 Okay, so so yeah, and so so I've really found until you actually let go of what other people want you to do And you actually start acting out of what you want to do your life will always be you're always gonna be a slave to other People's desires and wishes and you're just never gonna be happy. So really one of the keys is Stop giving a fuck. Okay Yeah, so I think I've covered that so I want to say Okay, so the solution So this is the main part here What do we do? What can we do to shut up these thoughts about what other people want us to do and our ego is just trying to protect us What do we do? How do we live a life in a way where we're gonna do what we want and live our lives and not fucking let other people ruin us Based on their expectations. Yes, sir. Just do it Nike stole it Sure, but let's get more specific now remember what I said earlier ego is your best problem So biggest problem is your ego so any ideas? I'm gonna press the button Bam kill your ego Isn't that cute? There's a dude with a knife and it's his doppelganger. He's dead. Ain't that crazy? That's why I did the PowerPoint. I didn't really need it. Okay, so you want to kill your ego, okay? Can you guys imagine just for a second what it would be like if you shut that voice up in your head? Literally if you if you destroy that voice to such a degree you weakened it so much Where every time you want to do something just look at that girl's really beautiful and the voice was like And you're all right then I'm just gonna go and tell this girl that voice just wasn't there or was so fucking quiet It just didn't affect you. Can you imagine what life would be like at that point anybody? Never seen that movie limitless It would be that it would just be you like I want to do that I'm gonna do that and you just you do it. It wouldn't you there's nothing there and in your head going No, I'll do that shit. Okay, it would be crazy Welcome to Sasha day game land so How to keep how to kill your ego? Okay? So number one stop avoiding awkward situations Okay, everyone is terrified of awkward situations being judged. Oh, no, what will people think about me? What will people think about me if I do something and it doesn't work out? Okay? So you got it. You've got to actually get into them start seeking out awkward situations instead of avoiding them So some examples and this is kind of This is what I do so your brain says this can be awkward. You should say great Let's do this. This is gonna be awesome. It's gonna be hilarious. Okay, so examples These are just this is for me really to remember my stuff. So a Classic example I've seen in like TV shows movies, you know, there's an awkward teenage guy, right? He's in a store and he's like 16 He's gonna have sex at the first time and he's got condoms and he's really nervous because they're you know And he's like, yeah, I've got my banana and some food and these condoms and he puts them down And of course what's gonna happen the girls like okay, and she scans them and she's like, oh, this doesn't work Let me just get a price check. He's like, no, I'll just pay whatever she's like No, it's fine. Can I get a price check on condoms here? We got a we got a pack of condoms here. We get a pressure and the guy's just fucking like he wants to die. I Get into that situation on purpose As much as I can you should be seeking out that situation Because if you can be there and just be like that's right. I'm buying condoms everybody. I'm gonna have sex Pretty awesome if you can get to that point and not give a flying shit about anything and recognize This is hilarious. I really don't care you will have social freedom And you will destroy your you'll destroy your ego and be able to do whatever you want to so so that's one classic example Just you know to put out there so so you guys should be looking for situations If you have any approach anxiety with girls if you have social fear you should be looking for situations To for it to get awkward so on an elevator. Okay, so who's got their thinking cap on? What can you do if you're on an elevator? And you want to test this and you want to make shit awkward and stop giving a fuck what people think What can we do? Far yeah eat some beans have a little have one of those fart bags up against the wall just start making farting sounds go I'm really sorry everybody. I just I'm really sorry You know if somebody it's when the door is opening and someone's gonna come on Stand right in front of the elevator and they open it go woo and scare the shit out of them. Okay, you can You know whatever just be awkward shit face the wrong way like everyone's facing the front face the wall Just stand there like this, you know and people will be like the flex this guy doing okay It's hilarious and people are gonna judge you and think you're fucking weird And you're gonna be like yeah cool, okay Okay, so buying things in a store, okay, don't just go in and buy your stuff look for opportunities to create social tension Okay, so for example, I'll go into a store and first of all always flirt with whatever girls there I'm always gonna have fun. I'm gonna you know, I'm just gonna mess around and we like I know you're working But I think we should I think we're going to date right now. Let's run away together She's like no, I can't I'm working but I'll just I'll do silly things I like to steal stuff a lot so what I'll do is I'll literally fill up my pockets I'll take I'll take chocolate bars and like, you know can't like all stuff cans of tuna in my underwear I'll just literally steal all the stuff everything I can and then I'll walk up to the security guard. Well, hey man Listen, I got a confession to make I was gonna steal this chocolate bar I feel really guilty. I'm really sorry, but I can't go through it. I just want to give it to you He's like, okay cool. Yeah, by the way, I also stole all this stuff here And here and I'll just and I'll just start unloading Right all this stuff. I'll just give him everything I have like literally and he'll just be standing there with all this stuff I'm really sorry by and all I'll walk out and he's just standing there. Just go What do I do here? Okay, it's awesome. Well once in a while nobody knows that I have this stuff and I just walk up But anyway, usually I don't do that Usually come on the security sucks. Okay So Talking to strangers, okay So any opportunity where you can talk to strangers and you can be a bit of a weirdo fucking do it Stop avoiding social awkwardness embrace social awkwardness. So So if I'm walking up to people I'll walk up to people sometimes on the street or they'll walk up to me Maybe someone will be asking me for directions and I'll be like, oh, yeah, sure. I can help you that But quick question though, and I'll just ask them something. I'll just like yeah I'm actually trying to get a gift for my ex and I'm just not sure what I should get her because I don't want her to think that I'm trying to you know, I'm trying to get like winter back or anything She's we're just friends and stuff like that. But yeah, do you have any I any idea What I should get her because I don't want to go like too far. I don't want to get her where you're not You're not really sure. Okay. It's all right. Well. Thanks. Anyway. Thank you Okay, so I'll start picking my nose and eating it I'll start wiping it on my shirt and all this kind of stuff and people will be will look at me like I'm an absolute freak The couples are the best couples are really funny. He'll never hit you, but they're looking at each other like oh my god Really great. Okay, so I'll do stuff like that You know, I'll walk up to people and I'll just be like, you know, whatever I can go on I will do some more of these in a minute Yeah, good one is walking up to people and just be like, hey, look you guys look like that like, you know the area I'm just wondering Yeah, do you guys know where I can go to get tested for Sexually transmitted diseases Yeah, because it really burns when I pee You know It's it's cool. I'll ask someone else Just just walk right really slowly. Okay, so awkward. They're just gonna be like this guy's fucking weird What a fucking weirdo Okay, but it's fucking great because first of all you're gonna start having a great time and have fun and realize that Oh, yeah, all these people think I'm an asshole and it's okay And it doesn't matter and when you and you get to that point in life where you just accept it Yeah, I'm kind of a dick, you know, I fuck around with people people think I'm weird and you just go yeah, I'm okay with that Your whole life changes because you stop worrying about what the fuck people think about you Which has been holding you back since you were you know, four years old As soon as you really realize that you're a human being that you're conscious as soon as you have consciousness You're basically start worrying about what everyone thinks fuck them Okay, so so how to kill your ego Just some baby steps for people who you know who could use them for babies Steve Martin said half the battle is just showing up. Okay, and that's true So if you're if you really are suffering for social fear Just go just leave the house man. Seriously step one leave the house go out go anywhere where there's human beings It doesn't matter go to a salsa class go to a yoga class go to a Starbucks You know go to anything doesn't have to be like a huge party with millions of people Just go anywhere go to a bookshop where there's like one person in the aisle and just stand around Okay, but just go Somewhere and just get comfortable showing up just get comfortable going out anywhere where there's people Okay, that's step one. The next step is just get comfortable saying hi That's it. Just saying hi will change your entire life. Just say hi to people It doesn't mean you have to have a conversation. It doesn't mean you have to have sex with them It doesn't mean you have to do business. It doesn't mean anything. It just means you're saying hi Yeah, the house and start saying hi to people. Hello. Hi. How's it going? Good afternoon? How you doing? Okay, just by getting the fuck out there and saying hi to people and like five people a day You're being more social than 99% of people who don't really do that. They just do their thing They they meet with their people they'll meet one new person and that was their day. Okay, so And just a little cheat I have Having default social responses can be really really useful especially especially if you're starting out You're not used to going out there and meeting all these new people. So it's kind of like a chess game It's like being one or two moves ahead or hopefully more so Even though I really preach like me natural and just have fun with girls and blah, blah, blah It's totally cool when you're starting out just have a couple of default fun things to say So I thought I'd share some of my ones I came up with just because they might be useful. Okay, so you look interesting Will you be my friend? Okay, this is a great thing to say. It's really just basic, but it's also the delivery You know, it's walking up. Hey You look interesting. Will you be my friend? That's it's the delivery. Okay, but it's a great friendly thing and somebody might be like, okay Well, why don't want to be your friend because I'm awesome. What's your name? It's a really easy way to start a conversation Okay, let's look at a couple of fun ones here This is a great line. This is awesome. This is just a silly thing to say I'll be anywhere I anywhere I'll be where there's any kind of attention and people who are kind of like You know, you could be at a massage place. You could be buying something whatever it is And I'll just look at someone I'll make eye content. I'll just be like I just coming for the music Okay, great. He will always smile at that. It's it's wonderful Okay, hi, what's up? I'm just trying to stay out of trouble. I usually fail Okay, really really simple. Hey, how's it going? Hey, nice to meet you. Oh, what am I? Oh nothing just trying to stay out of trouble Usually I feel okay very simple making fun of yourself a little bit great great thing to say. Okay, you're cute Let's run away to Barbados together. No. All right. How about a cup of tea? Okay, so again, this is awesome because you're you're you're immediately kind of being fun and playful But it's okay. You're obviously expecting it out. She goes. No, you go. All right How about a cup of tea and you're just kind of downgrading and having fun with it? This is awesome. This will get you sit just walking up to girls and saying anything like this. Hey, you're cute Do you want to be my girlfriend? No. All right. How about how will we just talk for two minutes? All right, whatever How about just a 10 second conversation? All right is is great This will get you so far in life just walk it up to people when saying some something fun like that So have a few of these make up your own just sit down and be like, all right What's a few standard things to start wouldn't have fun with and and you're away for I'd say many things but Destroying your fears as a man if you have trouble approaching meeting women or working through some issue in your life Sasha day game is the man to talk to come on stage my man There's many paths, but try and pick the path that's going to serve you in the long run No, no, I forget the baby. How about a date? We'll start slow. Okay Simple effective Great. Okay, so this is this is huge here. I love this is like one of the most important things I've been teaching for years and years and years and years and years and people used to have they pay a lot of money for this So pay attention