 You ever have those days where you can't get out of bed, you can't go to work, even meeting people is terrifying. Your normal strategies of making yourself happy don't seem to work. I know the day is bad when no amount of steamy wonder can pick me up. Sometimes I'm just feeling sad and unmotivated for no good reason. It doesn't happen very often, but when it does, it comes to two main issues. For starters, how do I know that I'm having a bad day? As an introvert, I prefer being alone. I have a people limit. Sometimes I really need company, but when I'm at my worst, not enough friends or positive thoughts can make me smile. I've learned there's a difference between not wanting to leave bed and not being able to leave bed. As an introvert, it's hard for me to distinguish bad days and me time, but I know that during me time, I think about myself. When it's a bad day, there's nothing, just avoid. After going through the motions so many times, I learn that I need to be honest with my feelings. I can't ignore them until they go away. Did something bother me that happened recently? Is a certain event affecting me? Is it hormonal? Have I reached a limit of people time? If all of the answers to these questions and the others are no, I realize I've reached the no man's land of I have no idea why I feel this bad, but I do, or how I like to call it the sonata. Naming it helps normalize it and makes it feel less scary. It helps to feel like it's validated. So when this happens, I tell myself I'm having a sonata. I've been through it before, and I'll get through it again. But how do I deal with it? Calling a friend doesn't help for me, but it might for you. Different things help different people. When I get like this, my friends can boost my mood, but too much people time and I crash like I never left my bed to begin with. Nothing really cheers me up. I waste my day away doing nothing, but it's okay. I think that sometimes we need to have days where we feel bad for ourselves. We need to simmer in it and let the feelings run their course. Unless it interferes with your life and the bad days become bad weeks or months, you should be fine. I needed to accept that feeling bad is just as legitimate as anger or sadness. If you need to cry or punch something to get over something that happens, the sonata should be given the same treatment. I deal with it in my own way. Sometimes our brains and our hearts don't work the way we tell them to. As a result, we get stuck with feelings that we didn't ask for and have the potential to feel paralyzed. It sucks. I hate it and it throws off my schedule. It's an unnecessary weight that I needed to carry. It takes away from my life, but I need to allow myself to feel terrible sometimes. I admit that after I allow myself that, it's easier to get through it. I can get through a sonata.