 Get a name 40 here. I was just looking at an article in the Atlantic about the Americans insecure attachment So people think that attachment style so secure attachment means that you basically consider other people trustworthy and yourself trustworthy Insecure attachment means that you're anxious about other people and yourself and then dismissive or avoidant attachment is where you deny the importance of Relationships and bonding with other people and disorganized attachment is when you're just all over the place So remember when I moved to America in 1977 my classmates and some of the adults they talked about how I was insecure Because Americans particularly Californians are much more psychologically sophisticated than I was used to in Australia And yeah, it's probably right insecure, but Attachment styles are not static Okay, it's not like you just faded to be Secure anxious avoidant or disorganized for your life They are reactions to how the view the world outside yourself. So you see anxious and avoidant attachment kind of dominating among almost all the right-wing pundits particularly the distant right Livestream as a podcast Outside world is a scary place that's descending into the apocalypse And so as America becomes scarier okay Secure attachments has plunged in America and so along with trust in our institutions and just trust in our fellow citizens So when did this decline begin? 1960s, right? Civil rights legislation Americans were robbed of their full rights to freedom of association and so Instead They will become increasingly the titches And so you see all these articles like in the top of New York Times today that our Tucker Garcer was fired because of the offensive things that he wrote in private text messages like privately right to someone that so-and-so is a C word Big deal, that's that's like a private conversation But the private has become brought into the public through litigation, which means people feel more anxious Right, and there's less secure attachment. So secure attachment in America has been plunging Along with social trust because these are measures that how America views Americans you America How they view the world around them There's less reason for secure attachment. There's less reason to trust Trust in our institutions trust in our fellow citizens is plunging and Americans are increasingly moving alone right because if you can't You can't secure freedom of association You're often going to choose spending time alone If you don't trust people that you're with You're gonna choose time alone So people spending more time alone and becoming more narcissistic Forming more parasocial relationships like social engagement Like what's the point Because they don't trust their fellow citizens and they don't trust the major institutions and so Rebuilding America Nothing good happens until people feel appropriate levels of trust and safety as long as people are filled with anxiety and Consider our relationships and bonds a community just not worth the aggravation as long as we have this hyperlatidious society Where people are incentivized to make Then use as weapons and litigation Where people's text messages and most intimate conversations are made public such as what happened with Tom Carlson people are going to be Understandably more dismissive of relationships and bonds If I thought my my friend was going to use our private conversations against me I'd be much less likely to combine in a friend so Think civil rights legislation certainly made America safer for some people and definitely had many positive The facts so many people who were pushed to the margins of America feel now feel more included The good sides of civil rights legislation also significant downsides the Destruction of freedom of association destruction of social trust Destruction of people's desire to participate in things service clubs like the Qanus now that they were forcefully De-segregated as far as sex so used to have service clubs where only blokes could be with blokes But now that's illegal the only time really you can have some kind of club or group where just men can be with men is usually in some kind of traditional religious setting so With the assault on freedom of association With an increasingly divided America much more diverse America right diversity means that we have less in common with each other That the less people have in common less likely they are to bond less likely they are to trust each other Less likely they are to trust members of the same group because distrust Like trust is contagious If you have all sorts of reasons to trust people you will take that into life I notice this with a lot of very high IQ people I've been stunned about how trusting they are with relative strangers and With their high IQs they recognize the benefits of when relationships Not the opposite of zero-sum relationships, and so they often go into relating to other people With trust as a default until you burn them right until you let them down they You know they tend to be quite trusting even with completely strangers, and this is the type of attitude It creates a much better world And now with the Same rise the mitigation largely sparked by civil rights legislation at the incentivization to Build up ammunition on your fellow citizens Protect yourself in a lawsuit and then with the increased diversity so Americans have less and less in common Right here in Los Angeles how do people then speak English and how am I going to bond with someone who doesn't speak English Our Christianity is weaker and weaker so Christianity is a longer Powerful organizing force that brings Americans together More racially diverse Diverse culturally diverse linguistically diverse and then with that comes a diversity in values diversity in priorities Diversity in habits and more raised ways of living all of these separate people They diminish social trust a diminished social cohesion and that leads to a Decrease in secure attachment right your attachment level is how you view the world securely attached people Feel that they can rely on others and others can rely on them Anxiously attached people are anxious about it and dismissively attached or avoidantly attached just a dismiss the importance of relationships they put an undue emphasis on freedom and Think hey, I don't need any any relationships and people are increasingly living in bubbles of their own narcissism Because they find that regular normal human relationships are just too scary So as crime goes up Social trust goes down Understandably particularly when you have crimes against people trying to do good Now they stop and help someone whose cars broken down by the side of the road, and then they get murdered This has a massive repercussions, man. Yeah, it's more fat And we have we had that doctor who was just run over by that Jamaican accountant in Southern California a few months ago So people pull their heads it Do you have a best friend? Yes That role just someone I can confide in Someone I feel very safe around Someone that I can call or text or message someone that I feel I need to protect myself and It just feels good It's like being able to do pull-ups and push-ups and you feel stronger as you get through life And you feel stronger when you get through life when you have friends and community Bonds with others You can endure more pain you enjoy More of the good things in life because you can enjoy them together