 Get this here together. Try to get this set on up Just share this y'all got to forgive me. Let me make sure my internet working Internet freeze on my end. Y'all have to forgive me Internet be freezing and Forgive my little setup They got a little light right here Forgive my little setup Working the day it's been a it's really been a little whirlwind It's been a whirlwind for me as I've been moving around working Going It's um What I was doing last week Last week I had to fly to What was it? had to fly to South Dakota last week flew to South Dakota and Spoke to a team They had lost by 30 points in a game and I talked to the coach and They were flying in the South Dakota to play a game and I flew up there talked to the team Because I've been working with them. This is my fourth season and just want to stay active in their life and Oh now look at this here now This young brother on the TV got a white daddy. I got a black mama a black one She got something on her now cuz she didn't she part of y'all move met She part of y'all divesting Sister sale when they get me old white man Hey, I won't blame you go on head on head. Well, I Am not finna argue with y'all no more y'all want y'all white man so bad go right ahead I'm married. So I can't tell nobody what to do Then lady gonna tell me Later gonna come in the comments. I think I blocked up She's on my wife white Cuz I had my light on my wife got in the car. You know my wife. She is light-skinned, but The thing about it is when I met my wife in 2005 That wasn't a that wasn't a goal my girlfriend that I was my fiance before my wife Was my color probably shade darker But she was a headache. She was a headache. She was off another religion. I broke up with her and This brother here from Tennessee. Now his daddy is interesting cuz daddy is real slim and tall But then his mama looks shorter, you know with a meat on the bones and That's just that look like an interesting couple This is an interesting couple. That's to show you what love come in all different ways I just would not see them together And I guess that's what the Had that put that game on them That's what I got some of that black of that Barry Know this on ESPN a young man play football for Tennessee Went black and didn't go back and so I Went out there and I spoke to the team in South Dakota the next day I had to I flew back home and we had to go to California for a few days and My son broke his wrist in his second game of the three games He broke his wrist, but he got his cast on and He'll be able to start training again, but soon as we flew up. We flew back on a red eye and We got in six or seven that morning got home got settled by 10 a.m. I went to sleep till about one and I Had to speak to a team at 430 And when I went to speak to the team It's a room of grown men 18 to 24 or something like that and I went to speak to these grown men and As I was talking one of my Questions was who has a girlfriend One person one player raised their hand That they hit that he has a girlfriend And then I said on the campus with you at this school and he put his hand down I say y'all none of y'all got a girlfriend and That right there That right there showed me something see this why I try to tell people This why I try to tell people who try to argue with me in the comments When you getting a room of 15 men 15 18 men and you are the speaker and you get to pull the room That's when you can argue with me in the comments because I'm in the trenches and I'm learning from real life. I'm not going on Google. This is what the non blessed tribe members be in the comments arguing with me I'm not going on Google and Googling stats I'm going out and Creating the stats. I'm going out and counting the stats myself Because when you see this this room of 15 to 18 men They young now But I had a I had a girlfriend in kindergarten And I said now that's another thing about y'all generation that's different I say that's another thing. That's different Y'all not looking for a wife How has you grown and Not having no girlfriend. I had a girlfriend in kindergarten. I Remember having a girlfriend in third grade had a girlfriend in fifth grade girlfriend in sixth grade seventh grade eighth grade like we grew up with girlfriends in kindergarten me and my friend Who was a black male? Had us a young lady and we sat on the back the outside row we sat on the outside row and Now I ain't asked if they have no boyfriend They weren't gonna make that either now it and then based on the statistics Maybe one of them could be one or two of them, but Yes, but see that's the thing That's the thing today and this why that's why I titled this your relationship is gonna depend on your mindset and this what I mean By depending on your mindset what I mean by that is It is not a plethora of Men That's out here looking for a wife. That's ready for a wife. That's chasing a wife It's not a plethora of men and The reason why it's going to pin on your mindset is because Faith is gonna play a part Who you are and what you think you deserve Who you are and what you think you deserve that is What's going to determine When and how you have a relationship? because The days of it just being one person for every person That's no longer But one thing I know about it is that when you're doing the work When you're doing the work on you male and female You're doing the work. You're elevating You're becoming Desirable you going into another realm So you start to go into a realm of Desirability and the work is not Easy and the work is never done. I was talking to my wife today and Because I've seen this thing about you know gut health and how it affect your life And I'm and it was like gut health is affecting men a lot of men is They having a softer a softer e When I say e y'all know talking about when Little Jimmy go to standing up They e is softer because of their gut health is what is what they said what the boy said on um the podcast AO podcast and So I wrote my wife Not that she gonna tell me the truth and I say hey nice things different Since we met she said I haven't noticed a difference But you ain't gonna get the truth, but that just reminded me Just I still got to stay on my game I still got to be working on me and so here it is you got so many single people and you'll be single and you'll be complacent you'll be single and you'll be complacent and The thing about it is is we we know God is a miracle worker So we think we just expect a miracle Instead of getting in position instead of doing what we got to do and that's the hard thing that we don't want to hear So the thing about it is when we work on our mindset when we work on our people skills when we work on our personality when we work on these things and We start to do the work Then we come to a place and y'all got to forgive me now because I'm filming a day I'm filming a show, but we don't a little I'm in between right now. So I ain't gonna be alone because I'm gonna have to get the filming but Filming right now. So y'all forgive me. We're doing the TV show today. I'm gonna be filming till midnight But I'm in between right now so listen When you take and you working on your personality So here's the thing people say, oh, well, it's not this and it's not that and it's not this Everything come together People say, oh, well, it ain't the body. Well, the body plays a part Well, I see people got their body in in in on point, but it still ain't got nobody It's cuz the mind might not be right The brain the brain the body Joy just told y'all the three B's that I created the brain the brain the body So when you think about it when you think about it If I'm gonna use myself for example to help you understand this if I was a single person I don't worked on my mind. Okay, that's the brain I'm working on my mind The brain I don't work on my brain Got a business earning money, but then the body Stomach ain't where I needed to be 200 The 205 pounds On 510 I'm supposed to be about 180 so I technically You when you see me in clothes you might say well Tony, you don't look bad. I don't I don't look bad I don't feel bad But based on the the height and the weight I'm overweight So that's my third B that I need to be working on You see what I mean? Also with the body. I don't eat right. I just had my own nice burger Had my old burger with some french fries I've probably should have had a grilled chicken salad earlier today for lunch. I had some lamb chops having some lamb chops and some spinach ain't eat the spinach and For the appetizer having some crowd cakes Eat not that's eat not that see That see dirty Then the meat don't be right. So here I am red meat red meat Didn't eat my spinach Now see I'm married now I'm married But see it's people eating just like me And they single and they say they won't they want them somebody and see this what you have to realize them three Bs When you get that when you get that mind, right? brain brand body When you get the three Bs To where you know you are where you're supposed to be You say, okay, I learned How to date I've learned how to date. I know the red flags. I know what to look for I'm educated whether that's formally educated and you need to be formally educated and self-educated Former education don't mean a degree. Yeah, you can have a degree got multiple degrees But what I mean is you need to know how to read and write you know how to read how to write how to spell Formally educated you need to be self-educated. You need to be street smart If you're not from the hood, you need to talk to somebody who from the hood if You if you don't know how Scammers work how the game work if you don't know what's going on out here. You need to watch dirty John You need to watch American greed American greed come on a peacock network Just watch an American greed. You're gonna learn so much about life And so when you doing this right here now you learning you're growing So that's that's the brain you get the knowledge the brain you need to be gainfully employed It's so many people. It's so many women right in and They say they're unemployed And I do not understand it listen Listen Walmart hiring Mike Donald's hiring Go work one of them places till you get that marketing job that you want because that's humility That's gonna instill some humility flippin them burgers Start your own company there was a guy who he is he has a few mental issues and He started his own company and The man got several clients There is no excuse This man has mental issues and got his own company There's no excuse To not have something To not be doing something you cannot be lazy You got to have a brand so get your job and then once you get your job Then you can get you something that you cannot be fired from Get you something you can't be fired from and and that's essentially what Tony gasses academy Calm is it's a bunch of courses that's gonna help you get on your feet That's gonna help you get things in order. That's essentially all it is It's just me giving you the blueprint for pennies on the dollar because you got to understand me doing what I do I've earned millions of dollars right now. My coaching is 750 dollars an hour a lady wrote in she said well I had a coaching session earlier for 400 Listen yesterday's price is not today's price. I'm filming a TV show. My son's got to travel every week I ain't got no time to give to nobody So if I'm gonna get on the phone with a stranger from online It got to be of no money That I could sit there with a smile on my face as I'm taking away time From my wife and my kids and my business to talk to one person Because when I get on the phone at 750 dollars, I'm losing money I'm losing thousands of dollars while I'm talking to that one person And so it's certain it's certain times to where even when you want to go to certain levels It's gonna require more and that's why I created my mentor. That life. We got coaches for $25 Literally we got coaches on my mentor. That life for $25 an hour So you can't walk in Chanel and and tell them to give you microcores prices That ain't how that work. They're gonna say listen if you can't afford this $8,000 bag Then you need to start with microcores for two three hundred and work your way up But don't come in here talking about Oh, your material the same in microcores. Why you charge an 8,000? You said I'm saying so don't come to me talking about oh, why you charge this? it's because that's what I need to get on the phone and If it's not affordable, I done created us a solution for you. That's affordable and So understand that But that's the brand You got to build your brand When I remember sitting with a TV show, I'm filming a TV show right now on the very network That turned me down before and I went in there with another young lady who got TV shows on there And the lady Tried the little boy me. It was a white female. She tried the little boy me so Well, our other coach who has a show he can't be accessed No one can work with him unless they're on the show You're accessible you do coaching sessions She tried to make me feel like a PR because I'm accessible to the people But that's actually frowned upon in Hollywood Being accessible to the people is frowned upon in Hollywood You're not big enough if people can touch you if people can have a one-on-one session with you and so the fact that I'm in Hollywood and I'm working in the industry and still accessible it got to be a price with that So that's what I want you to think about when you're building your brand you building something you can't be fired from and so You got to have that and then with your body The body is something that it's gonna represent longevity It's going to represent health It's gonna produce confidence Listen, I'm not big on all the different. Oh, you got to be vegan You got to be pescatarian. Oh, you shouldn't eat red meat to each their own on that You got to know What is right for you? People live people eat meat and live past a hundred years old Everybody body and genetics is not the same Everybody that we from all different parts of the world We all still from Africa, but then we from all different climates and Environments you got to learn you because one person died Kill the next person. So you got to understand that and so Learn your body do your blood work and get your body where it need to be Because I'm gonna tell you the honest truth. I'm gonna tell you the honest truth That's the one thing that I see the most when men and women come to me and They looking for somebody They may they almost everybody get the brains Get the brains and the brand But very few people could get their body where they wanted to be Because to get your body where you want it to be it is so Difficult it takes so much discipline It takes so much discipline like I could go work out for an hour a day and I could see changes in my body, but it's still way far from Other guys that I see online So I'm like if I'm working out like this If I got my own gym At my house and I could work out an hour a day and my body still and I still ain't got no eight pack When were are you doing the house? Eight pack twelve pack because when I used to have one I ain't do nothing really for it. I just was an athlete And so I say that that's the number one thing that I see is people eating habits and The way they treat their body and that's the most painful part for us and it's for everybody It's across the board and then a lot of people who got the perfect body is genetics and then a lot of people who Who work for the perfect perfect body and they earn it a lot of them don't have a brand Or they don't have the brains So everybody almost every human 99% of humans you meet is Deficient in one of the bees when you look at brains brand and body Almost every human is deficient in one area, but that is why we are pursuing perfection meaning Be perfect as your father in heaven is perfect We know perfection is not attainable, but in the pursuit of it Vince Lombardi say you're gonna catch excellence and so that's why this is important and what's gonna happen is You're going to like You're gonna have people around you That's gonna believe differently and do differently they're gonna move different and when that's the case you got to understand that And sometimes you got to get a little separation Sometimes you got to get a little separation and sometimes you got to be able to walk alone Sometimes you got to be able to do different than your mama do Do different than your daddy do? Somebody gave a little donation right there, but when I touch it, I can't bring it up It won't let me bring it up for some reason Look at Denise and see Denise telling the truth. She said my body is in good shape because of genetics I remember I met this girl on Twitter a woman And she was young in her 20s and she was selling an app course and she had abs I Could look at her and tell she was from that part of Africa that got abs And when I wrote her I say hey sis, would you say that your abs come from? Your workouts more or your genetics and she said tone. I'm gonna be honest with you It's my genetics. She said I really ain't do much for these abs But being that I got them I'm finna make me a course and I'm finna sell them and I'm gonna be honest with you It's not yes, it's people who get success as who you don't think are attractive But it's sometimes a lot of times people elevate based on how they look and Based on how the world boxes their looks in So you'll go on a job and you'll see somebody as a CEO or somebody in this position And it's really because of their height that height represent authority or it's because of their smile It's because of they look and that don't mean they're not talented that don't mean I don't know how to give But that adds to it. And so when you understand that Your packaging how you present yourself what you're coming with All of that plays a part and that's how you separate yourself So when you look and you see everybody doing one thing, so it's like this right here I had to when I was looking for a wife I had to find my unique selling proposition and what I noticed is Every guy curse So I stopped cursing. I didn't curse Every guy drink I didn't drink every guy smoke. I didn't smoke and most guys Did at least one of the three? So when a woman met me and I say I don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't curse That immediately separated me from 99.9% of the men she knew and So I could be 5 10 instead of 6 4 and Still get a woman because I had to separate it myself So that's what I'm trying to tell you if every woman is Getting lip filler and then you wear your natural lips That's gonna separate you if every woman is getting a fake But and you go and do squats instead of going to you go to Dr. G. Y. M Instead of Dr. J. I am You go to Dr. Jim verse Dr. Jim Now a man say oh man you different So now when a man meet you and he said wow you're beautiful But you as close to natural beauty as you could be like yeah, you got on some lipstick. Yeah, you get your nails done Yeah, you got your eyebrows done. Yeah, you know, you got to weave in yeah, this and that but you still you know, you still you You you enhancing you you you look beautiful as you So now you different so then when you see Everybody seeking attention and you got social media, but you posted empowerment you posted quotes You're doing things differently. You're not on there bent over showing you booty You're not on there posting a selfie every day. You might post yourself at once a week But you can post in those selfie every day. You ain't thirst trapping. You're not seeking attention. But yet you still Carrying yourself. Well, then people gonna look at you and say oh wow you're different So you got to understand your uniqueness and then it has to be a mindset and this is the thing what's happening today Whatever is negative is going to be heightened Everything is negative is gonna be heightened and so you're gonna get online And it's gonna make you think that all black women need to leave black men alone and go to another race It's gonna make you think that all black men are leaving black women alone and going to another race It's gonna make you think that all men are trash. It's gonna make you think that all women are trash and The negative will be highlighted. Oh She said I miss why the players didn't have girlfriends only heard to elevate ourselves on there I don't know why the players didn't have girlfriends, but the point I was making is that in this room full of men none of them Had a girlfriend So what that says is we are moving into a time where Marriage is going to be less and less because men not looking for no wife and The women that get married To the men that get married It's gonna be people Who separate themselves from the pack it's gonna be people who believe in marriage and who are doing the work? to be married It's going to be a Situation a case of many are called but few are chosen. That's what we're getting ready to move into So you got to if you want to be married you got to believe in Marriage you have to want marriage You have to prepare for marriage and here's the thing what is available to you is Not going to be available to the person next to you Who is unwilling to do the work? So listen It's a lot of people who look like They are marriage material like somebody showed me this Somebody showed me this On the red table They had the red table now They can't bring on the red table if they don't look up my videos because I don't I don't talk about Jada and August I'll see them and I probably talk about will and and Cuz I'm gonna always call down the middle but they had The red table did a talk and They had a single man Another single man Another single man They brought in a bunch of single men to talk about How to get in the relationship and One arm say he in a beautiful relationship. Where's he at? Where's he at? Ain't seen him Where she at and I say So now guess what that got millions of views it's gonna get millions of views so now you got Single men and they had one woman on there And it's like for one you should have that many men Talk about no relationship because men don't know what to be talking about and You should have that many men and if you do have a man He need to be married. He need to be faithful and he need to have been married for over 10 years Not no single man telling about no relationship that he ain't been able to make work But that's what they had but see me. I call it like it is I'm too real for the industry cuz see when the devil locked up Cuz see them people a lot of people in the threesome's a lot of people in the witchcraft a lot of people in the open Relationships a lot of people into a divorce a lot of people in the cheat a lot of people in the plan with God name They play with God name a lot of people want to pray online But then don't want to live it then don't want to really have the discernment that God that God gives us and So for me, that's why I have to be in my own lane because I'm too real to associate and assimilate in a lot of ways because I see through the mess I see through the bull and We in a society of it's just about having fame and just having money But people don't really believe in God. They say God, but they don't really believe in God They don't really live for God behind closed doors. God ain't really evident in their life They being elevated so many people being elevated by Satan to make up mockery of God So what the devil does is he makes the connections and he opens the doors for the people who say in Lord Lord But really ain't living for God behind closed doors because he know eventually they're gonna embarrass They're gonna put shame on the name of the Lord because of the lifestyle they live it and he know they're gonna get exposed So the devil taking blessed people it's a snare, but they call it a blessing and so that's what you have to understand That's what's going on. So it was people at me and say y'all should have brought Tony on y'all should have brought Tony on but That made too much sense That made too much sense. They're not fit to bring somebody on that has a conservative Message, they're not gonna bring somebody on that believes in marriage that believes in faithfulness that believe in men and women being married together and starting a family and Living a godly lifestyle, they're not gonna bring that on they need people who go on water down and bite their tongue and Say God but live like the devil Say God but be in the divorce court instead of Using the power of God to heal their marriage Instead of using the power of God to choose the right wife to choose the right husband They they want somebody that's gonna Plague hate They don't want the real and so that's that's part of the issue and For me, I don't care about the money I don't care about biting my tongue to be friends with people and to be associated and to be clicked up and linked in Because God got me God got me and as long as God got me Then God got my family and my family is is is fed and they fed well And we live well without the associations without the clicks without the team without all of that Because God is sufficient and so that's what y'all got to understand is we living in a world Where there's gonna be so much sacrilegion and we living in a time where it's gonna be so much Tom Foolery being pushed to the masses that it's so many people that don't know what they talking about being given a platform that it is Destroying love and relationships. It's destroying love and relationships and they doing it intentionally They doing the devil's work intentionally and what you have to understand is It's a lot of people playing with God Because even God tell the Pharisees the Bible in the Bible tell the Pharisees Don't be out here praying on the street corner Like the Pharisees pray on the street corner because they won't clout Go in your closet and prayer pray in your closet and you'll be blessed publicly That's why you don't see me online praying on reels but it's so many people posting prayers on as reels and Playkating as a Christian, but the lifestyle looking like Hell on earth Behind closed doors and playing with the Lord and then nobody don't nobody want to speak the truth Because everybody want to click up everybody word about romance and connections and Alliances when I'm worrying about righteousness and so that's why my message is gonna be different and that's why I'm not finna tell people to to leave to leave your people Meaning like it was it was places in the Bible throughout the Bible where it told When people were told Don't marry somebody from this country or from this place and the reason being is because it was too different It was the cultures was different the beliefs was different and If you notice there was people in the Bible Who when they married certain women they started worshiping other gods They started moving differently because the woman didn't believe In God the Almighty and so that's why I'm never going to Promote divesting Because you could be going into something you don't even know what you and that's just not from I'm not just I'm from black to white, but I ain't finna be telling white people to go find somebody black because That could cause you more pain and heartache Because although your partner may accept you They family might not accept you. They kids might not accept you. They religion may be different So you just can't go and just jump ship because you've been hurt Because we all been hurt and we all gonna continue to be hurt and so this what we have to understand and We'd be so ready to turn on our own, but ain't nobody else turning on their own and We act like we can't get right we act like we can't do right But the other people also know their deficiencies and know their inadequacies and know that in order to get right They got to stick together We so quick to just down each other and just run away from each other and understand That's what that's what the plan was. That's that's what the whole plan was the whole plan Was to divide and conquer The whole plan was listen We got to divide This group of people Because together they too strong Together they too smart Together they gonna rise to power Like when you look at Martin Luther King said in that speech that from the time you wake up to the time you leave You have depended on the creations of black people Like when you look at everything that we use majority what we use in the house was created by a black man or woman Then the reason why is because adversity breeds creativity so black people was put in place to build America and So when you placed in the home to take care of a household and to take care of somebody else kids You got to come up with a hairbrush with a hair comb With shoe laces so black people invented so much stuff everything and It was stolen from them because it's still happening today Black people still innovative today the the guy who Elon Musk basically old Tesla too One of them guys is a black man And so you have to understand that the goal Is to divide and conquer because if you can come together Now you can build Because you got so much smarts you got so much strength you your people to overcome so much adversity So much pain that if y'all realize your strength You gonna be oh man, and so I was watching the commercial today. I Can't remember feel Bosley The hair company or somebody and they show a black man They show the black man And he The commercial something about some confidence for me. I think oh it was a hair color. See how I got these grays I think it was a hair color. So they showed a black man. He walked up to the bar The spit a little gang to the white women This 2022 Now the company gonna say they trying to show that they not racist but That's also sending a message That's sending a message because they very intentional about the messages That's why in the commercial. They always got the black person doing something crazy like Golden Corral They got the Golden Corral commercial with the black family. Come on. I y'all y'all know we already dying from diabetes Y'all know we already got high potential high cholesterol. I Sat down on the machine other day the things that I had high blood pressure Machine broke but my wife got down there say her blood pressure normal. Y'all know we already dying Why why Golden Corral? Somebody that y'all work at Golden Corral right to CEO right to president put an Asian family on now put a white family on now People want to market and use media and and they want to use white people for every single commercial in the world But then when you got nasty Golden Corral with all of these calories all this grease All this lard you want to use the black family and Then the man that they use 300 pounds And he and he they're getting the attitude with his family because they don't understand how great Golden Corral is And it's like brother. It's like listen all y'all I Understand y'all want to be actors. I understand y'all want to be actors Let you Let your agency know you gonna pass on this one on the Golden Corral commercial And it probably has some people pass on it, but then here go these folks. They want to get in there and keep the narrative going He wouldn't get it 300 pound, but on the y'all don't understand the greatness of this crispy fried chicken I say well, oh my good Oh My goodness and after I said something about the commercial where they had the two black men kissing Now they're gonna change the commercial a different one gonna have a black man a white man kisses like listen Listen, you telling us the commercial is about AIDS You showing us gay men we get it You telling the gay men For one they stereotyping gay men and they saying y'all carrying the AIDS virus y'all is the ones passing HIV Y'all is the one caring that for one. That's what the commercial saying. They said they showing gay couples But then they show I'm kissing It's like bro. We don't we don't need to see that Because my eight-year-old son don't want to see a man and woman kiss If he grows up by a man and woman kissing What the world you think he gonna feel if he watching the game and then he see two men kiss He's just gonna be flabbergasted, but today that's what they teaching in the schools They teaching this what you want. Let your kid. Let your son Put your son in a dress Paint your son nails Let your son be a woman if you want to be a woman, but they teaching that because This because the adversaries goal is to weaken society It's just like when you look at the Marvel movies a lot of people don't look at the Marvel movies When you look at the Marvel movies Them people is geniuses who wrote that Marvel and DC Comics They show you a evil person who all the evil person want to do is destroy the entire world And it's like what is the point of that? You just want nobody to be here. You want to be here by yourself or This thing that you create and it's gonna take you out too. So what is the point? Why don't you want anybody to exist on the planet? And it's cuz the person be mad to be angry Something to happen to him But that's the goal of the adversary. So the adversary is gonna push narratives That's basically 50 years from now 50% of the couples is going to be same-sex couples but what that's going to do is that's going to Reduce the population by so much Because 50% of the couples gonna be same-sex couples and the other 50% Gonna be heterosexual couples, but they're gonna be having kids for themselves And then they're gonna have to have kids for the same-sex couples But then when the same-sex couples have a child from somebody else Now that child grows up seeing the same-sex couple as a norm So now that child grows up and becomes gets in the same-sex couple and now got to go borrow sperm or Borrow a egg as well But it's gonna get to a point to where it ain't enough sperm and egg to borrow Because it's gonna be done the tide gonna be the shift because a child Just like Anybody just like the animals and just like all mammals you have to be imprinted So if a little boy is not told this is how you dress and this is the color Blue is for boys pink is for girls then what's gonna happen is little boys when you leave them to they self They pick purple they pick pink they pick glitter because they they pick what grabbed the eye and Then if you tell them and I let my son get it because he's so young. I'm not finna put that in his head but If you tell them oh you could wear a dress and You could wear you could put on heels put on your mama heels That little boy Don't realize That the feelings he feeling is because of how he being raised So he gonna associate And say I felt like of like a female From a child But he don't realize Well, he doesn't realize that he felt like a female from a child Because his dad was not there or his dad was so busy that he was always with his mom or a female nanny or stepmother and He saw them putting on nail paint. He saw them putting on heels. He saw them putting on panties He saw them putting on bras. So that's what he gravitated toward that That's what that was his imprinting But then we will say oh He was born that way No, he was raised that way and this is what I try to tell y'all. I don't look at statistic I look at real life. I go and talk to the people I'm going to talk to them to the man. So yeah, so, you know, I talked to a lesbian woman and She said to me I talked to two different lesbian women Who present themselves masculine? One of them said to me that her dad wanted boys So he raised her and her sister like boys So doesn't it make sense that if she was raised like a boy She presents masculine as a grown woman and now she dates women Don't that make sense Do it sound like she was born that way or do it sound like she was raised that way She said my dad wanted boys. So he treated me like a boy. He trained me like a boy He dressed me like a boy. He raised me like a boy. So I identify as a boy Then I met another woman She said I had to assume the role of a man because my father left So I became the man of the household, but I'm a woman and I'm a woman and I want to be treated like a woman But I present as masculine because I had to become masculine because my father was not there So when you actually talk to the people and you hear they upbringing you hear they life Then you see. Oh This was your imprinting and Then you'll see people boys men who come from places like where I come from and We may be the furthest thing away from being a gay man But when you hear our stories It's because the adults said to us when we were children You better not be gay. You better not be like no man. You better not Do this so it almost a lot of people was raised homophobic Because of the shame when it wasn't accepted The mothers and fathers didn't want their child to be the outcast so they scared them Into they couldn't even look at the same gender almost in a friendly way and So when you start to talk to people see what we go and do is We think we're so smart. We want to get on Google and Google statistics man listen You got a job You know what you do on them people job You on them people job watching you to We'd be on people jobs still in all kind of money And then we go all of a sudden believe the statistics when we get on Google Oh 60% of such and such them people pulling numbers out they behind The people sitting up I ain't even passed the survey I ain't gonna send this survey I'm gonna put Them people like that Christmas tree in them surveys And then people want to get in the comments So smart they know what to do They don't Google the statistic Talk about Pew Research Lady gonna come in the comments. Pew Research says She said Tony black men have given up on black women According to Pew Research I say man, what is Pew Research? And what black men They don't know And what black men do you know? filling out a survey from a company We is raised as black men To not trust the government to not trust the doctor to not trust the police To not trust our brother. We saw can kill able. We not filling out surveys I ain't filled out a survey in my life And I'm an upstanding citizen So what surveys is y'all reading? If a man don't want no girlfriend he definitely ain't filling out no survey We barely know how to write a check talking about filling out a survey and where's these surveys at? Oh, well Pew Research walked around the country And they they just counted out the black men that had a white woman So that's how they got the research Tony Gaskin And then the lady said Pew Research Said that 15 percent of black men date outside. They race. I feel like I said ma'am 15 percent So so one and a half out of 10 Date outside is race And in that 15 percent half on bombs That they that they the black women don't even want them because they scamming The half of them is half white So they ain't really dating outside. They race because their mama white And then and then the other ones was raised in a white neighborhood So when he talked to a black woman who was raised in a black neighborhood she go to snickering You talk so good Oh, you talk good. Say that again Where you learn how to talk like that? So he feels so ashamed and insecure talking so proper He got to go date outside his race, but it's like 15 percent. Listen 15 percent of us It's 15 percent that age 15 percent missing a toll 15 percent. That's such a small percentage I'm like 15 percent. You ain't even say 30 percent Like okay, I'm gonna be worried when you say 60 percent Of black men Is dating outside. They race then I'm gonna be like, okay, it's something in the water 15 percent. That's just that's the luck of the draw Like that's expected. Everybody not gonna like the same thing I bet you 15 I bet you 15 percent of black women date outside. They race It's like, okay. We humans humans like different things But that don't mean That the black race didn't as a whole than giving up on each other That black men and gave up on black women and black women and gave up on black men and this is why I say Somebody said, oh, I know a lot of black men with a white woman Yeah, we all know a lot, but it's millions of people So congratulations for being able to identify 10 black men That got a woman outside. They race that don't mean a black man to gave up on a black woman Because what black men to gave up on more so than anything is ourselves. Look at our rap music Look at our fashion Look at the way we don't hold our brothers accountable. If anything, we didn't gave up on ourselves But when you go down the you go down the line and you go down into your community Hey, they begin to me now Lundy said don't let them get it. Yeah, they begin to they don't begin to me It just be I'll be appalled at the ignorance I'll be appalled at the peanut gallery. I'll be appalled at just the The pessimism I'm like you on the channel of a christian man The bible say walk by faith the bible say death and life is in the power of the tongue And so never come to my page expecting to hear doom and gloom with no hope Never come on my page expecting to hear divest Hate your own and go to another race never come on my page to hit at I'm always gonna believe the best. I'm always gonna believe the good You know why because I'm living it because I see what God could do. I know what's possible I know what we got going on I know what the adversary up to I know what's going on Hey, y'all planning to be on here 30 minutes so listen to me if you Disappage that I talked the singles to prepare singles for marriage, but I'm also talking about marriage Somebody say talk about marriage everything I'm talking about is about marriage Because all of this right here you still doing it in marriage and it take it to stay married So it ain't a it ain't just about Singles getting married It take all of this to stay married And so this is what we have to realize and understand that I'm always gonna be Be pro-black Pro-black don't mean anti-white Anti-agent anti-hispanic pro-black mean I love myself And people say oh, oh your your wife likes skin. My wife mama is black. She my color My mama is black. She my wife color My wife daddy Ancestors come from Jamaica. I mean from india. That's why she got that skin color My my sister Who is my color Got hair to her butt People don't think that black women could have hair to their butt And if she mixed she's still this color So when she stepped out ain't nobody saying she white ain't nobody saying she asian they saying that's a black woman And black people come in all kind of colors And i'ma tell you now it's one thing that does bother me It's one thing that does bother me and I think That it's a partly it's part of the media And I love my wife But I hate that we are part of that statistic Because for me it was not the intention So when I met my wife, I was 21 And we didn't have social media. So I wasn't programmed by social media And at 21 I say I was looking for a wife, but I really was looking for one night stand So my girlfriend before my wife. It's a black woman. She my color But even her got indian and white in her But she my color a lot of us got something else in us even as black people Because we come through slavery And it it was always A white man that had to take a dipping stick In the blackberry juice So a lot of us got something in us if you come through america And even in a lot of the islands It's a lot of mixing going on because the british the french The european the spaniards the people in power Was still in africans was buying africans or still in africans and buying africans for slavery But they're gonna dip in that they're gonna dip they sticking up Because they because men are adventurous if you finna get on a little raggedy boat In 1400s you finna get on a boat and you finna take You finna take on the seas and the oceans and you watching people die In these storms out in the ocean If you got the gusto to get on a boat And then go out in the ocean Before technology before the advancements you policing together some wood and you finna get in the ocean You're not telling me that you're not finna sleep with one of these black women On this boat a lot of the black women that was only boats as slaves got off pregnant We ain't talking about that though But then we want to but then america put us in not america But the slave system put us into colorism Colorism is a thing everywhere in the world When you go around you you see that darker is always seen as worse In 90 90 percent of the world But we don't want to tell the truth about this stuff And when you look at this I Do not like the fact There's so many Darker skin women Is being overlooked Being seen as less than Because of the colorism in our world that thing bothered me And I and I me and my wife to fell out about it before She was like go get a dark skin woman in You want to be an activist? She didn't say it like that because she don't yell She was like get a dark skin woman in I'm sorry. I didn't choose my color And I'm like what I'm like, but listen I thought you was Puerto Rican I thought you was a Puerto Rican and I was coming for a one night stand I was coming for a one night stand and then you turned out to be a wife I ain't say it like I said it seriously but not seriously but honestly That's what me now merit going on 16 years People lump me in With the men who are choosing a light skin woman as a fad As a trend It wasn't a trend when I did it in 2005 when I met my wife. It wasn't a trend Yes, it was happening And it was happening, but in my circle. It wasn't a trend for me I wanted to play with a Hispanic instead of a black woman I so I thought my wife was Hispanic But when I sat and talked to her and found out that she had everything I wanted in a wife I was elated when she told me she was Jamaican Because I said yes I'll get credit for being with a black woman then being a Jew Jamaican Because for me when I'm from we just picture Jamaican as Dark skin with locks. We call them dreads. But now y'all mad about that We so since It is not dreads Because dread Means dreadful. It is locks All right. Well, excuse me Excuse me. I didn't name it. I ain't name it I just thought it was called dread. We call it dread And in my homeboy used to say I'm weak Which to my mind short for wicked So I'm like, okay wicked and dreadful I get it. I get why we call it locks now. Excuse me. I'm sorry Laws sister twists I'm like, all right. You can have that my bad. I ain't mean nothing And so I was like, yes, I'm gonna get credit for being with a black woman But it does thicken me to my stomach To see so many black men Go out and intentionally Choose a woman based on skin color And it stems from self-hate A lot of it stemmed from self-hate Now at the same time What I want you to understand is And this is why I say it's important to do your own research for for Brown skin women dark skin women whatever term you use I don't want you to beat yourself up And feel less than you got to understand That you're beautiful and you got to understand that it's power in your beauty And you got to understand that truthfully Everybody is enthralled with you and some people intimidated by you Because of what your melanin represents So you got to understand that and that's why white women get in the tan and that's why light skin women getting tans too And to the point that now they got tanning lotions that you just rub on tanning oils And it just give you a darker color rubbing it on and People trying to get darker And the bodybuilders they get spray painted dark. They get up there white people getting up. They're looking like they're black people Because it makes the muscles pop more So you got to understand this But if you let it beat you up and you walk around with your lip turned up Now you're gonna look ugly Now you're gonna look like what some people try to Stereotype you ask so you got to Understand your beauty and believe in love that beauty and teach your children to love that beauty of their melanin and I Despise the fact That we got so many black men in this day and age where we seeing The propaganda of the media choosing Women based on their skin color And I seen yesterday They showed this black guy He had a white woman. It was a soccer player Then they showed another soccer player. I think they were rashford. He had a white woman And I think they showed one more soccer player who had a white woman And and and the reason why it bothered me Because I felt like I could see that those guys chose those women because of their race Not because it was an organic meeting And here's the thing If your race is disadvantaged Love is not found love is created so if Your race is disadvantaged Why would you take your wealth And give your wealth to a race that already got wealth Knowing that love is found not created now if you just happen to fall in love with somebody of another race Then that's cool because it's an organic meeting But if you deliberately go out and choose Another race because of their race and because you see them as superior That's sad that's sad And and I'ma tell you You know, I had a white girlfriend in high school And when I saw my little homeboy who had a white daddy and a black mama write his essay And he said he felt like an Oreo. I broke up with my white girlfriend Because I understand that love is created love is not found. So I say yes, I'm talking to this white girl But I also could be in love with a black girl And if this what my child going to have to go through I can't do this to my child That was back then they they say we're in a new day now. It's more enormous more accepted. I get it I'm not a racist person. But what I am is I'm not about pain And I'm not about operating from pain and trauma and causing pain and trauma And it's very sad now today That there are black men and women Choosing people of another race Because they feel inferior Because they feel their race is inferior and they feel another race is superior Not because it's an organic meeting and falling in love, but it's literally coming from inferiority complex And that's sad that's sad And if you know that that's you And you feel inferior and you choosing another race because you feel inferior You choosing to marry at your race because you think another race is better than your race. You need therapy You need therapy You need there Because we have to learn to love ourselves And that's what's sickening me today With the amount of black men That's choosing a woman in 2022 just based on complexion It's just sad it's sad to see and You know, it bothers me a lot of days because i'm like man If I know this was going to become a trend And if I know there was going to be weaponized then I would have moved differently And that's hard to say because of When you have real love And it's sad that we in a We in a place to where we can't love who we love Because it's people who choosing to love out of self-hate so then if Black guys meet a white woman and they genuinely in love They genuinely the perfect couple He all of a sudden frowned upon because of the many black men who choosing a white woman from an inferiority complex And and vice versa and that's what That's what's sad, but Here's the thing And this is another thing too And we need some change on this in the modeling industry But if you notice the modeling industry Chooses black women Who are black In the sense of but they're not choosing all shades of black women They choose them black women who the color this remote control And that's a beautiful color But it's many shades of black But they choosing The black And this the thing about it They choosing the black that they used to put in those movies the Sambo movies Although there's a beautiful black and we know as beautiful as black people We know How the fashion industry Views black And they choosing that black And the reason why they choosing that black And if you notice the fashion industry they choose black 12 59 a.m black and they choose Six p.m White Or six a.m white if you notice the modeling industry the high fashion You either got to be pale Or you got to be black They doing they doing in between And So now They ain't even trying to celebrate The shades of black They trying to choose a color that don't compete with their clothes They want you to be a canvas And so but the thing about it is they can't make all of them rich So they take and make you know 10 to 20 Of those black women and those black men rich But if you look at the high fashion And the big fashion brands you don't see black men that look like me And you don't see black women that look like the black women you see You see black men that look Totally different and it's because they don't want to Really showcase black beauty in all its forms They almost try to make a mockery And they try they almost try to have an inside joke To wear what we know and see as beautiful They don't see it as beautiful They see it as This art let me use this for art And but yet Even though they using The black women the dark skin women in the high fashion That's still not making Black men choose women of that skin color Because of the mental ideologies That we've been forced to believe about dark complexions And so now a lot of black men Are choosing A woman who is light skin or exotic or white From a complex And it's a choice it's not organic love And that's sad And then it's going to be too late 50 years from now When you want your color Just out of self love and pride When you want your color to still exist But your color is no longer because of choosing from inferiority or hate instead of organic love and so if the amount of Men that chose another race Based on organic love It still would be enough Men in every race to preserve their race But when men choosing From inferiority it's uh It's not good And a lot of people a lot of black people have been made to hate their race and don't even know it Don't even realize it. It's a lot of black people who watch Fox News I used to watch Fox News to get me a laugh Because they were so blatantly racist That it was com it was comical to me. I'm like Am I hearing this tone And this narrative But it's black people that watch Fox News for enjoyment and they feel at home And don't even realize That half of the the anchors on there do not like black people Black people But it's a lot of people that have been made to hate themselves and don't even realize it and want to be Of another race because of the pain they felt in their race without understanding Without understanding Why there's pain in their race In their culture and this is for all races and cultures, but For the most part, but i'm speaking as a black man And i'm gonna tell you something and see i studied real life Because now i got family members on my wife's side and on my side Black women who have white men But like i told y'all when you look at it when you really look at it what's happening is The black women who don't feel appreciated by black men Are partnering with white men who don't feel appreciated by white women And so that is more so organic because we go where we celebrate it But when you can be appreciated By your race and you choose another race Because of an inferiority complex That's an issue for your therapist And that's what we're not addressing So i'm okay with the goal you celebrated I've seen black women date black men and they are taking advantage of they mistreated They cheated on and then they meet a white man And he treat them like The world is they oyster Guess what sister you need that white man you deserve that white man I commend you for being with that white man because if the brothers won't appreciate you If they won't take you serious if they don't vibe with you Then by all means go where the love is But now when we just deliberately choosing Because of self-hate I want you to address that and I want you to look around and I and I've been looking around and I see I just seen a black and white couple get together The black woman she very very light-skinned She went to private school She speaks very proper She went to ivy league school She went to ivy league school Wasn't a whole lot of black guys there She happened to bump into a white guy She tried to push him away push him away push him away, but he stayed there stayed there stayed there Bringing up food looking out for therefore therefore therefore He's not ideal. He's not ideal. It's not a single white woman that want them But He see this young lady with color. He getting no praise from his own race He getting no play from his own race and he there for this black woman the black woman boom Won't he dare he dare he dare he dare he dare? But when the black woman tried to date black Men She get played with And she ain't got time for games because of where her goals is So what she do she choose love And by choosing love She ain't choosing a physique She ain't choosing a look She's choosing a heart And that's why I try to tell everybody If we choose by the heart Then our relationship landscape will look totally different But we don't choose by the heart We choose by statistics. We choose by preferences We choose by Likes and dislikes. We don't choose by character We don't choose by heart so We we don't care who anybody love If it's chosen for the right reason If it's chosen from a place of self-love If it's chosen from a place of love and not from a place of self-hate We don't care who anybody love We'll let the chips fall where they may But In order to figure out what's what you first got to love yourself So a I got to talk the night I got to get back to filming got to film Femininity TV show y'all gonna see it soon Probably next year. Lord willing never know Can't really say the name and then talk about it till it air cuz You just never know with stuff like this But uh, I want to hear whammy voice out But hey god bless y'all if you didn't get to see this listen back to it. I ain't mean to be on here I thought I'd be on 30 minutes, but I'll wait on the production to call me and tell me when I'm gonna Be getting ready to film. Oh, yeah. Yeah, we real late. Oh, we real late That's one thing I'm gonna tell y'all about TV now Because I'm filming the TV show one thing I'm gonna tell y'all about TV reality TV in particular It is something It is not for the faint of heart You got to be emotionally intelligent If if you'll go off if you'll snap if you get ruffled feathers easy You can't do TV Boy, look at her somebody said it her up and wait man when I tell you that thing so real I'm like my goodness Get here y'all do one thing on time ain't ain't had you I've been doing TV and doing like little shoots and pilots For 10 years now And I ain't never had one goal The way it's supposed to go the way the paper says it's gonna go And I ain't knocking it. It's just it's just ill what it is But I'm just telling you sometimes people be wanting stuff and be wishing for stuff and don't even be realizing what they be asking for Don't even realize what they be asking for But hey, God bless y'all. We'll talk soon. Listen back to this Get this in your spirit and one thing I want you to realize when you listen to this One thing I want you to realize is I ain't gonna tell you no lies And what I say You could take it to the bank because I'm gonna be Because I'm paying attention Right here in the trenches I'm really boots on the ground I'm really looking at real life ain't reading statistics on google I'm looking at real life So I want you to understand that And and get that in your life and and what I want you to start doing Is going and doing your own statistics Go around and look at everybody. You know everybody you work with and look at their story Look at their history. Look at their biography Look at their relationship status who they married to Then get the backstory on how they met that person how they married and then start to understand That if you won't love love is out there for you You just got to become love If you're looking for love, you won't find it if you're chasing love it will elude you But if you become love It will surround you And that's a work in progress and that's the work that you got to be committed Hey god bless y'all We'll talk soon. I'm gonna be able to lose my voice. My voice cracking on me cutting out on me So we'll talk soon