 My partner wants to go down on me but I'm feeling a little bit anxious about this so I keep postponing every time how can I deal with this. You know a lot of women feel very nervous about someone going down on them. I think it's a combination of the fact that we've always been taught that it's so dirty down there so it's basically like a no-go zone plus. There's a fear of losing control because even without trying it we know exactly how strong the sensations down there are going to be so there's a lot of nervousness about letting somebody go down on you. However it is also one of the most pleasurable sensations that you can experience so I'm going to give you a couple of suggestions and I hope that those work for you. One, start by wearing your panties the first few times and then just let your partner explore that general area down there let them kiss you maybe on the inside of the thighs over your panties etc that will help you to get over your initial nervousness. Two, and this is going to sound a little bit strange, cover yourself with either a duvet or a jeopardy risai or something because for some reason I find that when you're totally exposed you feel a little bit more nervous but if you're covered with something heavier like a risai like a duvet it somehow brings a little bit more confidence and finally for the first few times at least hold on to something for whatever unknown reason again it seems to make you a little bit more secure. I hope all of these suggestions help.