essentially getting back to our little one as he calls it otherwise known as your inner child is what i like to call it and it's interesting because i think i personally believe in this so much and maybe that's why this book spoke to me specifically so much because i think life is or should be a game i think it should be enjoyed i think you should play i think that yeah you should set up yourself for success and retirement and all those kind of things but more than anything i believe life should be fun and enjoyed and i think we should laugh every day and spend time with the people that we love and and and do the things that we enjoy doing and that's kind of what this book is all about so the first thing i want to touch on is because i already mentioned it this this little one or this inner child inside of all of us if you go back to yourself as a child what did you want to do who did you want to be you didn't come in thinking of all these jaded ideas and all these what ifs because you haven't fallen prey yet to society and through the schooling systems and and people telling you what to do and and your parents and all of these lessons that we learn as a child that we take with us through the rest of our lives and oftentimes we lose that joy that spark for our lives because we get caught up in the day today we get caught up in oh you know did you get the kids up for school oh well i i really want to get this promotion or my boss talked down to me this relationship is failing all of these things that we go through as a human being they pile up and they pile up and they pile up and before we know it we're not doing anything that we enjoy doing we're not exploring the world or exploring life or exploring our freaking back yards we're not playing games because life is so serious but it doesn't have to be and that's the whole point of getting back to your inner child and getting back to your little one one of the things i always say that i love to do my favorite thing my favorite thing in the whole world is to go to edm music festivals it's been really rough not being able to go because of covid and the reason i always say that i love going there is because i feel so free you literally get to escape society for like three or four days and live in this other world where you're just doing whatever you want and listening to music that you want and eating what you want and just doing whatever you feel like doing and there's such a beautiful freedom in that that's why i crave them so much that's why out of everything this past year and not being able to go to music festivals was for me the hardest thing about being shut down i sold two freaking festival tickets it sucks because i feel so trapped and i think the whole point of this in the book is that we get so trapped into our everyday lives and we we we stay in this little box of we must go to school and get good grades and go to college and get a job and get married and have kids and buy a house and die no no i do not believe that that is the way life is to be lived what did you enjoy doing as a child what interested you what games did you like to play go back to doing that remember when we played kickball we care who won or lost that's the whole point life is meant to be enjoyed trace yourself back that little one that inner child that has been damaged through life that's been broken here she's still there they're still inside of us and we owe it to our younger selves to find that person and go back to that and find that spark and that joy for life and another part of that and put another the second part i'll say of this book is that we're enough as we are as we sit i'm enough right now as i sit in this chair not because of my production not because of my performance in a society where everything is based off of our productivity levels and what we're doing is not the way it's supposed to be we are enough without hitting those sales numbers or closing these deals or getting this production done or getting this report in first or finishing the the test in college first and look like i get it i'm i get so caught i'm in sales of course i'm caught up in numbers and closing deals and making this profit i used to be a competitive gymnast nothing mattered but getting the perfect 10 and what happens is that when we're so focused on producing and results is that we forget why we're doing it in the first place we lose our enjoyment for those things you know i was a competitive gymnast like i just mentioned loved it loved gymnastics i was so good at it and i never left a competition without at least one medal like i i competed when i had messed up ankles and i had broken fingers which doesn't sound like a lot but you try holding on to an uneven bar and you got two fingers of them to splint stuff and you know i loved it i i did it for years and years and years i was going to go to college for it i was going to be in the olympics like you know the whole shebang it was sometime in middle school where i realized i was going to practice four nights a week right after school for like three hours and then you had to come home do homework blah blah blah competitions on the weekends i had no life i wasn't okay with that and basically the outcomes and the pushiness and the the perfection of society and the fact that i had to hit you know these things are make sure you point that toe where you're going to lose a tenth of a point or whatever it is it took the joy out of it it was so stressful even as a middle school child that i quit something i loved doing that i found so much joy in because the fact that i had to be perfect at it and that it took up so much of my time and that it became a job and a chore and not just something i like to do forced me to quit and if you think about it don't we get caught up in that all the time even now sometimes when i feel that i'm going to the gym obviously i i'm huge in lifting and i've been doing it for a decade now and every once in a while i get to the point where i realize i'm just going through the motions i don't feel like going to the gym and that is becoming kind of a chore and this doesn't happen a lot but when it does it really freaking does and just happened to me this past week and i was like you know what i'm not gonna go for a few days and after like a few days i was like oh itching to go to the gym because i missed it so i will invite you to take a look at your own life and look at things that you enjoy doing have you made it a job have you turned it into a chore and if you have how do you take steps back to get back to truly enjoying it yes make a career out of your passion love that idea but make sure that it doesn't turn it into something you resent and something that you loaf and something that you don't want to do you are enough as you sit there watching or listening to this video if you don't get the dishes done if you don't turn in your report if you get a B on the test instead of an A you're enough i'm enough and that's something that as a society we really need to start working on and helping each other see that in each other this is a team freaking effort and by team effort please like this video it helps me more teammates right and the last point that i really want to touch on that i found was very interesting and intriguing is that you know it's human nature we are literally built to compare and our minds are very divisive i mean look at this freaking country it is what it is when we're judging others we're actually judging ourselves in relative to that person when he was going over this stuff in the book i was like whoa an example that kelly uses in the book is getting jealous of another person in regards to your significant other so say you're out and you're at a restaurant you're sitting down and the waiter the waitress comes over and they're flirting with your significant other and you start to feel uncomfortable insecure and you're looking at that waiter a waitress and you're like assessing them essentially right and you're assessing them and then you become insecure well why are you insecure it's because you have decided in your brain in your mind regardless of what your significant other things or even notices you've already decided that what waiter a waitress it has something that you don't has something that that you're missing you know maybe it's uh their appearance maybe it's their voice maybe it's their job whatever it is you are comparing that person to yourself and you think you're judging that person but really you're judging yourself in comparison to that person and i think another part that kelly touched on in this book in relation to this that is so important is that as i mentioned earlier we're all jaded we've all gone through hardships we've all gone through different things whether it's addictions or abuse or or a lack of parents or parents that were awful or relationships or whatever there's so diseases i mean there's so many things that we've all gone through we're all broken but we're all beautiful too one of the things that kelly says that he says to himself over and over again is i am broken and i'm beautiful it's not an either or and the thing is is we think that our struggles and our scars our mental scars or physical are what make us insecure and at the end of the day the fact that we're all broken is what the common ground is and if we can just listen to that inner voice of grace as kelly states so often in the book and understand we're all broken just like i said earlier on social media we look at this person posting this as you know perfect girl with the perfect body and perfect life we don't know what they've been through we don't know what they're currently going through the whole point here is in this book ah so amazing is that we're all lovable just as we are and that we need to remember that we're broken and we're beautiful we're broken and we're limitless and to have that grace and give that grace not only for ourselves but for others as well and to stop judging others and judging ourselves and to understand that we're all in this crazy life together i hope you guys enjoyed this little review if you did let me know in the comments below and i'll keep doing them if not it's cool no worries just one video but i really enjoyed making it i took notes while i was reading the book because i just wanted to share these points with you guys i love you so much please don't forget to subscribe and hit that like button i'll see you guys next week and really don't forget after this book be limitlessly yourself