 Today's episode of Always I Yell It is brought to you by MtGox, m-t-g-o-x dot com, and U.S. Gold Coins dot com, 1-800-HOT-COIN, and Mezzy Grill, m-e-z-e-grill dot com. Always I Yell It is the foremost internationally acclaimed authority on developing true connections. I Yell It is the founder and CEO of Universal Connections Inc., the world's premier relationship firm that is revolutionizing life through wholism and truth. A highly sought life and relationship coach, professional matchmaker, astrologer, philosopher, and author, I Yell It is Always I Yell It. Hello everyone and welcome to the premier episode of Always I Yell It. I'd love to hear from you and you can give me a jingle at my Ask I Yell It voicemail two one two five six nine sixty nine sixty nine again two one two five six nine sixty nine sixty nine or you can email me at I Yell It at only one tv dot com. That is I Yell It A-Y-E-L-E-T at only one tv dot com. If you ask a question I may answer it on an upcoming episode and honoring me today with his presence as a very dear friend, Timothy Moss. Thank you so much for joining me on my very first episode of Always I Yell It. It's a great honor to have you on my show. Oh, I Yell It. I am so excited for you and congratulations and the honor is mine being your first guest on your show. Thank you. Thank you. Oh, and I mustn't forget audience that this is Oscar. He's my co-host. He'll be joining us as well at his choice. He will. His free will. Oh, Oscar's wonderful. So, we're here today to talk about life, love, and relationships and you've honored me with the opportunity to learn more about your life. We've talked a little bit off set and now we're on set live and you... Well I am single and have been for much of my life. I'm not sure exactly. Why don't we take a minute and kind of talk about your show and what people can expect to see or experience with your show? What I do professionally, what I've done after years of extensive research and hands-on experience, working with people in life, love, and relationship as a professional matchmaker, astrologer, and life and relationship coach, I formulated the proven method to developing true connections. And I'm here to, I guess, share it with the audience and with you. I offer one-on-one private consultations from my clientele. I've been renowned for matchmaking and very successful at that. But my services in my business isn't dating, it isn't just matching people. I discovered in years of experience and research doing this for so many years and having lived this that there's something wrong and my ideas, my philosophy, my unique approach transcends modern dating issues, transcends what is pervading our society today. And I'm here to shed light on the truth and shatter the myths and the shackles that imprison us and confine us to perpetually seeking instead of perpetually living a life of wholism and what I refer to as a love-centered life. And that's what I'm here to help or to give. I yell at that. That is wonderful. Thank you. That is fabulous. Thank you. I love you. That you have discovered this and you're sharing it with the world. I think that's fabulous. A lot of years of... Well, I can understand. The knowledge or the insights are, I guess I can say they're sort of inherent, but the formulating of the paradigms that I've created and developed over years and years of experience are tried and true and they're proven effective and they're the only proven approach to developing true connections and I'm honored and excited to be here with you. Yes. I want to make some progress for you tonight with understanding your life a little bit, your background, your issues because what I've learned doing this, we're each on a journey and my journey has been a journey of lessons which has enabled me to teach others, to guide others and to encourage others to help them find the strength they need and the courage they need to confront their truths and live a life of holism and living a love-centered life. We live... We're born into a material world of illusion and oftentimes we lose sight of the real essence of our being, the reason we are here, the reason why we are who we are and becoming who we are becoming. When you're kids we're always like, when I grow up I'm going to be a fireman. That's not the way it is and we're misled from such a young age, what do you want to be when you grow up? Well, I want to be Ayala. If someone had told me that, it would have made my life, but I was always Ayala and so I had a natural inclination to being the individual that I am and I guess I'm trying to help reinforce others with that innate strength I have, I suppose. Well one thing, I was talking to someone the other day, kind of along a similar line about how we were talking about like in the gay community, the suicides of the younger, the teenagers and someone had mentioned that basically if they would have just trusted their own personal inner instincts, they would not have chosen to do that because so many people have a tendency to listen to the outside world and the outside world's fears, what people and their fears throw at them. You have a choice of whether you're going to absorb that fear or whether you're just going to accept it. I love that example and it breaks my heart when I hear, I know that was a recent episode, a very newsworthy episode of a Rutgers student, a young Rutgers student, was actually known by family and friends of mine, married people and it's heartbreaking. But aside from just that inner struggle of, I have, if I may, the inner struggle of struggling with being gay or homosexual and being subjected to the imposition of other people's fears. How about the classic example of in today's recession, I really perceive our current economic crisis as a depression, I mean, I really believe this is a financial depression we're in at this time. But aside from that, how about the classic case where the Wall Street stockbroker just lost his $500 million 401K and whatever and has no identification with anything else on this earth that it's time to blow my brains out or jump off the 18th floor of a building. So any time it's exactly the same thing and I have to say that that which I know and without sounding arrogant but that which I know Timothy has been substantiated through world experience that I've lived through and why did these things happen to me, the things, personal things I've experienced in my life, they weren't to teach me lessons like people would say, oh, I yell at, you know, you're learning, no, I knew that, I never took that for granted, I never did that, you know why, you know what it was, it was to test me, it was to try and test me and show me that I already get it, that when the worst thing that could potentially happen to you and you're all alone and it's just you and you can survive that, let me tell you something, that is a testament when all is taken from you materially and all you have is your soul to fall back on, that is what having a consciousness about, that is what being alive is about and knowing that in that wealth, that wealth that we cannot measure, that wealth that has no substance, that wealth that has substance, but no material matter, no material gravity, but is of utmost substance and of utmost wealth is our souls, our spirits and when you dishonor your soul, you dishonor your spirit by doing anything whatsoever to hurt or injure yourself or another, you're dishonoring our creator, our source and all others on this planet and I think we were talking off the record earlier about religion and God and I think I said to you, I don't believe in religion because religion is created by man, but if we acknowledge that our being is in essence spiritual and all of this material that we're born into, our bodies, our looks, our clothes, the cars, it's an illusion, that's not real, that's not real, the only thing that's real is your soul and as long as you're true to it, know who it is, be true to it, that love that you are seeking will come to you, that's basically the crux and I have the paradigms and all that. I love that, I love that, well just backing up to what you were saying about the Wall Street guy that maybe losing everything and you mentioned identity is because that is one of the problems in like our capitalist society is we're taught that your identity is based upon how many material items or how much you have in the bank and that has nothing to do with who we are as individuals and our experience. Any institution created by mankind, any institution created by mankind as a form of identity, whatever it may be, detracts from the essence of what an individual is about and if one identifies one's own individual purpose, life purpose, what their potential is and is true to it no matter what, you're at peace, guess what, addiction is gone out the window, fear gone out the window, health, your health is going to be top of the line, you're going to eat well, you're going to sleep well, you're going to have a fulfilled life and it all starts within, you know, we're constantly seeking without, oh and you flip through the back of New York Magazine, there used to be, we used to advertise in the back of New York Magazine, you know the personal section, the dating section from my company and it was personal and today flip through the back of New York Magazine and what are we watching, lipo this, laser that, that's not the answer to your problems, I'm not telling you, don't take care of yourself, don't look presentable, don't be, you know, well-hygieneed and, and fastidious and whatever, but the qualities you may, you may have, that they are important, they're an indication of caring for oneself and honoring oneself, how we dress, how we present ourselves, how we expose ourselves in certain situations, if you're at home and want to walk around naked, God bless you and God is watching but that's okay because he made you, but we want to honor ourselves, so we go to a church, I don't know, in the synagogue it's customary to, I've been to churches before and they wear shorts and sneakers, I was surprised by that, but customary in the Jewish faith to a synagogue and to welcome the Sabbath, we wear special clothing, special suits, fine clothing because we're honoring, it's a, it's a, it's an indication of honoring, you're going to a gala, you're going to an award ceremony, you're gonna wear a black tie, you're gonna, you are, because you're honoring yourself, you're honoring your hosts and you're, and it's about honor, caring for yourself, telling yourself it's not about the superficial, it's about being the best that you can be and identifying your optimal potential and I think what, what people lose sight of is when they're trying Timothy so hard to be anything but what they are always destined to be and sometimes the path is a little longer, yeah, it's a little more tedious, the signs are on the wall, have you ever, have you read the book? I forget, I should, Spencer I believe, I'll move my cheese. No, no I haven't. It's a brilliant book, I believe it's Dr. Spencer, I will have the correct citation for next week's show but he wrote a brilliant book, it's a children's book, in fact I would read it to to my children because it's a great book that teaches the lesson, the invaluable lesson of knowing to know the signs. It is my belief that it is our unconscious and subconscious inclination to know inherent truths that are etched in the spiritual DNA that makes our unique divine souls. We are born with this and what happens is we're born into this world, we need to conform to materialism and it's plagued with evils such as lies, manipulation, deceit that are conspiring, conspiring to achieve nothing, nothing, only the illusion of happiness and fulfillment. Real happiness, real fulfillment comes only in truth and that is what I'm here to help my clients to recognize and attain and achieve. That is amazing, that is wonderful and I can understand exactly what you're saying. It's again, I as far as my identity I was searching in all the wrong places and for 20 years in drugs and alcohol and all kinds of chaos and misery but in a way I'm grateful for that segment of my life because that brought me to the understanding and the spiritual understanding that I have today which again is the source, the happiness, the good, the prosperity, all of that is within me. And if you, well you said you were still single, right? Yes. Well if you're whole, truly whole, and I use the word whole, W-H-O-L-E, which is the core of the concept of wholism. Wholism is, excuse me, wholism is a, is when your rational mind and emotional mind are in sync with your body and soul and manifests itself, well that's more going into integrity is how it manifests, but wholism is aligning your rational mind and your emotional mind with your body and soul and if you do so and you are whole, it hurts. It doesn't take away the pain of loneliness and I understand that pain very well as a professional matchmaker, that's the realm of my, of my world, that's what I do. I, and you know it's, it's written, there's no greater travesty than, than loneliness. We're not born to be alone. We're not married, you know, I know religions teach different things and they are, there are misguided conceptions of what life is supposed to be. We're married to procreate, no. We marry to find companionship. We marry to find someone to validate who we are, to witness who we are, to share ourselves with, to teach us who we are, to challenge who we are and if they are our true love, no matter what transpires, they will enhance who you are, who you are destined to be, not detract, enhance. And if it's a mutual true love, which is what we all aspire to, we call that the shirt, it will be mutual. Imagine finding someone, finding someone who enhances your life, who values you for who you are, for what makes you uniquely special as an individual's soul, that fulfills you and you meet this person and guess what? You do the exact same thing for him. Right. That's like, wow. That's what I'm looking for. And I'm sorry. Oh, that's all right. That you had, oh, my guys, I'm sorry, I just lost it. Something you were talking about before with the growth of the, I'm sorry, go ahead. The consciousness. No, no, no. You were saying that's what you're looking for. Well, it's, it's, imagine meeting someone. I've learned, I've learned basically it's all about learning to love myself. Darling, that's the only, that's the only thing it needs. Right. That's loving yourself. That's the thing that I have had difficulty with most of my life. Most of us do, my darling, 98% of relationships are are are destined to failure. But I am on the right path. Thank God. I am definitely and I see it and I feel it. And I feel it too. Because I, I went into rehab. Okay. And I started working on my mind because my mind was so turned around in the opposite direction. Okay. I've worked and worked and worked on turning my mind around for for a couple of years. Okay. That came along at about the same time than my spiritual God, the universe, whatever you want to call it, began to materialize in my life. And so I started working like for a good couple of years, seriously on my soul. So I've got the mind and the soul going, now I'm beginning to work on the body. So I'm trying to get the alignment. The body is the physical part. That's the easiest part. But what's challenging in our world is that most people are just focusing on physical, physical, physical, physical. Right. The body is the last part and God bless you honey. You got 99% of the down pat. But tell me about your soul discovery. Tell me about that process for you. Oh, wow. The again, my journey, I knew when I started off in in the drugs, I was totally lost. Your first episode, your first ever time you took a drug, how old were you? I don't even remember. I mean, it was it had to have been like 16, 17, something like that. Were you a party? I don't remember. I think maybe a friend of mine had come over and picked me up and we went out driving around and smoked a joint. I think that might have been the first time. I always say, I'm always having this debate with very dear, you know, my friends don't use drugs, but one or two people have experimented in the past or may occasionally defend it and say, Oh, it's just marijuana. It's healthy for you. It's I'm like, you know what? I don't even take Tylenol. I mean, now Tylenol is bad for you anyway. But aspirin, unless there's something severely physically wrong with me, I don't take anything because everything, this is another spiritual lesson, spiritual lesson in this. Anything and everything you truly need, not want, need, right? You already have. I agree with you, sister. You already have. So we don't need drugs. Oh, I want to feel good. I want to get the buzz off. You know, I mean, I don't want you to think of me as some kind of prude. I mean, I'll have a margarita if I'm having dinner, you know, I might have to I might even have a bottle of wine with a friend. But my point is, it's not that's not the objective. The objective isn't having a bottle of wine. Right? The objective is enjoying a cocktail or enjoying a meal or enjoying a good bottle of wine with a special friend in the company of someone special. I'm seeking to be in an altered state of because we can't accept reality. Yeah, tell us to each of my clients and my first sessions, my first one on one with them. The human and when I talk about astrology, I'm one of my you know, talents as as a professional astrologer, which we can talk about if we have enough time today. I'll just love to have you back on any time. Astrology is a language of energies and astrology is the truth that the mantra for the National Council for Geocosmic Research is Distellus adviratathum, which is Latin for from the stars to the truth. And it is. It's all in the stars. And it's not a religion. And it's not. It's a language of energies. And I'm that makes tuned to this language. And I'll get into that whole diatribe at some later point in time. But what I was where I was going with this is that when I sit down with clients for the first time, and my clients just so you know, you understand they're well educated, successful professionals that are conservatively trained. They're not actors or creative ones necessarily. I mean, I work with people of all backgrounds, ages and professions, but predominantly, well educated, successful professionals, attorneys, physicians, critical thinkers, analytical thinkers, these people. And that's why I'm so renowned in my field. Because they, and that's why they're challenged personally. Their critical minds have no place, my darling, in their personal lives. Yeah, yeah, there's no place for ego that which makes you so successful as usually a fear based drive to succeed. True. It's usually a fear based fear, a failure. It's usually a it's usually something that is driving that ambition, or, or, and that's a good thing. As long as you understand and what I my tagline is balancing life with love. Yes, be the star that you are be the rock litigator that you are be the, you know, Wall Street genius that you are, that's all good. But apply sounds the ego that's driving you but apply those principles that drive your professional and material success to your personal life. And imagine the outcome. And rule number one, in that regard is leave your ego at the door. Yeah. I mean, how many times do you have to call a great customer before you get them on your show or before you get their sale? You know, a superstar, rainmaker doesn't take no for an answer. He keeps calling, right? He doesn't have an ego. He wants to close a sale. He knows this person needs him. He knows this person is going to have value in his service or product. So he doesn't take no for an answer. So why do we take no for an hour? Why do we settle? Why do we select? Thank you. Why do we settle? Why do we take no for an answer? Why do we say no to our souls in our personal life? When all the while they are yelling at us yelling at us. I'm not happy. I'm not happy. Right. Right. But the crowd is saying, no, let's go have a beer. Oh, let's go hook up. Let's I don't know what they're saying these days. I really have detached and isolated myself into my work, which good, bad, it is what it is. But I'm whole with that. That's who I am. And and it's good for me. But my point is that in it, when I teach my clients about astrology, because generally, they're traditionally trained conventional minds. They might look at me a little funny. Oh, I don't know. I don't believe in it. I'll say, well, do you believe in God? And they'll say yes. Or they'll say no. I'm an atheist. And I'll say, Okay, well, do you believe in science? And they'll probably say yes. And I'll say, Okay, well, then do you believe that there's an energy force within you? And they'll say, Yeah, I have energy. I feel there's an energy force within me. Okay, well, what did you learn? I remember in seventh grade science class. And I wasn't that why actually I was history wasn't my strong suit then. But science, I was doing pretty well. Science class, junior high high school, energy never dies. It only gets transformed. Yeah, true, true. So do you believe that? And they'll say yes. And I'll say, Okay, well, guess what, astrology is in a religion. I don't care if you believe it, because for a fact, in 1492, the consensus of the population on the planet believed the earth was flat. Right. 150 years ago, the consensus on the planet believed you couldn't cut open someone's chest, pull out their heart and replace it with another and yet continue to be alive. And today it is being done every day. So what you believe is irrelevant to what is. So why is astrology and occult science? Why is it a metaphysical science? Why is it a hidden truth? And the answer I tell my clients when I ask that rhetorical question in session, as I say to them, I say, astrology is a hidden truth because the human psyche is not equipped to handle the truth. In fact, modern psychology has paraphrase, I'm paraphrasing, but has cited five stages to a human response to any trauma. Do you know what the first stage to responding to a trauma is? We spoke like if something traumatic happens, what would be your will be the first response first human inclination you would have to in response to fear. I don't I'm trying to think of what what there are five stages or psychological stages. Yep. Like like denial and there you go my denial. Denial. Yeah, that it even human psyche will deny any pain first as it's and hopefully if it's got support, if the individual has support and is being treated and or has the strength within to heal to go through the healing process, he'll eventually achieve acceptance after depression and anger and bargaining, etc, etc. But denial. Why? Why do we deny something traumatic just happened? Because that's the way the human psyche is wired to respond. Yeah, I think it takes a little while to process and understand what sadly my sweetheart, Timothy, sadly, I can call you Timothy. Oh, you call me anything. I like calling it. That's right. So I like calling the appropriate names. But sadly, so most people are so stuck in the denial phase of their reality. Right. And it's it's heartbreaking. And, and these are very successful people, their attorneys, their physicians, their investors, their business people, their amazing people. And they can't own their truth. And it's sad because, even though they convince themselves, or attempt to convince themselves, there is sufficient evidence just to site improve that they aren't really happy. And each person, in my belief, it is my firm belief that every person born onto this earth is here for one particular one exclusive reason to be and become exactly who they are and who they are destined to become without constraints, without inhibit inhibitions without limitations. And to love and be truly loved. And if you're not being truly loved, guess what, darling? It's not love. Move on. That's true. And if you're not able to truly love, it's not love. Move on. And yes, you said it brilliantly earlier, and I'm so proud of you for acknowledging that that is the you got the answer. And I guess it was your your suffering and your pain and the cycle that you took. It's all about loving yourself and not just saying, Oh, I love myself. Yeah. Oh, I'm happy. I love myself. Yeah. Exactly. That's not it. No, it's honoring yourself. It's knowing who you are. It's constantly, continuously, without failure, never denying your feelings, your thoughts, your ideas, your desires, your will, your tastes. It's always, always being true to you. Yeah. And that's love in yourself. Yeah, that's honoring yourself. And if you can't love and honor yourself and know yourself, there's no way you'll ever be able to attract it from anyone from anyone in return. That makes total sense. I think this is a good time for us to take a break and thank that's perfect sponsors. We have some very special sponsors that enable us to to be here today. I'd like to take a few minutes and thank our sponsors. That would be wonderful. And so tonight we have a special thanks to metgox.com. They are an online exchange services for bitcoins. They now take euros, British pounds and Australian dollars, as well as Canadian dollars, continuing fees of 0.3% now through August 9th. 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And so, Tim, we were saying right before we took a break to thank our sponsors, we were saying how we must know ourselves and be true to ourselves and truly love ourselves, not just say we do in order to attract the same in return. So tell me about what's happening in your relationships now or your dating experience these days or who are you meeting or would you rather tell me about your last relationship and we can maybe identify what happened there and what the lessons were for you to have acquired from that experience? Well, honestly, I can't say that I've ever had yet a truly healthy loving relationship. Why do you think that is? I wasn't in the place yet. I wasn't in the proper place, which is where I'm working on that now. I'm working on myself. Okay, that's good. Always work on yourself first. But again, your life is valuable, time is precious. So if there's an opportunity right now, right here, why put it off because you're still working on yourself? Oh, I agree. I agree. I did have a gentleman that I have been seeing, but he's in Israel. Okay. And we've only get to see each other, see each other every six months or so. Okay. But he has really made some efforts to get to New York to visit me. Has he visited you? Yes, twice. Oh, wonderful. Which has, I mean, that really says something to me. Yeah, specifically for you, did you have business here or were there other? No, he has family here as well. Okay, good. But he made a specific point to try to get back to New York. Okay. After he had met me, which I nobody's done that for me before, I love that. It feels good to be honored. Yes, yes. But we must be complete. We must be wholly honored. And sometimes certain people are in your life, but there are inherent limitations in certain relationships. Right. And it's what I've learned in my experience is accepting what it is. Oh, I have a theory, you know, a business, business woman, an entrepreneur as well as a CEO of a company. So, you know, you learn to look at balance sheets. And I think that language talks to a lot of the people out there in our audience, you know, when you're looking at a balance sheet. Right. And my theory is very simple. I love everyone. Okay, same here. I love everyone because that's what it's about. I truly, truly do. I care, I love, I want to help, I want to share and would happily and readily give my love to anyone who deemed an interest and need for it. However, I too am becoming who I am. And I have needs. So, when we look at a relationship, we look at the balance sheet. Okay, and we're looking at assets, liabilities and capital, right? I'm counting one on one, right? So assets liability. So now certain people come into our lives and their assets, like you're an asset to me. I love you. Likewise. Thank you for joining me today and honoring me with your presence. It means so much to me. So you're an asset to me. Now, there are people in our lives that come in and their assets, we give and receive, not take, receive. If you're a taker, not good. Right. The Kabbalah teaches us to receive with an open hand. We receive with an open hand. If I'm going to hand you a bottle of water, you'll sit up like you are just now and you'll allow me to place it before you and you'll receive the gift I'm offering you. People who take don't really think about who's the gift. They just want to take that which is being given to them. Now, in business, we need to be aggressive sometimes we need to take we need to ask for. And I'm the first one will say ask. Don't take ask. And if you get great and if not it doesn't hurt you can't get the sale unless you ask. Right. So ask. Okay. But we're looking at assets. So there are people in our lives that are just assets and maybe that they come into our lives to be a blessing for us to be an aid to us to be a source of support or strength or something. And it's for you know, there's that old thing. I'm sure you've heard it on the internet. We have friends for a reason a season or a lifetime, which are you. And we're they're all there for a reason. And we're all there for a season we can only hope that they will stay for many seasons and sometimes they're not. And there's a reason for that. Because as is the natural order of the universe, as is inherent in the universal truths that infiltrate our soul. And that is part of our life existence. I mean, it's everything in life is sick is cyclical, our bodies are our biological processes. The seasons the way the word everything is has a natural order to it. We can if if we are if we are truly conscious, we can identify when the season's up. And it's time to move up to move on. If we are conscious, we can identify if maybe the context of the relationship might change now. And now it's going to become something else. Maybe it's a new season in your life. And this by the way can be seen and forecast it through the tool of astrology, just so you know, when we can identify certain stages and phases, for example, the midlife crisis at 42. Otherwise known as the last chance, you know, it's when it's when Uranus, the planet of change revolution, which is inherent in your soul, because your Jupiter rules the sign of Aquarius at the time of your birth. I take a glimpse before we sat today. So when Uranus, it takes Uranus 84 years to transit the zodiac. So it takes it 84 years to return the exact same place on your natal chart, which would be an ideal age to die. My grandfather died at 83. He was approaching his Uranus return. There you go. Uranus opposes Uranus in the sky. So guess what happens at 40 years to 42 years after your birthday? Uranus, okay, from the time of your birth, all the planets in the sky are we take a photo shot, a photo shot of the sky, the exact date, time and place of your birth. And this is a map of your psyche. And you were born and boom, the world continues to move, right? Life is constantly moving. The only thing constant in life is change. We're constantly changing, constantly moving, constantly growing. And the saddest thing I see for certain individuals is stagnancy. And most importantly, your spiritual and emotional stagnancy is not being able to grow. And that's a great challenge is to find a partner you can grow with and develop with. And my research tells that less than 2% of couples have what I refer to as a true connection, a lasting, truly loving relationship. And 98% of relationships are doomed to fail. 65% split up. 35 or more percent stay unhappily together for religion, appearances, family, whatever, superficial institutions instituted by society. Okay. And family is, you know, we're born into a family, a very dear friend of mine. I don't know if he's watching, but his name is Uri. We were 15 year old teenager kids. I was 15, he was 16 or 17. We were hanging out. Yes, I used to smoke cigarettes, but it was only socially. And I was never addicted. We were hanging out smoking and hanging out late night. We were talking about mysticism. And he shares some of my background, my ethnic background. And he used to say to me that we can't control the family we're born into, but we can determine or decide. And most of us can, but still fail to do so. But we have the power to choose and create the family we truly wish to have. And sometimes it doesn't even have to be biological. Sometimes your family be here, Oscar's waking up. This is my little boy. Sometimes your family could be your best friend 3,000 miles away. Sometimes your family can be, I mean, that's family. I agree. That's family. It's not, you know, ceremony. It's not superficial appearances. It's not DNA. And it's not necessarily, well, I have to say, it's not, well, family isn't DNA, but I have a thing for blood. You know, you have to be true to your blood to the extent that you're able to. To the extent that you're able to. Never, ever at the expense of your soul. Nothing you ever do. I will never profess to do anything at the expense of your soul, even if it's DNA. Are you hearing what I'm saying? Yeah. And back to the balance sheet. Oscar, please sit, mommy. Thank you, Angel. Back to the balance sheet, we were talking assets, liabilities and capital, right? So there are certain certain DNA could be toxic for you. Right. And as much as you love that person, that person is liability, liability, liability. Now there may come a time and place. There may come a time and place where you may afford, because your capital account is kind of plumped up. So you know what, you might be able to afford that liability. You're following me? Yeah. But if you're at a time in your life when you just can't, because you're just fighting for every ounce of breath you can get, for every ounce of sanity you can muster up, then you just can't. It doesn't mean you don't love that person. It doesn't mean you don't empathize with that person. It doesn't mean you don't have compassion for that person. Just means that you just can't relate to that person one on one right now. You can't honor that person or that person isn't able to honor you because of their toxicity. That's their issue. That's their challenge. I'm sure people around you may have experienced that when you were going through your dark phase of the abuse, any type of abuse is toxic, whether it's drugs, whether it's alcohol, whether it's those were the people that I had all around me at that during that time. And so they were that's why I attracted were people very toxic people and they were contaminating you. Yeah. And even though your soul was saying no, no, no, this isn't right. This isn't me. This isn't me. But it was hard to break it. My darling, the word is habit. Yes. Yes. We start doing things. We are I was thinking about this actually in my drive into the city today. Human beings are creatures of habit and it takes exactly three weeks. And it's that simple. That's change habit. Three weeks. And all you do is and I've been in places before where I've acquired some habits that I wasn't very, you know, happy with. And it all takes us three weeks. In fact, I just had to raise up my my training strategy and lose a few extra pounds, etc. And I went on a very high protein diet. My bad cholesterol went up 25 points. And guess what I was doing? Eggs, egg, and I love eggs. They're inexpensive. They're nutritious. You know, over easy, sunny side up. I know what I was eating. I never ate sunny side up. I have acquired a taste for them these days. Just a little fresh crushed red pepper, extra virgin olive oil, and it's like the best. And I was doing it. And then I got my blood work 25 points higher LDL 25 points higher triglycerides. The good stuff stayed exactly the same. Because for the most part, my good stuff is is is what it is. But I haven't touched an egg since that date's almost two months now. Wow. Now you could have called that an addiction. I mean, there were like days where I would have three and it would be like three eggs at a gig, five eggs, five hard boiled eggs, boom, boom, boom. That was my meal of the day. So any habit can be changed. Just stop. Throw it up, say no more. I love me conscious effort. Yeah, absolutely. No, it's a conscious choice. Yes, correct. Not effort, choice, my darling. Just say no. Say no to the first joint. Say no to the first cigarette. Say no. Bad relationship, bad situation. Okay, you're privy to my one on one because you're honoring me today. The three rules I teach my clients in my first session are the following rule number one. Prince my principles my always I love principles to life, love and relationships. Everything is indicative of everything. Anything and everything you want to learn about a person you will learn within the first five minutes of knowing everything is indicative of everything. The question is are you aware? Are you conscious? It's not going to change. It is what it is. It is what it is. The symptom is there. I'm not talking to analyze people and misdiagnose them with you realize that 40 percent of the children are being are being diagnosed with bipolar disorder just as a side note. Everybody's like misdiagnosing everybody on the really nauseous with that. But my thing is rule number one everything is indicative of everything. It's their day one and maybe you aren't aware of it but I'll bet you any relationship that you want to talk about with me go back to your first date whatever broke you up five years later three years later six months later three months later three weeks later three days later was there in the first first five minutes you were attracted with this person. Think about it rule number two and my friend Andy gauze the numismatist who love this one there's two sides to every coin and I coined this before he I before I knew him but there's two sides to every coin every energy in the universe my darling has a positive and negative manifestation. You can't accept the one without the other and we must be conscious of the good and the bad within ourselves and within each other and work not work but strive to be strive to choose to manifest the best of our individual human potential. I agree and if you say you love someone and you recognize he has a shortcoming in your view and your checklist in your mind or whatever it is which I believe I believe you should eradicate because that's not even gonna find your true love. Your true love my darling Timothy is going to love and honor you and be anything and everything you need exactly where and when you need it. Wow yeah without asking and it will blow your mind. He's not gonna look like anything you've ever imagined. He may not have any of the credentials or any of the superficial exteriors you could ever contemplate or fathom in your ideal mind or dreams but if you learn to love yourself when he appears and reveals himself to you you will receive him and not reject him and then he will be in my view because I only know you I don't know him yet or maybe I do and I don't know yet. Yeah that could be. If and when you reveal who he is he will be more blessed for having you as you are having him. Exactly I agree and that's what you need to recognize because even he is not going to be perfect. Oh right. But he's going to be perfect for you. Exactly perfect fit. And when you identify certain of his traits that you love about him recognize my darling that there's the other side of that coin. Oh of course of course. And where I come into the scene is you can always come in for a couple's coaching session is where I bring those issues to light once they're in the light and I'm sure you learn this in rehab recovery once you admit once you bring an issue to consciousness it can't plague you you're cured. Yeah right. That's it. He's this ambitious hard-working wall street guy he works 90 hours a week you know what you love his cars you love his this but guess what he's gonna be working 90s hours a week. Yeah he's not gonna be home at six o'clock for dinner if that's what you're into. Uh-huh. But you really you're more into the the power the prestige and all that that's okay let's just I'm giving a theoretical. Yeah exactly. Okay so recognize that the other side of the coin is that he's not going to be available. I agree. Physically because he's working 90 hours a week. That makes sense. And accept that about him don't go off and have an affair with a pool boy. Yeah. You get what I'm saying. I found what I'm saying. Yeah exactly. Accept yourself for two sides of the coin. Sure. And acknowledge it and your other and accept him for what it is. And the third and you're gonna love this because you kind of touched upon it because that that also is an indication to me as a professional of your level of evolution for and I'm commending you. Thank you. Without sounding arrogant but commending you. Rule number three my darling is we attract what we are. Yeah. At the exact date time and place that you need to meet whomever it is you are destined to meet you will. Right. And they're here to teach you something about yourself. Not potentially confine you for a life of misery. If this person is making you miserable isn't fulfilling you isn't attract you're not attracted to them potentially you're not they're not making you happy. You okay but delicious. You're just changing sides there huh. If you are conscious that we attract what we are and you're on that at that stage in evolution of where you are that means you're ready for. You will. Yeah. Yeah. I'm ready. And again it's a two-way street. And if you have still some work to do then you're going to meet the right person who's going to help you do that work. Mm-hmm. For you. Yep exactly. He's going to enhance you. Exactly. And it's doable right now you don't have to wait. Now people are always waiting for practical concerns and the right there is no time. This is it. This is not a dress rehearsal. Yeah. On live TV. You know. This is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. This is your one chance at living and being whole with your soul and that is the purpose of why we are here. So again everything is indicative of everything. There are two sides to every coin and we attract what we are so if you don't know why this dead beat is on your doorstep look within. Right. Learn the lesson within and say no I deserve more. I agree. I deserve better. End it. Close the door. Grieve. Cry. Be alone. And it's okay loneliness is not being alone. One can be more lonely in love. In a relationship. I agree. Then they are alone. I'm not you know and someone taught me this many many years ago a very dear friend very early in my life said to me when I was going through an experience if you will a lesson a life lesson he said I yell at his name is Gustav Rocco. He said I yell at it is better to be alone and lonely than lonely with someone. Yeah. And that loneliness with someone only manifests and unfaithfulness to yourself unfaithfulness to your other to everyone you're hurting everyone and the greatest gift we can give ourselves and all parties involved is our truth. Dr. Zeus said he said it best he said be who you are and say what you think because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Exactly. Exactly. And so my god I can't believe how much fun. Oh I know this is great. I mean we got we got like to the bottom of some really deep issues here this is amazing I love that. The crux of it I guess and in case any part of the audience has missed any part of it is truth. Yeah definitely. The truth we're only in truth there is freedom only in truth there is freedom and that truth is etched in your soul before you came to earth it's going to be with you when you go and think about that you can't take you know you can't take anything with you what you take with you is your soul and make every day count live it to your fullest and I'm here to help in any way I can just to tell the audience again that I really would love to hear from you or see you in person I am available for private consultations one-on-one anywhere anywhere in the world I'm also available for limited speaking engagements around the world you may reach me at my Ask a Yell at voicemail which is 212-569-6969 again that number is 212-569-6969 or email me at I yell it at only1tv.com that's I yell it A-Y-E-L-E-T at only1tv.com I'd love to hear from you if you ask any questions in email or voicemail I may answer them live in an upcoming episode and perhaps even have you on as a guest I would again love to hear from you I wish you lots of love always I am I yell it always I yell it and Timothy I really want to thank you so much for honoring me today with your presence and I hope you will continue on your journey to wholism most definitely helping a true connection a lasting truly loving relationship and the greatest word I can teach you is no just say no if it's not right at the beginning indicative just say no and your heart knows it yeah and avail yourself to the one who's there waiting for you who will love you for who you are accept you as you are you don't have to change a thing just be and be the best that you can I agree I yell it thank you so much thank you for the truth you're welcome it's my absolute pleasure and thank you audience and look forward to seeing you next week thank you