 Wow, you know, I that's a fantastic question and I would say that Subhanallah, I think in a lot of these cases the more we understand ourself the more we start to understand That something is affecting us and we're not really happy with it But supine, you know human nature it takes time to like to see patterns time and time again and finally me I was wait a minute. I don't like this. This is not healthy, right? So that's number one is kind of that self realization that that something is amiss like something needs to change And then secondly really being able to go about expressing Your feelings in a non-confrontational manner in a non-confrontational environment So the argument that we had it was a light one, right? But when we started to resolve it, what if we got so heated we needed to take a break, you know So that's something that's important We never want to bring up these important conversations during a heated moment What you know after dinner hungry all those kind of things When we're hungry so choosing the right, you know having the realization Choosing the right time and then really being able to bring up how you feel about the situation If you bring it up in a manner that is a non-confrontational meaning talk about what you're feeling and what you would like is Much more powerful than saying what you don't like and what they're doing. So if I say for example, you know You're always asking for things When I'm extremely exhausted you're asking for dinner when it's like super late at night, or I don't know a third snack Whatever, I'm just gonna it's always about food. So I'm just gonna like throw that out there for me at least I know with me now with you now with you know, I love food. So food comes to my mind. Yeah, you're great much Then you would then you would want to say for example, you know I feel really tired when it's late at night and I would really like it that any request you have, you know that you help yourself to fruit or whatever And and you say what what it is you want That's that's a light example, or I would really appreciate it that if you have a concern That you don't share negative things that are really personal with your mom I would appreciate that instead of you're always telling your mom private things about me. That's really upsetting me. That's so annoying Right. So it's difficult. There may be some reactions. It may take time It may take again and you know having that facilitated if it's something that's really painful and really That's you know Prevalent in your marriage is something that's very persistent. It may take a third party to help again like counseling but Giving space for for you know These hurt feelings to express them in positive ways as much as possible and giving it time Learning when to take a break from an argument when it gets heated and coming back to try to find that resolution One one thing that's really important in marriage is you know theoretically marriage is supposed to be unifying But practically speaking in the beginning of marriage and many people for many years beyond Marriage is can be very conflictual meaning it's two people coming together look not doesn't like when I give this whole little Speel but marriage in itself can be conflictual meaning two people are coming together Trying to unify as one unit So and to navigate life accordingly well that Unification process like that intentional conscious deliberate Process needs to take place in that way and for a lot of people. They don't realize that they just go up on about life and They never negotiated Navigated figured out their boundaries They never came to be on the same page. You have to have us all you have to have foundational principles by which you Your marriage works on and a lot of people don't take the time to even figure out what that is You know you just go into marriage and you go into marriage without even figuring out how do we fight? What are our rules of engagement? What are what do we want for our children? What are our shared goals? What are our shared dreams? What do we want out of life together as a couple? What do we want for our family that all needs to be like it needs to be brought out? It needs to be talked about it needs to be You know shared together in conversation and constantly developed as we grow with each other