 So rarely do I actually get to meet up with a virtual business buddy, and today is one of those special days I've got Jason Stein here with me and I've asked him to talk about the this idea this important skill that so many heart-based entrepreneurs or just heart-based people don't have which is the art of asking well and particularly when it comes to forming strategic alliances in business Collaborate collaborations. How do we how do we ask? Well, so Jason great having you here and good to be here. Hey guys so Jason you are a master of knowing how to ask well, and so I'm just gonna ask you to Talk about that. What what what have you seen works? Well, and maybe what's something that doesn't work as well Well before we talk about what works and doesn't I think it's important. We left my wife and youngest son over at the playground and Cooper's gonna turn out year next week and he is a master of asking he asked when he wants to be fed he asked when he wants his diaper to be changed and Ultimately you used to be a master asker There was a time in your life where it was really okay, and what happened was there was an authority figure that said don't ask You know they were like it's better to do it on your own or if you ask you're gonna Oh, and I think it's important to give it some context that you still have that part in you that knows how to do it and it may be afraid or it may have been scolded but it's in there and in strategic alliances no matter what your business is there are other people within your community that know people that have Really good audiences that could benefit from knowing about your products and services and What I found Whether it's George or my mastermind buddy Paul Zellzer or myself we get inbox emails or Facebook messages Like will you promote this and that's like that's not a good ask. Will you will you do this for me? And so what you want to do is start to just build relationships It's like as opposed to like trying to sleep with someone on the first date You know just to ask them out for some coffee and what I love George you have this wonderful page Like tea with George. It's a landing page about just getting some time with you for strategic alliances and When I approached you you were like, yeah, I read this page get into my calendar And that started like for us to deepen our relationship. Yeah, we had a relationship and then we noticed that we are peers We can benefit from one another's knowledge and networks and that then makes sense to kind of take that to to the level of a conversation Yeah, and so what you want to start thinking about is Who do you know and who do they know and really being of service? So get yourself out of the way of I just want to sell more of X and get to know people Really invite people over into your sphere and really tell them why so with George I was really clear when I met him and we started deepening their relationship One of the things I wanted to learn from you was systems because you are a systems king like if you've ever seen the back end of some of Georgia's systems his systems have systems and There's a reason he does that because it's really effective like it for you joyful productivity Yeah, you do that because your systems does everything else. Yeah, like most of us are like And you're just like no it's in that Excel spreadsheet right there and so In the ask Start small for some of you. You hate asking so much. You're just not willing to do it You would rather do it all on your own Even if it meant that You have no time The truth with that is that many of you that are listening to this You are way smarter way brighter than me because you've learned how to do so many different things whether it's code your website or start your social media campaign or Go on and on and on and on you've learned how to do it all because you don't like asking So start with some simple ass and the way to do that is be specific and I'll end with this Most people say I need help But they aren't really drilling it down into the specific help they need and so when I approached you I think I was like I really want to get to know how you do those systems And what you said is come check out some things. I'm doing over here and really see if it's a fit for you That's exactly how that went and I'm so grateful. I did because I've learned a lot from this guy in the last year Jason thanks for doing this video with me. I'm so glad you're here. Oh, it's great to see you face to face Yeah, totally. So folks check out Jason his well, I'll put the link to his website Jason Stein comm and You yours are you still doing those chocolate sessions? I chocolate strategy Jason Stein comm slash chocolate. So yeah, go check it out. He basically will give you some of its time and In exchange you send him your favorite chocolate And you can have some for yourself too All right, man See you everyone. Peace. Bye