 All right, so one of the most important life skills that you can have is ego management Ego management that actually means two different things. Okay on one hand. There's managing your own ego Okay, and on the other hand There is managing other people's egos both of them are basically the most important thing in the world And especially in the day of the internet people don't know how to do either of them Okay, what do I mean by ego management in the first sense? How do you manage your own ego? All right, here's what happens to a lot of people This has actually been a recurring theme on my channel a lot of people is for example in technology Will identify with different tools that they use which is absurd They will identify with programming languages. They will identify with ways of writing programming languages They will identify with different Frameworks and other stuff like this. It's absolutely absurd and what happens is a lot of times people will not be able to take Criticism of those things because they have their egos tied to it Okay, when you have your ego tied to something you cannot see it Attacked and that was why it's a stupid thing. It makes you tactically blind. It makes you incapable of Seeing flaws and things in fact incapable of seeing flaws in the things that are most important to see right if you are Using a programming language and you are intransigent and can't listen to someone else Criticizing it for this or that reason you can't actually see the bad things about it. And that's something you need to know Okay, same thing in any other domain if you get offended when someone I don't know attacks your like stupid little political ideology Get over it like seriously like no one cares. So why would you personally identify with a lark? you know what I mean and This is how like Unfortunately a lot of people operate nowadays. They just uh, you know everything to them is just like an extension of their ego Okay, so that is one thing you can go ahead and stop you can go ahead and look at all the things in your life that you get offended by and Just scale it back because you otherwise you're literally no better than the stereotypical Twitter liberal Okay, who gets offended who like literally can't even process criticism because they so deeply Identify with the things that they're supposed to believe all right and that's pretty pathetic now on the other side of the coin You have to if you're managing other people's egos what I mean by that is You have to constantly look at other people and make the assumption that they are going to be offended an Egotistical about everything okay now I don't mean censor yourself and I don't mean assume that everyone is immature But what I do mean is you need to always come across as accommodating to people in real life Okay, now on the internet the dynamic can be a little different. I mean you might argue about this I think it's always a safe strategy on the internet It's probably the safest strategy to always be accommodating to people on the internet as well But a lot of people frankly, you know, there's sort of an audience on the internet You know, you might there might be a benefit in a trolling effect because while you might turn the particular Egotistically invested person off you might also sort of you know earn the approval of other people and they might see your viewpoint Just if you'd like totally embarrass someone But frankly, that's a risky scenario a risky strategy I should say Because the safest thing is always to assume that people are going to be very offended if you attack something that they might Identify with so you should always be accommodating And in real life, you should always always always be accommodating regardless like the whole LARP of I'm gonna be a troll in real life. That's pretty lame. Frankly They're only like really rare environments where that's actually a good like it's it's not gonna happen in your Your life when you see someone in real life You have to assume that they're gonna be as offended by every little thing and again That's not self-censorship like don't tone down like do not Absolutely do not cuck out and like pretend to agree with them But you have to be accommodating you have to be able to see things from their perspective Because if you can't do that they are automatically gonna write you off And they're automatically gonna ignore you now. This of course is I'm giving advice I'm telling you to assume the worst worst that people are always gonna be maximally offended maximally Egotistical and incapable of taking criticism in real life. That's not necessarily the case But you should always assume that it's the case Otherwise you are just gonna you're literally just gonna be burning bridges non-stop. You're just gonna be like totally I don't know. It's just like annoying You know the fact of the matter is a lot of people out there They don't make their decisions. They don't decide what to identify with based on what they actually think is the best A lot of people are just governed by consensus a lot of people, you know, you're stereotypical Twitter liberal you're You know stereotypical redditor. I mean redditors reddit is literally a site based on social consensus And people on that site are gonna think they're very smart for just going along with what other people think and saying it very smugly Okay, so if you need to Correct one of those people it is very important for you not to Like you have to you have to sort of concern troll them you have to sort of Pretend that like well, I mean you don't you shouldn't pretend you should actually try and understand where they're coming from and The the rationalizations for what they believe, you know And if you don't do that you just sound I don't know it just sounds sort of cringe And it's frankly, you know back to the the main point about your own ego It's big cringe if you like react like that if you get offended by you know, for example, I have a friend in real life and he knows that like I do this like Linux stuff online and stuff like that. So he likes to troll me Right and what he thinks is trolling me because I think everyone who watches my channel like knows that I don't really care that much about Linux like it's sort of like whatever But he likes to troll me By saying like making fun of Linux like he thinks that's gonna get me You know because he thinks I don't know like I'm egotistically invested in that and if I were You know, I would probably like want to end this friendship because oh, I'm so offended blah blah blah But in real life like who cares like what why would I identify with something like that? It's just stupid who is not an issue. So yeah, that's my advice It might be it might sound lame But yeah, try and not step on people's egos and don't have an ego of yourself Definitely don't do it in real life. You really shouldn't do it on online either That's one thing that I learned constantly like in my position you know, especially having a position of authority online like being a being a an Influencer content creator. I had this idea when I started that I would be able to like, you know Troll people and make examples of them and like everyone would clap and stuff like that When in reality like when you troll people it just makes them more and transit in transigent and like less capable of hearing you And it's just stupid. Just don't do that Yeah, so yeah, that's that's my lesson about egos don't have one And of course if if you disagree with me you're wrong and you should feel bad and embarrassed