 The narcissist is waiting for you. The narcissist is delaying their actions until a particular time or event. They are remaining in readiness for a purpose. They are waiting for you to make the next move. Narcissists can be very impulsive. They can often do things suddenly and without careful thought. They can often do things without planning. But other times they are actually lurking in the shadows, waiting for you to make the next move. You may think that the narcissist has lost interest in you. It may even look like they have moved on to someone else. But they are only doing this to punish you, to make you take action in response to what they are doing. When the narcissist is hurting you, they are trying to provoke you. They are trying to get a reaction out of you. They are trying to make you act. Narcissists want control. They want the power to influence and direct your behaviour. And the course of events. And a lot of what they do is designed to get you to react to them. It's designed to get you to take action. Sometimes they will do the most hurtful things to you. And discard you in a way where it makes you question if they ever cared about you at all. But what they are actually doing is they are trying to get you to react. They are trying to get you to take action. The narcissist wants you to prove yourself to them. They want you to be everything that they want you to be. They want to know that you would be willing to do whatever they want whenever they want. That is the only way that they would be able to take you seriously. And they think that by holding back or withholding their attention from you that it will finally make you act in the way they would like. It would finally make you submit to them and comply to their demands. Because that's all they really want from you anyway. They never loved or cared about you. It was all an act so that they could get what they want. They acted as though they were affectionate. They acted as though they cared about you because they were hoping that it would provoke a similar reaction from you which would then result in them getting what they want. And it's no different when they try to hurt you or when they discard you. It's just another way for them to try and get what they want. They've come to the conclusion that being nice isn't going to make you submit. So now they're going to try to punish you. They're going to do whatever they think will hurt you the most in the hopes that it will then make you comply with their demands. When the narcissist discards you or post pictures with their new source it's designed to get a reaction out of you. It's designed to make you want to do better and that is why when the narcissist does these things to you they're sitting back and waiting for you. They're waiting for you to prove that you're better than their new source. They're waiting for you to try and win them back but if you don't figure this out or if you don't really care so much about getting them back they will try to go forward with a new source because they know you're not going to be their slave. They know you're not going to be their doormat. So they realize that there's no point in them waiting around anymore. They accept that they've got to move on. But they were waiting for you to show them that you were everything they needed you to be. They were waiting for you to prove that you were going to be loyal and committed to them regardless of how they treated you. Many people get this mixed up. They assume that when the narcissist pulls back it's because they're no longer interested in you but that's not always the case. Sometimes it's just because you're not doing what they want you to do. It's because they want more from you and they know that you have what it takes to be their perfect supply. They hope that by hurting you it will provoke you to react. It will provoke you in becoming the person that they always wanted you to be. Someone who fights for them. Someone who will do whatever it takes to get them back and keep them around. But if you don't make the effort to do this they're not going to stick around. The narcissist can only wait for a certain amount of time. They need supply and if you're not going to take action they're forced to settle for whatever they can find. The narcissist is waiting for you. They're waiting for you to be the person that they always wanted you to be. They're waiting for you to submit to them. They're waiting for you to comply with their demands and to show them you have what it takes to be their perfect supply. But you need to recognize your value. You need to recognize that you deserve so much more than to be a narcissist doormat. The narcissist is only waiting for you because they know just how great you are. Not because they think they deserve you. The narcissist already knows that they have nothing to bring to the table. They're just waiting around to see what they can get out of you. But no matter what they do to get your attention you should not react. It will not benefit you in any way. It will only leave you worse off in the end. Make them wait and move on with your life. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resued with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. Check out the new Narx Fibre website at www.narxfibre.co.uk where you can read my blog posts, book coaching sessions and join the support forum. If you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching.narxfibre.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.