 Falling in love can be a wonderful experience. Spending time with that person can feel even better. But what happens when you can't bring yourself to spend a waking moment without them? Insecure attachments are patterns of a generally negative parent-child relationship which show the child's lack of confidence and or affection towards their parents. How do you feel when your friend or partner isn't around all the time? Do you feel a deep sadness or maybe a growing anger when you can't be around them? This intense discomfort can be a sign of you getting too attached. According to Talkspace, codependency happens when you need the person with you in order to be content. When they're not by your side, you feel unhappy and unfulfilled, but with interdependence. Your friend or partner adds great value to your life and you like being with them. At the same time, you can also get by just fine if you're not with them 24-7. Basically, interdependence is a balance between total dependence and total independence. Taking time to explore your own individual interests and hobbies outside of your friendship or relationship can help you find yourself again.