 We are looking into driving through the crisis. I'm speaking to Papetuo Wanjirushisa Life Coach and of course a resilience approach to problems like understanding crisis as a never changing emergent dynamic and the phenomenon. How can you become strong even after this COVID-19? You are you before COVID-19 and there will be you even after COVID-19. Good evening. Happy to be here with you and I'm sure we'll be helping someone outside them. Now to begin with let me put across this particular person who lost the job during COVID-19 since the first case was reported in Kenya in March weeks later people began losing their jobs, companies couldn't pay them, the pay cuts came in and of course these are now people who are really stressed. Now help me to response to stress. Response to stress, number one, grieve. That is actually the first place. I want to mention very quickly six areas that we must intentionally not really accept but acknowledge our losses. So it's important for us to look at these six areas and say you know what I have lost and this is how much I have lost and number one is spiritually churches are closed most are closed you know we probably used to thrive in that and we don't have any places to go and express ourselves in that area and some of us are even feeling like God has abandoned me God has forsaken me and that is a reality and then number two is physically. We have also lost physically in terms of probably when losing opportunities to go out and work when you know I'm effective like I know friends and even myself the first reaction was to eat a lot. I mean I go to kwa nyuomba una fungua fridge una jiweka yeah and I know that one has also physical loss in terms of how I was looking right yeah in terms of my appearance in terms of also my sleeping patterns because of being home throughout we don't have patterns to not watch my series usiku like we have also lost our normalcy in terms of even our diet like we are more limited than how we were eating before sometimes even in quantity and then of course the other thing is intellectual we have lost our ability to use our minds you know we are creative we are joking on our ideas and right now there are people who are stuck in terms of their creativity their imagination which is also a reality you need to acknowledge that loss and allow them to attrivialize that I am a big deal no it's a big deal it's a big deal for you many of us have lost our income the way you were saying by being laid off we no longer have opportunities to go and unincome the other thing is emotionally I acknowledge I'm struggling with depression anxiety I'm struggling with anger sometimes you have become irritable and many other emotions that we're experiencing and finally socially I've also lost socially by losing meaningful relationships in my life what umbo they used to care for me nilika wanga the heart of the party saizirakuna pati enewe you know so acknowledge losses because when you go to bed you know there are no bars and a fungu was I imagine we don't have anywhere to go and show off anymore now um with all these in mind what's the danger in that number one the danger is in that is denial because first of all life will never be normal new year 2020 we are not going back there kwebon important konza to realize that whatever has gone has gone totally those opportunities I had might never come back and it's fine because I still have my creativity I still have my intelligence I still have my skillfulness and I can create other opportunities in my life first of all to acknowledge that life will never be normal again this is a new normal permanently the only thing we can have is more normalcy in this situation here ita venye makampu nismendola and the other thing of course is think how can I reinvent myself and package myself for the future because kitu umbo opi alapenda kwa mbia vijana this um covid situation in me first forward the fourth industry evolution by five years that is a reality we are not going back on first of all venye business processes in me kwa automated and so it means that many opportunities that have been lost are not coming back like companies will hire less people more people will work at home telekomuting will be a normalcy kubukenda online wone job biniwanta kufanyi kazi kwa nyuomba please apply chap chap zile job zakuna kwa ofici they are going to diminish actually and so to start repackaging myself to become future relevant atok semia kwa mba I might actually be working with machines more than people how does that feel for an extrovert he kusabutaku ulkum me zonakwenda unakuta ofici kuna atumiyambili story me nwa chapamoshene kuna getman sa easy probably gate yautomati wale kuna ezakuta kuna enda kufisi na between gate na deskia kolab lojukta na namtu because everything is automated that is the reality we need to start adapting to yes now um that's the reality how now do I survive with the reality mindful of reaction mindful of now this is my new norm this is me this is me I will not have been in an office where there are people nyuambia she does Angu paying yet to singe nyanne especially our sisters to singe nyanne and then remember you can work from home imagine how how now do I survive this number one survival is just the way I said number one be adaptive you know just be adaptive and tell yourself this is the new world it is how it is and the other thing is also to look at how do I get support on that need that I have to meet it probably in another space that is not work you know because Bado is all my areas in isdapua in terms of socializing how can I socialize beyond work how can I hang out beyond the office to start looking at other spaces that I can still need meet my need for connection you know and of course people care for me and the other thing is for us to also take initiative in terms of also reach out from where I am they can do voice calls when there's a like to also see that as an alternative means of communication without necessarily waiting for the physical come back and of course the other thing ambion in afkiriya which will also be a remedy is to seek support if you're struggling with these realities please don't be ashamed everyone is by the just remember you remind yourself there is a new normal but also sick support to adapt to the new normal in a functional way yes all right now I have learned to survive the crisis they will be post COVID-19 yes nita recovery nita recovery I think everyone should start recovering right now right here and I just want to share quickly five things where you can start looking at your recovery plan now one look at your gift things yeah and and one of the assessments I usually take my clients through is to look at am I a good leader am I a motivator am I a teacher I love giving people instructions am I a giver I love sharing resources and distributing them am I a servant I love serving other people am I full of mercy and compassion and I like showing people that am I also prophetic in a way kuna bini nga unangabitu nanza kuhuna bidebitu zina adapt hamona kwangatuna weird ideas within you sometimes I even think people who work for stock exchange say you know to a spot person I will see one day the people who are able to do predictions so accurately in a way that they are prophetic it's not just a natural thing and ono there are people who as I'm mentioning these things they can actually identify these are my giftings and you need to start asking yourself how can I leverage on this gifting as an opportunity because those are standard they are irreducible minimums in my life and there are things that are natural at ibe at a kubiliakwenda shule and then number two look at your heart desires what are you passionate about nini unangani itawaii badilisha dunia anza saaii what which are the groups you are passionate about unangamibio totoa kisafa amani wa tuwaze ama probably in children's homes na wa tuwa street amani probably like just look at which people una feelingi pulled towards kwa sa idea that is also an opportunity because that is your heart desire and also what are some of the things that annoy you hata bitu zezu wa zina kubo nazi na kujamisha those can be opportunities because probably they are called to your attention because it's something you're interested in so start looking at your heart desires as things that you can actually meet by changing the world and doing something out there number three abilities watu na zemanga ukupo anani nini ma compliments e bai de una kwangaivi una kwangaivi e bai de una like like personally people compliment that e bai de una jua kwangia so i see that as an ability and i'm able to ask myself how can i make money from my ability so look at how you can monetize your abilities number four personality when i'm doing kupenda u kunji amalutu kumdu kupenda u kundani and i love saying blog azoengi bai de una kwanga introverts oh so yeah they are able to write because they value their privacy anandi kalafu ikenda u ko ina sumo na wa tu ina trend imagine you wanna shine lakinia open ikungi ambiliya wa tu so you can still be an introvert but you still influence the world next robot this yua sewa kutoklezea unezatoklezea agenda and you are paid for that right and then finally your experiences in life whatever you're going through right now whatever you've gone through in the past everything that you've overcome you can actually leverage on it once you start looking at it as an opportunity and so if you look around those five things in your life you can actually see opportunities right now and then you start packaging those opportunities packaging yourself opportunities that are similar yes well you've mentioned of the opportunities and how you can utilize them but what you're going to say mangaji mi niko na idea basi na platform an example me se maa introvert na bloggers ni ni ni and then what's your na penakungi na those things that I feel indeed I can do this but platform how now do we identify platform juhi na kongashida wa twengi kwa identify platform ya kutumi ya talent ya ho and one of the things I will say right now we are living in a generation ya kumba everybody can be a celebrity for five minutes kila mtu regardless of wuko masinani wa ati kama kale ka boi ni ni kali fanyanga kale ka boi oi munya nga basi juli kata zama kukungi a birthday like it was something oma keki madhuti oh yeah you know like that boy got so many opportunities from that and one of the things I usually say if you don't have a platform create your own right ya make where you are become a platform nowadays as long as you have a smartphone at a kama ikona three mp kwa simu yon your camera please film yourself and take it out there and personally that is what I do I create my own social media platforms and I keep on hyping what what I'm passionate about there someone notices it like recently I got an opportunity for a tv show just because someone went to my wall and they were like ya by the way ya the vulnerable generation we need to have this conversation on Monday you know so put yourself out there you never know which one day you will find yourself trending and on top of things and everyone who is looking for you will support you when you raise the smoke from where you are all right yes now before before you take a very short break this is the idea I have yes nimejua nimejua timeline now how do I help myself how do I help myself to know that uh in the next two months or in the next one month or maybe in a near I want to be here transitional timelines how do I uh panga myself this is where I want to be and this who I want to be in the next uh this particular period of time yeah number one first of all I love telling people research research research on that area make sure that you become an authority and one of those to become authority if you spend 10,000 hours on anything you're an expert would a consultant you know like investing in one of the things I usually say immerse yourself into it watch videos about that look for people who are doing that read about it like become so exposed in a way that it just flows naturally that talent that ability you know that thing that you have make sure that it is really shiny because it is well polished with knowledge and information and then the other thing make sure that you also get mentorship look for people who are already thriving in those two years start stalking them if possible look for them look for look around their networks look at least for five people and start following them diligently learning from them if possible access them I love saying there is nobody who is not accessible in this world like even that girl who got uh um I think there is a song that she sang and it trended high angle sorry I'm a bit uh poor with remembering but that girl a limba wimbo a celebrity fulani alafu akam tag who a celebrity beneliona yaw wimbo you know she helped that girl do recording blah blah blah make sure that you call attention to anyone that you know that can help you and the other thing that I also love saying is be patient be patient out a trend to next year now a lot of do a lot for kwa jeku trend please be consistent put yourself out there over and over again and then be patient and wait for the breakthrough but keep on doing it don't give up actually that's one thing you'll be mentioning when we come back because most of the use nowadays actually in the recent past they want the uh microwave things to happen atuna patients not a cavity happen to pop up so we'll be taking a very short break and when we come back we'll be looking into that uh how can you be patient the self assessment and then how will you now thrive now that you have all the ideas how will you thrive in this pandemic keep it y254 we take a very short break do not go too far y254 imagine thank you for keeping us company and if you just tuned in this is y254 lifestyle and health Wednesday we are talking about driving through or during or amidst crisis before we went on break we talked about the stress response made for reactions the survival the reaction and transition or timeline where actually to me malize to kisama most of the use do not take time atupendi kungoja to takanga pop up microwave things what do we have to tell these youth who were in yanafkiri anga ai mi inafain getu sayi nimi me baza kazi bifoni fikepali empesa pop nambuani gesema it's a good thing kwa sabunakonga ambitious but that kuna ma big dreams you know and that is something to compliment ourselves because in the past people used to wait for things to just happen tapata to promotion skwili utapaewa but right now we want to show up in an organization and within two months to kukwa bud you know how to manage but the other thing it's because we we also we have also been socialized like we are seeing so much celebrities we are seeing the things they have and by coveting those things and desiring them i feel like i'm failing they have that car i also need to have that car how old are they because of the exposure we can see and then we want and the other thing it's because also by spending too much time online sometimes we don't realize that i'm not working on my dreams i'm still looking at the pro portrait of where i want to go but i'm not putting my efforts to see how do i get there and to just understand it's progressive and success is beyond material things if that is the only measure i have for my life i will always live frustrated because if i don't see these other successes then my spirit is dampened even to get to that lofty thing i'm born in aona this is where i want to be but it's because i don't appreciate my small milestones and so the other thing we need to do is actually to be grateful i need to have a gratitude culture right and to also realize that that is the social reel we usually say in the social media reel we want to put the best food forward but i'm not sure if it's true i'm not stressed i'm not sure if it's hakwambi preshanya konaio i'm only seeing what they have and so sometimes by also having a realistic frame that that is their story i have my story and my story sometimes is beautiful than their story i need to start assessing myself fairly in terms of a Maya failure or a success nyechitu kuji judge na kuji compare na watu wengine because sometimes if i'm given that seat that they are sitting on i'm actually saying no thanks okanzakuni ambia what else is behind that seat and so admire them but also admire yourself actually now that you mentioned it most of the uh most of us want to be someone else because of what they they have or how they are but mostly most many of the times you do not want to know their story i just want to be so and so but alipitia and gyagani and we don't want that story but now uh you mentioned about now realizing uh your talent and your gifts and even talked about the platform this is a guy who has sat down and we've created him and by them he has come up with an idea to be a share and then asha fungua ame patadu ame asha fungua alafu uh let's go for something simple ame and ame fungu kaka be a share kado go na takai kwe like uh supermarket alafu six down six months down the line and on a high grow ame aza kukua beaten up hope like bonai work so um say shidea kimi nini nambawan minasimanga kabula hoje fungu yukitu ume grombaka ukuwa pali panyonezae sustain are you thinking are you equipped as a supermarket owner you can't have great come to a kiosk and that is your level of exposure do you know what entails the logistics of running a supermarket do you understand the overheads will be higher do you understand you will need to supervise more people are you good in relationships do you realize we'll need to manage more money are you compliant even in your small business so that you are looking at as am i expanding am i also prepared for the expansion so it's not just a wish but it's something i'm working towards progressively can i qualify for a loan in a bank because honestly when i was 10 million of fungue you know brandia ko ya super but are you qualified for that and when you look at the qualifications come in as manga wakata yukona bieshara kido go and ako bank kujue school and to start a week spanata kabula ujendeli asana nini na itaji so that niki rodiko bieshara yungo nina iran niki was for market owner mindset hoven inafikiri akamam to a supermarket size easy so that i'm working towards it consciously and i'm seeing a supermarket in my small shop and i'm behaving like a supermarket owner from my small shop mga kaka sumakia kuki kujapum baka na kuhu na karibu ni ipege marashi nani sanitize kila kitu kusabu nina fikiriya what will happen in a big supermarket and therefore of course the other thing pia ni kuangalia the personal development in terms of which skills do i need to get to that level which networks do i need to get to that level yeah because they are also organizations as positions and bows in nezaku sa idea so that your credentials are higher and you're actually qualified for those opportunities and the other thing maybe amaya a good partner because okatumini nezaku partnerships okay zamalia kama kuhu open franchise to cement nikama kenshi kalaf na takuleta kenshi kiyangum tani do i look at what are the requirements even in terms of being a partner in that big thing that i'm seeing out there me kitu mini e pia actually yu storya kuhu fikiriya kama partner it's it's way way much viable because okatumini nezaku wa sinaizu resources that kuhu anza paletini it may even be expensive kama sa easy companies easy embazos in a uza magia refill there are some that come and they brand your they brand you and they give you the equipment alafu onza kuhuza magia but you see you have to be someone that is with a partnership mindset so i'm not thinking by the nezaji to power alafu nifungu kitu yango because sometimes we are also we also have the selfish mindset exactly i'm not thinking about adding to the value and the common good of everyone so am i thinking of myself as a partner so that i can get opportunities to synergize with other people and then i'm able to achieve my dream in the process exactly and i think that idea or that that insight goes hand in hand with people want to be celebrities you know when you become a celeb you be trolled online are you ready to i do have the the standard the the emotional energy when people will come trolling you now let's talk about now the bold moves and the uh how now do i uh drive now so um when i'm thinking about bold moves i'll just say it in three three points summarize number one look within what do i have what do i have within myself sometimes i'm not even gifted the same way they are and i'm busy following them and trying to copy them i need to look within and look at my set of resources and still going back to where i started what are your gifts what are your abilities what are your what is your personality and it's a quite an introvert now any extrovert you know so it means that you will not appeal to the same people that they appeal to you know there are people who appeal to quiet people or to a policy where they can assist you so so he's gone up what a celebrity in poli elafu eni kerere elafu na expect ya because i'm i'm actually saying that because i'm a kerere i'm the talkative people i'm i'm i'm the extrovert i'm on the extrovert side ini po kujeme ni peri na pujitambua by the way now understand ya kumba he ni packaging yango and i'm okay the way i am i don't even have to talk quietly you know what we're in gearbox kujetuni on gave ya wasen ya jay to believe in yourself to accept yourself and to be able to see your resourcefulness within and then number two look around you what problems do you need to solve because we are living in a generation where you're paid to solve problems that is how you get money and so look around you and look at what are the needs what are the opportunities what are the pains of other people that i can actually be willing to go out and fold my shirt and solve them without having the money first of all in mind i want to be a problem solver i want to bring solutions i know many people who have gotten funding because they pursued solving problems for other people and then someone noticed it and they were like ya by the way can i come and support you so we need to also think from that mindset that i'm a problem solver i'm a changer and a transformer of my generation and then now resources will come into enable me to fulfill that become mandate instead of just chasing money and trying to align myself to money because sometimes money is temporary but my greatness is limitless yes all right i know you have said so much but i'm sure you have something especially now that you are a life coach where can we find you what you have to tell these people this is your camera one tell tell as a tell someone out there something about life especially this koveta 19 kuna kuna depression kuna mass stress is mingiza live your final words yeah um like i said my name is papsu anugi i'm a life coach and the three areas that i love working with young people by because my clients are millennials number one is on papa's clarity you need to know why you are here and then number two is on wholeness to make sure that i'm functional and i've been able to get over the past and i'm not carrying my past into my future especially if it's painful and many many many things that have happened that are pulling me down and then number three is confidence to live unapologetically regardless of your mistakes and anything that has happened and those are the three areas that i would love to network and interact with you on yeah please reach out if you need support if you're feeling like you're struggling and you know you just need someone to help you with clarity yeah maybe i'm actually willing to give you a free session please reach out to me i'm coach papsu anugi on facebook on instagram on twitter on youtube reconfidence with papsu and my website is reconfidence.com yes please reach out i mean you are not alone we have been there and and we are able to guide you from where you are and just know that you are never alone in life yeah please reach out help is just a call away all right now nida i say mwa sita kwa ngeza na sita kwa punguza you have quite a profile you're a psychologist and mentor with a mission to inspire individuals and groups to create the life they desire and desire to live as well so thank you so much for keeping us company and when you give thank you so much for coming and i'll go up with papsu but you may say my wife papsu anugi actually actually we look for papsu anugi you will not find them online papsu anugi mm-hmm yeah all right thank you so much for coming and trying to speak to our audience and back home thank you so much for keeping us company it has been a lifestyle and health Wednesday i was sitting in for patricia muriuki see you again next week on Monday keep it y254 enjoy the rest of our programings and have a very good night my name is edereva hilawe goodbye