 Okay. Welcome back. All right. We just took some time to look at one of the first aspects of communication, which is listening. I hope some of you have got to try that table. If not, you'll probably do that later. No problem. The next thing that we're going to look at is speaking or expression or how do we talk? Okay. Expressions is all about talking and bringing about what are thoughts and what minds have in mind. Okay. Like I did say, communication, if you need to have effective communication, you need to listen as well as speak. When you look at the way people express themselves, there are differences in the way people actually express themselves. So some are very emotional in the way that they talk. Their sentences will be all about, I feel, I feel, this is what I feel, this is what I feel we should do. And those who are more in the thought level or the cognitive level, they say, you know, this is what I think. I think we should do this. I think this is what it is, I think. So we have different ways that we express. So some state facts and look at what should be done more than their emotions. And some are very tuned to their emotions when they talk. Some can be extremely loud when they talk and some can be extremely soft-spoken. They always are very cautious and kind and polite. And some, they almost look like they're going to eat you up as they talk. But they're different expressions of communication. So there's a lot that scripture talks about when speaking and let's look at some verses around. So Ephesians 4, 29 to 32. Can somebody read that scripture? Ephesians 4, 29 to 32. Ephesians 4, 29 to 32. Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words. The kind that build up and provide what is needed so that what you say will do good to those who hear you. And do not make God's Holy Spirit said, but the Spirit is God's mark of ownership on you. A guarantee that the day will come when God will set you free. Get rid of all bitterness, passion and anger. No, no more shouting or insults. No more hateful feelings of any sort. All right. Thank you. So when you look at these three verses, there are very many instructions that's given in the way that we use words. It says use helpful words. Now what all comes under helpful words? I'm not asking you for the words, but when you're saying helpful words, what are we trying to say or what kind of what does it do to the other person? What are those helpful words? Okay, words of comfort. Okay, words of upliftment. Okay. Sorry, exalting them. Okay, words of encouragement, words of building up. What else? Words that bring a smile on their face. Okay, words of encouragement. Yes, jack-in-words of encouragement. Words of motivation. Right. So words that build up and that's what it says. The word that kind that build up and provide what is needed. So what you will say it should also be good to those who hear it. You may think a certain word is good to hear, but that may not be what the others want to hear. Okay. So also when you look at verse 31, it says no shouting, no insults, no hateful words. So which means we, we're careful of the way that we talk, not with the raised voices or raised agitation emotion or language. Okay, the kind of words that we use. Yes, friends. In all ways, in all communication, communication is not just with a husband and wife in all ways, in all our communication, where we can be, which means even with the auto driver on the streets of Bangalore, right? Or with, with the friend or with the spouse, whoever, right? So it is to align our speaking with what we read in Ephesians. Okay. All right. There is again, a quick table, a check that you will see on the way that you speak to your spouse, and it's good that you can look, look at it. So the third part of it is not bought in the book, but I just want to bring about a feedback. Often when we are listening and talking, it's good to complete the loop with the feedback. The feedback is, when someone is saying something to you, your feedback is saying, Hey, this is what I heard you saying, or this is what I understand that you're saying. Because what does it do? It has two benefits. One is you have, you're actually sharing with the other person what you've understood, and you're also letting the other person know that you have understood, right? So it, it, it has a lot of benefits. So a feedback always is, this is what I heard you saying, was that accurate? Or this is what I heard you sharing with me. Is that what you wanted me to say? So feedback is extremely important. Now, when we look at moving on, Proverbs has a lot to speak about communication. Okay. Proverbs. And if you look at it's page 77 in your books, but in the 74, thank you, 74 in, on the digital books. Okay. So let's look at some, some of these Proverbs and let's try and see how is this that you can apply to either your marriage or any other relationship. Okay. So I'm going to bring up some of these verses and let's look at how it can be applied to your marriage. Okay. Let's look at the second one. Proverbs 12 18. Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any sword, but wisely spoken words can heal. So how do you apply this in marriage? Give me an example of a thoughtless word that can wound and a wisely spoken word that can heal in marriage. For example, when someone did a mistake, instead of reacting to it, telling you did you messed it up, you made it wrong. Instead of speaking without thinking how it affects, we should be careful and slowly tell them, Hey, you did rock. But next time, make sure you do it. Okay. So instead of reacting, calm yourself down and then share. Okay. Wonderful. All right. Yeah. There are many examples. I'm sure. Yeah. Students, you can't escape now. I'm here with you. Okay. Jacken's written something. So let me read what Jacken's written. She's written, you're always like this pointing immediately to their floor. That's thoughtless. Okay. Right. Okay. Good. You know, something that I've noticed and we often say this very thoughtlessly, you're always like this, right? We use the word always or you're never, you will never change or you're always late, you're always mean. Actually, you should ask yourself, is that true? It's not an always, right? You may have one or two or three times that the person has not always been like, but that can be a very thoughtless statement and that can bring about conflict. Okay. So that's again, a thoughtless word. What are other thoughtless words? I know you will do it. So you always, that's, I think that's what you're saying. Okay. What about wise words? Wisely spoken words. You can do better. Okay. Nice. Better luck next time. Okay. Better luck next time. Yeah. So, so sometimes, you know, thoughtless, thoughtless words could probably be, that's suppose you want to point something to somebody, a mistake or an issue to someone, right? Let's say, okay, someone's come, come home late, your spouse has come home late. So a thoughtless way of saying it is, you're, you're, you know, you make me very angry because you always come late. Okay. The statement may be true. The content may be true, but the way it is said is very thoughtless, right? It makes them feel as if they're accused, right? So what is the better way of saying it? Say, you know, I feel lonely when you come late. Does that sound better? Yeah. It sounds, maybe the husband says, okay, I must come because I don't want it to be lonely. Right. But then when you say you're always late, you know, you're very selfish, you only look after your own needs. You don't care whether I'm here or not. It's a thoughtless way of saying it, right? Okay. All right. Good. Let's look at another one. A gentle answer, quiet anger, but a harsh one stirs it up. What is, how can you apply this in marriage? Okay. So sometimes just being quiet in itself could, could calm somebody down instead of retaliating and saying something harsh. Okay. Wonderful. All right. Yeah. The tone that we say, yes, because even with a gentle answer, when it says harsh one, it's like we are giving an answer, but in a harsh way. I think it's more to do with our tone and how we are trying to come. Okay. Wonderful. Nice. We'll do a last one, problems 2715. It's the fourth from the last. A nagging wife is like water going drip, drip, drip on a rainy day. How do you apply this in marriage? Give some space. Okay. Like for example, nagging is to keep saying something, sing over and over and over and over again. Like for example, let's say maybe the tap is not working. It's very similar to the tap is not working. You say, where's the plumber? Why didn't you call the plumber? Right? Yeah, I'm telling you from long, I told you 10 times yesterday, 12 times today. Did you do it? Did you do it? Okay. Yeah. So I can do it. Yes. Or so how, how do you not nag is to, I mean, one is to tell them that, you know, this is really important for me to get this done. Would you please rather than say, did you do it? Did you do it? Did you do it? Right? But sharing what, how it means to you. Okay. And yeah. If not, then getting it done yourself. All right. Okay. Those kind of people who you have to keep nagging. So I think the first thing to check to see is have you actually done what you have promised them to do? Right? So if you have promised, I'll call the plumber and you don't do it. Then you're giving an opening to that kind of a behavior. Right? So first to check for yourself, okay, if I promised that person something, have I done it? Have I got it done? Right? Now, even after that gets done, or let's say it's some kind of maybe a behavior trait that the person is nagging you about. You know, I've told you don't do this. Don't do this. You know, so then it needs, it needs a communication needs an open sharing about how you feel about it and that something like this annoys you. Right? Those, those, those communications are difficult, but nevertheless, it has to be done. Okay. All right. We will look at what are some of the things that break down communication? What breaks communication? How do people stop communicating to one another? What are some of the situations where people stop communicating to one another? It's pointless. There isn't any hope or nothing can be done. Okay. All right. Wonderful. That's, that's good. What else? When it leads, when there is a fear that it will lead to some fight, when the piece is broken, very good. What else? You feel misunderstood. Okay. Or if there are times that you're not seeing the same interest in the other person, every time you go to talk to them, they're doing something else. They're not attentive. Yeah, there's no, there's no eye contact. Or like we said earlier, if they, whatever you say, it will be bought back at a later time to you. Right? If it's got back, you said something. And then when you're having a fight, that situation comes back again, that bring it back. So that brings about a breakdown. Okay. Or you feel judged. Right? When you're saying something, I said, no, don't feel like that. It's not right. You shouldn't be feeling angry at me. Or if there is hiding of emotions, that's, these are some of the times that there can be a communication breakdown. Now, if you look at the table, what causes communication breakdown, there is some remedy that is suggested that you can do alongside with your spouse. So if you are judged or criticized, it's good that you come together and agree that whenever we are talking about feelings, we will not be in a place of judgment but be in a place of acknowledging. What does acknowledging mean? Acknowledging means, I can hear that you are sad. I hear that you're angry. I hear that you're upset. Rather, judging means you can't be upset. Or why are you feeling sad? What's the reason for you? This is such a simple thing. You need, you shouldn't be feeling sad. That's judging or criticizing. Okay. The second one is fear of what you say will be held against you. Now, this is something that you come to a, like a, like an agreement with that whatever is being said will not be used as a retaliation. It's not going to be rehashed back at you. Okay. You come to an agreement. Disinterest in a, inattentiveness or being preoccupied is of course keeping away anything that is buying your attention. Okay. Fear of being misunderstood. It is, it's something that you, you need again need to talk about and make it a practice to listen to understand rather than listen to answer or listen to speak. Too busy or no time to talk is where you set aside time and lastly suppression of emotions or choosing to hide feelings. This happens only when you do it a lot more. Only when you're communicating a lot more do you build that trust to be able to share. Okay. We'll just take some time to understand the spiritual law of communication. So we've looked at a very, we've looked at practical aspects of communication, but the next few things we're looking at is what, what is the impact that our words have? Okay. On, on people, what is the impact it has or what is the significance our words have on people have on us, spouse on our children. And to, to ensure that because the Bible talks a lot about it. Right. And how can we ensure that we are in alignment with what the word of God says. So the first important thing we need to understand, there's a lot of power in our words. Right. You may be able to look back at your own lives. Think about something someone said to you, it could be positive or it could be negative and how that really shaped your life. Any examples, you can think of it. Yeah. There are, right. Maybe someone who said something that really encouraged you to pursue something or something, somebody actually damaged. And this is usually we'll see in schools, right, among teachers who would have said something to you say you will never grow up to be anything. And that kind of sticks. You heard that. Yeah. Right. Or maybe even our homes right. You know, if you, if you are like this, then this is what like they make certain proclamations at you. Right. And remember that that's very, very deep. And we can, because, because of who we have, what, who we are in Christ, we can break the effect and the impact of all of that on our lives. We can do that. Right. But when we're looking, getting into marriage or getting into relationships with our children, remember that the power of words are very, it's strong. And let's look at what it does. So words can either bring us life or death or it can bless or it can curse. Let's read Proverbs 1820 to 21. Can one of you read that? Proverbs 1820 to 21. You will have to live with the consequences of everything you say. What you say can preserve life or destroy it. So you must accept the consequences of your words. Right. So what we say definitely has an impact. It is what will take our lives. And it will also have a bearing on what is happening right now and what happens in our future. And if, if, you know, the declaration that we make every Sunday, right, that what we speak, how we speak and we, we, we keep declaring that we will speak God's word over our lives. Because whatever we say, there are consequences to what we say. And that's what we, we will bear. So our words can bring life or death. And what we say, we will, we will bear the consequences of it. Okay. The next one is words can either build or destroy. So Romans 10 17. Can somebody read? So then faith comes from hearing the message and the message comes through preaching Christ. Okay. So faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God, right? So the more that we are able to build faith, we begin to see a lot more of God's work happening in our lives. So when, whenever we release words, we speak it in a way, way to build and nurture someone's faith, especially when it comes to our children, right? They may come home with some bad marks, right? How do we nurture faith? How do we build faith with your children? So your children have come with some bad marks from school. How will you build faith? Yeah. Oh, you build faith ways and I got sorry. You can do all things through Christ to strengthen me. Okay. Okay, you have the mind of Christ, right? Or you say, it's okay. This time, we can do better, right? God's with you. God's helping you through this, right? Yeah. So that's how we build faith and not destroy it. We must always choose to speak faith over every dead situation. We've seen that in Ezekiel, right? Even through every dead situation, even through dry bones, the word of God bought life. All right. Next one is your words will either release faith or it will release doubt. Matthew 1720 and one of you read that. So Jesus said to them, because of your unbelief, for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, move from here to there and it will move and nothing will be impossible for you. Thank you. So it's whatever the words that we release is that which builds our faith that releases faith, even for situations where you're not able to see an outcome. When you speak faith, you're releasing, when you're speaking words of faith, you're speaking faith into it. When you're speaking positive words, when you're speaking God's word, you're speaking faith into it. Like when we're sick, we're speaking those words that will build our faith, that will bring about our healing. So it either releases faith or it releases doubt. So it's important to know that even when we are communicating with each other, we want to bring words that bring life, that build, that bring blessing and that which releases faith. All right. So if you look at James, James chapter 3 verses 2 to 12, it talks a lot about comparisons of the tongue, okay. So let's read that and try and see what comparison it brings about. Some of you can, one of you can read it loud and then we look at the comparisons that James brings about. James chapter 3, 2 to 12. All of us often make mistakes, but if a person never makes a mistake in what he says, he's perfect and is also able to control his whole being. He put a bit into the mouth of a horse to make it obey us and we are able to make it go where we want or think of a ship big as it does, as it is and driven by such strong winds, it can be steered by a very small rudder and it goes wherever the pilot want it to go. So it is with the tongue, small as it, as it is, it can boast about great things. Just think how large a forest can be set on fire by a tiny flame and the tongue is like a fire. It is a world of wrong, occupying its place in our bodies and spreading evil through our whole being. It sets on fire in the end because of our existence with the fire that comes to it from hell itself. We humans are able to tame and have tamed all other creatures, wild animals and birds, reptiles and fish, but no one has ever been able to tame the tongue. It is evil and uncontrollable, full of deadly poison. We use it to give thanks to our Lord and Father and also to cursor the people who are created in the likeness of God. Word of thanksgiving and cursing all out from the same mouth. My friends, this should not happen. No spring of water pours out sweet water and bitter water from the same opening. A fig tree, my friends, cannot bear or a grapevine cannot bear figs nor can a salt spring produce sweet water. Okay, thank you, friends. So when you look at this passage, what is the tongue likened to? What all other things the tongue is likened to? Fire, ship, bit in the horse's mouth. So what do all three of this do? The fire, the bit as well as the rudder. What does it all do? It controls. Like the bit, when you put the bit in the mouth of the horse, it will move where you wanted to. When you move the rudder in a certain way, it will move the direction, the direction changes. A small fire will cause a whole lot of, it caused a forest fire. So it's saying even though it is so small, even though the tongue is so small, that's what directs the course of your life or it can create destruction. So even though it's the smallest muscle and it's the strongest muscle in your body, right? Even though it's the smallest, but the strong, it's the strongest muscle in your body that will, that can change your entire course, change the entire trajectory of things that's happening. Okay, so it says what do we, what do we need to do? We need to be, and James talks about that in verse 9 he says, we use it to give thanks to God and also to curse other people. Words of thanksgiving and cursing pour out from the same mouth. My friends, this should not happen. It cannot be. It's not possible, right? Because from the same mouth, you can't have two things. You can't have blessing and curse. You can't have life and death. You can't have destruction and being constructive. It cannot come. The same tree will not bear the same fruit, right? So we need to ensure that we keep, keep careful of that. So we, we are saved and sanctified through what we also say, okay? So we should always speak life, speak faith, speak trust, speak belief, okay? Things that are positive. And another thing that happens with words is, it's with your mouth that you speak a blessing over people, over your spouse, over your children. You would read in, you know, during, in the, in the Old Testament, the Israelites, God is the one who told Moses and commanded Moses to tell Aaron to speak a blessing to the people. And that's what's written in that verse. It says, May the Lord bless you and take care of you. May the Lord be kind and gracious to you. May the Lord look on you with favor and give you peace, right? And if they pronounce my name as a blessing about the people of Israel, I will bless them. So God has taught the priests, the Levite priests, to bring about a blessing to the people. And through that, that's an important principle that we need to be able to speak a blessing, not just to our spouse, to our children, but to our, our lives, our present, our future declaring the blessing of God, okay? Are you all with me? Everyone seems to be a little sleepy here. Okay. I have a, someone's written a question. Sorry, Jack. Can I completely miss this? Let me read that. Sometimes our facial express, expressions doesn't match with what is going on in our mind. We may need some time to cool. We try to be silent. But then, when others try to provoke or question us based on our expression, how do we quickly deal wisely with our emotions and words so we don't go overboard? Okay. Good question for my students here who are sleepy. Okay. So she asked, when others try to provoke or question us based on our expression, how do we deal with it wisely with our emotions and words so we don't go overboard? She said wisely. What can we do? How? How? She's saying how, what do you say? Can you give me some time? Okay. Wonderful. Can you give me some time? I'll be, I can, I'll be okay or I'll come back and talk to you. Okay. Jack, you've got wise words here. Okay. What else? What about the others? What? I need to chill. Okay. I need to chill. What would you say, Radha? Okay. So she said, I'm a little distracted. I need some time. I want to be alone for some time. Okay. Okay. One last person here who has an answer. Okay. Someone said, Prince said he won't say anything at all. Okay. Francis, sorry. Prince Francis. Okay. Sorry. So Francis says he won't say anything at all. Okay. So if you need to quickly wisely deal with that, I mean, I agree with a lot of what is said over here. It's, again, I think it also matters who you're talking to, right? Now, if it is a husband or a spouse, I would say something like, yeah, I am upset right now, or I feel angry right now, but maybe I'm not in a place to talk about it. Or if I do talk about it, I may say things that may go overboard or that may not be helpful. So I'd like to talk about this, but would you give me some time? So if it's a spouse, I would go a little bit more in detail. If it's not, if it's like a friend that say, I would say, yeah, something's bothering me, but I can come back and talk about it later. Or you know, I have it in check or I've spoken to somebody else and be fine. So whatever, I think it also depends on the kind of relationship that you're sharing with this person. Okay. All right. So the last part of it that we're going to look at is the word of God, which is our, which is the weapon that we can use against the power of darkness, right? Ephesians 6 17, it says, take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. So we take the word of God as the sword of the Spirit and wield it against any attack of the enemy. And that's what, that's how powerful the word is. God's word is living and active, right? And, and it is, it can be used for our correction, for our rebuking, for our growth. So we must get into the discipline of speaking God's word, word in faith over our situations over our marriage. Okay. So yeah, so when we, when we look at communication, it's, it's, it's extremely important. Remember, it's just not a natural skill. But there is a whole lot of spiritual understanding that it is guided, it is affected by certain spiritual laws. So always whenever we speak, whether it's to our spouse, our children or others, let's look at speaking in line with what God's word says and how he wants us to correctly use it. So our lives and our marriages are blessed. All right. Okay. Good. I'm open to taking questions. I have a good 10 to 15 minutes to spare for questions. But those of you who are probably married, that is on the next page, that is the application that's there. So if, if there are certain things that you may find that are conflicting in your relationship, you can, you can talk it out with your spouse, discuss those matters, bring it up and discuss it. Because whatever is unaddressed will rot, will fester. Okay. All right. Yeah. So any, any questions, any thoughts, any reflections, I haven't heard from the online students today, because I'm here with the students. I got them to interact online students. Okay. In-person students. Any question? Okay. Francis has a question. Yes, Francis. So not regarding the thinking and communication. So nearly I'm talking to one of my friends. He wants to marry without responsibilities. He wants to marry without responsibilities. Like if he's like, if I married, then my parents, my parents, I need to take care of them, then children. I need to spend money for children. I don't want that and all. But I want to marry. Okay. So how I can answer to that person? Tell him he can't have, he can't cut the cake and also eat it. He has to do what of the two. See, I think that that's probably just a lack of understanding about what marriage will bring. It's a lack of understanding that, that, that these responsibilities are a burden. Right? He already has a relationship, like as a girlfriend relationship. Okay. So he's talking to sharing, he's not a believer. Okay. So he's sharing with me this what happened, like, okay, then I said, okay, then go, no, no, no, no, I won't marry. This much of responsibilities are there. I don't want to take a headache. So like, how are you going to answer? Yeah. So tell him he needs to really prepare himself that if he thinks that marriage is without responsibilities, it's a lie. It's a lie that there are responsibilities. And that's something as a man that there are God ordering responsibilities that needs to be taken care of. Right? So I'd say tell him to hold on and prepare himself to know what all our things that he would need to manage and only then get into marriage. And if he feels he can't take responsibilities, it's a good decision. Let him not get married. It's a good decision to get married. Huh? Yeah, you can share. You can share what you're learning. Okay. Any other question? Time to frame your question. Take your time. Take your time, frame it. Like, if we know like, someone had a crush or someone loves us, but at the same time, if they're our friend, and how we can have communication with them, we know that even if we are trying to have a good conversation, but it was leading to wrong way, wrong way in the sense like even if we are trying to communicate with them in a good way, but if they're taking it as relationship conversation, how we can communicate, how we can respond to it. And is that okay? Like, if we like someone, if we thought of getting into marriage with them, is it okay to communicate with them or not? Okay. So there are two questions you asked. One is how it when you like somebody, I think you're meaning romantically, right? That's what you mean. As in sense of love, you want to get married to them, or you have a when you see they are very supportive, they are very good relation. But you have a crush in factuation on them. I understood the second question. The first question is what I'm trying to ask. Oh, someone likes you, they feel they want to get married to you, but you don't have such a okay, now I got it. Okay. And you said, how do you communicate without them taking it Got it. Now I understood. Okay. So, okay, this is a lot of probably not just with communication, but maybe a lot of other ideas. So the first thing is, let's say, as a young man or as a young woman, you know that someone has a liking towards you. And you're not interested in taking that relationship forward. You're okay just to be like a normal friend. I think we need to use some wisdom there, right? Because the mindset that you have is I'm very clear that there's nothing happening here. But the person who you're talking to is on a different mindset. And you know that. So with the wisdom, with wisdom, you, you should be careful in the way that you communicate to them. Because when you know that someone has an affection for you, and you feed into that, what do I mean by feed into that is spending time with them communicating with them, you know, asking them maybe texting them, how are you? Did you have lunch? Did you have dinner? When you're doing some, sorry? Okay, so that's what I said, you need to use wisdom to do that, because if it needs them to believe that you do like them, you are actually, sorry? Yeah, you're probably deceiving them in the sense of deceiving them to think that you care for them in a different way, that's what I meant, deceiving them to think that you care for them in a different way. And if you want to keep those boundaries, it may, it may be hurtful to, you know, just treat them like every other, but then I think that's a good protective factor for you to, to not lead them on to believe that you care for them. And you may need to have very strict boundaries in how you deal with that, because you don't want them to, you know, feel that sense that okay, because a person who is in love or in infatuation doesn't think, right, they will look for any sign to make them say, okay, this person likes me, that person likes me. So if you're the person who is very clear about your boundaries, you need to place that boundary. Okay, that's what I think anyone else has any answer or more knowledgeable people who've been through situations like that. Wait, and you said one more question, which is, is it okay to talk to someone if you are, okay, all right. So I personally would say, now this is a personal remark is that I have a son 18 years, 18 years and 14 years daughter, okay. If they like someone, I will totally dissuade them from telling the person that they like dissuade means I will object to it. Why, because they're not in a position where they should be having having conversations of you know, that they like somebody or not, why, because they're still 18 and 14 and they're still doing, you know, they're still studying and they are, that's their current calling that they have, okay. But if they were at a different, let's say they were 24, maybe 22, 24, 22. And then they came to me, I would, I would definitely, first of all, I would ask them how prepared are they for number one, what is the reason for why they're saying something? Is it towards marriage? Or is it just to have fun? If that's not the case, if it's not towards marriage, I'll say wait till the time that you are willing to have a relationship that looks towards marriage and not just for the sake of trying out a relationship, okay. There should be the right reasons for why you want to date someone if I'm using the word, right. It should be for the reason of marriage. And that's one thing that I will check. I said, is this for marriage? If it's just to get to know someone, you can do that even in a group. You can do that among other, you know, when you're with others, you don't have to do it on a one-on-one basis. You could get to know through a group. And then if the interest grows, when you're ready, when you're prepared, you know, then is when you're approached. Now, when I mean by prepared, it's also ensuring that you are, you know, you have a stable work that you're doing. You know what God's calling you to do. You have your finances in place. You know how to take care of your own self and not dependent on your parents on that, right. That's the point of time that you can maybe, I personally think is when you should, you can consider. Till then, if nothing is sorted out, if you're still dependent on your parents, if you still are not sure whether you want to marry the person or not, if you're still not completely into a career, if you still don't know what God's calling you to do, then sort that out first before you do the next. It's actually very nice and helpful. I agree to it, man, but what if like we are in a process like we are in the process of making our career, of fixing our goals and achieving towards it. But what if we are in a place of like, how have you told, okay, let me fix my career. Let me just get stable in my standard of living and where I come to a place of taking care of the other person when I reach to that point, I will just go approach them. But what if in this process of we lose them? So, okay, that's where I think, you know, you come to a place of knowing what what God is guiding you to do. And we spoke about that, right, guidance. So what's God guiding you to do? Again, let's say you're not in a place where you have a career, right? And you're aware of that, but you have an interest to somebody. It's okay to express an interest to someone, but also maybe letting them know that, you know, there is this part of it that is still not sorted out. What if they say no, then then you have to let go, right? Yeah. Yeah. So that's all you can say. So you said, okay, you work on it, and then if I'm free, then or if I'm, if I'm available, then then you come and then, so they could say that as well, right? Yeah. So that's how you, that's why you, we use the guidance of God and say, God, is this the right time for me to approach someone when this is not there, right? And see what God guides you to do it. I said, I don't think there's a tap answer to all of this, but going with the guidance of God, if, if you're prepared in most ways, you know, God will, God will help and bless your, your decision, you know, if it is according to his desire and his guidance. Okay. Any other question? You had a question. You had an answer. Oh, please, please say so. The first question. No, go ahead, Francis. So I don't know if I'm right or wrong. Like, say, like, you're one person like one to see another person is such a friend, but that person like him. Okay, we can say, okay, I'm not interested like us that way. Again, he's like texting our conversation starting, that is his fault. Like, there, that person is making way to that person. Exactly. Yeah, I think that's same thing. So stop the conversation. Yeah, it's the safest thing to do. No. All right. Okay, thank you. Thanks. I hope there aren't any other questions. All right, then we'll just close with a word of prayer. Can one of you close with a word of prayer, please? Father God, we thank you in this, thank you for you in this time and whatever we learn from this class that we can, we can apply in our life when we'll get married and we submit this class into your hand, all the students into your hand and gin them into your hand in Jesus in my prayer. Amen. Thank you all. Thank you, students. Thank you online students. We'll meet with you next week. Thank you.