 When the narcissist says I love you, the narcissist will tell you that they love you They will advertise and promote it as though it is an apparent bargain with the intention of substituting it For something of inferior quality They build these feelings towards them in your mind Which then makes you believe they care for you Because they're reciprocating that love, loyalty and enthusiasm back to you You thought it was meaningful You thought it was real But in reality They're just inducing these feelings of love, loyalty and enthusiasm within you They pour it on in an emotional yet insincere way to build a fake connection to you Because the more of a connection you think you have with them The more power they have over you These feelings of love, loyalty and enthusiasm Caused you to let your guard down It takes away your resistance It takes away your anxiety or fear That something bad or unpleasant might happen It changes the way in which you deal with them It gives them complete access to you Which is something that they will abuse But you give in because you want to be loved You want to be acknowledged for whatever brave or noble acts you have done For whatever contributions you have given For your assistance You might assume that these things would mean something To someone who is in need When you choose to assist them You might assume that they would respond to your kindness By being kind to you By doing something useful for you But it doesn't work that way with a narcissist They just see you as a tool They see you as something That should be used to carry out a particular task or function If they have a job that needs to be done You become their source of supply Other than that You serve no purpose to the narcissist But it's like they have this predatory sixth sense Which they use for their own survival Where they can sense when a person has been starved of love They can sense when a person has been starved of validation They can pick up on that They know that you've never been appreciated enough for what you've done in your life They will get you to talk about everything bad that you have experienced So that they can identify your weaknesses So that they can learn how to use love against you And they do this by using the push-pull technique Where they give you a compliment or a kind gesture And then they pull back They put an end to the very feelings and emotions That they constructed upon you They bring it to an end suddenly and unexpectedly With no logical explanation or reason Because it's designed to confuse you So that they can buy time And then work on their manipulation To cause you to lose your freedom of choice or action By enslaving you emotionally to the stimulation of their version of love They use love as a weapon But it's not even real love It's a simulation of love It's an imitation It's designed to deceive you So that you continue to desire these feelings from them They use love as an intermittent reinforcement By keeping you in a constant state of uncertainty And then either rewarding you with love Or punishing you with love So that they can influence and then control your emotions Because it then gives them power over you By making you want to be acknowledged by them Because you've already been preconditioned to be this way Maybe by a narcissistic parent Who used the same tactic against you All you wanted is for your narcissistic parent to love you To give you affection And the narcissist is able to pick up on it They can detect this lack of love Because it's something that is very familiar to them And when they pick up on it They will constantly put you in a state of feeling unworthy As though you're not good enough They bring you back to your past To situations where you did feel unworthy Where you didn't feel good enough To leave you feeling As though you're not deserving of them loving you the way that they could Or the way that they should When in reality they have no love to give to you anyway This behavior stems from a lack of love They're just using a simulation of love It's just something that they've created for you To get you attached to them So that they can then use it against you They will say that they love you With compliments and gifts And then they take it all away suddenly and unexpectedly Which then leaves you wondering what you did wrong It leaves you looking for an answer to try to fix it And the sick and twisted part about this Is that the narcissist is fully aware That there isn't even a problem They're brainwashing you They're teaching you to accept an idea or belief and critically By repeating the idea or belief to you Until you accept it without criticism or question They're grooming you They're preparing and training you For a particular purpose or activity They're putting you through a process Rather than allowing you to experience a natural development Because this process Is designed to strip you of your own identity It's designed to strip you of your own self-worth And get you to identify your value with whatever they seem to be appropriate So that you can be prepared to obey them and questioningly So that you become their subordinate When they return with this fake love It makes you more obedient and cooperative Which they can then string along Because they're misleading you deliberately About their intentions over a length of time Which is how many victims end up in long-term relationships with them Because they managed to rewire your mind into wanting them They've created this addiction and dependency Because now you're depending on them to regulate your emotions You're depending on them to determine your core value To determine how you see yourself They've managed to get you to depend on them for all of these things Because you want that love that you thought was real in the beginning When the narcissist doesn't love anyone They think love is for fools It's just something that they will use to their advantage It's something they will use as a weapon Which is why it is very dangerous to be in love with a narcissist Because they will only ever see you as a fool For being compliant and submissive to them But they will use it to keep you dependent on them So that they can use you to self-medicate their own sickness To subdue their own addiction Which is their supply Which is the only reason why a narcissist would say that they love you To keep that supply Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My paypal link is in the video description Coaching queries You can email me at coaching.narcsurviver.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon