 How you guys this is life support, and I am back to encourage you guys with some information on Self-healing. I hope everyone is doing well So self healing involves self reflection It involves self awareness and it involves self care It also involves Boundaries. Boundaries are very important to self-heal You have to set boundaries with your family You have to set boundaries with people period to Give yourself a lot of me time. Self-healing requires a lot of me time and before I get into What I need to share with you Is very important to make sure that you are healed from inner childhood wounds You would be amazed at The results that you get with self healing How you are able to spot a narcissist how your tolerance Will be zero for a narcissist once you Self-reflect and begin to heal those inner childhood wounds. I had to Deal with a situation these situations are not easy to deal with Never one. They're not easy to deal with because they involve family members They involve people that are close to us that have been around us our whole entire life and for the sake of Being loyal to family. Sometimes we walk around with silencers over our mouths and I Want you guys to know how important it is Your loyalty is not to anybody or anyone that causes you to suffer If you're suffering for the sake of oh But that's my family or oh, that's my mom or oh, that's my daddy Then nine times out of ten you will just tolerate Toxic situations toxic relationships toxic Toxic energy you'll feel that you have The need to tolerate this you'll develop a tolerance for it. That's what I had done over the years as a child I Promise you though once I Confronted and it wasn't even as hard. I didn't even plan it you guys I'll be honest with you it came unannounced and I'm so glad that when it came usually I'm passive with situations I don't speak up for myself. You know, we we feel like oh We got to give you a pass just to be accepted or I'm not gonna say anything We were always we weren't too much raised that way, but we I grew up in a household I'm That pretty much would happen in the house, you know, we're gonna we're gonna solve it. We'll we'll resolve it, you know Lot of things swept under the rug, you know, and then It's hard to go back and heal but Don't worry about being rejected. You know what happened. I know what happened to me. I don't need nobody's validation I don't need their apology. I don't need no explanation I'm just gonna tell you how I felt and like I said it wasn't planned. It came unannounced so when I roast up to Defend myself and that's another thing that made me mad I was like well, I was a child when all this stuff happened to me. Why why am I feeling like a child now? Why am I still feeling like a helpless? Do you know once I spoke out? Once I broke cold and spoke up for myself All of the narcissistic Relationships all of them They were like from family members extended family members to co-workers to friends. I didn't care about rejection. I didn't care about I Didn't care about anything. I just needed to get it off my chest and once I got off my chest with my dad It was a cake walk you guys would be surprised Instantly the relationship that I was in instantly I Was like this whole I was surprised at myself. I knew I had the strength in me I knew I had the courage, but what was keeping me shackled and keeping a silencer over me Is that I still needed to confront my inner childhood wounds once I did that The bad relationship that I was in I Was like he was stased up to me and I'll be like Do I hear a ghost? Who's talking like it was it was just like Everything was cut off Everything was cut off. I'll be like you still here like I Didn't tell you we was moving on this date. I Don't know what to tell you. I can't Continue to give piggyback rides Then I had to self-reflect and ask myself and be so real and so honest Why would made me continue to still have a common ground for these people because we attract them And you guys don't believe opposites attract if you're empathic If you have a heart and passion for people if you have love in your heart That's the type of relationship that you should be attracted to and it should be real I Was allowing smoke screens. I was actually putting up smoke screens Yep, I was putting up the smoke screens. I was an addiction Didn't want to see Played the victim for so long. Oh I was I was a victim of domestic violence. I had to ask myself well When are you going to choose to be a victor when you're gonna choose to stop entertaining these relationships and Self-reflect so that you can speak out so that you can help women Get to the next level of where they need to be men and women Men and women because men or a man or a woman can be a victim of domestic violence They could be a victim of these relationships. So, um, That's why I do what I do and So how you self-heal like I said, you have to self-reflect you have to act yourself These people are Flatterers if they know that you suffer from being overweight They will make sure when you go out that you are the life of the party They will make sure that they're putting all their attention so the world can see oh This is my blue or this that soon as they drop you off Before they even get to the stop sign they on a phone down To go on a next journey of manipulation to get whatever it is that they need So act yourself What are you allowing is this person giving you money? Are you addicted to their love bombing? Are you using it's something it is something That you need to get rid of within yourself that's allowing you to still be a victim of These people self healing involves self-reflection and Self-awareness Don't use your downtime if you have downtime don't use it obsessing over them or the past Maybe you've gotten out of the relationship. Maybe you don't know what to do. It is hard. You don't know I didn't know what to do But guess what enjoy being by yourself because here's the thing Would you rather be by yourself and have your mental health and have your mental wealth Mental health is mental wealth Would you rather be by yourself walking along side of beach be by yourself sitting down somewhere eating a quiet peaceful lunch or brunch? Be by yourself writing your first book be by yourself Making a healthy meal With a peace of mind would you rather be by yourself or would you rather be with this phantom? That only mimics back what you say they just they're just mirroring you and we can visibly see them with our eyes But if you can be honest other things that you see in them It's like a horror movie What are you giving in exchange for that is it? Denial of yourself It could even be self-hate But you have to self-reflect to get to the core of the problem so you can begin to self-heal if not It leads to depression when you obsess over these people Use your downtime wisely If you have gifts use them to help other people That's why I do my videos on my channel and that's why I'm more than willing to make videos and So Chris can post them because more people are able to see this Make sure you know where your loyalty should be your loyalty should always be to you children when there are children involved in these situations Be aware that what your children are gonna mimic what they see you do what they see you go through That's how they learn. They're like sponge is soaking up stuff So if they see you going through Arguing and you know one minute you're arguing with this person the next minute you guys are cupcake and I love you W guys taking the children out and they're gonna put together that that's how a relationship is supposed to be you have to Think about your children your grandchildren You can't allow yourself to be in this continue to be in this selfish place Because you don't want to self-reflect you don't want to confront your inner childhood wounds My self-healing consists of It's so peaceful you guys. It's so peaceful. I take walks with my daughter She'd be on her scooter. I just be walking I Exercise I've always loved to cook. So I'm always looking up recipes that you know are Healthier than what I was eating before I'm studying I'm researching information. I wouldn't have never been able to do this Had I still been babysitting somebody that Just Want to be around to keep you down. It's time to be free. It's time to be unhandcuffed Let them do their own time Do your time happy peaceful Learning Helping others. That's what that's what we're here for to help each other Get out of this. You'll never be able to help people effectively if You are remit you are allowing yourself to still be in these relationships So I'll help those able to help somebody Self-healing involves self-reflection self-awareness self-care and definitely boundaries Until next time breathe easy take care and have a blessed one