 Hi, I'm live for the first time ever on this channel. I think I think so. Yeah, I'm live So thank you guys for tuning in I'm gonna give you all a few more minutes to kind of tune in but I'm gonna start off by talking about Poverty relationships, okay poverty Relationships we have all been in them. Some of us are still in them and Sometimes we get stuck there and we don't know how to get out of them or we feel guilty or we feel like one day You know, this is not gonna be the circumstance forever and blah blah blah blah blah, but Honestly, if you are in a relationship based in poverty If you are in a relationship that's dragging you backwards financially if you are in a relationship That's not going anywhere You know that you want to go, you know, then it's time to start making your exit plan Okay, now when you make your exit plan out of a poverty relationship you're gonna have to start saving and sacrificing and making plans to Secure yourself and get out So that you don't get taken down even further. Okay, so um a Lot of people can do this by getting a part-time job a Side job a second job and just saving and saving and saving and saving until they can afford to leave on their own And do better for themselves because a lot of men will say well if you don't stay with me through this bad time in my life You never loved me in the first place You're not a ride or die chick or whatever whatever, but If you love yourself more you'll get up and leave and telling him to call you when he got his stuff together Okay, that's what common sense will tell anyone to do You know, you don't stay on a sinking ship Okay, you don't stay in a burning building you get out and you save yourself And if they're dumb enough to stay in that then let them perish, you know what I'm saying, so Okay, I'm gonna try to read some of these comments Hi everyone So if y'all have a question about being in a poverty Relationship you can you can put them there now and I'll look and I'll try to answer some of them But I'm gonna keep talking until I see a few questions. Okay, so Yes, I've been in a poverty relationship before and I left when it got when it got to the worst point. I was like forget this, you know I'm gonna go start dating other people on the side And you know, so I could just easily make a transition But you know, you can't you can't stay stuck in that for from for loyalty because you have to be loyal to yourself first, okay? Okay, someone said can we talk about dating rich men instead? Yeah, we're gonna get to that. Believe me. Okay So Let's see thing they're going too fast hold on so we shouldn't date him if he doesn't have money at the time No, okay, he can't afford to date What's your advice on dating at the age of 22 I don't want a relationship until I see Until I see everyone booed up. Okay. I met my husband at When I was 22, okay, I dated him for about five years and then we got married so The younger you are the the higher chance that you have to get married Especially if you're going for an older man or a rich man. Okay, you wait too late No, okay, you got to give them they like I'm young. Okay So Yeah I'm trying to find some Good questions should you date if you're not working and you are a Girl Yes, because you're the one that they try that they're trying to impress. Okay They're supposed to pay for the day anyway So the only expense that you need to have is, you know, either Getting to and from the date if they don't pick you up or you know, getting yourself ready Yeah, you can date without a job, you know, men are supposed to court women So they're the ones that are supposed to spend and pay and impress you Okay, if you're dating a man who you have to impress you're dating the wrong man. Okay Yeah, saying no to struggle love is you know a goal for many people Okay, help. I'm 28 and tired of dating poor people poor men. Okay. Yeah Well, then stop dating poor men go to places where only men with money can get in go to places Where only men and money with money can afford stop hanging out where broke men hang out Okay, broke man. Can I get into certain places certain areas? Because it costs money. So you're gonna have to start Looking elsewhere. Okay Going to a place where they charge $20 admission going to a place where the drinks cost $10 going to a place where you know You have to valet park Going to a place where there's memberships involved. You can't just go anywhere because you'll meet just anybody Okay You can join a very nice gym in a very nice neighborhood or a nice area. You can join Certain places that do like outings There's places in neighborhoods that are really nice that will you know That will have like social functions and things like that fundraisers Yeah, you just donate some money and you're in a room full of millionaires you go to fundraisers You got to look nice. You can't go in there looking ratchet. Okay Hospitals Restaurants around hospitals like around lunchtime There'll be lots of doctors and physicians out eating lunch at the bar. You got to go to the Where the money is? Okay, you can't you can't stay in your neighborhood and go to your local dive bar That's not where the money is. Okay Yeah Let's see Yeah, my assistant my girlfriend just joined a yacht club. Yeah, my This lady that used to work for a long time ago. That's how she met her husband She joined a yacht club. She didn't even have a yacht Just joined the yacht club say I want to learn Okay, and so she met a guy with the yacht and he taught her about sailing and all that kind of stuff You know, or she was like, I'm looking to buy one, you know, she lied. She was looking for a husband. Okay How much money do you think a man should earn to be able to support a family? Well, it depends on where you live because if you live in New York or California, it's expensive But if you live in like where I live Or like in smaller areas, it's less so for me where I live I live in Texas. I live in Houston for me. You got to make at least Six figures, I'm just gonna say six figures for for a family of at least four Okay to live comfortable and to be happy and not be miserable just working to survive Okay, I say six figures because that's comfortable and and you can kind of enjoy life at that point If you're gonna be barely making it and struggling, you know, that causes relationship issues so nothing under six figures for a family, okay, unless You can live without Certain luxuries. Okay, unless you can live without cable unless you can live with you know in a So-so neighborhood unless you can live without driving a nice car, you know unless you can live without Purchasing the products that you like or shopping when you like, okay But it can be done on a high five figure salary But for me, I need six figures in it. Okay How much is too old to find a good rich guy, how much is too old um, I Say don't go over 20 years because then that's too old and he's like your daddy. Okay What if he's a social worker my mom and dad worry about his income Um, if you're a social worker that should be a like a climbing career job My friend was a social worker and now she owns her own business. Okay, tell him the social work All he needs to do but save money on the side and start his own business or private Counseling or nonprofit organization or something but he needs to be striving higher. You know what I'm saying Um, if he doesn't have a something he's working towards and he's just satisfied and a low-paying job That's the kind of life. Y'all are gonna have okay How do you not come off as a gold digger or should you not care? The only people who are offended by gold diggers are people that don't have gold to dig. Okay, most men with money Only deal with women who? Expect the best Demand the best Know what the best is appreciate the best You know cuz he can't bring some ratchet up to meet his colleagues, and you know, she's wearing Some you know dollar store flip-flops and uh And you know Some leggings You know, he can't he can't bring you up to that, you know You gotta you gotta present yourself as able to fit into that world You have to demand the best if he drinks champagne You need to be drinking champagne too if he's you know wearing a thousand dollar suit your dress need to cost at least that much or Close to it. Okay. I don't care if you got to buy it thrifted or what but you know He like attracts like if you're going if you're going to be taken seriously you can't be you know Beneath him you have to be on that same level or at least him able to pull you up to that level easier, you know Is there a such thing as a good black rich man? Yes, I've met plenty of them. I've dated plenty of them The the thing is is that They are Very far few and in between I'm just gonna I'm just gonna tell it to you like that You have to be You know Out of their reach like you can't be interested in them They have to come chase you. Okay If like for a long time and like no, this is not racist but for a long time people what would only think I would date white white guys and They're like, oh, you look like you date white man like when a black man would approach me Oh, you look like you date white man. You look you look like you date white man blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and I've never even seen these people talk to them. This is the first time we you know Be interacting with them and they would just assume because I have such high standards That only date white man and I was like, no, I date any race of men who can meet my standards So if you can't meet my standard, I'm not thank you. Okay, so I say yeah, I do date black man who can meet my standards and You know, they just either You know, well, you know, they would just make up some excuse and dismiss themselves. I wouldn't even have to do it I'm like, okay. Yeah, well, what are your standards? Oh, well, they have to be educated have a career Not married, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, and I will go down the list and they would just get up and leave because they didn't meet Okay, so it wasn't about white or black. It was about my standards. You know if you meet in the standard You get in the date. Okay. I don't discriminate. I just my standards are there I ended up marrying a black man because he met every standard, you know And you know, he pursued me. So, you know, why not? Have I heard of single moms by choice? I Have heard of it, you know, and I tell my kids all the time I was like, look, you don't have to get married if you have enough money To take care of yourself and you want to have kids or you don't want to be married at all Or have kids at all and just go do what you want to do and travel the world Go do that, you know, because You know, it's not really necessary if you can fulfill your own happiness, you know Anyways, let's see how to work a rich older guy's brain to get into his head You insult them, duh Or you talk about somewhat someone with more money who's interested in you. Okay men rich men do not like competition They will they will tell them you dated someone with more money and That's that they love that they like, oh, I got such and such as ex-girlfriend who was dated, you know They made way more money than me. You got to research. Okay? Let's see This stream is so damn stupid. Oh, well, why are you on it? You must be stupid to be on the stream Okay, anyways, I'm just reading some trolling comments What if he asked you to move into a to a different state is supporting you with allowance but not engaged yet Not engaged wants you to move I I'm not moving for anybody. I'm sorry Unless I am engaged or me and married I'm not moving for anybody why because my standards are too high if you want me to move across the country with you I'm gonna need a ring. Okay. I'm gonna need a ring Ring and the allowance Let's see How to make them commit You can't really make a man commit. You just have to let them be afraid that you're going to leave and find someone better Okay, and tell them look I'm I'm such and such years old and you know There's plenty of men who would you know love to date me and I feel like we're wasting a lot of time because I don't feel like you're getting you're gonna commit anytime soon and I really want to you know have a family and so I feel like this is a dead end for me So, you know, I'm just gonna open my options now and you know, if you're ready to make a commitment You know, we need to start talking about that or else. I'm just gonna start making plans to move on Yeah, that's how you do that. Okay What do I think about polyamorous relationships I Was just thinking about that the other day. I think that is the future Actually, I think people are gonna start having boyfriends girlfriends wives and husbands You know, it's not just gonna be gay straight. It's gonna be everything, you know And I feel like because like in our in our day when we were young, okay It was the big the big thing was like interracial and gay marriage. Okay now. What's next? You got to keep pushing it, right? So the next thing is gonna be multiple partner marriages And then the next thing is gonna be, you know, I Don't know. I'm waiting on aliens to come, you know Um So we can have some interdimension interdimensional being families. Okay, so I feel like it is the future but Because people are becoming so programed to accept certain things it's not gonna be a big deal anymore and I feel like You know, if the money is right if People accept it if you accept it if you could explain that to your kids they go for it, but I Think that society usually sticks to the norm For the most part, but I do feel like it will evolve into something in the future But I would never do it unless I could have two husbands Talk about men cheating and why do they cheat if they love their women men cheat because of lust Not love. Okay, man will cheat because They're horny men will cheat because So they see something better or different than they see at home man will cheat because they can Man will cheat because the sky is blue. Okay. I Don't know. I mean I can love someone and cheat on them too And I could still love them after that love is has nothing to do with cheating Okay, so I feel like a lot of people get that confused You know, it's just like you love your mom and dad, but you'll sit there and lie to him in the face about something you didn't do Okay, that doesn't mean you don't love him. It just means you know You chose to do that and but you still love him. It has nothing to do with each other They I was looking online they say 83 percent of married men cheat. So, you know, I Didn't see the women but I didn't see I didn't look up the woman But I'm pretty sure some women are cheating too. I have a friend. It's always saying there. There's married women in his inbox so Marriage doesn't stop cheating. It just it kind of like gives you a comfort zone And if you if you want to cross and go cheat somewhere, and you know and do whatever you need to do Marriage doesn't stop that. Okay Okay, do you think all men cheat I Think a very very high percentage of them do I think if they were give okay I think if they were give if all men were given the opportunity to cheat and Get away with it. I Think 99% of them would okay. I'm just gonna say that It's 32 old to pull a rich man when you look like you're 24 No, just go for someone who's a little older and some some rich men like, you know Mature women who look young, you know because they get damn more common. So as long as you look good and You know It's what they like. Yeah, I'm sure Mm-hmm. Okay What makes a guy a man not a boy? Well, a man is a responsible person who can provide and protect for a family Who has goals who's striving? And Someone who people can look up to brag about, you know someone who You can be proud of, you know not someone who's begging or Asking for things all the time making excuses for why, you know, they're not where they want to be in life You know running out on responsibilities not being good father or husband. Blah blah blah. That's a boy. Okay, that's someone who wasn't ready Okay. Oh my gosh Sorry, y'all had my alarm went off on my phone for something. I don't know why Am I supposed to be doing something? Oh well So let me read these comments So I'm saying even if they love their women, they still cheat just because they can and Yes, okay. Okay Men are different than women. They're driven more by physical lust Okay, then anything that's why strip clubs and sex sells and they got women having to get women selling cars That's why any woman can, you know talk themselves Into, you know, getting what they want from them because they don't think The same way women think okay, it's not about love. It's about getting what they want at the moment. It's about gratification. It's about The climax it's not about oh, I see myself with this woman for the rest of my life It's gonna be marriage and babies and love and oh, that's the nurturing side of You know, which is women men are like hunters, you know, they want to spread their seed They they they're like more like You know wanting to have sex and be physical they want to touch they want to be intimate and then You know, they can do that with just about anyone, you know So it's not it doesn't make it about love because if you think about it ask the average man How many women they slept slept with and then ask them how many of those women that they loved Okay, so yeah, it's not about love with men. That's why to catch a man You have to put it on How do you ask for allowance without sounding greedy what words should you use I need some money, okay? I Need some money That's how you ask you don't ask you say you tell them I need some money. I'm sorry. You don't ask you till How do you get him to marry you Have other options Have other options and let him know that you have other options and Let him know that it's either it's either him or somebody better than him. Okay Also, you know, you have to Be peaceful and calm you can't think too much with your emotions You can't overreact on anything because when someone a man is deciding that he wants to marry you He's he's watching how you act in certain situations so if you're always blowing up and explode and getting mad kicking them out or Leaving and packing up and blocking his number. That's chaos and no man wants to come home to chaos. So if you act Keyword act peaceful nice Smile more have less attitude You can have attitude in the back of your mind and get them back get them back later But you don't show that if you're trying to get married you just blow it off. Oh It's okay, don't worry about it, you know No big deal. Oh Yeah, I'm cool. Don't worry about it. You know what? I Know that it sometimes this happens and you know things get out of hand and you know be just because you know, I Wasn't comfortable with it. It doesn't mean anything. It's just something that bothers me. That's my problem You know play it off and then when you get married then you then you can do whatever you need to do I'm trying to read. Okay What's the name of? See Shira our divorced divorced Or our divorce guys worth the time Yeah, because they've had practice and they basically halfway been tamed What if his friend sees you as a gold digger then he has broke friends Because if they don't have women like you As well that means they're just jealous they can't afford a woman like you, okay What about personal items such as lovers wanting to go through your phone, etc. Lovers? No Fiancé's husbands may be They have private settings on phone so you can hide stuff. Okay, even if you let them go through your phone There's places where there's hidden stuff and you have to have a code to get in there But I feel like Most people are pretty good at hiding stuff anyway, so if you went through their phone You probably wouldn't find nothing unless they're stupid and have a low IQ Don't know how to delete stuff. I don't know Do you stay with a bipolar man? No? Goodbye I have a story about a bipolar man This girl I went to mortuary school with she dated a bipolar man Was engaged to a bipolar man and he almost killed her her father had to shoot him with a shotgun because He was in one of his bipolar moments and Was and was trying to murder her so Bipolar if you're talking about real bipolar, you know mental disorder. No No, because what if they go off their medication and I saw this thing on TV where this guy was bipolar and He killed his two kids and the wife came home. She she went to go get her hair done and He seemed perfectly normal, but when his mental illness kicked in when she came home Her two kids were dead and he was just sitting there saying I didn't mean to do it And he called 911 on himself so bipolar is a no-no. Goodbye Let me see Okay, so this video was mostly about poverty dating so I Don't respect anyone who stays in a poverty environment due to love Okay, because that means you love that person more than you love yourself and You can't love someone unless you love yourself. So it's not even real love. It's infatuation. Okay, or or being desperate I feel like Any woman who has to make excuses for her man? He's not a man. He's a boy. Okay. Mamas make excuses for their sons Okay, so no You got to get out of that feeling sorry for and loyalty and all that kind of crap You got to have loyalty to yourself and have goals for yourself If you don't have goals for yourself and you letting somebody drag you down You don't love yourself and they will never respect you either because you stayed there, you know It's like they they feel like you know, you can't do any better. That's why you stay in there with them You know, and they're always paranoid. You're gonna leave because they know this ain't right Okay, how does a woman break the cycle of poverty when her parents are still in poverty and see nothing wrong with it? My mom thinks my standards are too high Well, you just keep going. Okay, you know the truth. You know your standards are high For a reason because you don't want to be poor and you just tell her look my standards are high because I don't want to be poor Okay, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be poor You know, if that's where you feel like You know, it's a because you have to think about it a long time ago poverty was taught as a good thing To keep people at a certain economic level. So you can't You can't fall into that trap. We already know now. It's not a good thing All right, bros on fleek Thank you. I Drill me in good today. Didn't I? What if he says I'm gonna have to understand him saying no to him buying me certain things as I get older? Well, then tell him you'll get someone else to buy them Okay, sick. Oh, no worry. I'll still get what I want. Maybe not from you How do you get your rich ex back? Oh my gosh Any time you ever want to get somebody back you have to date someone better or lie and say your date someone better Put pictures of somebody will rich your stuff on your Facebook put pictures of somebody's nice car and you next to it with them I don't care if you got a photoshop it. Okay That's how you get someone back You act like you moved on to something bigger and better. Okay, what do I think about police officers? Okay, I live next door to a sheriff and on the other side. I live next door to a DEA and So far so good. They haven't you know They're just like normal people. But when I guess when they get on their job, they get this power trip Okay, so one side is a black DEA agent and the other side is a white sheriff So, you know, they're nice they speak to me but as far as how they act When they're doing their job, I feel like you know, it's just how they were raised what they believe How they treat people Like for example, like I've been mistreated by a black cop, okay I've been treated really nice by a black cop I've been treated really nice by a white cop really treated really nice by Hispanic or Latino cop You know, they've never had any trouble with me except for one, you know But that was my fault because I cussed him out, but I've never I've never had any problems My brother never had any problems My mom never had any problems. So like I can't speak from personal experience except for the one time I did have a problem because I cussed one out But, you know Let me tell you that story because that's interesting. Okay, so I this cop undercover cop black guy, right? I'm okay. I'm at this really nice bar at this really nice restaurant and I'm drinking and I have about three drinks and he comes up to me. He says, you know, what's your name? How are you? He's trying to like talk to me and I'm like, oh, I'm good. I'm fine So he tries to get my phone number and I turn him down Because I you know, I'm dating the guy that I'm that I married to now, but I was dating him, but he wasn't there So he gets mad. He says, okay. Well You can't leave the bar because you've had three drinks and you haven't eaten anything And I'm like, well, then let me order some food then blah blah blah blah. He's like, no, you have to leave now and I'm like what So because I did not, you know Give him a phone number or was showing him any interest He wanted to say I couldn't drive home and I'm like, I'm gonna drive home. I had three drinks. This ain't nothing, you know I'm not Toxicated and blah blah blah blah blah. So he was like, well, I'm gonna have to call the police on you to come And get you if you don't Cooperate and so I was like fine. I'll call cap whatever I'll call cap But while I was sitting there waiting on I was cussing him out I'm like, you know, it's pretty sad and pathetic that you know You approach me and I you know deny you because I'm dating someone You should respect that and blah blah blah blah and then and then he's gonna say well That's why I don't date black women and I said You know, the part where Medea gets mad and her eyes get lights up I'm thinking of something back to say, right? Oh my god It's gonna go down. So what I said is well, you know what? The reason I don't date cops is because y'all don't make a lot of money I said my man makes way more money than you And that's the real reason that I wouldn't give you the time of day or my money or my or my number And he just got upset. He was like Trying to figure out something and I was like, oh, don't worry about it. He's black I said I said I do like date black man, but I do date black man who made money I didn't date no cop by so Two weeks later I see him again, right? I'm sitting at another bar in another restaurant with my friend this time and uh, who's the girl He walks in he looks around he sees me turns around walks right back out because he because he already know I'm gonna tell everybody at that bar what happened So, you know, sometimes cops try to use their status and power to you know Get women and when the women reject and they get mad. So that's that's my experience, you know And I had to be honest with him because I was so upset I'm trying to read some of these things How much money do you think a man should make to support his wife? I just answered this a little while ago if you're if you don't have any kids I'd say a high five figures if you got kids you got you need six figures Especially if you want them to have any kind of future in life and enjoy it okay um Okay, so I guess I'll just get back to talking about something um You know, I have a lot of trolls on this channel and most of them are men because they're upset at um The way that I think and the standards that I have but It hasn't gotten me but it hasn't gotten me, you know in a bad place It works. So I don't know why they're mad. Um, I feel like A lot of men are stuck in transition like they're stuck and they don't know how to get ahead Or you know instead of watching these videos, you should be watching how to get rich videos how to invest videos, you know How to grow your money videos how to you know Start a business video. I don't know why y'all up it over here. We don't want y'all anyways Okay, anybody who's offended by a gold digger or have you know problem with a gold digger You're not even a target. So I don't even know why you're here unless you just want to look at me. Okay? I'll appreciate that but um Y'all need to be on some other videos on how to get paid not here Like someone okay and a lot of guys will get upset Like the trolls and brag about how much they make and they'll they'll put it in the comments I'm like, I'll make more money than that on my youtube channel sitting here talk trash. Okay So no, that's not a lot of money to me next Um And I'm just brutally honest because sometimes people need to hear the truth it might hurt But when you get knocked down you get back up and you and you keep going and you do better, you know Um, I cussed this man out on youtube a couple years ago. He he came back and said thank you for putting me in my place and telling me You know what I was doing was was backwards and now I have a good job. I'm glad to get married Uh to this girl that I was trying to date but she wouldn't date me because I didn't have nothing and now That I'm responsible and you know making money. Have a good job with benefits We're about to get married and she's gonna have a baby and you know after we get a house and so he got on track It was it basically what it took was somebody telling him And all the comments agreeing with it That he was in the wrong because some men they don't have fathers They don't know how to be husbands. They don't know how to be boyfriends. They don't know that you're supposed to do certain things They don't know that they've been taught other things like oh You know ask for half the rent. Oh, you know, um Don't pay on dates. Oh, you know Blah blah blah they've been told the wrong thing and that's why they can't really get ahead in life Because when you don't respect women You know You just gotta have you have bad luck when you don't respect but look at all the countries on on the planet who mistreat women Okay They always at war They all you know, it looks it looked bad. You nobody want to go there You know, look at that. Okay when you mistreat women Everything collapses around it. So y'all gotta y'all gotta do better. Okay Respect women. That's how you got here Okay men sponsoring for plastic surgery now. I love that making themselves useful Let me tell you a story about that. Okay, my sister had a man pay for her. Um She had some bags under here That would never go away. It's like puffy And she had um this guy she wouldn't even date him for real. She was just like He's sleeping with him, I guess. Um She had him Pay for her eye surgery I have other family members that have done the same thing with other people, but you know I don't need plastic surgery girl. I'm good the way I am He just got paid for makeup my husband Okay, I'm gonna put my contact information if y'all want a consultation I'll put that in the description bar after the live feed is gone It's all it's over so y'all can check there because I have people asking me in the comments how you get in contact with me I'm gonna put my email address Or I'll just say it now and you can write it down L P D U A 11 At yahu.com Yeah, I'm still in yahoo Okay, I'm trying to read some questions that are like, you know Interesting, okay Okay, well, I'll just put it in the description box and you can or you can find me on facebook Same name You know what I'll put my Website For my readings and then you can go through the contact section that will get me for sure Um Yes, that's how it is and it's it's all lowercase though Someone asked me how I feel about the state of the black family. Um Most black families like most other families are dysfunctional And black families are worse because most of them are stuck in poverty Um, and they don't know how to get out of it. So I feel like Most families that have to struggle And you know do all those type of things black or white have issues. Okay I just I just feel like money can solve a lot of those problems and in education So I feel like if people were more educated and had higher standards There would be less problems That's how I see it. Okay. If the mess the poorer you get the messier things get Okay Anyway, let me see what else y'all are saying I'm trying to read the back comments to see if there's anything that I missed Um How long do you wait to ask a man to pay for a major cosmetic surgery? I don't know. I don't know. I never had any plastic surgery. So you had to ask my sister She didn't wait too long. No, she waited about a month But see when you when you have okay, let me tell you how to do this like I already told y'all If you claim to have dated men with more money These men with money are going to try to compete by spending money So your ex-boyfriend even if they're fake A real has to be richer than your current target Okay, um, for example, you could say oh, I used to date such and such or some type of basketball player or You know something believable, you know a ceo to some company make it up You know and he bought me this and that and he paid for this and that and you know if you're already used to such treatment and You're dating someone who has some money They're gonna they're gonna be more willing To compete with that because they know If you leave them you're just gonna go on to some other guy that has money too And you're you're just gonna think he he was broke in fronting Okay, so you got to lie Yes lie Even if all your exes was broke say you used to date some rapper. I don't know just I Used to date, you know, this isn't that person, you know photoshop a picture. I don't care, but just make it up It will up your auntie. It will up your value. I promise you Back in my day, we didn't have photoshop. So like I really did date some guys with more money than my husband. He knew it. That's why He was he felt lucky to have me because he's like, oh my god, you dated this person You dated that person or you you went out with that person. Yeah I did. Okay. So they're less likely to say no to you because they know you can do better I says Arab men don't get serious with women outside their race. That's true. I had a lot of Ladies who dated Arab men for many years and thought that they were going to marry them But they don't usually don't marry outside their culture or religion. They just using you for sex because you know It's a no-no in their country to have sex and some of their countries to have sex before marriage So you just getting used. Okay Okay, um Someone said same with indian family. Yeah, let me tell you about my indian ex-boyfriend because I used to date an indian guy Y'all gonna laugh. Okay, so I used to date this indian guy and y'all gonna laugh why I dated him Okay, please don't laugh I dated him because he looked like michael jackson He looked like did he look like michael jackson from the thriller era. Okay He was a trinidadian indian. Okay But like I wasn't trying to get serious with him. Anyway, I just want I just want the thrill get it the thriller. Okay, so Yeah, he was fun And You know, I just when I date guys like that When I dated guys like that that I knew were never gonna marry me and I was never gonna marry them You know and nothing against indian guys Um, I just knew that their culture was very different than mine and you know, um, probably was never gonna happen because You know just differences and plus we were young So I just had fun. I just had fun without learned about other cultures or things, you know But I I feel like a lot of indian guys were into me Oh, because that was another one that that I dated and he had like an an english accent after that and he was really cute We dated for a while, but I know he was saving himself for his wife. So we never really did anything But we had a lot of fun, but Yeah It's good to date outside when you're young to to experience But like the type of person you want to marry that's who you like give all your energy and effort to Like if you're just gonna date for fun date for fun, you know Not every boyfriend you have has to be your future husband or your soulmate You just this is this is a bucket list, you know Because when you get married you're gonna want to think back on some of the guys you dated and be like, oh my god I'm so glad I dated him. Oh my god. Now, you know You're just gonna have all these great memories Of all these, you know guys that you dated and in like When you're like on your 16th year of marriage, you can kind of go back and think about oh my god, I was I had good life, you know, I had fun. I I remember that one guy, you know, we you know And you're not you're not gonna get bored with your husband and be like I need to go find another man because I didn't have a lot of Of different guys when I when I was single and I was just waiting on this one person Now I'm curious to see what else is out there That's why a lot of women are cheap because they didn't experience enough before they got married And that's why a lot of men cheap too because they didn't have enough experiences Before they got married and knowing some cultures you're supposed to wait till you get married and That's it. But do you know how curious people are? I wonder how sex is with this type of person You know, I wonder what sex is with that type of person. They're gonna be curious and they're gonna go figure it out You know, if you already know what it is, then Then you don't need to worry because you already know what it is. It's like, yeah, that was good. I was You know Okay, let me read what's in the comments Okay Please talk about ambitious women. Should we hide our ambitions in front of it? Yes Why because men are threatened And a lot of us will say that they're not But secretly they are. Okay. If you make more money than a man If you have more goals than a man, if you're more focused than a man, they're gonna start feeling like your child So Like my mom says and no no no offense against blonde people. She said you got to put on your blonde wig Okay My mom says you got to put on your blonde wig whenever we go shopping or whatever and she needs help or She was like, let me put on my blonde wig and ask for some help And she just means figuratively if you don't really have a blonde wig, okay Talk about long distance relationships. I don't like them. I would never recommend one unless You don't have anything else going and that's just the best thing you can do and that's the best you can do you know Or have them as a side relationship Because the does never works out it never works out because A man is a man they they have needs a woman a woman has emotional needs and Yeah, those can be easily fulfilled through the internet and the phone But a man has physical needs and so does a woman but you know, men are more likely to act on there So I don't feel like they work Unless you have some type of arrangement or agreement If you can't live in the same city as me, you don't live me. Okay. Bye You can't move across the country for me then we we're not meant to be that's what I'm saying How do you tell a man he has to have a successful career to be with you? Um Just tell him, you know, okay He'll be like, well, what are you looking for in a man? And that's when you don't I'm looking for A man who goal driven has a career has a career not Wants a career but has a career Okay, you just tell him like Uh, well, he'll be like, well, what are you looking for? Oh, I'm looking for a really nice start off with the obvious A really nice guy, you know, a healthy attractive man You know, not married career oriented, you know has a career you know is Very adamant about reaching his goals in life and if they don't have that they're going to exit the building And onto the next, you know, so you just mention it. That's that's a requirement, you know Some guys will mention straight up. I want a woman with no kids Some guys will mention straight up. I want a woman who you know, who's independent and You just say that you don't scoot around it because you're wasting time Okay, I'm trying to see what time it is. Okay How do you not care what men think about mistakes you've made? Forgive yourself If you think you made a mad mistake and You don't forgive yourself then you're gonna value what other people think So if you've already forgiven yourself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because you already forgiven yourself, you know Um, if you've done something that a man can't forgive then go find another man who don't know about it. Okay Or make him forget by reminding him of something he did Let me see Guys with careers don't mind women who are on their way and still going to school or working Their way up. Okay How do we get men to approach us? Well You got to look good smell good act feminine Um act like you're not looking for them, you know act like you're already happy without them Act interesting like you know act like If they don't come over and see what you're about they're missing out, you know what I'm saying I I feel like men will approach you If you don't look desperate and like you want them to approach you, you know If you're with a big group of people, they're not gonna approach you, you know, if you're alone and looking confident Um, they're more likely to approach. So if you go out with a bunch of girls It's harder Or you could go to the bar by yourself every once in a while get away from that crowd and make it easier to approach Help my mom gets bad vibes about my boyfriend. What do I do? Most women most women are most mothers don't like some of their Children's boyfriends because they they are they can already see what they're about because they're older and wiser And they've already dated someone just like them. Okay. They already know What he plans to do what kind of person he is if he's a loser, they already know that so listen to mama She knows okay, but sometimes we got to live and learn and find out for ourselves So that we can know and not repeat the same mistake or date the same person type of person again because that my mom hated my ex-boyfriend and I was in love with him but When I woke up when my eyes opened when that love You know Vail listed I understand why she didn't like him and I was I was dumb enough to waste You know a year with him. So mom see things you can't so Just just say well, let me figure it out for myself. I know he's not the perfect person But let me see that so that the next person I date I won't Choose the same type, you know, that's how you do that So just let her realize you got to figure it out. You got to date bad losers too to know what a winner is Okay, not saying your boyfriend's a loser, but You know, whatever she's seeing at him that she doesn't like you're gonna see it sooner or later anyways Okay, going back to these comments Someone asked me that earlier. Do I think all men cheat? I think most men cheat That's my answer What do you think about dating multiple men not sleeping with them until one marries you? I think you're gonna in America if you live in America You're gonna have to sleep with somebody before you get married because they want a test drive Okay, and and what if you get stuck with a man that you're not You know compatible with um I say if you're gonna date multiple men Um To make sure they're worth it like if you lose one, you know, the other one got you Uh or vice versa. I don't think you know because men date multiple women all the time Like, you know, I feel like it's up to you as a person and how you feel about what you're doing um I always like to have plan B that men who will wait on you And worship the ground you work walk on while you're dating this guy and you that one don't work out plan B is right there to pick up the slack and I feel like plan B is better than multiple dating because that can get messy and in a disaster Let's see What if you get stuck with a broke? Oh Must take a test drive. Okay. Sorry to be close. Okay Oh Okay, whatever you get stuck with the broke penis um What are your thoughts online about online dating? I make two on daylight I'm at losers on there. I hear stars online dating. Okay. I think people who do online dating Are cheap and can't afford to go out and date for real Okay, or meet someone in person because you know a profile picture with filters on it taken like this With lighting look totally different than this Okay So if you got to be on uh online dating profile There's something wrong with your personality where you can't meet people in And um public and date online at the same time You know, I understand is you know If you have a dating profile online and you meet people Look look them up or go to dating profiles that have Standards like that people have to pay for and you go to one that a man has to actually pull out his credit card And pay to be on this dating website. You know, he's serious about finding somebody You know, he's got money You know this and that so don't go to the cheap ones go to the the ones with the man with money Okay, millionaire match.com. They screen these men to see how much money they make per year before they can even get on there You got to go to the ones that are serious. You can't just go to the little ones anybody can get into you have to Date online exclusively. Okay like uh If when I used to date online back in the old days when it first came out, okay, because I'm old like I would make sure that that person I'll make sure I saw everything take a picture of your car. Take a picture of your house. Take a picture of this Take a picture of that. Okay. Let me see. Um You know Because back then they didn't have those type of dating Websites now they do now you don't have to do all of that, you know So Yeah, a lot of people date on a certain website because it's popular or like tender or whatever But you know, I I'm gonna save my time You know, if I was dating in these days, I would go straight to millionaire online dating calm or match calm or something or you could see how much these people make, you know, because like I said, you know No, there's no romance without finance, you know, and You could you're gonna meet losers all the time you might be compatible with losers, too But you're also compatible with people with money. So Who can help you and do things for you and give you a good lifestyle And can afford to marry and can afford to start a family can afford to go on vacations and can afford to feed you, you know Go to the a lot of the websites are free for women and they make men pay. So find one of those Or invest in it, you know, this is your future You can't just go on anything because anybody can go in there, you know How do you deal with cheating men since you think every man cheats I feel like, you know what as a mature woman, I feel like Anybody can cheat a man a woman. So I feel like As long as everything else is in, you know, what you want it to be And you also can cheat. It's not it's not like big deal because okay, for example, if y'all see my video Let your man cheat It's using reverse psychology. If you don't want your man to cheat tell him Let's have an open relationship You know, if you already think he's cheating If you think he's cheating offer to have an open relationship. It's like, you know what I notice that, you know, I feel like you're wanting to Open the relationship up and you know date outside the relationship So, you know, I'm not mad at you or anything, you know, I understand because I've had those feelings too So since you've been dating outside the relationship I think we should discuss, you know If this is something we want to do You know, do we want to have an open relationship? He's gonna get mad because he don't he can't think about another man touching you Okay, and he's gonna think you already did so he's gonna get upset. He's gonna. Oh my god Is she gonna cheat on me? I need to stop cheating on her I need to be home every night at this time So she won't think I'm cheating and go cheat, you know, whenever she has free time So then he's gonna kind of end whatever he's doing And pay more attention to you check out you where you going, you know, what you doing You know, do you want to go? Then he's gonna start trying to be The person he should have been, you know what I'm saying? Because now He thinks that you found somebody that's possibly either could replace him Have sex with you and then, you know You know get up all In his territory, so he's gonna start acting right. That's what my video Oh, you know, let your man cheat means because a man is gonna cheat But if he feels like There's consequences That are just as bad he's not gonna he's less likely to do it, you know what I mean? He's gonna be like Because men are very territorial So if he thinks somebody Is sleeping with you because he's sleeping with somebody with permission It's not first of all, he's not even gonna get excited anymore because it's not sneaking around And you gave him permission to do it. It's not even exciting anymore. It's like, okay, she said I could do this Okay, now it's no more fun. Now. She knows what I'm doing. What is she doing? You know who she's sleeping with is he does he look better than me? If does he make more money than me? Is his penis bigger than mine? You know So all these thoughts and insecurities are gonna start whirling around in his head and he's not gonna want to cheat anymore he's gonna be like You know, and he might deny that he ever did but he's gonna be home. Okay If a man cheat does that mean he does not love and respect you know, like I said Earlier if y'all just tune it in if a man cheats it doesn't mean he doesn't love you It means he just wanted to have sex Okay, sex and love are two different things Okay Let's see. Let me go back If you find out your man is talking to some other woman, do you get up in the other woman's face about it? No You don't get in the other woman's face. It's your man who decided to cheat. Okay Um, that would be like if some guy approached you And winding down you And said, uh, you know, I really like you let's you know sleep together and you slept with them And then their girlfriend baby mama wife or whatever came up and got in your face It wasn't your fault. You have no idea this man was married or taken or whatever And if you did and you still decided to do it He's he's the one that pursued you. So, you know, that should be taken up with the man Um, women who are fighting over men look stupid Um, you know, it's really done if you want to tell a woman look your man been cheating on you with me I just want to tell you that's different But if you're gonna act a fool and go Jerry springer or someone, you know, that's why he cheating on you because You ratchet, okay Um, what do you think about dating a man who's in a relationship? um Like I said, all men cheat. So, you know, there's somebody dating a man in a relationship I don't really think anything of it. I don't judge people. I feel like you're gonna do what you're gonna do anyway and um I've dated me in relationships when I was single and You know didn't last very long Or I made them break up or something something happened, but you know A lot of that's how most people start dating, you know While other people are dating other people and then they break up. So it's not and it's not a big deal But I don't I don't feel like it's um Something that you should do on purpose, you know, it should just be under circumstance Like oh, I didn't know or they lied to me and we fell in love. It's too late. You know, blah blah um Talk about manifesting. Okay um manifesting is Willing what you want, okay Willing what you want creating what you want vibrating on the same frequency as what you want Okay, so for example, if you want a husband act like you're already married Not don't act like it with a man, but act like you would act if you are a wife, you know Go to the bar look good respectable. Don't show everything Don't be in everybody's face. You know act respectable act like a wife. You know what I'm saying So, uh, you know, if you're if you want to have a wealthy man, um Approach you act like the type of woman the wealthy man will approach, you know It's the law of attraction and you're manifesting you're thinking. Okay. Well, if I was to date a rich man This is how it dressed. This is how it looked. This is how it taught. This is how it act Uh, and that's what you would do And you walk around as if you date rich men and what what's going to approach you Rich man, okay, because that's what you're vibrating on you know, um also If you want something And you think about it you know every night and you think about How you're gonna feel when you get it and you think about all the things that you plan on doing when you get it And you're thankful for having it even before you have it. It's already on its way Okay, because you're already preparing for it Feeling how you're gonna feel when you get it So now the universe has to match that vibration by actually giving it to you and that's how you manifest You know, that's why confidence is key Faking it till you make it is key Because if you don't know what you want, you can't manifest it It's not going to be attracted to you if you don't even know what you want But first you got to know what you want Make plans of what you're going to do when you get it and then sit back and wait on it That's just basically it. It's very simple people complicate things By doubts and fears so Yeah, I know what you want have the confidence Will it when sit back and wait on it? It's coming, you know, and sometimes it comes faster Sometimes it comes slower but If you if you know what you want, it's on its way. If you don't know what you want. It's not on its way Okay, so figure that out first how to release fear just Don't stop caring what people think and stop caring about um, you know What you might lose think about what you could gain Okay, I'm trying to read some of these Dang, okay, um Okay, someone says the first thing a man does when he moves up the economic ladder is drop the woman that he was with When he had nothing That's true You very seldom see rich men with the first women they were with, you know, their original Wives spouses girlfriends they drop them. It's like I'm I'm done. I can afford what I really want. Okay um Because most men believe it or not They settle for what they can get And the more money they got You know, they want to upgrade their woman, you know They want to upgrade. They want to look like the next person with money walking with their, you know, 10 You know, they they want to look like they fit into the the world that they You know that they're economically in they want to look like they're fitting They can't fit in dragging around somebody that don't fit in, you know, that doesn't look the part So, yeah, that's why a lot of men will drop their day ones Even though they lied and said that they wouldn't You know Things change and they do Let's see What do you think about friends with benefits? I think they're good if you um Don't catch feelings for them and it is what it is Because a lot of times these women's be get these women be getting too attached I'm like, oh, we started off at friend with benefits and I think I love him now But he's dating other women and I don't want to know how to get him and blah blah When you signed up for that you signed up for no strings. So stop catching feelings. Okay If you're gonna have a friend with friend with benefits Then keep it like that. Okay. I'm gonna go fall in love with somebody else Let's see Yeah, someone said I only do friends with real benefits like money, right insurance Um Do you recommend keeping a dead beat dad from seeing his daughter if you have a rich man who wants to be the only father? Hmm. Um, I think morally that would be wrong But I can see why you would want to do it But I think morally and legally it could be wrong Uh, and then the child might resent you later on in life for keeping you from keeping them from their real dad So and if that man with money is so controlling, uh, you might want to Get some of that control because you know as a woman Um, if you let men control you, I don't care how much money they got it's not worth it. So you know Out you know what if it were me I would let the dead beat dad see the child and all the good stuff this rich man is doing for him For her or whatever this the child is a girl or boy. I will rub it all in up in his face. I mean like You know, I that's what I would do though, but I'm petty like that. So Okay, aren't benefits emotional for women not sexual um I think women get attached too easily to men Especially after they have sex with them If you're going to go into a mutual friends with benefits situation you have to Have you have to basically think like a man. This is just for satisfaction. This is just for satisfaction Nothing more no attachment. I have there's other people that I like you don't fit the deal. You're just some sex Okay, that's that so Basically a friend with benefit has to be someone you would never consider marrying You know get some if your friends with benefit is not broke with bad credit. Then you are probably gonna fall in love. Okay Oh, I know we have trolls here. That's okay. They make life more exciting If you don't have haters or trolls you have not arrived Okay, um, let's see How do you feel about older women dating younger men? Oh I don't I could never do it. I mean when I get old I wouldn't date I would never date younger men and when I get old you know I don't know. I'm probably gonna be single or widowed because my husband is older and I'm still look good but I don't think I could ever date a younger man I would feel like I would feel silly, you know Unless they were ugly, you know, they ugly then, you know, and you look good, but you're old and they ugly and young it could work but I feel like it people would look at you and Judge you a lot If you look ridiculously older than the the boy I Just I I don't know. I don't I don't feel any certain way about it, but I wouldn't do it You know, I need an old man. I'll get an old man with silver hair before I go date something younger. Okay Anyways Yeah And besides if you're dating a younger man, you know, I probably have to take care of them He dating the old one for a reason. Okay What did you get this top from this is a dress darling, um, this is from fashion nova and I forgot what it's called, but it's from fashion nova online um I like their website. They have very nice clothes for curvy bodies And a good price so fashion nova The quality is good. It's not like that cheap fabric. It's thick. You can't see through it. You know, it's good quality Yeah And that's why you can get a lot of your uh nice clothing for cheap like if you're dating Um, they have the latest trends. The price is good They have classy stuff and trashy stuff What colors are best when trying to attract amen And while out and about uh something Okay, men love red And they love anything that's sleek and sexy. Okay Um, I don't really really wear red. So like you can get close to red like a maroon Or a pink or something that stands out and looks feminine and sexy. I would do that like browns and blacks and blues They're not so eye catching. So uh, and then if you're sitting there in a very feminine color, they will more likely treat you like a lady What kind of shoes am I wearing? Oh, hold on. I'm not wearing them, but I'll show you what I plan on putting on these little faux suede, um lace up like heel shoes And this is this color is like a a taupe or a dark brown I don't know. It's like a gray and brown mixed together. That's what I'm wearing. That's my outfit I was actually going to go shopping today But I decided to go live with y'all. That's why I'm sitting here dressed up with no place to go I was like, let me save me some money You just go live Yeah Uh, let's see what dang that I zoom in. I'm gonna hold on. I zoomed in by accident Okay, there I go. Do you suggest women reading books about men before dating? Um, I think like reading a book would help And you would know the games that they're trying to play on you But they might know that too like you might sound too rehearsed, you know, so be careful with that Okay, I'm trying to read some bad comments. Okay Are fashion novus clothing size accurate? Yes, they are. I feel like they are. Um, but make sure if you get something fitted Uh, it's gonna be fitted. It's not gonna be baggy. It's gonna be fitted. So, um It's I think it's true to size. Um, if you're gonna if you're going to get the curvy They have a curvy section a curvy plus section and then the regular section Uh, if it would be more like a junior plus size not like the regular. So if you're going to shop in that department, um It's like more like junior plus, you know what I mean? It's a little bit smaller than regular. So Uh, say like an extra large What fit more like a large? Just saying just like go one size if you have if you have to Um See Do I think it's harder for darker women to find a rich man? No No, I don't people keep asking me this my I'm keep telling you about my friend Who was dark and she met Man with more money than my husband And she got married she she drove a BMW. He bought her a bar and a house and He's a white guy, but you know You go where you want it, you know, don't try to fit in where no one wants you You know, a lot of black men will not date darker women because they don't want their children coming out dark. Let's just say it. Let's just say it everyone has heard that, you know And People are attracted based on what they children what they want their children or an offspring to look like So it's been mentally put into their heads that oh if you date a dark person your child's gonna come out dark And they're gonna have a hard life because you had a hard life because you was dark And people told you that you weren't this and that but the truth is it's all what you believe You know, if someone told me that I was overweight in all my life and you can't get nothing if you're overweight You'll never go to uh, you'll never get married if you're fat If I believe that then I'll still be single. Okay So it's all about what you believe if you believe that then it's gonna be true for you If you don't believe that it's not true for you. Okay, if you want a certain type of man that don't want you then That's not very smart. You know You can't force people to want you The what, you know, if they don't love you for who you are then move on to someone who does You know what I'm saying? My mom is dark skin Is she been married five times? Okay She married a Puerto Rican a white guy You know what I'm saying? So it's not about that, you know It's about how you feel about yourself and what you're willing to accept and not accept Sorry, I have to plug in my phone So I don't like people feel sorry for themselves because they feel like color is an issue We'll go find someone who loves the color. You know what I'm saying go I'm not gonna go and try to find someone who wants a skinny petite, you know, short Asian woman Oh, they don't like me. No, I'm gonna find someone won't exactly what they see in front of them. Okay It says darker women have it hard. Well, you know, I feel like my mom had it really hard But she went with people who liked her dark skin. She married men who loved her dark skin And then her life became very easy okay so Get in where you fit in it's not about You can't be mad that someone does not Treat you right go where people treat you right, you know Demand demand good treatment. You know have your standards high If you're a standard if you walk into a room already defeated because you feel like they're gonna treat you bad because of your skin tone Then that's the frequency and vibration that you're putting out So that's how they're gonna treat you if you go on a room acting like you own it and you own the place And you're confident in your darkest skin They're gonna see that and respect it and they're gonna treat you with respect And I don't care how many people will disagree You know, it's not true and My my best friend that used to hang out with she was dark and the one I told you got married and you know We were single together and The men would approach me the men would approach her You know and She might have gotten mad if one that she liked approached me and didn't approach her But she got the she got the rich white man who bought her a bar a house a car You know what I'm saying? So In the end she won. Okay. She won She got nicer everything than me. Okay. She won. So her life is easier than mine now. Okay. I'm just gonna say it Um Yeah So in anyways, I don't think color is a problem. I think preference is a problem Like if they don't prefer you move on to someone who does If you feel like you're being mistreated go around people that treat you right. Okay. That's common sense Okay, let me read Okay, uh white men care more about body shapes than skin tones, right It depends on them. I don't know if they're old. They'll take anything Okay, if they're young they probably want you to be like a model. Okay So the older you get the more you're gonna eat. Okay, just put it out there Hi everyone who's saying hi Um Let's see. How do you deal with a guy who used you got what he wanted and left you You deal with it as a life lesson and you say never again. Well, let anybody use me I'm gonna use them That's how you become Wise, you know Now you already know what guys want and that they're just out to use you. So guess what? Some of them will use you some of them won't use you But you'll be able to spot the ones that want to use you Because you dated the user. So you'll see the red flags pop up. You'll see, okay That's what that last one did. Okay. I think you're trying to use me You know, you'll you'll be wiser and smarter for dating a loser. Okay um For me I would you know, I would just be like, you know what? I wouldn't be mad at it. I'd be like, okay, I was used. I was dumb. Okay. Now I'm smart and that will never happen again um If I thought bad thoughts about him and was mad at him and You know, somehow, you know a car hit him or something or a bad look happened to him, you know Oh, well, but you know if I'm not gonna really go and do anything or waste my time crying over it because you know, it happened and I'll be like, you know what? I would be more mad at myself for not seeing the red flags and then I would take the lesson You know, and then I would tell other people if I saw You know them dating a man who was a user. I was like, he's using you I see the red flags. I would help other people with the information and the knowledge that I gained like I'm doing now And help them because you know, you can turn that around you can turn that into helping people You can turn that into being able to see it in other people and you've gained more than you lost You know, okay, let's see I'm gonna see are y'all just having a conversation here. Huh? It says most women over 25 are bitter Um, well, that's because they've seen all the red flags and they see the red flags popping up all over you Okay, so if most women are bitter towards you It's because they see the red flags popping up everywhere on you. Ding ding ding red flag red flag So the more red flags that pop up the more bitter they get with you. Okay, they start off nice. Hi. How are you? Okay, you give them some kind of, um, you know Red flag Bitter strike number one Okay, another red flag pops up bitter strike number two. Yes, it's wrong because they're judging you based on someone else's action But if you keep, you know, if you act in like them and you're going down the same path As you know, the person Who wrong them, you know are doing they're not going to see you as you know Potential they're just gonna be bitter with you because they can see exactly the type of person That you could actually turn into they see your bad potential If you want to get someone who's not bitter you have to get someone who's not experienced You have to or somebody who don't care or who don't need you, you know, you have to get somebody who is dating multiple men Men with more money than you and Who don't even see you as potential They're not going to be bitter with you because they don't plan on being with you long Okay Or they don't plan on even falling for you Or you got to get someone really young who doesn't know any better Okay, how do you get your man to take you shopping? You don't get your man to take you shopping. You get his credit card number. Okay Or you start off online. Okay. This this is how I do it Okay, when he's laying in bed you get your ipad or your phone you start looking at stuff online And then he'll think you're texting somebody, right? Because you'll be smiling What are you doing? What are you texting? Then show them the the stuff that you're looking at, you know, the dress or the purse whatever. Oh, I'm looking at this Oh, how much is it then that now they know what you want now they know what you're looking at your price range Oh, it's um this much dollars, you know, I really want this I gotta figure out how to get this, you know, and then I'm like, oh Well, maybe I can give you some money towards it or Maybe we can go shopping this weekend or you know Because if he knows you want that kind of stuff and you like, you know, certain things aren't you want to go shopping Um, just like, you know and be joking. It's like give me your credit card. I'm gonna so I can buy it Don't you want me to have nice things? You know, you're in bed. Y'all are playful. Y'all naked You can get anything out of a man when you're naked So do that and then like make him agree to take you shopping or something at that time Get him while he's a bit Get his credit card number while he's in bed and you're on your phone. Just type it in and then save it for later Be like, yeah You know, I and then find him some stuff that he wants to And say, you know, you would look good in this, you know, oh my god, we should go shopping today I know there's a really cute store and they have the same type of clothes But it's less expensive than that. He's getting excited because he he knows he can spend less money And he's getting something too. So you get them all excited About the stuff online that's overpriced and then you say, well, I know where they sell the same type of stuff for cheap And you know, we can go shopping together and get get a cute outfit and go out, you know Make him get excited about it. You know, I was like, oh, you will look so sexy in this. Oh my god If you wore this, I would just be like all over you, you know, then he's gonna want to go buy Now pick out something you think I should wear. Okay Let him pick you something out and then he'll be trying to go shopping every week. I promise you. Okay Okay I see there are some trolls in here. Y'all just ignore the trolls like, you know They're just they're just here because they don't have any what else to be if y'all know what I mean I don't draw they broke They're single. So they're here. Welcome Anyways Just ignore them let let let them go back and see how stupid they look in the comments, you know Why are you here at 1 1 10 p.m? You supposed to be at work You supposed to be at school at work trying to earn some money, but you you own my video live Because you at home broke With no life. Okay At work making your money me too. I'm at work. That's my job. I heard you too. Okay Well, this is one of my many jobs I have many jobs people think I just sit around the house all day I have many jobs. I have many jobs. I do from home. Okay. I have online store I do readings consultations videos All this, you know I do I do I don't have to leave my house though. I can do it from my pj's Or I can do it and you know nice clothes It just depends on how I feel that day. So Okay, um Let's see a sure you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Oh, thank you. Yes, I know Answer what question I'll see. Um, let me go back up. How did a person mean? Okay, let's see Um My ex keeps coming and going he is rich and we we I can't see this. We were in love, but he thinks he can't afford me and then leaves again scared. Okay The best way to make a man come back permanently is to start dating a better man. I keep telling y'all Okay, he say he doesn't think he can afford you that means he needs to do better if he wants you, right and you know if If you if you have to do better like just like cps will take your child if you can't afford to take care of him You got to do better if you want your child back Um, you know If he's not forced or no not forced if he's not inspired to do better to get you back then He's reached his potential and that's it, you know, that's all he that's all he wants to reach If he feels like he can't afford you and he lets you go I think that's pretty nice because he's letting you go so that you can get something better You know if he keeps coming in and out of the picture Basically, what he's trying to do is see if that you've lowered your standards enough to be with him again So if you haven't then stop accepting him back, you know, encourage him to do better. It's like look If you Really want to be with me, you know Let's let's thrive to get you in a better position so that we can be happy, you know What are your goals, you know Don't you think you need to be maybe you can look for a job that pays more, you know For the same thing that you're doing because some people don't leave their companies out of loyalty Because they've been there so many years, but If you leave your company and go to another company and they're paying you like You know way more money for doing the same thing and you don't do it. That's dumb, you know Or if there's two classes you can take to put on your resume that will increase your pay Why won't you go take those two classes? You know what I'm saying? If you want to move up in life, you got to keep learning keep growing and keep striving You can't stay stuck and say this is good enough But you want nicer things or women you can't afford you got to keep going. Okay Okay, how do you keep your life as positive and productive as possible Don't care what other people think and do what you want to do be selfish That's how you keep it Not being selfish as far as not helping other people but putting yourself first And foremost when it comes to goals and when it comes to making smart decisions, you know You always put yourself First before you put anyone Because you know, even if you're a mom you can't take care of your kids if you're not a priority You know, if you don't take care of yourself if you don't make sure your credit is good If you don't make sure you have a savings account your kids are not going to benefit You know Put yourself first get yourself together Don't care about what other people think and only think about the things you want in life instead of the things You don't have you know Look at goals and not Coulda shoulda woulda you know Set goals. I think setting goals Is a way To stay positive because you have something to look forward to, you know Okay, let's see Okay, my question is where to meet men and how do you gain experience in dating if you don't have much dating Keep dating date going a bunch of dates, you know Even if you're not you don't have to marry the people you date You can just go and see what it is and how people react to you What they seem to like about you what they seem to don't like about you, you know, the kind of questions they ask You know ask them questions Just date for fun for a while. Don't even date to to have a relationship Just date for free food like most guys think women do Okay, go have fun. So just um make sure You don't um Give them more than they're giving you like for example Don't pay on dates. Okay That's not dating um If they want sex in return For a date then cut it short. We're like, uh, no or tell me on you. Um, I said time of the month Sorry Maybe next time and then don't ever call them back Okay, um I hate when guys want a coffee date. I leave them alone. Oh, yeah, I did a whole video on that I think that's how this whole trolling business that started that was the video that released the trolls Don't go on coffee dates. Oh my gosh But I go to Starbucks every morning every other morning If somebody asked me on date there, it would be like just driving through to drive through at mcdonald's to me Okay, it's not a big deal. Um Also people say well, it's just a place to get to know the other person then But you can do that over drinks at a bar. Okay, that's more of a date than a coffee shop, you know Um, you can do that over lunch You know You can do that over Something but coffee is like when people say you want to get coffee. It's like they're two chickens to say look I like you. Let's go out. I want to impress you. Okay, you there's no impressing with coffee. Okay So that's strike number one. That's not even a real date because the man can't even impress you. Okay So first of all, you're not impressed Coffee does not impress anybody second of all You know, even if you order the most expensive thing on the menu You know It's in a paper or plastic cup. That's not impressive either So, you know, you can't even get dressed up to show out, you know, show how you You know, show your full potential, you know, you can't even you put on some highlighter and a bunch of makeup and a nice dress You know and go to Starbucks You look overdone, you know, so your first impression has to be ugly or not even ugly but very Um, your first impression has to be like very neutral And what if that's not how you wanted to come off like what if he wants like look, I'm fabulous and I'm here You can't do that at Starbucks In the middle of the daytime, you can't come out with highlight on sleep and sparkle and shine the sun you know In a nice outfit, you're gonna look overdone So, you know, if that's the type of woman you are and you want to impress your date with, you know Your looks and your dress and your tire and your nice heels. You can't do that at Starbucks, you know with It just can't so you probably hold out for a better date where you can wear your nice nice outfit lashes and whatever you need to put on so you can feel you know Like you want to feel because some people I see people in Starbucks and shorts um flip flops, you know, uh, you know Stuff like that and I'm not going on a date where you can somewhere where you can wear shorts and flip flops and Not even wash your face No, that will take me somewhere better Okay, if I see them again, I'll block Okay, I bet Someone told me to block somebody if I see them again, I'll block them Um, okay, I blocked them Okay, hopefully they're gone. You can't see them no more. Okay Do you have a plan B? Ah Yeah, it's called insurance policy, baby Plan B is insurance policy um Because I'm I don't plan on leaving my husband This depth to us part. Okay. That's my plan being insurance Um, I plan on being a widow I don't think I'll ever remarry Um Don't want to remarry don't need to I'll have money Okay, so So plus, you know, when you have kids you don't want to rush to remarry after their dad, you know passes away You know and plus if I marry someone they don't have to have way more money than me And that's that's gonna be hard to find so when the insurance policy kicks in that's gonna be hard to find So I might as well stay single. You know what I'm saying and just hold the honor Okay You know Maybe I'll be like uh Beyonce's mom and wait till my kids get grown and have kids then I'll get remarried. Okay Okay Yes Anyways, let's see what else y'all are saying Don't be late to work now Somebody said there's gonna be late to work Somebody somebody's mad because I'm telling the truth. Don't be mad because I'm honest Um You should be more worried if I'm sitting up here lying to you guys, you know Y'all should be more worried about a liar. Okay, at least I'm honest with mine At least I know who I am and what I want a lot of people y'all don't know that You know People keep telling me to write a book write a book You know what I'm gonna get that software That you just talk and it types whatever you're saying And that's I'm gonna write my book because I don't I don't like typing And editing and all that kind of stuff. I I hate it Um, so I'll leave the software and then maybe I can do it What if he does not take you out on a proper date? Um Perhaps Okay, I had to block someone so if he doesn't take you out on a proper date. I think He's not trying to impress you and if a man is not trying to impress you I mean, he don't value you Okay You're not the one and you're not special and you're not Worth impressing so cancel it or don't go back out with them. Okay Yes If if if your date is not trying to impress you It's not a date Yeah, you're just someone they're sitting up to have sex with later on when the real person that they're probably Going to take on a proper date shows up yours is like the placeholder. Okay I will I want to write a book I let me look for that software online y'all because I hate typing. Um I'm looking for the software where you speak and it types And then edits itself How can I get up my boyfriend of four years to propose? He wants to wait until he can afford a nice ring and he wants to wait until I'm out of school Y'all they're building a house behind me I think that's smart because Obviously, he knows that if he doesn't have his stuff together And he's not responsible enough to save up for a ring And you know, you're out of school and school is paid for and done with That the marriage is gonna the engagement or the marriage will have problems. So respect that You know, I feel like At least he just didn't say no and you know, I don't want to marry you. It's like He he's trying to do right, you know, let him do right. You're in school. Okay it's like That's why a lot of women date older men because they can already afford the ring They don't have to wait and work and save and scrunch, you know To buy something small You know But if you're in love with someone that's your own age and y'all are both in school or whatever whatever Then you have to respect that you have to wait You have to wait or you gotta You gotta sell something or you gotta wait, you know And or Go into debt, you know, don't go into debt over no ring. Okay If your man can't afford to buy your ring straight up Then let him save for it Should should she start dating another man to speed things up? No, because he's trying to do right like I feel like if he tells you He wants to buy you a nice ring And wait till you're out of school You know, I think that's Having their priorities in order, you know Because some men will sit up and say, oh, I want you to have my baby Not even being in school not even asking about a ring not even talking about a ring. So Wait, you know, if you think it's an excuse not to marry you or get engaged to you And you think he's just putting you off Then, you know, let's just you know, ask him to buy you a promise ring, you know A little small promise ring doesn't have to be a diamond Just a promise ring at least you have something to put on your finger, you know auntie fee Somebody's talking about auntie fee And then somebody said she died. Did she die? Or she was missing. I don't know You know what a lot of these people that troll have like multiple accounts. That's how you know, they're like a professional troll That doesn't have a real job When you have eight accounts To troll on you know, you ain't got no life You got eight emails That's sad Okay, let me see How to train your man to being in your puppet, okay You gotta put the fear in them. You gotta make them fear losing you To someone better not just someone random but someone better Okay Men hate to think of the fact that you're doing better when you leave them or that they can lose you to someone better That's why you always have to remind them, you know Like I'll give you all a good example So I don't like cleaning, right? I hate cleaning the house. I hate sweeping vacuum and mopping. So I tell him look I hate mopping. I hate cleaning I don't want to do it. He says but but you you don't even work. You stay at home. It's like I do work I do I work online and it's like well I say and plus if I would have married, you know, such and such and such we would have had a mate and I wouldn't I never I never pictured myself cleaning up As a wife, you know, like being married unless it's like dishes or something like you have to do But I'm not scrubbing and mopping and sweeping and all that kind of stuff, you know I might sweep a little bit, but I'm not doing all that hard manual labor. I'm not scrubbing toilets and stuff like that because I feel like I deserve a mate I said I must have been royalty in a previous life because I can't do it. I'm sorry, you know when when I When I used to date all the guys I used to date they had cleaning services, you know So now guess what we have cleaning service Um, you just have to you just have to let them know like that's not That's not okay. You know, I don't I'm not going to yield That's something that's something I will not compromise on, you know um That's just something that you're gonna have to Tell him look, you know This is what I want if you can't do it. I'm not doing it, you know So basically, yeah, don't Don't cave in Get what you want, okay I always get what you want if you can't get for what you want from your man, then he ain't your man You should be able to get what you want from your man like My husband knows um The count my dream car, right? um I know his dream car, you know Every time we see it we like oh look, there's your dream car. Oh look, there's your dream car Oh, he tells me. Oh, you know, you can have that one day, right? You can have that if you want it, you know, I'll I'll give you this. I'll give you the down payment and da-da-da, you know I can have what I want, but I'm but I have to be smart. It's like no, no, no Because that down payment can pay for us to start a business or that down payment can pay for a franchise that we can buy or that down payment can be like, you know part of the college tuition for Layla Sasha, I think I don't need that, you know Let's invest. Let's let's let's build our money so that You know, if I want that in two three years, I can just go buy cash. Okay A lot of people go into debt by Buying stuff Instead of investing and building Wealth first they will buy the stuff that people can just pay cash for wealthy And then they'll put themselves in debt over it what you got to do like my next door neighbors, okay One of them the dea his wife She used to work at a post office and now she doesn't so They're getting ready to buy a franchise a Chick-fil-A franchise And so she has to go work at Chick-fil-A to get the experience in order to be able to own the franchise. Okay so she and she drives a Old car, okay her car is not even You know in this in this decade But she's getting ready to be an owner of a Chick-fil-A. Okay. That's how real wealthy people think They don't think flash they don't think, you know, oh, I'm gonna get this nice car But I'm gonna be in debt and have to struggle to pay for it and my kids aren't gonna be able to go to school When she when she finishes what she's doing and she owns that Chick-fil-A. She's gonna be able to buy whatever car she won't Whatever car her kid wants, you know, I'm saying when they get old enough to drive And maybe have a second car, you know what I'm saying? So you gotta think smart like poverty people poverty minds do not Do not think like this. They think oh, I want to be seen. I want to flash You can't you can't do that like right now The car that I drive is a jeep. Okay I could have had the car want it because I pay like I pay triple my car note So I can pay my car off quick Okay, because that's gonna be Layla's car when she turns 16 And then then I'm gonna go get my dream car because I'll by then I'll have More than a couple of businesses started. That's that's my plan. Okay, you got to be smart If you're gonna date a man with money and have the means And money to to play around with make money off of it. Don't just spend it on purses and shoes. Okay Y'all see I shop at Fashion Nova. I'm not I'm not up in uh, you know The designer stores I have a nice house You know, so I use if you're gonna date a rich man use that to your advantage To build something for yourself and your kids too. Okay, don't just spend up the money because like my sister did that She bought a bunch of Gucci purses and shoes and didn't save anything Didn't start any businesses and then they divorced and you know, she's left With not that much but she you know, she did get a settlement but You know for all the money she spent on shopping She could have been super rich by now. She could have had like four franchises You know Anyways Buy a business even if it's an online business Okay I'm trying to look back in the comments Who's who's trolling uh, write their name out and I'll just Look for them as they pass by I see one. I'm a I got this one. Hold on block Look Gosh, there's so many unemployed people that are online trolling. God Y'all need to be watching how to get rich videos How to get a job videos. Y'all need to be on this channel. Okay, because you ain't gonna get no woman if you're broke. Okay Okay, let's see someone asked me if I'm a she-mail If I was you know, even if I was a she-mail I Would tell you like I'm not gonna sit here and pretend or I'm honest about everything else Why wouldn't I be honest about being a man? Um I would not want to be a man like I don't want I would not want to be a man Even if I died and came back I would still want to be a woman. I don't Think that life is easier for me. I think life is easier for women. I feel like That's why a lot of men turn into women because there's lots of perks, okay If I was a man I would be a she-mail Okay, but I'm a woman. So I'm stuck with being a woman. But if I were a man I will still look like this because women have it much easier They can get what they want because men are driven by looks and sex And most of the time women can kind of manipulate and get what they want. So I understand why some men Would want to be a woman They feel or some some that's one of the reasons and some of the reasons is like, you know, they they maybe were born Feeling like a female. I don't know. Uh, but Even if I was a man, I would be a proud she-mail, but I'm not I'm a woman. You know, I got ovaries. I had kids, you know, so Sorry Plus men are more flawless than women. Like if I was a man, I'd have this Pronounced, you know I don't know I'd have bigger teeth, you know bigger hands Um, but I'm pretty tall for a woman. I'm 5'10. So You know, okay, let's see If I was a she-mail, I'd still be winning. That's right I would still be winning Can you show your booty Unfortunately, I am a married woman and I respect You know my husband and if my butt Would get me more views, you know And I was single I might be one of them instagram um People taking pictures of my butt But I think this is my greatest asset right here. Okay Besides When I was young butt pics would did not exist. Okay when I was young It was all about boobs and teeth. Okay Now it's about butt first It's like, you know how baboons take pictures They take pictures of a baboon's butt No, it's not to me Unless you're someone's taking a picture of you and they Focusing on your butt. I think the butt pic is like very unclassy. I'm just sorry. I'm sorry I'm not judging. I'm just saying I wouldn't do it. Okay. I wouldn't do it at um, I feel like It's kind of like saying this is the best part of me. Look Oh, and here's my face just in case you wonder what I look like So no not not showing you my booty Okay, if I'm saying I see trolls so I try to block them when I do see them Like like calling me a she-mail. It's not really really offensive because They look good. True. If you go if you think I'm a she-mail. Thank you. I mean, I did something right. My makeup is on fleek You know Because they don't play around. Okay um So to me, that's a compliment. You think I'm a man. That's a compliment. That means I'm I did a good job today on my makeup Okay, anyways Well, I've been on here probably for an hour and a half I think that's a little long. So I'm about to wrap it up. So if y'all have any last questions um Go ahead and put them in the comments Thanks Would you want to come back as a black woman? Of course Because I don't age as fast, you know, um darker skin ages slower. That's scientific. Um Let's see. I know like I know women who are in their 60s who still look like 30 So of course, you know, I think melanated skin Ages a lot slower. Like, you know, um, like I don't have to have Botox. I don't need You know plastic surgery. I don't need, uh, like I know some of the girls that I went to high school with who are light Or you know Caucasian they got an no offense, you know, because you know, we all age different You know, they might be skinny and have a perfect body, but they got some crow's feet You know, I I I admire their legs And you know, they're thin waist And they admire my wrinkle-free face So no, I I would want to only come back As something that you know as someone But you know, you can choose like, you know, choose who you come back at Some people come back as a man. Some people come back as a woman Some people come back white black Some people choose to come back the same, you know, so it's up to you. But yeah, I would I would want to come back The same Somebody said I'm skinny They're skinny not me. Uh, well, yeah, my daughter is skinny. She's so skinny She's gonna be like Super model because I know she's gonna be tall anyways Thank you I'll see y'all Okay, let me read this one last question and then I'm out two questions. How do you do? How do you feel about manipulative men or women who try to bring down your self-esteem? When you're hot and they know your few insecurities You talk yourself right back up like You gotta talk yourself right back up, you know, they say, oh, you're no one will want you You're not this and you're not that and so then why do you want me and why you all over this, you know I must yeah, you must like it. That means somebody else will like it, you know You talk yourself right back up and and you say, you know what I look good And I'm sure there's other men who will kill to be in your place. Believe me. Okay. If I walk outside right now Somebody was gonna want this. Okay. Just tell them straight up when they try to put you down. Tell them straight up. No I know who I am. I know what I can do You don't let people Talk down to you. You talk yourself right back up as soon as they start talking you down That way they won't do it again because they're gonna feel stupid afterwards. Okay, let's see um Let's see. I'm trying to read the last question I saw How do you deal with guilt of having many partners? Should you be honest with your with potential husband or not? um If you don't have a ring on your finger and they have not asked you to marry them Or let you know that they're serious about being with you And you're still dating other people. Maybe you should just have a talk with them. Look and tell You're serious about Marriage I'm gonna leave my options open, you know, I'm not lie to them. No, you guys say I'm not going to You know Decline any potential You know offers if they come to me Because I am technically single You know, um, if there's someone who is marriage minded and on the same page as I am And you know, know what they want Then of course, I'm going to consider that You know, we've been dating this many years and you're not ready for marriage and I have to like You know big and plead, you know, then obviously the choice, you know, obviously You know, we're not on the same page So you got to kind of just break it down to them Or just don't have guilt like some people don't have guilt. Some people say well, they'll They'll talk about it with themselves in their mind and rationalize it and they'll say well Well, we're not married. So technically I'm not cheating because we're not married. I'm just exploring my options and You know, what if he doesn't marry me? Then I'll be stupid if I don't so I don't feel guilty. No So you just have to rationalize it away Make up an excuse why you're doing it And just don't feel guilty about it. If you feel guilty, that means you feel like you shouldn't be doing it So then stop if you don't feel guilty then keep on doing what you're doing, you know Okay, if you've had many sexual partners in the past, should you be honest about the number or not? No, you just lie. Just keep lying. Okay Or you say I can't remember who it's like are you just telling the amount of boyfriends you had that's good enough Okay, I've had like five boyfriends and I don't sleep outside of relationships. That's what you're telling But but they they're gonna know you're lying. They just want to hear something. Okay, so just tell them a lot that that sounds good and unbelievable Um that's what I did like It's like only slept with my boyfriends and who I was in a relationship with you know If I slept with anyone else, I really don't remember because it was not really significant I really don't sleep around like that, right? So that's what you tell them, you know, you don't why do people think that you have to be honest You know, what if someone said, oh, how many men have you slept with and you said some large number That they could not get over then they're gonna always see you as having sex with that many people at the same time You know, they're gonna make it worse in their mind. Oh, she had sex with all those people, you know, so Don't tell them the truth. Never tell the truth about stuff like that First of all, that's none of their business And if you want to tell them at least make up something that sounds believable and good at the same time So many people feel like you got to be open and honest and that does not get you where you want to go in life Okay, ask anybody who's anywhere. They didn't get there through honesty And if you and if they did they're lying It's called, uh, what do they call it in writing embellishment Creative license Okay, so I guess I'm gonna go now since you know, um I will see y'all on the next one. I'll probably try to go lie. I'll try to go live Um every week or every other week and I'll put out a notice like I did this time maybe a day before, you know Um, maybe I'll go live every Friday On this channel because I know a lot of people have been asking me to go live. So I did Um So I'll see y'all on the next one. Y'all have a good Friday. Have a good weekend. Be safe Don't um, don't get pregnant by losers. 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