 Head at home from the Chris Paul. So I just lost fellow North Carolinian all-star Chris Paul Got me good. Got me with a half court shot two out of three my man Let me help you out today Spend that on food. You okay? You all right? All right. Hang in there my friend Do you wear a new pair every game? Yes. Yeah. Yep. Are these those P.E. like players? You know exactly what's going on. Because I get a lot of like Sneakerheads following me. So I was like you need to get the Chris Paul P.E., so now I got him. Thank you Yeah, but I learned a lot, you know one of the things I learned from Chris Paul every time I've been around him He's a nice guy and you know people always say You got to be ruthless to be at the top and he knows how to be ruthless when he's playing a game And he's competitive. I saw that when I was playing him when I started to do. All right He came at me pretty hard, but all in you know good spirit and stuff So but he's a polite person He makes you feel good and that's a real skill as you work on your social skills so you can Win friends influence people Network better, you know, you got to make people there's that old cliche which is so true that says People don't remember What you did they remember how you made them feel that I'll remember what you said They remember how you made them feel so humans are emotional creatures and I was just reminded Chris Paul you know obviously basketball players alive right now and That's a real skill you want to cultivate in yourself is that ability to be able to be in the moment with You're there for them, but you care that they're there can't tell you how many times in social settings And maybe you made this mistake. I have where you like get distracted your ADD But Chris Paul was there the whole time never checked his phone didn't text wasn't talking to anybody else just they're right there with me and That's something you want to cultivate in yourself is that ability to Really be present in the moment. There's that famous book The Power of Now by Eckhart Toll and He's big on that and we live in a world now or if you're not careful, man focus down Be present when you need to be present. There's a time to daydream. Don't get me wrong That's why I come up with great ideas For myself business, you know, you gotta you got to have a dreamer, but you have to be able to I call that Modulation you got to oscillate modulate alternate between different Modalities of behavior and so on and so it's always a great lesson. I love, you know, one of the things I was talking about in this video. I did heaven and hell on earth What heaven on earth to me like I said, I don't know what happens after we die I leave the spiritual experts, but I do know there is a hell and a heaven on earth that we create by the habits of our mind and so Chris Paul you can tell he's got good habits in the mind, you know, you were saying uh, never quit on a miss You think that's just psychological Could be could be I just never never end on a miss never leave practice on a miss. Yeah He enjoys his life, enjoys his family. I've been running his mom, dad They're all in a good relationship He's making, you know, he's a multi-multi-millionaire plays on a top team He's uh, he's winning that life, you know, and and you can see that LA traffic here. You can see that he has that ability to create heaven on earth just by The focus that he has and it's really about focus life's about focus If you're not focused, where are you? You know what I mean? I Can tell you where you're gonna be you're gonna call it dissipation. You're gonna be dissipated Disappear find your sport that you like For me, it's basketball. That's what I grew up with. I like Jiu Jitsu and I like Muay Thai boxing. So guys like fast cars filming me Pick up a sport that you haven't played maybe you played when you were younger you gave up on it Don't give up on stuff. I'm hurting myself. You know, obviously I didn't win But I'm able to hang in there with a pro guy A thousand year charity Are you serious? Yeah I was gonna just make you sign your shoes and make you start HORS and horse Because I never gave up on my sport and I did for some years and I always regretted it now Now I don't work my Muay Thai teacher kickboxing He told me he would rather go to a hole. I'm sure I should have done that. There's that old saying Better to ask forgiveness than permission So give up on something that you used to love for the most part you give up on it not because you don't love it anymore, but you give up on it because Trauma happens and so we give up we don't push through it Don't do that stick to what you know stick to what you like do it till the day you die and then you'll be able to say omission Better to have regrets of co-mission of things you did than regrets of omission omission is not good Now there are omission like that's something you can leave like a sport Boxing you love basketball. You still love soccer. You gotta ask yourself Why are you not playing and if the only reason is because you're older? That's not a good reason that means you're giving up on life That means you're falling for the old Thoreau the massive men lead lives of quiet desperation. What's called resignation is confirmed desperation That just means you're confirming your desperation by saying up got a little older Well, you know what keeps you young movement You see Chris Paul's in good shape. Well, I'll tell you that right now. He's in great shape. He's lean We've got enough muscle on him. So he's not skinny He's got that coordination And you and I not gonna be pro pro athletes probably maybe you will be I don't know your situation And there are cocktails with Khloe Kardashian. That's kind of a crazy Anyway So my recommendation for you is Number one focus It's coming out. So you look at this lady. She's not so good at the focus situation About the crash in the cars everywhere Number one focus a number two practical tip Revive whatever thing you gave up for no good reason. Now if you gave it up for a good reason Always be logical, but the only reason like I said is older or you stop finding time for it. That's BS That's right. Confirm desperation Don't don't try to hide it as oh resign yourself like uh Well, I did that a long time ago That goes back to being present If you're present Right now you're not thinking about whether you're older or younger. You're just present the past is a Mist Like the mist in the morning that disappears. It's not really real. You know, it's kind of there, but it's like fog And so what's really here is you right now And the second you start putting your brain at that place where you're thinking about Um, oh, well, I used to do that you what is used to You know Some things like I said you have to give up for varying reasons. It's understandable life gets busy You're not gonna have the same amount of time As an adult as you had when you're five years old when you didn't have any responsibilities But for the most part it becomes trust me It becomes an excuse with no justification because if you think about it you have 24 hours a day you sleep eight that's 16 even if you work eight or 10 That's those six you only spend three hours with your kids in one hour working out And one hour doing nothing you still have one hour. You only got to play a sport you play Like seven minutes enough scientists have found that even seven minutes of something Whether it be jogging or sprinting If you use the like basketball put a hoop up in the garage go shoot for at the timer for seven minutes Trust me. It's cumulative It starts to add up in a positive way in your life And then you get transformation And that's I'm all about this thing I call the new you the new you is like I say It's a play on words because the new you is usually the old you before life and society held you back before trauma Scarred your brain up and caused you to think Irrationally and illogically and become fear-based and become procrastinator So the second you Start incrementally like I said for some of you at seven minutes a day practicing focus Seven minutes a day picking up an old sport And you do that every day starts to add up. It's like Charlie Munger says Go to bed a little wiser Then you were the day before Step by step you get ahead but not necessarily in fast spurts One thing chris paul told me that was interesting He said you know ty Uh I uh Sometimes people play me and he goes that's because it's my it's my job I'm a pro basketball player. That's my job, you know, and uh so the way When we watch sports I just hit my head one Chess or read a book or all those things that you know, you should do and you really want to do It's because you look at people who are better than you and go Oh, I can never be like them if I only do seven minutes a day Well, it's their job. You don't have to be as good as them. I read a book a day That's kind of what I do. You don't have to read a book a day It's smart to do but you don't have to so what you do is just set the timer for incremental I'm actually working on a new program by the time you watch this video. It might be out. I'm not sure All about that incremental beauty. I saw that in chris paul's Countines his eyes his face his mood his expressions. This is a dude He's living life the right way now. He's a man He's a human I don't look at him and thinking he has no flaws if I hung out with any human for Something weird about him the same with me. I'm not all good. I got my dark side So do you like mark twain said all humans are like the moon They have the light side and the dark side But my point being I don't judge people whether they're their deities whether they're what I look for is the general Vibe that I get from and the vibe you get from chris paul This dude's doing it right and I have this little test. I've talked about you might have heard Which is a very powerful test you can try on yourself. It's called the exchange or the trade test and it's when you meet somebody That you admire you go what I trade for his life and uh or her life And then you've got to ask yourself the flip side Would they trade for yours and if the answer is you trade for theirs? But you're sure they wouldn't trade for you That's when you got to give yourself a check in life as a gut check to go What am I doing wrong that? I'm sure I want to be like them, but they don't want to be like me now Some people are delusional in this test. Whoo a little bumpy But some people are very delusional but uh For I hope that's not you because some people go. Oh, I love myself normally. I forget that Real talk here. Look down honestly with yourself. There's no improvement without honesty With yourself at the moment, you don't have to tell the world this you just think it in your head, but When I see chris paul I now I'll tell you it's interesting over the years um There's not that many people that I meet that I would trade for their life chris paul is one I would consider pro basketball player You got a good life all around And I don't know if you would trade for mine probably not but I at least know that He has some respect for me And maybe some part of my life he would trade so that lets me know that I'm You know, maybe on the right track, but I got to even get better So that I could answer that absolutely We would both trade for each other's lives and by the way in terms of the people you should be hanging out with in life You want to hang out with the people in life that you absolutely Would trade for their life and they would trade for yours because or else you create a mismatch situation Where you're hanging out with somebody Who you know, you don't want to be like them. That's not good. You got to have something you admire and everybody That's around you or else you're hanging out with two low-level people That often it's not about how much money they make or you know, it's not about whether they're perfect it's basically about Or is there some part you admire And vice versa that they admire you and that's another lesson I learned today You know playing a horse playing with someone on one against chris ball. It's very interesting that he uh He has that That thing that that like Hard to describe x factor that makes me go Yeah, I would trade for this dude's life. This guy's got a cool life I don't know if I would trade but I'm just saying it's in the running. It's in consideration so Hope sweet hole For you. What are the things leave a comment? What's one simple thing? then From this game that I played with chris paul What can you learn? What can you apply from chris paul to your life? Is it the focus and how you're gonna focus more? Is it picking up an old sport? What old sport are you gonna pick? How much? Time you're gonna spend today. Is it Knowing how to network better and make people feel good when you're around them Or is it that trade factor leave a little comment below and bye