 What it here is ask shirel.com ASK Shirel s H I R E W L E.com and That's a very interesting website that that's a website where you just give you just Yeah, I'm using shirel as the guru for for kids You want to tell us a little bit about that? It came out of the book because It was the same before so I had this idea came to me about writing this book I spent a year on it and then started talking to people in the publishing business and Everybody said the same thing which is wow what a great idea for a book. It's so commercial to that no publisher will look at it Which isn't what you want to hear What they said is you don't have a a platform you don't have an audience If Brad Pitt had written this book it would publish tomorrow, but You don't have that and the publishing industry is too depressed to take a gamble and something like this so I said okay and After you know crying and beating my head against a wall for a while. I Came up with this idea about well, I'm now working as a therapist. I specialized in helping kids Do things that very often kids and parents communicate? What if I created a website where I? made myself a brand and I was the Online you could go to to help get families to better and I Played with the idea bet didn't love it Thinking about it things and finally one day to light bulb what up in my head and what I'm gonna do this but I'm not gonna be the therapist she is and that's so much better and So the website gives advice. It's like a dear Abby if that means anything. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yeah But it's a place where you go and ask a question ask advice and the answer comes to you from a dog's point of view so Yes, all my therapeutic knowledge goes into it, of course, but Beyond that it's a Attitude of complete non-shaming dogs do not understand shame. They don't have it my argument within the family is in a traditional family in the cliche world we Think of as a traditional family When there's an argument when there's a fight going on the family Who's the only member of the family who still loves everyone unconditionally the dog? And who's the only one that can whisper if they can hear what's whispered behind closed doors the dog So to say that level of wisdom makes you a great advisor for when there are problems so I really did it as a thing to build publicity for the book and It may have helped some with that More it has taken on a life of itself. And as you say it is just something. It's free of charge. I I Could get advertising on it But my thing is I wouldn't be able to have control over it and I owe it to the dog To not sell anything that she wouldn't approve of That's so good So basically you're ill Yeah, help you become a guru Shredded in invisibility because people think they're talking to the dog. It's not about you is it Yeah, well, I've never thought of myself as a guru Well, she rail we're like I'm an apostle. I've kind of channel That's brilliant Stickers to say what would Jesus do my things? What would sure else say, you know if you talk? Yeah Yeah, you know enormous positivity Even if she was chasing a cat to kill it. There was just this energy of Loving life and loving everybody That's even they're loving that cat So what would that would have you say and to my mind Usually when we get in stuck stupid places, that's the voice in our head that we're not hearing. All right So I'm going to ask Shirelle now Since Shirelle has been talking to so many individuals now They've been asking her questions. Hi, Shirelle So if we if we ask Shirelle the question is if if a person is feeling Unsure and certain the feeling weak and they want to become more powerful or Or a boss wants to turn that team into a more powerful business Or a more powerful team What do they need to do Shirelle? What do you think Shirelle would say to that with the individual? It would be clear which is If you don't feel power, it's probably because you don't know your real passion because if you found your true passion it would take you over and You know for her chasing squirrels takes her over love of food takes her loving me Or wanting to jump on a stranger would take her over and most of us when you talk about learned helplessness we detach ourselves from Connecting with our own passions and you get to a point where Maybe there are things that you really love But you aren't living your passion. I loved movies. I really loved movies And I wanted to be a filmmaker. That's not the same thing if you talk to a young Martin Scorsese or a young George Miller They would say I want to do this. I love doing this. It wouldn't be so much about Loving movies. It would be I love doing this. I dive into it That's a difference and I'd say most of us I find really lose contact with it. Why why do we do that? I think we're we are very good children a we're very good children and Pursuing your passion is not convenient for the family Because your passion might be running around naked in front of guests, you know, I'd be something not too Acceptable. Yeah, I'd be beating up your little sister, you know, and so you learn not to do those things but Then we need to learn to get to our passions With including the ones that are maybe acceptable that are really unacceptable Um So so how do we do that what one people or people are That's a nice family. That's the what I imagine is the DS family certainly the Greek family. They're really nice families Not the ones where it's abusive or you're growing up with an alcoholic parent or whatever things where Truly the child is just beat down. It's shame to me. No, we're talking about normal families here Sadly, that's pretty damn normal Then But with the if the Organizational I don't think Schoel's ever been asked that which is interesting So is it little challenge? Yeah, but I think I think she would say something along those lines. I am a drama therapist as well as a second therapist I love doing activity based Stuff and I would think there would be Activities that a group could do in a seminar or just a weekly meeting Where the goal is to get people to connect to the passion what they care about most in life, I had a Incredibly powerful moment in acting class one of these acting classes years ago Where the teacher was reading through from a very good book about directing that said at one point the essence of every character is what they want and every character has a single want and That's what you have to work with and you'll get that in writing classes, too But for every reason that night it really hit me and I said, I don't know what my what is and I drove around for like two or three hours after that class just What's my what what's my what and eventually I Came up with the idea. I want to avoid being embarrassed. I want to avoid shame. Well, that sucks You know Then to say okay, I'm gonna work on finding what I want. What is what what do I really what do I want most and whether that later becomes a Romantic thing where I could devote myself a hundred percent to how much I wonder and if she dumps me I'm flat on the street you know puddle of mess but I lived I lived for that and I Sure had a passion about that dog What did My question here is what was she rolls one thing? If you had one thing that she wanted I would say embracing life At all times she embraced sleep when she slept you could see she would go into it fully There was nothing When she wanted she There was nothing in the way so it was it was actually the life though the passion was her thing There's a time she had a Nightmare operation she her spleen had exploded with what proved to be a cancer and they opened her up and Removed the spleen and so I don't see that but she was a very long-bodied dog and that those stitches went pretty much the whole way And I went to the hospital after the operation and there she was in a cage with tons of tubes stuck in her and Doped up and all that and I was just so glad she was alive because I was scared to death and She looked up saw me and oh good we're going home now and got up and walked out pulling all the tubes out Had enough I'm out of here This was not good. I want to go home with you. I don't like this place and that I would say was it and She she just embraced Everything all the time and she certainly loved people. She certainly loved me but But she left others as well Definitely she is a good example for all of us. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you for bringing Cheryl to us and For keeping her memory alive The book again is the teachings of Shirel, you want to put that up the teachings of Shirel life lessons from a divine knucklehead If people want to get that book, where do they go? Amazon? I would say Amazon It's gonna be your best bet. So yeah, Amazon I highly recommend it. It's a beautiful book. It's full of wisdom and the website is Shirel ask Shirel it's calm if you have Kids or teenagers people that want to ask questions, but they don't want to talk to you Maybe this is a great website to go to. Thank you. And I'm glad you brought that up my intent when I created it was children and I've had all ages Yeah, all over the world. I was in my naive provincialism. I was assuming U. S. England, Australia South Africa. No There's another country that has more English speakers than all of us put together, which is India India has been tons but Probably every country in Africa has written in number of Asian places. It was like Iran and I know I know they could do that Wonderful. China. It's been an amazing amazing experience and while certainly the joy for me overall has been the feeling that I'm keeping her alive and spirit going and putting it out there It also has been a great learning experience for me and One of them one of the main Things has been to realize For all our differences. We are so much alike the questions that get written in are Universal to everybody most particularly 12 year old girls 11 year old girls writing in high Sherelle. So there's this boy at school and he's so Cute and I love him so much and but I can't talk to him I don't know how to talk to him. So he doesn't know I exist. Do you think he likes me? everywhere That he's so cute So anytime you hear Okay, you know That's going on in this country right now that the people saying oh people from there are bad people from there Oh my god, you're so much of the same Well with those words of wisdom we leave you Thank you. It's been a real pleasure. Thank you very much for giving us your time and your wisdom and Sherelle's wisdom And I'm sure I represent all our listeners I'm sure that they all feel the same way we wish you a lot of success because we we really believe in what you're doing and And and thank you for keeping Sherelle's memory alive. Thank you. Thank you, Pedro. Very much