 listen it's the message right here black boy tell me how you really feel because i just want to build with you black girl tell me how you really feel i want to keep it real with you i want to live better eat better i want to love better sleep better yeah i want to feel so aligned in an alternate universe or on some freaky friday shit you woke up tomorrow and you were a man what kind of nigga would you be i would be a hoe i'm being honest like i would be a hoe i want to slay this thing like when i wake up i want to wake up like i want to see how it feels you know i'm gonna get up do what niggas do get in the shower get out the shower probably not put on any lotion because i was so young for the lotion i'm gonna go out to the mall and pick up some shorties get their number i'm gonna hit up a couple of them later i'm gonna get one for one for lunch no one for brunch one for lunch one for dinner see what they had it and whichever one i like the best i'm smashing her that night all right yeah don't think it's that easy huh yeah that's cute it has to be because again this this is for black men to get a peek into why the hell do y'all think like that right so the question is simple why do y'all prefer projects initially and then once again this was something i really figured out as i got older i preferred the project because i felt like if he messed up it was kind of already what's the word i'm looking for kind of already knew he was going to mess up so i wouldn't be as disappointed whereas if i got a man who was well put together i thought he was well fit together everyone else thought he was well put together but he messed up nobody shit niggas ain't shit cross the board so i feel like well for me i think that i chose the project because if they messed up i kind of already knew that i can't be mad that my heart is broken because i chose the person who i knew messed up now for other people i don't know i think about no one really wants to be with a perfect person because in reality none of us think we are perfect it's kind of weird being with someone who has everything together when you feel like you don't and i think it makes you feel worse about yourself so you choose the project because you are a project so it's an ego thing that's interesting because it's it's it's i guess complicated because it's like on one hand i feel like women are kind of predisposed to want a man that they can look up to physically sometimes spiritually you know mentally you know shit like that so it's like how do we reconcile i want somebody that i could look up to but i don't want a nigga who's too tall that's 100% a maturity thing until you hit that brain development stage that kind of stops you from doubting yourself or not knowing your worth and wanting full value and everything until you reach that developmental stage you're going to choose things that you feel like you're worthy of in reality you're worthy of more than that i think i i kind of hit that i'm hitting that space right now so like what i look for now is totally different from what i looked for before i've seen a lot of like youtubers who are in the men's style space like you know talk about suits and stuff like that they'll do an experiment where you know they'll put on two different types of outfits and go out into the street and get the reaction of women so one dude for instance he put on you know more dapper suit you know i'm saying fitted suit nice looking suit like james bond shit and he went out into the street and um then the next outfit he put on was more like street style you know jean jacket you know saying that type of shit and he asked women which of these aesthetics do you find more attractive guess which one most women voted is more attractive and i think that kind of stuff confuses dudes so like because we would assume it's the james bond you know i'm saying so like can you shed some light on that like why why that might be um i feel like this will be another you know you're worth kind of pushing um when the guys dress down the personality that's presented through a visual is i'm down earth i can go sit and chill with you i can go to the bar and get a drink with you you know we can go hang out with your friends and go hang out with my friends we can do something fun or as the personality through the visual of the man in a nice suit is i only do the expensive things like i have to take you to a nice restaurant i am going to take you on a boat i am going to take you on a vacation and those are all things that we want yes but we also want to feel like our man is down to earth like i can chill with you i can talk to you i can lay here beside you not say a word and still feel comfortable with that type of man in the suit it's almost as if i gotta get my shit together tomorrow you know and if that person if the lady feels like i'm not already there or i'm not even on the road to having my stuff together you're too much for me you're worth the way more than i can have right now for me i'll say both of them can you do both of them that's that's that's solid well follow up to that that's um i think it's actually right in line but i think the answer might go a different way you know who broadrick hunter is i do not he's uh he's a male model handsome dude like even me as a niggas like that's a handsome dude right so they did a social experiment with him and they they set him up in like a bar type setup right and he was sitting at the bar and he was acting right and the goal or the point of it was you were seeing you're looking at a girl across the bar and you're trying to like get her attention right but not on no shit but just like look out and get her attention type shit yeah um but i want you to do it with two different personalities personality a was more so you know star more so stoic like you know like the you know i'm saying and personality two was more so like jokie like you know happy hey how you doing type shit and then they showed both of these recordings like they passed a group of women through a oof or a room or whatever and showed them both the recordings and asked them to rate the attractiveness of each guy same negative but rate the attractiveness the attractiveness of each guy guess who got rated the higher in attractiveness yeah guy a who was more serious didn't smile just you know i'm saying why i don't know it sounds sexy like i really look at me like they look at me like it's weird i don't know that's not the city to do that um let me think on this one there's a seriousness about guy a um and typically in a bar setting woman's gonna go to the bar with her home girl the single or she the single home girl so i feel like you got this serious guy looking at you and giving you the eye make you feel like i'm trying to pull you towards me you're gonna go for that because if you're at the bar age really then grab a 21 year old something typically go to be bar unless it's the bar at the club so if you're at the bar age you're looking for something serious so if you got guy a looking into you like oh he seems like he wants something that's more than just the one night stand or more than just adding me to a notch in his belt so i feel like that type of woman will go towards guy whereas if you have guy b sitting at this bar the women there are not looking for a silly fun time they're looking for a man who knows what he wants if you use a silly and moving off at the bar you either a don't know what you want b you might have a drinking problem c maybe you got a wife with some kids at home then ain't what i want that's how i feel all right so the last question that i like to close it out with and you might get the correlation you might not but i'm interested to see what kind of son do you plan to raise because you're gonna be a black boy well i think it's so sad but part of me wants to say doesn't matter the type of son i want to raise maybe still gonna have a target on this back but i would like to raise a respectable son like i want like i'm a teacher so i want to raise the black kids and go into class and say good morning to that teacher who's going to be well behaved um and even if not who's going to understand that maybe you know this is not how i should have acted i need to apologize to my teacher and i want to raise a black boy like that because i want him to become a black man who holds himself accountable and who is respectable and respectful in the real world do you get the irony yet because i said i want to be a why is the boy that you want to raise so different than the man you would be because the boy i want to raise i want him to be better than the man i've encountered but the man i want to be wants to experience what a man i've encountered wanted to be the way they were