 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic this one skill One skill gets ninety nine point nine percent of men's respect this one skill All right really quickly if the content here resonates with you and afterwards you're interested in speaking to me Check out the link to schedule a free discovery called to see if working with the coaches right for you All right, we're gonna talk about this one skill that gets men's respect. Okay? You know, it's interesting. There's a Therapist out there that says something along the lines of the following When a man cherishes a woman he respects her and when a woman respects a man, he's cherished, okay, and Okay, I get it. I understand the analogy there But to me a man could Demonstrate cherishing a woman but not actually respect her So let's lean in to respect a little bit because this is so Important in relationships today, and I know many of you women are absolutely Frustrated with men because they don't treat you with respect And I think part of the issue here is that they're so myopic in their own shit That they're only focused on themselves and I can I can from your perspective understand how Absolutely frustrating that is and I create a little diagram to help you understand men and this is very simple And I've shared something similar before in one of my videos understanding midlife crisis But I'm just gonna see if you can see this It's a it's a it's basically a pie chart with 10 percent here 10 percent here 40 percent here 40 percent here Okay, you got this right? I'm gonna put this down So I just want to start with that the 10 percent on this side and that Represents the first 10 percent. These are men with absolute clinical issues. They have I mean they're Narcissists, they're sociopaths. They have real clinical mental health issues and Then as that pie chart starts to go in this direct, I guess it would be this direction is They start there if they've got issues, but then there's less issues less issues less issues less issues less issues But even this category 50% of men are struggling with a lot of issues Now, why am I sharing this with you? Because these men can't respect anyone so the skill I'm speaking of in a few minutes isn't going to even matter to those men because their clinic I mean, well, there's the clinical men issue and then they're just men that are just stuck in their woundedness their wounded trauma They're childhood traumas their childhood wounds and their adult trauma and wounds, okay But as men begin to evolve and as men begin to do personal development work just like women do and we're talking about introspective work they start coming out of that into this 40% category and then ultimately this 10 percent This 10% of men clearly know who they are They know what they want and these men genuinely start off respecting women right from the get-go They start with a level of respect So we're gonna talk about this other 40% because this is where most likely you're in this dating category Although sadly many of you dating this men in this 50% here, which really sucks Okay I'm gonna make it really simple Okay, this one skill is I could say it's respecting yourself. Okay, I could say that's what it is It's respecting yourself and I know many it's interesting. I've observed that there's three kinds of women There is the woman. There's the entitled type of woman This woman just thinks her shit doesn't stink and she's just entitled for the best and then there's the wounded woman the Dormat woman that basically gets walked on by men all the time and then there's that category of woman who is That you know in that book why men love bitches. It's a babe in total control of herself. She's in control of her sovereignty She respects herself Okay, that woman who genuinely respects herself is Either learning or leaning into this one skill I'm about to share now this woman that respects herself Loves herself and she's probably if she hasn't ordered my book what the heck is self love anyway She's literally adopted all or many of the principles that are in my book And if you haven't checked out my book what the heck is self love anyway, there's a link in the description below But the woman who respects herself and wants respect for men this one skill is She just embodies this one skill and that is her standards her standards and Standards are very similar to boundaries and I like the way Bernay Brown talks about boundaries It's what's okay, and what's not okay for me But a woman who really respects herself in the relationship realm. She knows her standards She clearly knows what she wants in a relationship and she studied Relationships enough to know the dynamics and the mechanics of the relationship and if you haven't read the book eight dates Oh my gosh, and I talk about this in almost every video This teaches you the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship so you can begin to establish your standards of what a relationship looks like Now I want to turn you on to another book because if you are Dating if you are in a relationship if you are frustrated out there, then you have to check out Barbara D'Angelo's book Are you the right one for me? Are you the right one for me? The woman who adopts the skills taught in this book and this book here I'm gonna do two books now, and don't do that typically These are women that have adopted the skill of standards. They know their standards They know what's okay, and what's not okay for them and this This literally for that 10% of men That's gonna gain their respect. Well, these men already gain that you you've got their respect right from the get go But when you're dealing with this other 40% of men They're gonna lean into respecting you Because you've adopted a standard and you said this is my floor. I'm not going below this now Or this is my ceiling maybe I don't know how we want to look at it But if this is where you're this is your watermark and if a guy falls below the watermark You're saying done out of here. Fuck you. I'm done with you. Oh, please forgive the F word That wasn't really kind there Alright, I think you get the gist of where I'm going and I know this makes sense to you Does it does it make sense to you? Does this resonate with you? Have you established standards in your relationship? If you haven't or have please post a comment below If you need support and help with this write up a question I read all the questions Or I do my best to read most of them and comment as well Okay, if you want to establish Respect with a man then establish the skill of a standard your standard and when you know your standard You're not going to accept anything less than your watermark in relationship Okay, I hope you found value in this video. I'm going to sign up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic Shot the bear hug of self-love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone or even a dog or a pet and give them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye. Bye now