 Ladies and gentlemen, let me clean off my camera. He'll see if that's Gonna work. Um my son had a pickup game today So my wife Took him to the pickup game. So it gave me a little bit of time because normally I'm trying to you know on the weekend is not Been trying to be up under her But let me see let me make sure I got everything set up over here All right caramel kisses made it in God bless you let me see so yeah, now I told y'all I wouldn't be doing lives on Sundays on the weekends period but sometimes my schedule get thrown around and I get to have my time with my family, you know, so we were social distance today On somebody water. So we were social distance on somebody water today And so and then my son had a little pickup game soccer game this afternoon So my wife she take him to the soccer, you know, a lot of times If it's just like something like that pickup game because she loved that love to be there and be watching So that gave me a little time to do a little work. So I was able to shoot a shoot a video today Y'all probably didn't get to watch it yet because I don't think it's been an hour since it's been up So you could get to watch that later tonight, you know, and I just was talking I wasn't too too serious on there on the video I did today, but you know, I'm just talking about, you know, the body Just the body and what we dealing with right now. Let me see now And I want y'all to understand on this now. I'm gonna answer questions here in a minute I'm gonna get the questions here in a minute Um, MJ bless you down. I'm gonna get the questions here in a minute But once y'all understand now when I'm doing these videos I'm serious and then sometimes, you know, I'm serious, but I'm also, you know, light-hearted I'm answering it, you know, light-hearted sometimes and so, you know, you got to understand that and I'm touching on different things and the reason why I touch on naysayers and You know commentary sometimes is just because those are real people So it'll do me no good just to talk to people who agree and already know and understand what I'm saying But I also got to speak to the people who may be kind of lost They may be kind of, you know, throwing off a little bit may not understand where I'm coming from So sometimes I'm talking to to those people as well. Just trying to bring more clarity more understanding So now let me see. I saw a question in here earlier see if I could get to it I got a whole video on getting over someone. I actually got a video called how to move on That's I can't cheat you right here because I did a whole hour video. It's called how to move on Can you please explain the 72 hour rule It's actually a whole chapter on a woman's influence And so make sure you get a woman's influence now what I'm gonna do I'm not gonna be answering the question that I already got on video Really what the Q&A is for is your situation some you going through some you dealing with but if I got something for you I'm gonna let you know that because y'all notice. I talk a whole hour. I Don't really if if I already talked on an hour or something I don't want to talk on it for 60 seconds because the way people work is they'll think that 60 seconds Is all that there is and they'll find one little hole And they'll go and get in that hole And get called up because I only talked on in 60 seconds on this Q&A So make sure after this you go and you click on my videos and you click on oldest or newest and you scroll all the way through on But these Q&A this for your current situation that you dealing with Um Pamela God bless you now sent two of your vids to my baby daddy He said if it's not money being made he's not watching then he said If I lost you, I don't know what I did well What you got to do with my videos is you can't send it to him now He probably did watch it He's gonna tell you he didn't watch it But he probably did watch it because men are nosy And men do watch these videos and men are nosy And men do like to see stuff and learn stuff But see men like to learn in the dark Men like to learn in the dark. Hey only put questions in the chat Only put questions in the chat. We try to keep the chat clear So I just when I go to the chat while I'm answering the questions I just want to see hashtag Q with the question So y'all don't don't put any other extra stuff in the chat So so I just could go question question question question Um, so men like to learn in the dark. So he watched the video He watched the video And he got the message But the thing is Is he playing hard to get because a man sometimes who is too given to his ego He doesn't want to allow you to break him down. He doesn't want to change. He wants you To succumb to what he wants to be able to do He want to have his way So if he say hey, I want to be able to do this do this do this talk to you like this treat you this way And you just deal with it He is going to test you to see if you're going to deal with it He's also going to take and see if If he could stay away for a little while if you're going to get desperate And then let him come back Being who he was all along Without requiring that he change That's what a lot of men will do because you got to remember men master the poker face So just like in poker, a man could have a losing hand But you're gonna sit there and fake like he got that winning hand And the one time this guy over here finna win. Oh, somebody asked me they were like, uh, Tony Why you said watch molly's game? And I think that's why I said watch molly's game. I was talking about the poker face And I was talking about men It's a movie called molly's game and I was talking about men and it's a part in there Or all throughout there You will see where a guy could be losing and he getting ready to lose And this guy over here who always lose he getting ready to win But because he always lose somebody to talk him out of his winning hand And that's how men do in relationships You could you could be completely right and you could be getting ready to have The relationship of your dreams, but a man will still try to Pull a Jedi mind trick on you to make you compromise your self-worth and your self-respect and you end up losing You end up losing Co-shared just let y'all know about the memorial they sell on tony gas and the academy Instead of a coupon code. It's no coupon code. All the course is already discounted Because i'm tired of having to deal with people Oh, I forgot to put a coupon code. Oh, I didn't see where the coupon code go. You know what? All right, no coupon code. The course is already discounted just hit purchase. All right That a cut down on my customer service that customer service work. I have to do um Sabrina god bless you hi tony god bless you. What is your beliefs about dreams? Do you think god can reveal the truth about someone in your dream? um god god could do anything but what you have to realize is that You can't just lean on that Because you could have a dream just based on your subconscious dream comes also from your subconscious mind So the last we seen about a dream interpreter was joseph And that's and you see what joseph went on to do So when god gave that gift to somebody he also made that person second in command over the whole egypt Or whichever country that was I think it was egypt So that's a powerful powerful gift. So I wouldn't really be leaning to because you could eat a piece of pizza Too late And it give you indigestion and you have a dream Based on that indigestion and if you wake up next day, tom out, you know what that was god because also The devil could give you a dream The adversarial give you a dream. So I wouldn't lean too much on that what you have to use is Your common sense use your common sense use wisdom And when you use common sense and wisdom see if the message is backed up by the holy bible Instead of trying to be joseph and interpret dreams Because that that gift is most likely past all of us by Oh patricia god bless you uh The goddess cave Question you have to teach men how to treat you slash love you When is it too late to reinforce proper respectful communication? You know each each man Could be a little different in that situation because if a man was raised by savages He maybe was raised so cold. He doesn't know how to be worn so If you're dealing with a man that he doesn't value marriage He doesn't value women Then you may never be able to get him to communicate with you the right way Whereas if a man has some type of reference of a good relationship And he has a desire for marriage, but he's just an imperfect man That's the kind of man that when he talks to you the wrong way you could check him So I saw marriage growing up and I wanted to be married and I wanted to be a good man And I wanted to be a faithful man. I wanted to serve god So when I went to yell at my wife early on we were dating boyfriend and girlfriend and she checked me She said hey, she put her finger up. She said hey, don't talk to me like that I never yelled at her again Because I wanted to be right and do right now. Had she let me yell at her. Guess what? That would have reinforced that behavior and I would still be yelling at her today 13 years of marriage, but I have never yelled at my wife since dating now my voice might get firm But not no yelling screaming cursing calling names. None of that because she checked me and dating But that's because I wanted to change. I wanted to have a healthy relationship and communicate healthy Um, wow these compilation god bless you god bless. I was trying to hit that 499 and my hand hit hers God bless you now May god bless you and your family abundantly to one of your message and advice from god help me change my life for the better In under a year. I've made dedication clips for you And the bless tribe. Wow, and I pray god will continue To prosper you That's a blessing that now Jada god bless. I see your question here now. We had issues ran to his ex telling her I hurt him Broke his heart blah blah. Why does she matter? Because she is his ex and he has a soul tie with her And soul ties are very strong. And so that's his place of comfort. That's his place of consolation And that's where he goes to because that's where his heart is. That's where he's attached to, you know, that familiarity So she may always have that place until he You know breaks that soul tie What qualifies someone to be a dating coach on my mentor? If you take the life coach certification program, it's on tonygashonsacademy.com And that's your passion. You want to help people you want to help people in the space of relationships Then you just got to take the certification program and then you ready to go You know, you get your head shot write your bio try to get a 12 or 15 sentence bio Just telling your story what brought you to this place of wanting to help others in the relationship space Set your hourly rate and you ready to go Ashley Beverly god bless you now. I am just sending blessings and appreciation. No questions. Thank you for what you're doing God bless you. Hey bless you now tonight. I'm gonna just try to be an hour on here now I normally do 90 minutes, but this was just a little pop up. This was a little pop up. I didn't give no notice I gave a I think a 12 minute notice on this one. So we're gonna hopefully we don't have too many people On here tonight where I could get more questions When you get the strength to leave a touch relationship does that man respect your decision or resent you? He does both He does both a man will respect the fact that you're strong But he also will resent the fact that you're strong sometimes see people resent what they aren't So when we don't have a certain type of class or swagger or confidence We may become jealous of that So he will resent you for that The ratio god bless you now So he will respect it now when his head hit that pillow He respects it But he's still mad at you and that's why you have to be very careful And you got to move very slowly when you let an x come back Because when you let an x come back Nine out of ten times that x coming with some resentment and they want some get back They want some get back. They want some revenge. They want to get back at you Hey y'all only questions in the chat only put questions in the chat if you got a question Put um hashtag queue in front of the question What course would you recommend? To the most to a 23-year-old from your website. Thank you so much for the sale If you're in a loving relationship space then take real love university It's a course called real love university If you're in the business space then take the entrepreneurship with purpose course Daughter of a king I haven't dated since my Divorce four years ago and my daughters haven't seen me with any man Will it be a tough transition for them when I do date someone? Seriously, I do not know. I do not know. It probably would be best to identify A woman relationship coach on my mentor dot life who Has gone through that situation or just a woman in general who is a relationship coach or A co-parenting coach. We have co-parenting coaches on my mentor dot life But I don't know because I only understand men So I really don't understand women and definitely don't understand, you know underage girls So I really I I can't really speak to that and I I I try to stay in my lane Um Told me sure god bless you now I've been talking to this guy for two years Says he loves me and I don't understand the love he has for me But he can't give me what I want because of vulnerability Well, it's time to go if you don't understand his love and he can't give you what you want It's time to go. It's been two years. You know, it's already been two years. That's two years too many If you still ain't getting what you want Uh kiondra god bless you now somebody put weights for delete. I don't know what that means lol Don't be filling up the chat acting stupid Just putting stuff in the chat now because now You letting the devil you use you just put questions in the chat Don't come in here letting the devil use you And the moderators they welcome to block you put them in time out. You need to get deleted You could just put it in time out. Don't let the devil come in here using you on sunday In the chat put hashtag cue in the chat not comments. Hey and buy and miss you love you all of that I'm here to help the people who got a question. So just put hashtag cue And put your question in the chat if you put anything else in there Why are we doing question the moderator going to put you in time out? Okay God bless you now. We got room for save Kiondra John god bless you now. Thank you for all god do brandy god bless you now You have mentioned real estate. Do you have a course about making income with real estate? I mentioned it, but I don't teach on real estate now. I got a real estate investment company I'm real light in there now. I don't necessarily It's a so many videos on it. You might not need a course on it and to be honest with you If you got a gift if you got another gift like if you could make an online course if you could write a book If you could coach others one-on-one I will start with that first, you know, real estate ain't really no get rich type thing. It's like you have a house and You you if you finance it you got to put 20 percent down or Up to 30 or 40 they might require more now the situation because it's market getting ready to go down And then you got to worry about tenants. You got to keep the thing occupied Then when it breaks you fix an air condition you fix in roof you fix in all of this so you might be Charging, you know one of the houses. I was dealing with charging 800 a month I bought it cash. So charging 800 a month An air condition broke cost 2,500 So if the rent was 800 a month that took a few months worth of rent. You see what I mean? And so Real estate it ain't for the faint at heart now. It ain't really no But whereas what I'm doing as a coach I done built my brand to wear coaching You can you can earn a full-time living and ain't no repairs ain't no evictions Ain't no fixing stuff you and you serving your purpose The most I could do inside of my purpose in real estate and real estate companies Give my tenants the month of december off so that they could spend their money on their children for christmas That's how I give it purpose. But other than that Using your story turning your mess into your message to help others. That's going to be Much more fulfilling real estate more so just like a money play a money game What what goes through a grown boy's mind? What goes through a grown boy's mind in regards to his social media? All he has is women. He likes all their pictures. Is he looking for a wife? Um, he may be looking for a wife. He just may not know what a wife looks like He may be caught up into the fantasy of the rappers and the dope boys and the athletes and and looking for a woman who Looks like some of their wives or some of their jump offs or some of their women, you know, so You can read a man by his social media Because a good man who's serious. He's not gonna follow You know, half naked women women that's you know Cat fishing and body baiting and showing all of that. He may follow women, but they're gonna be clothed. They're gonna be classy They're gonna be respectful So understand that sometimes a man just really doesn't know what he's looking for and he may not be all the way serious Until he bumps into her Tomorrow, God bless you. Now. Thank you, Tony. I'm on my mentor dot life and have a real estate degree I specialize in education A real estate degree. I ain't know they had a real estate degree now Now, okay. So now tomorrow She has A real estate degree. So the person who just asked me about real estate You could go on my mentor dot life And click Browse coaches or find a coach and in the filter you could hit filtering on the name you could type in her name And you could book a session with her. She could coach you on that real estate I don't know enough about it to be coaching nobody real estate Coach rock. Oh, bless you. Hey, Tony. I took the birth your book course I heard you say that you have an editor and someone that can format your book That is a part of your company. I email support, but I was wondering can you help on live tonight? um No, you got to email support But it just depends on when you email support if you email after 5 p.m On friday or saturday or sunday, then they won't get back to you till monday And then when they respond to you they'll link you with an editor in the lcc editor for you But uh, but yeah, that's that's the way you're going to get contacted with I don't know the person you know email address off the top of my head But they'll contact you and get you set up and then after editing then formatting So you can emails back in or the editor can help you get formatting as well Because the editors we use are also authors and they know how to publish and they are the consultants So the editor that you work with can actually walk you all the way across the finish line if you would like Um curls line god bless you now Can we really be happily married to a man whose family dislikes her? I cut him off and he visits alone Visits them alone or with kids seems like you say to ignore him. Is that enough? Um, you can be happy In your relationship if the family does not like you You you can be happy if he Can treat you right love you and respect you not bring their mess back to you Not take anything negative about you to them when the family don't like you Sometimes it's you and your energy and you coming in there like I got your man. I ain't I ain't got speak to you. I ain't got talk to you. I got you. I got your brother I got your son. Sometimes it's it's your energy And then sometimes it's stuff you done or or and it's what your person is telling them about you So, you know, sometimes people think they can read you, but it really comes down to him So his family My family and I'm gonna tell you this as a man But see I'm a husband. I don't know if you're a girlfriend If you're a girlfriend a man not gonna defend you A man ain't gonna ain't gonna stand up for you because he want his family to break you He want his family to fill you out. But now if you are a wife My family they're gonna respect my wife If my mama my sister or my daddy cousins anybody cannot respect my wife If they turn in their nose up at my wife, they're not gonna see me Because that's who I chose until death does us part And the bible say for this reason a man will forsake his mother and father and cleave to his wife So anybody can't respect my wife. They don't respect me And and they won't be in my presence. So that's really on the man To to do that. But sometimes a man Sometimes what happens in in relationships is we with somebody That we don't even want to be with we we love somebody that we don't like And so we okay with them kind of getting to run around and getting talked about and getting mistreated Because that's getting them on there, you know Um, it's no cold right now. Live learn and grow. There's no cold. There's no cold The life coaching course is already set with the cold with the discount already on there. So no cold will work on it. Okay No cold will work on that. Yeah So don't y'all that right now through tomorrow Today and tomorrow or some memorial they sell on tonigasinacademy.com You ain't got the rush to get there because the courses don't sell out. It's it's digital So they don't sell out. It's not like a product a physical product that'll sell out. It's digital It's videos sometimes people y'all go to the tonigasin academy and buy the birthday book course and then email in and say Hey, when I'm gonna get the book in the mail and I'm like That's an online video course That's not a physical product. That's not a book You know the books you get on amazon this tonigasin academy. That's online video Okay We've been dating for two months every time I tell him I don't like something. He says i'm restricting him From being himself or that i'm sensitive should I leave or try to better communicate? um You got to look at what you're talking about And does he have a point Are you being picky? Like is it oh, you leaving the toilet seat up? Oh, you leaving your plate on the table or you left your socks in the floor Why do you chew like that? Or or or is it substantial? Is it standards? Like hey, why are you texting that woman? Hey, why are you liking that woman's picture? Hey, why did you say you're gonna call me and you didn't call me? So you got to look at what you checking him about If it's nitpicky stuff that don't really matter Like this is what I always tell myself In my relationship. Is she faithful? Can I trust her? Is she honest? Does she respect me? Every nothing else matters. She could chew how she wanted to she could swallow how she want to swallow Walk how she want to walk talk how she want to talk Do whatever else she want to do as long as she loving respecting honest and trustworthy That's what you have to realize in a relationship. Man might leave his socks on the floor. Okay. That's not deal breaker He might leave the toilet seat up. Okay Sometimes you're gonna leave your monthly in the trash and it ain't wrapped up good enough in the toilet paper Or you don't flush it down the toilet and it then blew up in the toilet and and clog the toilet We all gonna make little petty mistakes So you got to evaluate what you checking him on and ask yourself is this a deal breaker The ratio god bless you now. Is there a segue for a man's protection as a serious? Is there a segue for a man's protection as a serious girlfriend or fiance? I really don't understand because when you say segue, I know what you're talking about like a You know a connection or a through path, but just I just the way it with that capital s. I just think The thing that people ride on downtown And then when you say a man's protection It's like a y'all getting in fights Or you talking about protection from the family As a serious girlfriend or fiance Now if you're talking about what I think you're talking about like him standing up for you to his mama His sister friends and family When you a serious girlfriend or fiance Then yes, you know that he will start to protect you when y'all get serious He will because he you preparing for marriage So if that's what you saying but beyond at the same time now Men built different Okay, should the man still protect the woman from his family in that role? I see what you're saying He should but will he he should Now see I don't talk to y'all about what a man should be doing because we all know what he should do But the question is will he 9 out of 10 times no Because when you not married, that's still the trial period. That's like training count So what this man is doing is he's leaning on his family He's leaning on his family to see if they can sense something in you that he doesn't see He leaning on his sister's Women cousins aunties mama to read you and to judge you as harshly as they can To put him on game about something If that he may be naive to because he's a man and doesn't fully understand women So It may be open season In the dating now if he's a good man He will not let them do that. He will have it to where they treat you like a queen They smile they key key in in your face and they come to him in private and tell him This is what I feel about her. This is what I sense about her and then he will deal with that internally and see if She just built a cousin who don't want her cousin to be taken away because he her best friend Or if she genuinely care, so he's going to look at it like that Um, kisha god bless you now. I'm a christian and he's a jojova witness We match on everything else, but do you think it will work out despite the differences in religion? Now jojova witness is kind of like Christian too kind of but you're right. It's a different belief system. It's some different, you know Different book, you know the watchtower and all of that but um No, it's gonna be real hard because when you when you say christian You are saying that jesus christ is the way the truth and the life and that You got to go through him to get the god if another belief system Doesn't believe like that, which I don't fully understand jojoa witness the what I remember about jojoa witnesses, you know for one They they They reminded me a lot of Pharisees how the bible say the Pharisees will be on the street corner praying And you know showing they faith publicly And they say look go in your closet and pray in secret Don't be like the Pharisees on the street corner Wanting praise from people in the jojoa witness. That's what I remember no offense to jojoa. They would go on everybody though And you just not going to reach nobody by knocking on everybody though You might get something put in you. That's hot and that's lead You said I mean, but they were going be knocking on everybody though I remember my daddy used to let them in and he's still going Schooling and they'd be sitting there trying to flip through that watchtower Well, let me see what this says and they'll get the bible. He said the hold on now Why are you grabbing the bible now? You got a watchtower? No, you say you read the watchtower. So what you why are you using the bible too? Oh, no, sir. We refer to the bible too and he'll go and he'll school him by the end of it They're like sir, can you pray for us? Can you pray for us? Can you help us sir? We want to we want to convert We want to come over there and he'll go on school them And so and then my uncle was the whole witness and he didn't celebrate any holidays birthdays christmas nothing Me knowing a man I just knew he wanted to be jojoa witness because he was cheap and he didn't want to spend money On holidays that cost money But you know, I mean be drunk as a scum tommy here the whole witness. So he got this Celebrate holidays So you got to look at really the root of the belief system Why the person in it and how they believe and if the foundation is different It's not going to work because you can't raise kids and give your children two different foundations two different belief systems You know what mama say we celebrate birthdays Daddy say it's just another day. We ain't celebrating birthdays. You see what I mean? That's just You're unequally yo And that's hard for a lot of people to understand because a lot of people believe And be writing me and saying hey Well, I know somebody that they're two different religions and they're happily married for one You don't know if they happily married two. You don't live with them Three, they're not really religious They don't really believe they're religion if they would somebody that's of another religion because Religions have foundational irrefutable uncompromisable beliefs So if you with somebody that believes different than you then you're not really all about what you say you believe You was born into that but you're not Living that and that's what a lot of time we confuse So it just really if you if you really writing with what you say you believe As the god bless you now, I find myself being in a relationship with a man who tries to tear me down Why is it? But he always says says it is He doing it because he loves me or to help me Well, I'm gonna tell you that he full of it if he really tearing you down So this what you have to also look at you got to make sure that it's actually tearing you down So if he's saying, you know, why are you so stupid? You know, I tell my goodness. Do you have to be that stupid? That's not how you do it You do it like this. That's tearing you down If he's saying, hey, you know, have you thought about trying it like this? Like I think it'll be easier if you try it like this So now if he actually tearing you down, it's because He has not healed from his pain He used to get tore down by his mama or his daddy coach grandma mama uncle somebody And that's what they told him I'm I'm doing this because I love you now He's coming to you and he want to be the big man on campus. He want to be in control So he's tearing you down Because he's still hurting from being tore down And sometimes you got and what you got to do if you're gonna stay there You got to call that out. You got to say, listen, you're not helping me Because when you love somebody, you don't try to hurt them. So you ain't doing this because you helping me What you're doing is You're trying to hurt me. And so what's what I need you to understand Is that you're doing that because that's what you told me your dad used to do to you Or maybe your mom or your dad used to do that to you if he hadn't told you How his upbringing was so sometimes you got to call it out and you got to put the mirror in the person's face And I had to do that, you know, my wife had to do that with me. I had to do that with her We had to check one another and say, listen, I don't know where this come from But it ain't coming in here. So Check this baggage at the door and let's do this thing the right way So that's what you got to do Now I might have missed one of those on yellow ones. I'm gonna scroll back through Let's talk here. God bless you now building my following as a coach speaker and podcaster I recorded a hundred podcast episodes post the quote daily And go live five days a week also took your certification. Do you suggest anything else? No, you doing now you doing and why are you building? That's what it's gonna take. That's what it's gonna take Keep going live Try to go live at the same time every day. Try to go live at the same time every day if it's possible And that's gonna help you build keep doing your podcast If you're not shy face, you say you're going live. So if you're not shy face, you need to be doing youtube videos You know for all them podcasts to be honest with you podcast is not the way to go When you got youtube Like podcast is not as viral as powerful as youtube Unless you already made you already celebrity or you just got this topic that's just going to be so Interesting that everybody it's going to be a mass market topic Um zz god bless you now y'all hold on real quick here. Let me see I feel like I might have Miss one of those Yellow ones that was up there. Maybe I got them, but I'm gonna check real quick Jay dilla god bless. I I miss your thing, you know, okay, I might have Called on Dating the guy for eight months not on my back. He's a widower five years told me Won't sell his slash their house when remarried I'm not feeling living in her house, but don't see a compromise red flag track shoes Yep, got to go. You got to go He probably not gonna marry you anyways He probably not gonna marry you anyway He's probably not looking to get married because he's looking to get married. He wouldn't even let that come out his mouth So Yeah, he he ain't looking to get married And when you recognize something like that for one, he's still so tired to her He's still so tired to her And basically he telling telling you that's my wife. I still love her. She left prematurely Was called on to the lord and you're never gonna replace her. You're never gonna be her I don't want to start over. I just need a band-aid to feel this place because I'm not feeling all that good You know, so I need a band-aid So I understand that though How to deal with a relationship When the both of you are just alike stubborn both feel you're right. I don't care attitude even though you do care Um You you don't really care Because there's no pride in love So if you really care, then you're gonna get over yourself If you really care, you're gonna be selfless So y'all are not meant to be together Because when you love someone you want to be selfless the two of you will be selfless see Both of y'all are being selfish because you're looking to be served So y'all will be bumping heads the rest of your life a relationship is about two people coming together And wanting to serve the other So i'm trying to do everything under the sun for my wife. I'm trying to speak all the love languages fluently She's trying to speak all my love languages fluently And we're trying to serve and we're not trying to keep score So that's when you know that you meant to be together when y'all both stubborn You both hard headed you're both, you know arrogant rule condescending selfish all or whatever that is Then You're not meant to be together y'all y'all are enemies You know posing as teammates and and that's a painful situation to be in So one of y'all gonna have to mature if you want to stay together somebody gonna have to take the lead and mature And it should be the man Because typically when it's the woman the man will take her grace for granted and he will let her be a do-girl It should be the man trying to treat the woman like a queen because he's the one that has to propose He's the one that has to lead in love So if the man is not leading with selflessness and love their relationship is doomed It's doomed Amy P. God bless you. What if he does not trust due to a past wife's infidelity I am very trustworthy if I do not answer the phone. He is suspicious. We have been on month seven And he travels for work 70 percent of the time You're gonna have to call that out You're gonna have to speak to it instead of just dealing with it You're gonna have to say listen if we're gonna be together you're gonna have to heal You're gonna have to grow and you're gonna have to trust I've given you no reason for you not to trust me I refuse to be a prisoner To someone else's mistakes So you need to heal before you deal And if you cannot do that then we cannot be together So you're gonna have to address that and when you call it out now It's out in the open now the person knows that that's what they need to change And we have to my wife had to tell me listen if you're gonna be with me You're gonna have to stop trying to be controlling stop questioning me You're not gonna hold me against my will if I get upset and I need to step out of the room Don't put no hand on me trying to hold me She had to let me know like listen None of this gonna fly I had to let her know listen. I love you. You got you can't be so sensitive I don't know who hurt you But you can't be Being so sensitive If I'm telling a joke or just playing around And then she realized okay. Yeah, I'm I'm you know being too sensitive Me I'm being too jealous too insecure. We confronted one another with a truth and then we were able to work past it So don't just deal with it Can a man that's in love with the woman marry her After she cheated back Now when you say cheat it back That means that He doesn't love you and you don't love him And neither of you love yourselves Because a man who is in love does not cheat And a woman who is in love will not degrade herself and risk her body catching the std Or a spiritually transmitted disease sexually or spiritually transmitted disease Get on her back add to her body count just for revenge So you didn't do that To get back at him You did that because of a lack of self-esteem self worth and self love It has nothing to do with him. You did what you wanted to do He didn't cheat because of something you did he did because he is a low character So when you have too low character individuals Y'all not going to make each other better Because instead of a person completing you they will deplete you So that's what you have to understand when you're looking for somebody to complete you You'll end up depleted first or instead So y'all got to be too Whole individuals meaning that you desire to be whole and healthy and pure and honest And then two whole individuals you don't complete one another you Compliment one another each other So understand that and that's where we get it wrong You come together like this when you want to be whole When you empty have empty It's just like you in the room and y'all fighting for oxygen If you find for oxygen like the movie saw, you know the movie saw sv Where they get put in that room and like a somebody got to live somebody got to get out of here And they playing the game with them and folks go to Getting real vicious in there and it's like a it's me or you Hey, you got to go because i'ma live that's what happened when you got when we're broken and we're in a relationship He cheating you cheat So guess what he may marry you Because sometimes we like to be around what's toxic. We like to toxic Because that's what makes us feel comfortable Because if we with somebody that's not toxic, that means we got to grow and we got to change and that's uncomfortable I was talking to a male acquaintance about topic of dating keeping in mind what you're what you're teaching and he said I'm acting like an entitled princess What's the difference? He doesn't believe in silvery and goes dutch Well, what he doesn't understand is that you are god's princess That meaning that you you the daughter of the king You are the daughter of the king And so that means you are entitled to be treated like a queen And so he don't believe in silvery because he doesn't believe in the value of a woman He doesn't understand that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the lord He doesn't realize that a woman brings favor to his life. He don't believe that Because if you believe somebody brings favor to your life If you believe somebody is necessary to your existence And that you need this person and that's why god created her if you believe that Then you're gonna want to treat her the right way He also is not a believer meaning of the holy bible Because a fusion fives tells a man to love husbands love your wives as christ loved the church So he does not have a foundation of belief In the creator So therefore you won't get a pure love from a man who thinks like that. Now. That's your male acquaintance So i don't know if that's the man that you're trying to date, but To be honest, there's a lot of men out there like that and and i'll tell you what, you know, youtube is taking over Television a lot of people spending more time on youtube and television. That's why they got youtube tv now And so what's happening is a lot of these men they coming on youtube and We're looking for something to scratch our ears so If we've been cheated on or we've been lied to by a woman or you've been hurt by a woman Or you believe, you know, women this women that And you come on youtube you're gonna bump into people that's telling you That you gotta manipulate use mistreat a woman how to drag along with some bait And so men coming and they hearing this stuff and it's making them build more resentment to war Women and that's when they walk away and that mindset is you know, confirm that oh You think you entitled you think you deserve to be treated like this treated like that You don't deserve nothing. You deserve what i give you Woman so It's making a lot of bitter men Now look at here now god bless you jlc bless you bless you How to deal with someone during conversation No matter what it's about the question comes how you know that I really don't feel the need to prove every discussion Well, you know, it's that's something that you're dealing with a very petty person And that's one thing that helped me choose my wife Now now I noticed with my wife 13 years in We disagree on everything like what I mean by this is we two totally different people We completely opposite But what maturity is and what love is is to say Oh, okay. You think that This lotion is toxic. All right. So what do you mean? Oh, we got this right here in it. All right. Let's google this Oh, this where this come from. Oh, okay. You think that With lotion you supposed to put it on on the outside of your hand first The other person think oh you supposed to put it on the inside first You see what I mean? So you're gonna be two totally different people but when you love somebody and you mature You're like, okay, cool. Yeah, I respect that. Okay. Yeah, and you take into consideration what they say So my wife was saying something to me the other day and it didn't really make sense to me as I was listening It didn't make sense to me But after we stopped talking I started to think about what she was saying. I'm like man, that makes that makes some good sense Instead of just arguing and going back and forth That makes some good sense and I took and did exactly what she suggested And so That's when you dealing with somebody that's mature that has mature And so when I met my wife We'll be talking and I realized now when I met her She probably disagreed with a lot of stuff I was saying But what she said to herself is is this worth arguing over? Is this a deal breaker? This is a simple difference of opinion, but it's not a foundational belief So this isn't a deal breaker and she didn't say anything Now that we're closer been married 13 years. She could disagree with this or that I could disagree with this or that and then we could talk through it So that's what you're dealing with a lot of time when you meet a man sometimes What happens what what humans want to do what men want to do and women Want to push your buttons a person The person who cares the least has the most power So the person if a person can push your buttons and it upsets you and you don't laugh it off And it doesn't mean anything to you then they control you So at any given time the deeper y'all get in now he knows your buttons So if he want to control you and he want to get to you he know exactly what to say So that's why you can't ever and me and my wife we learned this And I feel like God orchestrated a lot. We both worked in a group home And in the group home, we learned this tactic called ignore redirect reinforce So basically what this tactic what this was teaching is in behavioral science Is that unless this is harming physically harming you or the client ignore it redirect it to another behavior And then reinforce the positive behavior So if the client sitting there doing it And The staff may say Stop doing that you getting on her So now the staff just let the client know. Oh, thank you But if the client is doing this And then the staff say Hey, hey, hey John. Did you see the game? Or a WrestleMania, you know, your favorite wrestler was on there He said Stone Cold Steve Austin. Yeah, he was on there and then he started talking about it. Then you say Hey, thank you so much for talking with me about wrestling ignore redirect Reinforce and that's what happened a lot of time. Oh my main light went out on him And that's what happened in relationships. Me and my wife. We learned that To if I give a little attitude She'll ignore if she didn't do anything wrong And I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed and I just want to have an attitude She'll ignore and she'll go right on to the next thing. Hey, baby. You want something to eat? And I'm sitting there trying to get an attitude because I want some attention for attitude. I want some attention um Yeah, yeah, I'm hungry And then I got to go and get on up out of it I got to get out of it. And so that's what that's what you have to realize in relationships Is it negative reinforcement if I don't go back to my boyfriend slash baby daddy after he Steps up financially The main issue is verbal abuse and disrespect. We're together three years Um If you don't go back And this the thing now if you go back It's negative reinforcement If you don't go back it's positive Because if you go back just because he stepped up financially That means I could buy you If he's still if the problem was verbal and disrespect they don't have nothing to do with finances So if he stepped up financially and then you go back, it's like, oh, you could be bought Oh, you lose booty 901. Oh use a thought And so now he's gonna feel like he could keep talking down to you keep disrespecting you as long as he's spending money So you got to understand that right there Now hi Tony, could you please consider to do a video on how to elevate your spirit? Your Sunday sermons are so precious. I do appreciate and respect your time working patience. God bless you. Hey bless you How to elevate your spirit? Okay I will do that He asked me out and said He's looking for a wife After three months no flirting or romance He asked me out and said he's looking for a wife After three months no flirting or romance told him I want a romantic connection He said we need to start as just friends and I move too fast Am I wrong? um No, you're not wrong And he said he's looking for a wife because that's what he knows the key words to say when you meet a woman But then now no flirting no romance Three months in and he said y'all need to start as friends That means that his interest has moved on and he doesn't want to tell you Actually, I'm no longer interested in you So in manglish what he's saying is actually I'm no longer interested in you But if you want to prove yourself to me and win me over By being friends with me I'm going to take you from being friends to being friends with benefits And I still may not want you, but I appreciate you for working for me and trying to win me But I'm not showing you romance or flirting because I don't want you anymore. I just told you I'm looking for a wife, but obviously you're not my wife That's why I'm not flirting or being romantic with you over this whole three months That's what that means in manglish what he told you Because that's common sense that y'all starting as friends That's what you do on day one you start as friends But you starting as friends with the idea of being Of building a romantic relationship. So you friends inside of a relationship not friends Plotonic friends talking about you want a husband or you want a wife Now, thank y'all so much. Now, I don't know how much longer I'm gonna be on here My main light and went off on me, but I'm hoping y'all I see y'all still can see me on here Was I wrong for breaking up with my boyfriend or one year because he can't stop smoking And he doesn't want to stop sleeping together before marriage You weren't wrong. You weren't wrong. You never wrong for leaving a situation that does not serve you or does not make you feel like You in a win-win What that's what happened there is you grew and he stayed the same Because he smoked when you met him So you shouldn't have been with him if that was one of your standards You slept with him. So you gave that to him So you shouldn't have did that if that was one of your standards Maybe it was not one of your standards, but now you have come into some new knowledge And now you've grown So if you grow and he's unwilling to grow with you, then you got to let him go So you can continue to grow and hopefully letting him go Will encourage him to grow So no, you're not wrong for that You're not wrong How to deal with a soul tie with someone you believe is your husband And you believed you have received confirmation from god Um Now on my sunday sermon today I was talking about how god does things decent and in order And that when god do it it's still gonna make sense because god is not the author of confusion So what you got to realize is if you have a soul tie With this person what you have to ask is is this soul tie a physical soul tie? Meaning where y'all sleeping together If y'all were sleeping together Then you cut off communication with god Because god is not going to confirm that somebody you fornicating with is your husband Now if y'all were not sleeping together, guess what if god confirmed in your spirit that that's your husband He will also confirm in his spirit But truthfully he's gonna confirm in the man's spirit before the woman's spirit because it's the man who has to be in the mindset To lead in love and to propose So the confirmation gonna be in the man So that's gonna make the man pursue the woman then the woman when she sees this man and she accepts his approach Then she will receive confirmation that this is my husband But if You feel like it's your husband But he doesn't feel like you're his wife because his actions don't show that Then that's when you know god ain't in it because god is not the author of confusion He ain't gonna just tell you something and not tell the one who got to get on one knee and propose Married for seven years and he cheated and disrespect me I move out of the state after 16 months He wants to work on the marriage when I mentioned counseling. He said We're too far apart and we've grown apart All right, go on about your business. That's the answer right there That's the answer, you know, you don't need to hear nothing else after that. He told you So basically he just was calling you just to waste your time just to see if you're gonna Still be low standard, you know, low standard Sally like he knew that you once were But it's gone about your business All right, y'all I'm finna get ready to go now. Let me answer this question right here Can a man who gives more than an hour a day Lots of attention Built the solid connection etc for five months still be playing games He led me to think I was the only one Was he building his roster? If he did it if he did it Then then your answer is yes He can still be playing game if he played the game Then yes, he can still be playing games and yes a man can do that Because it's 24 hours in a day. He only gonna work eight To 12 of them. So he got a whole another 12 to 16 hours So a man can very well Give two women or more the time of day. You could have been the hour woman He could have had a 30 minute a day woman. He could have had a 15 minute a day woman He could have had an hour every other day woman He could have had a 30 day 30 minute every other day woman A man really know how to manipulate and use those 24 hours when it comes down to women That's what a man can do So guess what as soon as you realize that he's not consistent As soon as you realize that he's lying to you that he's leading you on That's when you move on with your life Hey, I say I'm only gonna do an hour tonight. Now. This was a bonus special bonus Q&A I ain't had that much in me that much energy I take Sundays off but being that my wife, you know gone I ain't have my Netflix person because she she out at the pick up soccer game with my son. So I figure I'll pop on here still to watch a Netflix by myself But uh, she should be back on the way back home. So I appreciate y'all God bless you If you missed any of this, it'll be up. Hopefully In a little bit. I shot another video earlier today. Remember my videos on Sundays It don't have any advertisements on it It's not monetized so that you can watch it straight through get that Sunday sermon in your spirit Without any interruptions So hey, God bless you. I appreciate you and to the person who sent me a cash out today God bless you now because on caramel kisses. She Post my cash up in there sometime How she found it. I don't know But she always posted and somebody sent me a cash out and they really blessed me and everybody that blessed me tonight Hey, that blessed. I really appreciate you and to all the members wish this a member's only chat Thank you so much for being a member of the blessed tribe And uh, we'll talk soon. I might get to go lie tomorrow night, but ain't a hundred percent yet God bless