 Welcome to every way woman here. We value home, but some of us weren't afraid to always leave it You've lived all over the world. Well, I grew up in the military lifestyle. So we moved every four years So moving for me was not it's not something I fear I look forward to change sometimes and Sometimes now that I have children and I can't move because I want them to have the stability I didn't have I get anxious sometimes I get really anxious to want to pick up and go Now for me a native of California born raised on my life I studied abroad at abroad in Italy in college and that's the furthest I went away But where are you afraid to do that? No, actually I was excited and now in my mature age There's there's a part of me that want the kids to go away to college and my husband to pick up and get a ranch in Montana with a horse and everybody else to go a dog named mutt on the truck and go but Because it's time for a change right But when you're younger you you have a tendency to be fearful because of the unknown see it for me personally I Embraced the unknown so I grew up in Michigan four days after I got my college degree I packed it up drove cross-country in a hope and a prayer no job. No apartment. I'm fearless I was so excited for the opportunities, but it's interesting because my parents have always just stayed Right put I went to the same high school that my father went to write down the street from where my mother went to school And there is kind of this fear. What was that passion for you four days after college to move? What what drove that passion for you sunshine in the dream? But beyond that it's because I just wanted opportunity and I've noticed though that in the community I grew up in They're not searching for those same right and also America is not after them after leaving home That was what why I moved I moved for opportunity reasons Not any really any other reasons than that and I think that's a big motivator for people They're looking for opportunity, but you know what's happening now And there's a trend of let's say young people going away to college and going in other states Their parents are moving with them, which I find to be a very interesting Twist on this moving for opportunity because that helicopter No, I I think that they've almost been inspired by their children in these cases If Joe can do it I can do it to you And they do that and I think that is so cool You're living by care to their children because without their children I would never move to Mississippi, but now since my daughter will go to you know, Mississippi State I'm hiding behind oh, we're going with my daughter when you know, you know, I don't think there's anything wrong with that I mean good for them My mom would have never been to Europe had I not chose to live in Paris and she up and went and we had an A beautiful a beautiful time. Why do you think change causes people paralyzes people? What what is it about the unknown? You know, I I was forced into change as a child and we did have to I started I went to so many different elementary schools. I went to three different high schools and It was there every time having to it made me fearful of making friends Okay, I because I just thought, you know, I'm gonna know you're being alone Few years from now they're gonna be gone anyway, and I'm gonna have to make new friends anyway And it made me not come non-committal in many ways. Well, and I do think though that there is that Kind of fear of being alone if you go somewhere else and not being able to have the friends And so you become complacent or what happens if you do move and you miss out on life opportunities with your friends and family back home That's a serious risk But as a parent, how do I if I'm fearful of moving I've never moved How do I broaden the perspective of my children your children? Are they fearful do they express to you that they have fear they like I'm gonna be 18 in January I Want my passport. I'm gonna be an Ecuador in June and I'm gonna travel the world right my other daughter is like no I'm gonna stay right here with you mom. So On the flip side of that I have my father my mother split and my dad lives in Hawaii now And he is in his 60s and he and she's out here and she's saying you know what come out here If you come out here, let's be together and he won't move because he's afraid to right He's afraid to do it and he's a military guy because your whole life is there everything that I know is here Everything he knows is there. So I just don't understand. What's the worst that could happen? You know for I wish I understood it because then you could have what he says he wants but yet he won't We're creature of habit. We're creature. I go to the same Starbucks. I mean so being that creature of habit It paralyzes us and do you think that that is something that culturally Americans have experienced because when I've traveled other places in the world particularly Europe I mean they could up and go all the time. They're always moving shaking exploring country to country I mean, it's hard enough for Americans to get from Michigan to Florida I mean you may take a big risk and you go to Vegas, you know, okay Why is it? I just think that we like our comfort We like knowing that there's a Starbucks on every corner and if I go to Beijing, I'm gonna have to look for McDonald's You McDonald's tastes the same as it does in Los Angeles as it does in China. It's just a little scary, but thanks for the consistency It's interesting though Stacy and I'm so glad that you're making sure that your girls explore the world