 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection calm and today We have a question from a woman in our community and she asks Should I text them? Believe it or not. That's the whole question. So should I text them? And so let's talk about when you should text them and when you shouldn't text them So let's talk about when you shouldn't text them first one of the times when you shouldn't text them is when you're drunk if you are drunk and You have a guy that you like you're probably best off just not texting them at all Just just save yourself and just save yourself the pain and an agony And just don't text them the second time not to text them is when you're angry at them and you want to complain and This can be very very unattractive You know it's it's not bad to express your feelings, but when you want to complain at him and you know Shame him or whatever you're looking to do. It's that's really unattractive too. That's not a good time to text them So don't do it then the third one is If he hasn't been texting you back Now if a guy hasn't been texting you back and you've been texting him and you've texted him multiple times And he still isn't texting you back It's probably just you know, you might want to just let that one go I do have some ways that you can Text a guy that can kind of inspire him to text you back if he hasn't been texting you, but That's not for this video. So here's when you should text him back or here's when you should text them is When you don't feel needy so if you are feeling needy That's probably a bad time if you're not feeling needy and you're feeling fine and confident and good That's probably a good time another good time is when he's texting you back if there's a reciprocation of texting That's a great time to text them When you first get numbers you can actually text a guy immediately after he gives you his number Just saying hi or like, you know, hey, this is whatever your name is and that can be actually be pretty attractive So when you've had a good date when you just left a date and you're like, oh, I had a great time, you know wink smile That that can be a good time to text them to When you've had sex with them for the first time a lot of times women wait for the guy They're like, when's he gonna text me? It might just be better off to send him a text first So when you don't want to see him again a lot of times women will just Ignore guys who continuously text them and they don't want to see a guy anymore Just tell them that you're not interested and just leave it at that say stop texting me. I'm not interested I don't want to talk to you anymore. Goodbye and The last time to text a guy a good scenario to text a guy is when you need to apologize and I have a mentor that used to say you can either be right or you can have a good relationship but not both and so if You are in the wrong or you need to apologize It's a great time to text a guy because that is something that he will probably appreciate a lot So go ahead and text him at that time So that's it for today If you want more information on how to attract a quality man into a committed lasting relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon