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So I've just thoroughly enjoyed it and the most thing I've enjoyed is interacting with the attendees because, you know, they've just been coming up to me with questions. A lot of them weren't familiar with me. Now they are. Yeah. And it's just been a great gratifying experience. And that's good for your brand as well. Mm-hmm. Yes. Very much so. Yeah. And I like that I only have two syllables, more one, because it's easy to remember. It's almost synonymous with your name. It's one of those things where people, when they mention mode one, which is the name of your book, they automatically thank you, automatically. So you and the name of your book are a synonymous brand and it's a method. People, I've heard conversations where people said, oh, I do mode one without even mentioning your name. It's just like you and your method and your book are just like all one thing. It's very recognizable. What is the gist of your message with the men at the convention? My main message is to first identify what are your desires, interests, and intentions as it relates to spending time with a woman? Why do you want to share her company? And once you have a general idea of that, now how are you going to verbally communicate that? You know, because one of the things I say in my book is that there's a difference between talking and communicating. Some people think they're the exact same thing, but they're not necessarily. For example, there are a lot of men who will approach a woman, initiate a conversation, and they'll talk about how great the weather is, you know, how much they enjoy the food at that restaurant, their favorite movies, none of that has anything to do with why do you ultimately want to share that woman's company. So a lot of guys are scared to be too forward because they think that's going to be a turnoff to women. Women are going to have a negative reaction. And in some cases, they will be taken aback because a lot of women are not used to men being straight up front and straightforwardly honest about their genuine desires, interests, and intentions. So I push men to be that straightforward because George, I think if you say we're either in the market for a house or selling a house, you wouldn't want somebody coming to your house and say you go around, show them a tour of your house. And then at the end of the conversation, you say, so you're planning on buying a new house? And they say, actually, no, I'm not planning on buying a new house till five years from now. I just saw your house and I wanted to come. You'd be like, you're wasting my time. And see, that's what I tell guys, why would you want to talk to a woman for an hour only to have her at the end of the conversation say, oh, I already have a boyfriend. And that's happened to quite a few guys. Yeah. It reminds me in business, begin with the end in mind. Simple as that. Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. That's what I tell guys. Yeah, I can't say it better. Begin with the end in mind and then let it flow from there. And then along with that, one thing I frown on, even though I know some guys are going to continue to do this. I hate guys. There's two thing kind of what I call manipulative head games that guys engage in. One is guys who want a long-term romantic relationship with a woman, but because they're again, afraid of rejection, they will spend weeks, months, sometimes even years pretending like they're content with being that woman's purely platonic male friend. Essentially, they put themselves in a woman's friend zone, hoping with their fingers crossed that there's going to be this one lucky day in the future where she says, oh, you've been such a great friend. I want to upgrade you now to my boyfriend. There's maybe a 1% chance that that will happen, but that will never happen. So I tell guys, don't put yourself in a friend zone, because I think it's a misnomer for men to say, well, yeah, you know, Amber, she put me in the friend zone. No, no, no, you did. So you're basically telling men that they are responsible for the zone they are in. Whatever zone that is, it's on them. This guy is so eloquent. He knows how to bring everything down in a concise manner. Exactly. Exactly. Yes. Be responsible for the zone you're in. And even worse than that scenario is guys who know they just want something short-term, non-monogamous and casual, but they'll lie to women, mislead women and give women the misleading impression that they want a long-term, emotionally profound, monogamous relationship. And then after they have sex with that woman two times, five times, 10 times, they just dump her or go ghost on her and she's left confused, frustrated, heartbroken. And I'm like, come on, fellas. So mode one is also a compassionate mode. You don't want to hurt anybody. Like you don't want to be hurt, but you don't want to hurt anybody. It's not a careless pickup artist method. It's actually a caring method. I'm taking you on tour with me, George. You were just excellent at articulating in simple terms what my method is about. Exactly. Yeah, you summed it up very well. Yeah, I'm not trying to run game on women that will leave them mentally or emotionally damaged. And like you said, I don't want to put myself in a position to be mislead, strung along or be left, you know, heartbroken and mentally and emotionally damaged. So I try to eliminate all the lies, all the BS head games, just lay your cards on the table and see where they take you. A guy is in the friend zone for three, six, nine months. They do things together. And then one night, you know, at the end of every night, they hug each other by sweetie, see a honey, you know, and they do stuff socially. And then all of a sudden one night, he tries to kiss her. And she goes, whoa, we're just friends. She's acting surprised. All of a sudden he's offended because he's been a nice guy, spent money on her. They did a lot of things socially. She might have even held his arm as they're walking down the sidewalk. But she's not going to go there with him. But if he was clear right from the start what he wanted and clear about asking her what she was interested in, it just eliminates the nonsense, doesn't it? Oh, understatement. And that very scenario you describe, that has been the scenario of a lot of my male clients. They found themselves in that position. And again, they put themselves in that position. Some of them, I have like, okay, I have four modes of behavior, mode one, mode two, mode three, and mode four. Mode four represents when you just develop a high degree of bitterness and resentment towards women, borderline, misogyny towards women because you're so romantically and sexually frustrated. And one of the scenarios that provokes a man to transition into mode four is what you just described. Like I described in my chapter about mode four, where I knew this woman, she had this guy who lived in her apartment building. And he presented himself as just her friend. He presented himself as if he was content with being her friend. So he behaved like he was fine with being her friend until one day, he found out that she had hooked up with another guy in the apartment building fairly quickly. Like the guy had only been in the apartment building like a week or two, and she hooked up with him. So she said, he came by one night, he said, you know, my shower broke. Can I use your shower? You know, then being friends, she was like, sure. But then he comes out the bathroom with his towel, and he just drops it off. And she's like, what are you doing? He's like, you know, you ready for me now? And she's like, no, you're my friend. And he's like, well, you slept with so-and-so. And he just moved in like two weeks ago. And he just started, she said, he just started going off on her. And she literally had to go, it got to one where she was going to call the police on him. She said, I'm going to call the police if you don't leave my apartment right now. And he started cursing at her. And this was because he had been phony all that time for let's say six months. He disingenuously pretended like he was this woman's friend, like he was content. But then he showed his true self in that night. And it was sad. So. And then he's accusing her of leading him on. Exactly. Exactly. He's pointing a finger at her like, you know, you're the one who messed up. You led me on your street. No, she didn't. No, she didn't. Not at all. That's a good example of you are responsible for the zone you are in. Mm hmm. Absolutely. You coach guys. Yes, I do. I do. On a basic level, I do email consultations. Next level up, I do Skype and telephone consultations with both guys domestically as well as internationally. In my highest level of coaching, I do one on one face to face coaching in four hour blocks, eight hour blocks and a three day, 14 hour block. And I've done a lot of traveling this year. I work with some clients in Miami this year, Vancouver, Canada, Chicago, Los Angeles. And the first starting point is I want me to get to a point where they're not afraid of rejection. Because one problem I have with a lot of what I like to call conventional PUAs is they try to teach guys. Tell there are some men in the audience right near right now that don't know what PUA is. Oh, that's true. Pick up artists. There are a lot of men who are professional pickup artists and the acronym for that is PUA. So a lot of you guys might have gone on the internet and saw some that said the PUA community. Some people call it the traction and seduction community. But yeah, there are a lot of guys who are pickup artists. And one major philosophical distinction I have from probably 98% of the pickup artists out there is they will teach you methods and techniques designed to ideally help a man prevent rejection and avoid it completely or at minimum delay it or circumvent it somehow or minimize the egotistical sting. And my attitude is you got to learn how to be a man and handle rejection head on. Life is going to be full of all forms of rejection. Not in form of just women but job rejections and whatnot. And you have to be able to accept that. And I find that the guys who are the most afraid of rejection are interesting enough the men who have experienced the least. I find that most men who have experienced dozens and dozens and hundreds and hundreds of rejection like myself fellas. A lot of guys think oh Alan he is a successful dating coach. He has probably never been rejected. It is quite the contrary. I have been rejected just hundreds of times. And I have come to realize it is no big deal. It is part of life. And matter of fact there has been a lot of rejections that at the time it was disappointing and then say six months later when I found out more about that woman who rejected me I was I am glad she rejected me. So that is my first step with guys I coach and consult with. I helped them overcome their fear of rejection. A close second to that is a lot of guys just care. And this is both men and women in general but men in particular they care too much what other people think. And so that makes them afraid of criticism, afraid of negative reactions. And I always tell guys if you like say barbecue chicken pizza and you happen to be at a social event that might be attended by some raw vegans and some vegetarians they come to you and like ew why would you eat that? What kind of jerk are you eating that barbecue chicken pizza? I am like if that is one of your favorite dishes of all time are you going to stop eating that barbecue chicken pizza because these vegans and vegetarians had that reaction to you? I said if you were then that means you care way too much what other people think you know. Now it is different if you were invited to a party and it was made known to you ahead of time that it was going to be nothing but raw vegans and vegetarians and they prefer that people who eat meat don't eat that in front of them. That is being you being respectful. So that is totally different concept. But if you are at a social event where it is free for you to eat anything you want to and they just happen to give you some negative feedback you got to do you. And so that is another major lesson I teach guys is that you know some guys they are scared of every little criticism that comes their way. Why do you watch ESPN so much? Why do you hang out with your male friends so much? Why do you talk about sex so much? Why do you do this? Why do you do that? And they will try to change and modify and adjust their behavior in order to accommodate and appease this woman and then they wonder why the woman loses interest because you are too easy to women don't like guys and you notice I am preaching choir with you. But women do not like guys who they can too easily mold to their liking. Now as I say maybe platonic friends they might like a guy like that but women like a guy who is their own man who has some backbone and makes their decisions the way they want to make their decisions that guy is his own man. That is when you earn a woman's respect. Even if she has some nitpicky criticisms deep down she respects you for being your own man. One of the effects of a mode one approach to life from my perspective is that it saves money. When a man is just going on date after date after date and of course the many men think that they have to spend money on a woman. So can you imagine taking a woman out for a $200 dinner? You might be giving her flowers or treating her to a gift whole evening. If you have enough of those dates you are going to be out of three grand. Mode one can save a man money. How many men waste money trying to impress women? How many hours do we have for this interview? Because oh that's a big, big stickler for me because again I hate to pick on the PUA community again but there's so many conventional PUA's that will essentially tell guys that the key to dating women even the key to getting them in bed just for casual sex is to take them out on three, four or five dates and like I recently read this ebook by this PUA who said you should go on a minimum of three dates but don't spend more than $25 a date but when I got my calculator out and I estimated that if a guy was to go out with say 17 women in a calendar year and each woman went on three dates and spent $75 that was like it was like just under $1,300. Yeah that he threw out that he just threw away you know let's say all 17 women at best he got maybe a two second tongue kiss with him but he never ended up making out with him he never ended up bed with him he just spent $1,300 to have friendly flattering entertaining conversation and I think that's a conservative figure because there are some guys who blow some big money on girls. Oh matter of fact there was a guy here I just overheard telling another guy about he had a friend who spent over four or five thousand dollars on some woman that he never even ended up getting a kiss from he played he paid for trips of hers and bought her clothes and all and I'm sure she enjoyed everything you had a great time of course and that's why I talk about you heard about presentation I have these five archetypes and one of them is the manipulative time waster yeah and see those are the women like a lot of guys think that rejecters the women who are rejecters are the enemy but I say no no no no you should appreciate women that once you lay out your desires interests and intentions the women who rejects you in an upfront straightforward in other words their mode one in terms of rejecting you don't get mad at those women you should almost want to give them a hug yeah because they they're preventing you from wasting time and wasting money yeah but the manipulative time wasters those are the women that they know from the time they meet you that they're not interested in you romantically or casual sex but what they do is they pretend like they are they'll become extra flirtatious and they'll have you waste all this time and money and then they'll say you know I appreciate you spending the ten thousand dollars only but I only look at you as a friend I'm sorry oh those got to be the worst words to hear after you spent ten thousand dollars exactly so out on the street of Orlando last night I'm walking to the cigar bar and there was a I don't know if he was homeless or just a man a panhandler type but he had a sign that said I can't lie I want to buy a beer because everyone says don't give money to the homeless because they're only going to buy alcohol and a lot of people just keep their hands in their pockets this guy's sign said I'm not going to lie I want beer I mean to the point yeah so you know if you're going to put a dollar in his cup he's going to get a beer straight to the point exactly no take the mystery right out of it and first thing that came to my mind was mode one street style right exactly well so you do coaching people can go to a website called what direct approach dating.com is one word direct approach dating.com and you'll find my email my contact information my different types of coaching sessions and all of my books the gist of I have four books that have related content but yet distinctively different content and so you can find all about me I'm also can be found my biography is on wikipedia.org George Bruno with the 21 report in Orlando Florida talking with Alan Roger Curry author of the book mode one thank you thank you George