 Hey guys, welcome back to 21 convention. I hope everybody had a great night last night and hopefully got some rest, too Before we get our first speaker up with the day Anthony's gonna like to have a special word about him There you go morning guys This next speaker Robbie Kramer Back story to him is that I'm always in the lookout for dating coaches They're actually worth a damn and to be honest every that goes by they are harder and harder to find So when I do find them I kind of know it right away, and I I felt that sense when I saw Robbie So this past year met him at another pick-up conference. I saw him and I knew right away I was like this guy a belong to my event not so much this event and I really want him there So I'm gonna do whatever it takes. So I talked to him worked it out. Here. He is the world's number one confidence coach Robbie Kramer All right everybody When tired No, all right good So thanks for that intro Anthony. I'm Robbie Kramer, and I've got some cool stuff for you guys today the The interesting thing about how I teach Which is maybe a little bit different to a lot of people that teach this stuff is I call myself kind of like a wisdom guide meaning I'm all about giving people tools to help them learn at the ideal rate and I'm not the type of it like you know There's a lot of these gurus and the gurus are like do do this follow this. That's not who I am What I do is I get you guys into a learning type of mode and that that was what really helped me So let me give you my backstory real quick Basically, you know right now life is pretty good. This is my girlfriend You know, I feel pretty confident most of the time not all the time, but it definitely was not always like that I was like the biggest nice guy in the world. You guys anyone else any nice guys in here? Yeah All right, so What I mean by nice guy is like high school college I was the guy that brought extra copies of his homework So I could just pass him out to the girls because I figured oh, that's how that's how you meet women You're just really nice. You know, I had the the nice Jewish mom, you know, so any any other guys can relate to that the Jewish mom there we go and It was in about 2005 when I realized Wow, there's actually people out here that can teach you to be better with women. This is so cool I had no idea that was even possible so I started studying and reading all this stuff and I'm the type of person where I'll like see something and I'll be like, okay. I got to try that. That sounds fun. That sounds crazy so I just go out and try all this stuff and some of it would work some of it wouldn't but The in the entire time I was trying stuff in terms of like strategies to meet women. I found that If I ever had to express attraction to a woman It made me feel really nervous really awkward like I didn't want her to know that I was into her It was I felt bad. I felt kind of sleazy about that So I was always like in this weird sort of dilemma like what do I do? Do I go in and be like the sneaky indirect type of guy or do I just like go straight up and be really direct? But neither of those kind of methods felt good. Can anyone else relate? Yeah, cool. So What I had to do was find stuff that was in alignment with who I was so I started studying this stuff and that stuff and Some of it worked some of it didn't and I knew that I had to get some sort of coaching so I started taking boot camps and I became a head instructor after taking about four different boot camps from one of the one of the biggest companies back in the day that taught pickup and They were flying me all over the world teaching the stuff to other people and it was cool because I could go into a bar and basically have like this group of students around me and they thought I was this awesome like pickup guy and They all looked up to me but the whole time I felt kind of like a fraud because I could teach these routines and these techniques but Deep down I was still embarrassed about my attraction towards women. I still felt weird about it and Even though I started dating more women it was just kind of more of the same type of women I always got the women I settled for and I knew that I had to do something different so I left that company and I started really looking at inner game and I kind of dove into this whole arena of inner game and That's when transformation started to happen for me I took a look at myself my integrity my morals as a man kind of a lot you know what the other speakers have been talking about is you have to be a man and I was a boy Even when I was coaching for this other company. I was a boy So the process of becoming a man expressing my attraction getting comfortable doing that That is what really changed everything and that's what inner confidence is all about so See if you can relate to this statement What is wrong with me? I see beautiful women all the time, but I just can't seem to go over and talk to them and when I do Sometimes you know, I usually find a way to screw it up who can relate to that so today what I'm going to be talking about is Strategies first off how to pinpoint the strategies that are right for you Now who knows there's a lot of strategies out there You could be studying for years To kind of get all this knowledge that's out there on the internet. It's good, but it's also bad And I'll talk about that The mindset how to make sure your mindset kind of your inner game is in alignment with what you're doing your outer game the strategies sexual tension This is really the key to the kingdom when I talked about before you have to be comfortable With sexual tension if you want to be a man when it comes to relating to women and last how to develop a game plan and How to set up step-by-step action so you can guarantee that you're going to take that action and get better Because it's all about action if you're taking action consistently Not too much and not too little find the sweet spot. You'll really see massive improvement so My promise is that I'm going to teach you guys as much as I can in the limited time I have and for some of you guys that want to learn more I'll show you how to do that in the end and I probably won't have time for questions because I have a ton of content But I'll take questions after the speech come find me anytime You know, I love to talk about this stuff so I'm gonna talk about a concept called external alignment and What I said before about there being tons of dating advice out there that can actually be a huge detriment to people It was for me because when I first started studying it was like, ooh, there's this cool stuff There's like, you know this mystery stuff and then there's this like banter stuff and flirting and direct stuff And I had no idea what to do and so all I kind of did was a Okay, I'll try that I'll try this I'll try the other some of it worked some of it didn't but What was really going on was that?