 Does the narcissist find someone better after you're gone? I know this is a question that a lot of you have because they devalued you. They targeted yourself as a team and made you feel so small. They made you feel like you don't matter to them as though they already had someone better or so they could easily find someone better than you. As I know that's not nice you know when you think about it how they can just completely disregard you and then just move on to another situation after all of the time that you invest it into them. So many of you you want to think that if they're going to move on it's not under something better and they have their own idea of what is better but I can tell you it's not someone who has a good heart someone who actually cares because I already know many of you you were the most important person in their lives they may not have realized that if you cared about them more than anyone else no one ever cared about them as much as you did and you may have been the only person in their lives who actually cared about them and yet they could completely disregard you and that's how you know that that's not a value that they have they do not care about people who care about things that are right and good they don't value that and that's why they didn't value you so it's very unlikely that they're going to move on and find someone who cares about them more than you did someone who is in their corner someone who was on their side someone who wanted the best for them instead because they value superficial things like money physical appearance status power these types of things they will end up with someone who's self-absorbed and likes empathy someone who's only concerned about those things and quite possibly someone who's a narcissist just like them because that's what they usually end up with they're not going to move on and find your idea of a better person that's not going to happen you're thinking they're going to move on and find someone who cares about them and loves them so much that they teach them how to love and to reciprocate the way you wanted them to do because that's what you see on social media after they're gone they're posting these pictures of the image of what you wanted in a relationship and that was what they gave to you in the beginning they gave you what they thought you wanted they told you what they thought you wanted to hear and then they moved on and they gave that and so much more to another person and that's probably what you're seeing now and i just want to tell you that it's not like that it's not really like that at all post off and they're just putting a show on for you because they want you to think that they're doing better after leaving you they want to hurt you because they never actually cared about you so do they move on to someone better maybe their idea of better they might find someone who they think is more attractive someone who has more money a better job but even then these things don't always last because the way that narcissists spend the money runs out very quickly and their looks fade away maybe they get exposed and then they lose it all and then the narcissist is going to leave and do the same thing all over again with someone else that's all that's going to happen so don't think don't be jealous don't think that they're moving on and they've got this perfect relationship with someone else and it's what you wanted don't think like that because that's how they want you to think but honestly if you could be a fly in the wall you would be laughing because it is a joke it's not how you think it is but they move on and they ride off right off into the sunset and then everything is so much better for them and they're happier without you it doesn't work like that in reality but they play on your mind they tell you all of these things they triangulate you with a new source and then they post these pictures up as social media and it's like everything you told them you wanted everything they denied you they would help from you they future faked you then as soon as they meet this new person they're doing all of those things they're going on trips together and it just makes you wonder what was wrong with me wasn't I good enough for you and it's not that at all don't ever think like that because it wasn't you remember they never even took the time to get to know you they already made up their minds about you from the start they already assigned a role to you and they expected you to live up to that from the very beginning instead of just letting you be yourself and for you to be able to coordinate with them in the relationship how you like to and yet you're thinking that they're going to move on and find something real with someone else and what you had with them was fake from the start it was fake from the start it was all a game from the very beginning and that's really how you know because if they never cared about you how are they going to care about anyone else you can't pick and choose who you care for how you do one thing is how you do everything so that it's how you should know that even when they move on they don't suddenly care about someone else it doesn't work out that way they'd like you to think that but that's not how it is in reality so keep that in mind because you already know what they're looking for remember how they devalued you and they desire superficial things which often just they end up running into the arms of a manipulator a con artist someone who's just looking to take advantage of them and then they get played to just like they played you the same thing happens to them so it's not just you so it's good to be conscious of that it's good to be aware of it to know that they will not have a happy future with anyone that's never going to happen because of the disorder they are self-absorbed and they lack empathy and you know that because they never cared about you they were abusing you they were mistreating you so how are they going to care about anyone else and even if by some chance they did find someone just like you an empath someone who loves and cares for real even then that's not going to last long just as it did with you because eventually that person will figure them out they're going to find my videos and they're not going to want to deal with them anymore so even if they do find that kind loving empathic person that type of person is not going to tolerate the abuse for long periods of time because empaths not only do they love but they desire to be loved as well they don't want to deal with the abuse so whatever they find whatever they move on to doesn't really matter doesn't matter who it is because whoever it is it's not their problem to fix and no one can change a narcissist it's impossible they can't change because they're not aware and there is no such thing in my opinion as a self-aware narcissist they are not aware of what they do they don't see it as being wrong and they never will see it as being wrong they will always find a way to justify it a self-aware narcissist as some people proclaim it is actually not a narcissist at all because then they have the ability to change they can adapt a narcissist is someone who cannot change or adapt they cannot learn new things they cannot adjust they just repeat the same cycle again and again and it never ends it never ends and that's how you know that you're dealing with one so keep that in mind they don't just write off into the sunset it may look like that in the beginning but give it time time reveals all time will reveal not only their character but the character of the person that they're dealing with because if it's a good person that person isn't going to stick around for long they might try and change them in the beginning but if that doesn't well obviously that won't work out then they're gonna have to leave them alone that's just how it is I mean I say that from my own experience I think many times I give too many chances and I am a very trusting person when I'm in a relationship and I think that people can change when I see potential I think people can do better and maybe I stick around a bit too long when you see it you've just got to accept it you can give them 203 chances just to see if you are actually dealing with a maladaptive narcissist but after that you just got to go you don't have to leave them alone because they're not going to change and that means they're going to continue to harm you and it's not selfish because you have to think that if you're in danger if you're at risk of being harmed then what good are you going to be to anyone else that's why it is important at times to put yourself first because if you do that then you can be of better service to someone else and that's how you've got to think but there is a difference between doing that and a narcissist who's self-absorbed and likes empathy because it is always about them they never consider you they don't even see you as a separate person you're an object that is meant to be used and that is all they don't see you as a separate person with your own feelings and opinions they expect you to want what they want to feel what they feel and that's why they often project that onto you because they see you as an extension of them not as a separate person and that's why when all is said and done it's really you can either choose yourself and you can choose them because it's not a real relationship it's not really the way in which two people are connected it's more just you attached to them and they don't attach to you so it will always be about them and their feelings and needs they will never consider you they've never considered your feelings your pain so yeah they may think they found something better because they think the grass is green on the other side but with time they start to realize that it's not what they thought it would be and then the grass looks greener back where you are that's when they try to come back well if they don't come back it's because they found someone else again and even in the situations where they move on and it looks like they've been together forever that doesn't mean that they are happy they could just be where they could dependant and it's just a dormant fool and in that situation they may be comfortable with it but it's not really what they want and that's why even in those situations they will have other sources on the side you can guarantee that so either way it goes they don't find someone better not really not as we would think is better they don't find someone who was what you were to them someone who actually loved and accepted them someone who cared about them they don't find someone like that it never works out that way the whole point of the disorder is that it is characterized by a lack of consistent success a lack of consistent success that's what it's characterized by remember it's dysfunctionality so it's not going to produce a normal or usual or expected result it's just not that is the answer for the question that i know a lot of you have but do hope that it has answered your question please let me know your thoughts in the comment section let me know if you agree with this or not let me know what you've seen in your own experiences i'd like to hear from you please give this video a thumbs up down below it was helpful share the video click subscribe to receive notifications for my future videos and if you'd like to book a one-on-one 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