 Let me see New day to see God bless you a bless y'all bless you I show appreciation. Let me see something We're gonna get on started I come in here y'all got questions already we just Got on here Praise the Lord. Look here now Sarah God bless you high Tony tips for dating active duty military. I have a son and Concerned about moving him around a lot active duty military Sarah, I'm not a hundred percent sure if you mean you are active duty military or if You're dating someone that's an active duty military, but what I will say is If you have a choice on whether you move or not then your son comes first You definitely don't want to be moving your son around for a man. Now if it's your job Then that's different, but you don't want to be moving your son around for a man Unless it's your husband So understand that right there. I'm not a hundred cent sure which way your question was asking though But I believe we might have military coaches on my mentor dot life Jade I'm 41 is a grown man in my age group really going to wait until marriage to be intimate It's fast-paced here in NYC. Won't he get get it somewhere else? Even if he does end up marrying me You can't worry about all that. All you got to worry about is is he waiting for you? Because he could be waiting on you, but if you telling yourself he's gonna get it from somewhere else You could be lying to yourself and you could sabotage the relationship because he could actually be waiting for you And I know a lot of times people don't think that's real a lot of time people don't think a man will wait, but that's typically women who think that and it's men who Don't want a woman to know that that's a possibility of him waiting So a man will try to make it seem like it's absolutely no possibility. He will wait longer than x amount of time to be with a woman intimately, but a man will wait until The cows come home from the moon if you are the woman for him And it don't matter if he's in his 40s. It don't matter if he in his 90s It don't matter if he in his 10s his 20s if you are the woman for him He will wait the man that don't want to wait. That's not your man. And that's what you got to understand These compilation God bless you now bless you Hi Tony, thank you for your advice and help from my appointment with you a few weeks ago It was confirmation to be more confident and active and figuring out what my purpose is this is Danieline and Are there any public speaking coaches on my mentor doc life public speaking coaches? I don't know now that might be a good one now now. I'm a public speaker So I'm I could be a public speaking coach, but Most it's a lot of coaches on there that are public speakers So I don't know if that's the actual they will have it in their options, but If you see speaker in their bio Which most coaches end up being speakers then they could help you with it elegant by nature Tony what a blessing I Tony what does it mean when a husband says to his wife? I wish you loved me less and didn't put me on a pedestal. I feel guilty Well, it depends by man because that's just not like a statement that is across the board and so It really could mean anything you got a it means one thing if he has cheated on you or you've caught him cheating or he's done something like that and it means something totally different if He just doesn't feel worthy of that type of love because he's humbled by your love. So It could just him being humble But to be honest with you what it sounds like and I don't want to speculate Because it could mean anything so it really comes down to you knowing him and I Men honestly Say things sometimes just for a conversation piece, but it doesn't actually mean anything So you can't really take everything a man says so seriously because sometimes we just talk in You know, sometimes me and just say stuff just the oh You mean girl you so mean and and women y'all actually will come and book a session and Pay that money for the session. So yeah, we were on a date and he said you're so mean and that just really hurt me because I've been working on my Personality and my attitude and I'm just wondering what did he mean by that? Does that mean it's over and I'm like Really he just socially awkward and not really used to talking to women and he just was talking Like point blank period. You said I mean sometimes y'all got to realize men just be saying stuff But when you see that action if you catch them cheating emotionally physically now, that's what he mean He a dog and he don't deserve you Larry God bless you now now I miss some somebody question up down What do you think about a 40 year old man and a 23 year old woman being in a relationship together Do you think it could work? Um, no, I don't think it could work and I don't think it could work and But elegant by nature. Oh, she said to you. I don't think it could work, but I'm just one person see what what I realized about a man is Me and we really a man who is a grown man really don't want a woman half his age You know me being 36 that would be like me being with a woman that's 18 You know You ain't all the way half his age. So let's say 21. That's nasty. That's nasty because that's a little girl Like I'm seeing her like a little sister like oh It's like I got to help raise her. It's coming up girl. Let me blow your nose. All right close your eyes. Okay blow hard You know what I mean? You got the raise. He that's your daddy 40 year old man You you plan with yourself because that's your daddy. That's your daddy classmate And so you can't even bring him around your family. Oh Your uncle's auntie. Hey, where you back my classmate at? Hey, what's all about these? Oh, oh, you know that was my family Oh, she just brought you over here cuz you know me and then you like um Actually, that's my boyfriend And what dirty day? Yeah, that's oh, there's a boyfriend You said I'm saying so you have to really look at this thing and be realistic It's too many men out here for you to be given a 40 year old man his fantasy he got a he own only fan he own only fan because He is too old to want a woman half his age He looking to get his groove back. He nasty He's nasty. I'm just tell you I'm just telling you that's just nasty too young As my real done. All right. It's my real though. Okay, I don't read all right. Oh, they deleted your question It's my real I see you right here though What are the signs of a toxic relationship and can it be fixed if it's toxic? And I see this I'll tell you this if you got to ask is toxic one blame period When you get in this relationship if you got to wonder it's toxic One blame period because what you have to understand about love is love is or love isn't Love can't be confused. You could be deaf. You could be blind You could be a mute you could be armless Legless you could have You could be in a childlike state of mind You cannot confuse real love You can't confuse real love. So understand that when you got to ask It ain't love Because love it's gonna wash you. It's gonna heal you It's gonna comfort you you're gonna look forward to it. My wife just bought us a new couch my wife's bought a new couch and The couch kind of it's a little long So I could sit on this end end of the couch right here scratch my feet out She sit on that end of the couch She scratch her feet out and we just sit there and just look each other and just talk for an hour I don't have and I look forward to that now We ain't had a couch about a week and I just be weighed I just look forward to just get on that couch and just talk to my wife about whatever Because I'm in love So I'm always looking forward to a moment to an opportunity to talk to her Even if we finna disagree on sports or we finna disagree by schoolwork or something I'm just looking for that moment to have that disagreement Because it's love and that's what y'all have to realize by love. It's not rocket science Mama Martin God bless you now God bless you Malani bless you now. I don't wear hair extensions I don't wear makeup and I don't wear artificial nails. I love my natural beauty What do men think of this? Men absolutely love that now men absolutely love that but now listen now Now listen, okay You can wait it on hell But you need to have some mayonnaise some mayonnaise and some berries in there. You can wait on hell But make sure you taking care of your hair Alright, you could you got the well make up. All right. I don't know what make up. See it right here though See this here on what make up? See I'm saying try to get that all My wife bought me these for my shoes. I was shooting the course. She bought it come a fade get oily So you ain't got what no makeup what you need? You said that oil on there and your nails Never make some white Tim. I got nails like a little fire. You'll be having dirt on my nail See how see the nail right now. See how they cut And see I ain't had a little see some people do they know You look at their hand look like they done got in a fight with a weed wacker So you can have You know your net your natural nail, but they can't be They got to be And get your little lacquer get your little lacquer get your little clear coat Put that clear coat on there. You want to get your little color you feeling spunky put your little color on there One thing a man love is a natural woman. That's one thing a man love. I Speak around the world. I Saw somebody say Tony you come to Atlanta. Absolutely not Absolutely not not why this right here still going on as long as somebody catching this here Yeah, ain't going nowhere. You can catch me. No, no speaking game But I used to do speaking game around the world when I tell you round the world I mean round the world other continents Africa other continents Europe And I will ask them I Say fellas, do you want a woman who wear artificial lashes all of them say no? Do you want a woman who are artificial hair all I'm saying no and it'd be a long line of men They all say no some mama say I don't care one. I'ma say I don't care one. I'ma say it's up to her 90% to 99% would say No But see men deal with it because that's the trend. So we Lashes that's the trend. So milk men gonna deal with you know, what they could deal with Men gonna, you know deal with what they got to deal with but if men had a choice They were much rather a woman enhance her natural beauty because that's what we got to do That's what we got to do. We I ain't I don't get wet on makeup. I don't get to put no lashes on I don't get to put no nails on so you got to see me with bad nails bad skin and raggedy lashes mission lashes So a lot of time a man want to be able to see a woman in her natural essence so he could know am I gonna lay down with Janet Jackson and wake up with Freddie Jackson or Is my land down with Janet and waking up with Janet? That's what he wanted to know because his worst nightmare is though Lay down with Fred Rieker and wake up with Freddy Krueger and like whoa, what's going on? Sandy God bless you My male BFL for five and a half years always said he wanted us to be honest with each other He cut me off and blocked my number two weeks ago because I called him out on his bad behavior I don't understand why since he he just hurt he just hurt and You know, he might like men You know, he might like men, you know So he that might be why he your male BFL for five and a half years and he touched you yet He might like men and sometimes when you have men who like men they have different emotion They have different kind of motion a man who like women. He probably would have cussed you out Hey, don't be checking me who you think you are you think your stuff don't stink But he probably wouldn't block you and all that that's that's a man who he just got a lot going on in his life Dilling with stuff. You can't lose sleep over that W bae. God bless you now There's a guy that just started talking to me long distance on snapchat and occasionally he messaged me a Messages me agreeing to some of my posts. Is he barely interested or just taking it slow? He barely interested he barely interested so I wouldn't read too much in One read too much into that Trace William. God bless you now Hi Tony, thanks for all you do Watch your videos two times to get it into my spirit halfway through your life coaching course and getting my art business together Please do a third part of dating in your fifties. Thank you. Hey, Tracy. God bless you now Tracy God bless you now listen Tracy. I'm about to publicly. I'm about to leave the fifth in over crowd alone Publicly. I got a lot of clients. That's over 50 and I love over 50 clients one-on-one online No 50 be coming for you. Oh Yeah, don't know what you're talking about. You're too young to know what you're talking about I haven't been here twice as long as you so for the over 50 crowd I love y'all one-on-one, but some of y'all friends Be coming for me. So I probably would not be doing a part three on that tracing But I hope to talk to you one-on-one It is angry women in that age group Diane God bless you now now somebody put a question in here in a sticker now Now y'all can be asked no kingdom question with a little sticker now with a little 299 sticker Because that get lost in the chat. I see bless fear of not finding anyone after a breakup if you fear it That's what a block your blessing but if you prepare You'd heal your heart you you going on tonic ask the academy calm You take the heal your heart course You take the dating one-on-one course you take real love University You work on yourself Now that's gonna be a confidence when you build confidence Confidence removes or it overcomes fear Diane God bless you. We work together same age range flirty, but polite Mentioned I will ask you something at the right time Got jealous today Asking how was my date with my date? Just cuz I went out with a male colleague with a group of co-workers Yeah, you know, you know what that is Diane know what that is I won't pay him no attention though what it is He probably got a girlfriend and he's kind of he wait until he get into a good argument with her And when he get into a good argument with her and they say they're gonna take a break Then that's when he gonna come shoot his shot But he trying to be a decent individual and so he wants you to be his work wife And the fact that you entertain the other male colleagues, you might get taken off the work market So that's all that that is but I wouldn't pay that no attention I'd be letting them know about every date you got going on just cuz he he trying to just Send my game play my game Jazzy, God bless you. Is there such a thing as a modest man You have married men approaching single women. So if a single man doesn't approach you Doesn't approach. Are you simply not his type? Yeah, there is such thing as a modest man and The thing about it is Single men is kind of it's a little tougher because a man kind of always talking to somebody and so Sometimes it's not that you're not his type is that he's just torn between the person he's talking to and If he should approach someone new and add another person to the roster when he kind of liking The woman he's talking to so and the other thing is that a lot of men are introverts and a lot of them and almost every man fears rejection and so Sometimes it takes a man seeing a woman two or three times and really the third time is really the charm when He can build up the courage Because a lot of times a guy see a woman he like he might just stare Because he afraid to get cursed out He afraid she's already taken because if he like her, he know another man like her So he worried about all that stuff and it may take that third time So it depends on where you see a guy and if you see him at somewhere that you frequent and that he may be frequent W a If you shot your shot at A guy years ago, but he didn't pursue you so you let it go But now he DMs you every now and then complimenting you and striking up combo. What is his motive? Should I ignore it? Yeah, you should ignore it, but Because for one a man doesn't respect the woman who shoots her shot So when you did that he probably threw up in his mouth a little bit And he could have even been single and just use you to brag to the friends and other people about look Trying to holler at me But now that he bore One thing that humans like humans like a fan human like to have a fan. So when you know somebody like you Sometimes a man want to come back to that woman who showed him some interest because he needs somebody to play with He needs somebody to toy around with he needs somebody to boost his ego So if you shot your shot and he block your shot Then go about your business go about your business And if he's single and he likes you and he didn't look down on you for shooting your shot Then let him be all the way a man and come on out and say what do you need to say? God giving God bless a I'm only here for an hour tonight My spirit and my spirit ain't with the hour and a half And so I'm only helpful out of the night now so y'all Get y'all questions in cuz it's what we got 20 23 minutes. All right be gone God-given My ex cheated on me while pregnant. He's still with that girl now. He's trying to cheat on her with me I told him he better stay where he's at. Why are men like this? All right, I Really can't tell you I really can't tell you. He just he lost and he hurt. I Told y'all about them. Why is the sky blue questions now? I really I really do not know I'd be confused. I begin y'all questions. I'd be confused. I'm like, I don't know what's going on With a lot of humans today Shy bomb God bless your Tony. I'm dating this guy who drains me physically and makes me feel like a man Slash masculine. We also keep disagreeing on a lot of important things including women approaching men Is he gay? That's a strong assertion. Now, that's a assumption. I mean Offer off of that. No Just jump all the way to it Cuz now, you know what that word mean now that word mean Anglain In the mood Okay, so that's a that's a big jump from from a guy who just drained you physically and he'd make you feel masculine So is he Anglain in the wood so You know, it might not be all of that It could just be that he got a little bitterness toward women and he want to break you down See sometime a man want to Break you down. He want to drain you so that he can control you So just pay attention to the signs Pay attention to the signs that you're gonna see now for those of y'all who's sending The blue questions they gonna disappear on me. So I'm I'm a miss on my mom now Tell you God bless you we move from Florida to Ohio Call him out since the day I started watching your video for a month now To be continued. All right LDLD, how do you date in a and I'm losing hope I am not on dating apps and working on me. I go to the gym. I'm a nurse. I'm 35 Scared like time is passing me by Isolated. Thank you. You don't date. You don't date right now Okay, and you shouldn't be losing no hope because right now this time to just work on you and you a nurse So you saying it's a 19 everywhere So you seeing what it's doing to people you shouldn't be wanting to date right now because you mess around and start Go to talking to you a man and he leaning for a kiss and he got that 19 on his breath and The next thing you know You gonna meet the Lord so in this time right here This way you need to be you work you go to jail keep working on your body your body need to be looking like a Greek sculpture out here keep working on your body write your book Work on your company. Don't worry about no dating not don't worry about no dating in this right here Because the wrong person call for you It could be all she wrote Jessica God bless you No question. I enjoy learning from you and getting a really good laugh I'm listening to the dream chaser. You really did your thing writing that book. Jessica. God bless you now God bless you not a dream chaser. I wrote that about five days. I was at my wife auntie beat house For about five days and not that book on I just told my story So for those y'all who haven't listened to the dream chase on audio book, it's on it's on audible. I think Wonderful, wonderful. God bless you does a man love you if he tells you everything needs to be 5050 Or is that what he wants my worth to be? Oh No, he don't like Now he don't like him like cuz he a man who love somebody a Man who loves a woman he want to provide for you. He want to provide for you somebody sent me a cash out Somebody sent me a cash out and this September so I don't I don't bought my wife birthday gifts and I got two of them right here and her birthday on September 26, which is a Saturday So what I'm doing is giving her a gift every Saturday Somebody sent me a cash out. I told the baby if I get a cash up in the month of September I'm gonna bless you with it cuz normally I go ahead and put it in the ministry and I said, I'm gonna bless you with this because this your birthday month and you support me when I got to be gone and I got to be only here lives answering questions you support me and My wife also get a salary She get a salary from our companies, but she don't have to pay any bills She don't pay the likes the water card. No insurance. She don't pay any bills Her salary is for her to live off of the reason why I do that is because I love her and that's a queen And I am able through my earnings to take care all other bills To pay her a salary and to bless her on top of that So because I love her I want life to be plush for I want it to be stress free I want her to be able to just Bathe in the sun if she want to and to be able to be without all that burden And when a man fall in love, that's what he want to do when a man go to Harlem about 5050 That's a that's a business agreement. That's not a Relationship Tell you okay, I See he moved out yesterday and today he texts me and called and Sent voice notes making it seem like I'm wrong and I've been cheating. That's why I didn't let him control me anymore He got me feeling like I'm wrong Well, that's what he'll do on the mind trip That's what he'll do and that's why he's doing that because he know your heart and he knows that he can get you to feel like You wrong and so that's why you're playing with you But if you know you're not wrong and you know, you didn't do any wrong then you can't let him make you feel that way So you've got to understand that right now Now listen now. All right. I now some of y'all have to go back and catch a question because the disappeared from my screen Oh Shy bomb the reason I say that is because he is extremely feminine and knows about a lot of gay celebrities I think it's a red flag. Now. See that's all you had to say, right? Doesn't I shabong? All right. Now when you when you say he extremely feminine And he keep up with them boys business All right That right there say it all so yeah. Oh, yeah Oh, yeah Oh, yeah You know the one singing on microphone. He got her on the microphone listen to me Listen to me. They got here. They're out here now and they'd be liking to deal with women For a cover-up for their mama and for the uncles and they brothel and they high school friends But really behind closed door all kind of pan-caking Tell your God that should to be honest I'm confused because he left and I'm stuck with nothing he wants me to contact him for help is That the right thing to do no go to the shelter before you go to him Tell you ain't got no friends. You ain't got no friends. Tell you you ain't got no church members You ain't got you know your mama your daddy friends Cousins co-workers See when you're going through and you dealing with toxicity people feel sorry for you People want to help you people who know you They want to help you unless you keep going back to the man over and over and over then people gonna be done with you So hopefully you ain't you know Hopefully you ain't you know burnt all those bridges So understand that right done. I tell you Lord y'all hold on now some of these questions now See the question up here popping up on my screen I'm trying to get to you because on my end it showed me and it come up in the color and y'all done sacrifice and Then sin of blessing and you don't put this question with it So I'm trying to get to it, but it's a lot of them popping up there So y'all I'm gonna try to go back through the chat and see if I could catch it But y'all forgive me now. I'm just one person over here Try to answer a million question Honey Sarah's God bless you. What do you do if God sends angels with marriage contract scrolls? With you and your ex's full names on them after he broke up with you for financial and growth and independence reasons PS big fan Since I'm not sure You know if you a tarot reader or one of them, but I Really, I don't know of God sending angels with marriage contract scrolls and stuff. So now You know and I you and God might have a different kind of relationship But me personally now that's that's beyond my realm My spiritual realm because I've never had that kind of encounter. So now I don't know if that's a dream Or you saying you seems angels, but that right there or that's you know, something else But y'all said that's right. No, it could be that soul time see a soul time It'll feel like indigestion and you eat Okay devout by favorite it could sound like a soul tired in See if cuz see God not off the confusion So if God in it if God is in it, it won't be your ex Because God do you the wisdom and the clarity to make it work? That's how me and my wife even After going through fornication Struggling we going on 14 years of marriage because God in it See when God in it God is not the author of confusion You won't have to be going back and forth God ain't gonna let no man leave your life Or how you lead a man life and then you know, send you angels with marriage scrolls with your ex name on it God in author confusion God ain't gonna confuse you God ain't gonna tempt you. He gonna give you the strength to make it work So that's what you got to realize about that is the evidence of God to be shown based on what his words say God is and what God does and God in the author confusion. So understand that though Change God bless your peace Tony just finish make it work bought another copy for my mother's birthday as well great book a woman's Influences next a God bless you bless you Now y'all hold on a little second. Let me see if I could Hey Y'all send a lot of questions now Now see for those y'all in the chat You know, I want to answer y'all question, but we need people when people taking Sacrifice take food off their table and send a question in With a financial blessing to it I gotta honor that cuz you know They going above and beyond and spending money in the midst of everything that we got going on So that mean that they they need a little bit of extra help Sonny Lee, I see you finally have a great guy That'll do anything for me, but I still think of guy that was emotionally unavailable and a grown boy How to make it stop? You got to learn your work You're gonna probably need about two to four coaching sessions You got to learn your work because your issue is is you seeking approval not love You're looking for a man to approve of you and that's why you want somebody that don't want you But the man that want you you overlooking him Because that ain't good enough because you want to be chosen by somebody who don't want you because then in your mind that'll make you feel worthy So it's like trying to make a team or join a sorority That's hard to get into the easy one that that ain't gonna haze you You don't want to be in that one But the one that's gonna make you eat a onion and then spit on it and then let your line So if the lick the spit off and bite the onion and then both of y'all smash the onion in each other eyes That's the one that's the one you want to join Because it's hard to get into and that's why a lot of times women like the bad boys and the tough guys Because they treat you like an option so it make you feel worthless and it make you chase him and seek his approval Ashley God bless you now my ex text me at random Every month this month. He did I responded a week later and sent him your three-minute video on addressing your pain thoughts You did the right thing send them some old knowledge. He watched it now, especially it's three minutes. He watched it Raven he out Things I need to fix What should I do if you believe you need to fix them then fix them don't fix them do the work Doesn't man love you if he tells you okay? I saw that one. I answered that where can I book up a couple and A one-on-one session see this right here behind my head My mentor dot life. It's a whole bunch of coaches on there Shea bomb. I see you. I'm trying to go through these questions that I miss now How do you avoid dating someone for marriage only to find out once you are married? They have male functioning issues How do you avoid dating someone for marriage only to find out once you are married? They have male functioning issues It really ain't no way you could get around that now Unless you just really get to know them and you talk to them and just cuz you're not getting on your back Don't mean y'all can't have a couple conversations about it How you feel about it so how that conversation you know how you know how do you feel about it? What's your take on it and see how you feel and in that conversation that might come up But the next thing is is if you fall in love Because he's something see when a man down there don't work That peach cobbler That right there work so all that right there ain't got to work Cuz as long as he got him out work You said I'm saying stuffs if y'all in love stuff still could get done Stuff still could get done He might buy one of them thing which I'll be using when you single he might buy one is dark at night You don't even know it and you think it's him. He down there got that little thing down there You see what I'm saying it could work because love is what matters the most See when you fall in love and you get into a marriage what you're gonna realize is that What you're gonna realize is that Sad is a plus not a priority And I'm here to tell you going on 14 years of marriage and used to be nasty I used to be so nasty you hear me all the way out there, and I'm here to tell you that Is a plus not a priority. I Posted a $10 question, and it didn't post coach broom Mmm. I don't know what I don't know what that happened. I might end up seeing it coach bro I don't know why I don't know why that happened. I saw that right there now You could have put the question right there. You should have put the question right there coach broom I'm going through Questions best I can Is it possible for mentors in my mentor dot life? Website at languages. They are fluent in I am looking for a Spanish speaking mentor For me and my boyfriend Um That's a good question. I probably could I probably could Put that on there But what you can do is you could send an email in to info at my mentor dot life if you look at a coach And you can't tell by how they look because you know Spanish speakers come in all looks but You know sometimes me and my wife will be somewhere Will be in another country or another state and somebody look at my wife say you Jamaican and she say yeah, oh Okay, I know it you Indians are making. Oh, yeah, Indian and black Okay, yeah, I know it so sometimes people just could just know stuff So being that you speak Spanish you might tell the way a person hold a lips in a picture They speak Spanish. So and then look at the last name You got a Hispanic last name and you want to know if they speak Spanish or somebody they bio say they come from a Spanish speaking country, you know But that's a good question. But right now. We don't have that did not think about that one So I'm not I'm see if that could be added But you can send an email in and ask about a specific culture and we could find out for you if they speak Spanish Hey, Tony, my boyfriend is an amazing man. I always want to be the best for him Any advice on how to be a great woman for a wonderful man? Just reciprocate just reciprocate if you reciprocating the love So while he looking to love you or he's showing love You should be looking to love him and show the love and reciprocate and at least equal Reciprocation, you don't have to be greater, but at least equal last night my wife She was doing a bunch of stuff around the house and I got a hurt back right now But she was doing a bunch of stuff around the house and I was sitting on the couch and she up moving around She's doing stuff for the boys and I could tell she starts she was feeling it So what I said is I said hey, I Say when we get your massage, I got my massage table. I could I want me on my side table a Long time ago now because I'm a masseuse without a license So I got my massage table. I set it up in the room. I put a sheet on it I put a huge metal fire right there. I put the on sound skate on the TV I turn the lights off. I got massage or and I want they're giving her a 20 minute back massage with my bad back You see I'm saying so because she was working and she was moving stuff and doing stuff and working while I was watching the game I thought about okay, what can I do to show her my love for her? And that's when that 20 minute massage came in and now you'll think after that 20 minute massage I'm gonna get my old night cow. No, we went to sleep. We went on the bed or no funny business every night God bless you now No, nobody Tell you. Okay. This is quick. No, no bad. Nobody dad is in prison Mom is in Haiti. I told my family about it. He deceived me Thank you. I'll continue praying. Tell you this what you do not Google Google the night foundations that help women Google that foundations to help Abuse women foundation like Google that because I remember one time I had a family member who was three months behind on her rent and I had them paid the rent up when she was three months behind I had them bailed out two or three times and it cost $3,000 $4,000 and then on that last time I say she gonna have to get evicted and After letting the family member get evicted I Google and Realized that there were foundations that got grants from the state that if you behind on your rent or you need money Changing locations or leaving a relationship They have money to help people like you because it's a woman that was in your shoes That is now a millionaire and she doesn't work with a life coach like me and started a foundation to help women like you So a lot of times help is on the way Just get right down Google and it'd be that practical a lot of time We don't even think about it it right there on Google You'll be an email a foundation that say hey, we got a house. It's empty right now You can stay there. We allow you to stay there for six months or 12 months or We got grants that we will pay your first and last month on apartment We'll get you in under our foundation name as long as you willing to work a job or get a job Or you got a job so you that Google now you that Google I Remember him saying he liked me and thought I was cute but said he had a lot going on So I left it alone But now he'll DM me every few months just to compliment and talk but never ask me out gone by to bed Gone by to bed And now some of y'all need a coach session for y'all to keep her 3458 questions need a coach session. All right Y'all trying to get a coach session for 999 need a coach session Tony in your opinion, how long does a man need to ask a girl out if they work together? Could it be fear of rejection? We are both singles You don't live with him. So you don't know if he's single y'all got hold on. Let me use my oil block Hey now Don't mean nothing. I'm white bopping the oil block now. Yeah, so don't y'all go Thanks. I'm out of sweet cuz they got a oil blotter All right You don't know if he's single cuz you don't live with him So a lot of times you a man is in a full-blown relationship and look single and act single and say he's single So if a man not asking you out, it's for a reason And if a man like you and he worked with you and he see you every day It typically ain't gonna take longer than about three months Lisa God bless you now. Hey, we in the last 15 minutes Y'all won't not tonight. Okay. I'm tired. I'm trying to catch all these questions. I'm missing them Lisa, thank you for all you do. I enjoy your videos and have shared them with so many others and your books are amazing God bless you, Brittany. I got to you, but it say your question retracted Gerald God bless you. I'm 37 with no kids and I truly Don't have a desire to have kids I'm an awesome aunt an older cousin to children In my family though, is that a turnoff to me? No, no, I mean some men. Yeah, because Some men want to see their seed Some men want to see what they child look like But you 37 so he also understand that you may Just have been by yourself, you know without children for so long that you don't got comfortable with that But what you also have to realize is that desire? You may not have a desire because it's not an option right now It's not an option in wedlock, but when you fall in love your desires will change So you don't desire it right now. It's just like if my wife If her friend come to visit y'all know the monthly friend if that friend right there come to visit Okay Little red friend. I don't have a desire because it's not the time So God a quench that my my my body a quench that desire If she go and she had to have back surgery one time, so she would down for eight weeks When she was down at eight weeks I didn't have the desire Because my body wouldn't let me have that desire because I knew she was not able So your body your mind could be shut down on that side just because you don't have Love from a man that you are in love with to unlock that desire But when you get with that man and you fall in love and y'all get married by the time you 39 and Y'all gonna honey moon and next thing, you know and that max will come on And now you know Your body you I want to have your bed Just like that your whole life chain Every desire you thought you didn't have and came to you. You like what is the world? But that's what love will do to you and y'all hold on. I'm trying to catch the question now Okay, this is VV All right child's father and I are friends Talked four to five times a week He says he doesn't want a relationship because he respects me and doesn't want to ruin our friendship I build him up and give advice help Um, well VV what it is you plan yourself. Okay, you plan yourself If y'all ain't talking about the kids usually you you're not his life coach You don't need to be building him up and giving advice. See what he trying to do is make you fall deeper in love He's strengthening the soul tie with you So that you will stay stuck and you won't bring a step daddy around his child But he does not want you and don't want to be with you But he know if you stuck sniffing his booty, you can't meet the man that god got for you So he playing you and you allowing him to play you which in turn means you playing yourself So when you not with a man, but you used to be with that man, you got to relegate him from your man to Your distant ex friend So now your relationship got to be a business relationship. Hey little Johnny's doing great I'll email you the letter from his teacher just to let you know about his grades. All right great talking to you Okay, see you later. All right got to go about You see what I'm saying, but what you're doing you building a relationship in your mind and he don't want you He don't want you so you making yourself stuck When he could have a whole another woman and be building with her making her fall in love Gonna have her hook and then have you hooked. So now he got both of y'all hooked and stuck hooked them both like a crook Shanice god bless you nine What do you do when a man does not believe in the god he is Part of this woke group I am tired of speaking to him about prayer and the goodness of jesus without him turning up thoughts Going about your business going about your business. You can't you can't convince nobody about jesus And if he can't believe in the jesus, that's in you Going about your business because he one thing about the devil by satan Is he love to steal your energy and steal your ministry and steal your fervor for the lord You'll be the accursed man out arguing about jesus and then he'll be Gotcha. Yeah, you know christian. See yeah, you know christian. See you got a piece of god Look at you arguing and cursing you see what I'm saying So you can't argue with no devil you blocking your blessings You're going to get with you a man that wanted to know the lord And and let him stay woke lonely. He think he won't let him go and stay woke He's sleep Bonnie god bless your tyton. And you said that women need to stop telling all of their business true guilty how to go about when Ready having meaningful conversations while dating Without divulging all but also remaining true to being transparent Well, see the thing about it when I what I say telling all your business. I mean telling business that he didn't tell So If he tell you He raised with his mom and daddy then you say you read who you was raised with he tell you when he went to school You say where you went to school? He say where he went to college You say where you went to college he tell you what he worked at you tell him where you work at You see what I mean what a lot of time women do is just He he get a little bit of question in Say one little thing didn't want me to take off and just go to talk Tell her whole life story all she know about him and his first name john His first name john and he liked the ultimate feast At his red loft the way they haven't done that by the end of the night He know her middle name where she lived at her classmate middle name her mama middle name Her hopes her dreams her fears her worries what her ex-boyfriend did what her ex-husband did He know all of her business and so now he know how to play on him and all she know is his name john Like long john silver, but he liked the ultimate feast at red lobster. That's all she know about him You said I mean so that's what I mean is the conversation got to be like a tennis match You don't just keep hitting the ball over there and they ain't hitting it back He he throw you some you you hit it back to him. He hit it back to you you hit it back to him Hit it back. See what I mean? You're taking turns and y'all swapping information But it's equivalent It's reciprocal not just you Diarrhea of the mouth and he's just taking all the notes Your whole script on type nine Really want me a little more tired tonight. I ate not too long going how time to let the food that jazz And he can't breathe Even if god bless. I attempted to cheat on my ex. He found out We split up I moved found me on ig watches. He has a new girlfriend. So Unfriended him and he wrote me asking why Go about your business Go about your business. You're always near about time now Go about your business. Go about your business. All right, you know cheated. You don't want him He the mood on him. Don't want you go about your business. What he got is a soul tie. That's all it is All of Thank you for helping god bless you. Khadija Husband says he's changed but still locks phone. I feel like he's shown his hand So he pushed me to show him mine Now his feelings are hurt, but why? Husband Khadija Um You're gonna need coaching on that one. You're gonna need coaching. That's a little deeper Then what we could go into here It's a lot of caveats and nuances when it comes to marriage And when it comes to situation like that But one thing I can say is when a man got his phone lock see my phone lock So sometimes the phone ain't locked for you Now if you don't know the code to it now, it's locked for you and he got something to hide And a man should never have anything to hide in his marriage L Renee god bless you now Hi, Tony, how do I guard my heart or remain mysterious in dating if I share my life with the world? Per se through my writing speaking and social media as it is part of my purpose um Well, when you share your your story and it's part of your purpose You remain a mysterious Is keeping that treasure box closed So when your mouth open meaning you talking and you telling your business your legs got to be closed See when your legs see the real mystery that the man won't Twin your leg. Okay So really what you're saying If you're talking to him that let that just let him know what kind of games he think he want to play But when he come and try to play those games and he realized that those games ain't working Now you still mysterious now you still guarded because you let him show you who he is But see what happened is Is y'all go to getting feeling too good And you get on your bike and when you get on your bike That's when you lose your mystery That's when you lose the mysteriousness Okay, I'm gonna answer a question in the chat right here that just happened to be right here Hey, Tony, I see that there's a man in church scoping me out. I'm a new member How long does it take for a man in church to approach me? Yes, he is he's single. Is it different because of the setting? It could be different because of the setting and he could be watching you and battling with the lord just to make sure his heart is right and make sure he in the right place before he approached you and On average, it's going to be about a month and at the most three months Well, man got to watch you Um destiny god bless you now Marsha I'm in a five-year situation. She'll bless you now I fell in love and it hurts to know he talked to other women. I need help so hard To let go. Okay. I read month, but that's five years. You're gonna need coaching Five years. You're gonna need coaching. We ain't gonna be able to fix you here tonight Marsha. Okay My mentor dot like My mentor dot like you're gonna need you four to 12 sessions any coach will do any coach will do you just need to talk You just need to talk and get unbiased honest feedback when you run out of breath But just talk and just pull your heart out. You're gonna hear the seeds of solution as you're talking Valerie god bless you apologies. I haven't seen my ex in four months need help to move on. Thank you for your work I'm not sure If this if you the one who say you talking to him five times a week I can't remember but if that was you talking to him worse than seeing him Because when you talking to him you building emotional time You building emotional bond Asia god bless you met a god via facebook last month says i'm the woman of his dreams Long distance, but he's already flew out to see me courted me and paid for everything good sign Yeah, yeah, that's a good sign. Yeah, that's a good sign unless he got a different kind of fantasy or a different kind of Fetish It's it's a good sign unless it's something else, but you just keep paying attention. All right Keep your legs closed because sometimes a man like a you know He he like a woman that he got to fly to the touch, you know, sometimes you just want something different So keep paying attention now, but for right now is looking is looking pretty good Um only one god bless you. Thank you tony for all you do But my gift tonight is for miss gaskins for seeing tony's gift and helping him cultivate. Hey god bless you now God bless you. I'm gonna give i'm gonna give her that girl blessing Honey savage god bless you he made a music video with this girl To a song he made about me Romantic I have visions of her in my home treating me like Hagar to sarah. She even stabbed me in a vision. What does this mean? What to do? Honey savage now first what you gonna have to do change your last name See that savage you speaking stuff on you See you speaking these visions on you see the power in words now you speaking this stuff on you and then you're gonna need coaching So you're gonna need coaching because you're gonna hear them lying in style And come on now. Okay Got 17 years old and now you need coaching You're gonna have to need some coaching where you could talk this thing through because because that's old time It's a soul tie You could start with the soul tie course first and you're gonna realize a lot about what you're dealing with With them soul ties on tony gaskins academy after that you still don't feel all the way right You need to talk to a profession where you could lay everything out because What you touching on is is is deep, you know and you need to be able to talk through it so you could break that bondage On drip off there's a high tone and what advice do you have for someone weary of dating grown boys? In the 50 plus age group. I want to see if i'm on the right track At the bottom line at the end of the day keep your legs closed See if if if y'all let's close That cancel everything if your legs close and your wallet close Everything a man can only do but so much if your legs close and your wallet close A man can only do but so much to you. He can't game you. He can't play you if your legs close and your wallet close Katrina. God bless you God bless you now Azula bless you Why is it that men are intimidated by women my co-worker said to me that I'm more masculine than feminine. I laugh. I work in a male industry They they're not intimidated by you. They're not intimidated by you Um, it might seem that way, but they could just not be attracted to you But that don't mean that they're they're intimidated by you men. Honestly, not really intimidated by women A man can feel inadequate or like he's not on a woman's level, but it's not the same as being intimidated Uh, breathe white All right, y'all no more question now. No more don't send no more blessings on here I feel like my wife ain't got no ac on in here I'm about to sweat Breathe white sibling and I have not spoken in five months They verbally and physically In front of my child I have forgave them, but don't want them in my life Or child's anymore. Is that wrong? They were in the wrong and not sorry Bri, I got a video on here about toxic family. So look that up It's a um, it's a toxic family. That's her toxic family Tony Gaskins But you're not wrong. Go on move on When a woman stays calm and collected and walks away, why does it upset some men? Do they expect us to cry and throw things? Absolutely Absolutely when you keep your power and you emotionally intelligent That's what throw a man off because he wants control and he lose control in that moment No, lol apologies because I sent the question without the super chat No contact with ex in four months, but tempted to call Oh, okay. Okay. Yuck. I won't keep your business I won't keep your business Um, I think of you and missy reed being apart for six months and getting back together Could he and I have a similar fate? Yes, you could but the difference with my wife and I is she wasn't waiting on me She wasn't thinking about me. She moved on. She was in another relationship She had got back with her ex they were together for two months Then after that she still was dating and we just so happened to bump back into each other But we had no intention to come back. I wasn't waiting on her. I wasn't thinking about her It just was God's doing It was bigger than us. Neither one of us saw it coming. So that's the difference Is I wasn't thinking about her. I wasn't chasing her. She wasn't thinking about me She wasn't chasing me, you know ego was in there in a way And um All of that. Hey, no more question now. No more question. Let me wrap on up Boy, y'all got me tired tonight. I don't know I'm in here broke a sweat Baby, you got a album I'm helping like me shat shat back in a bin to go I could be this light in my face But listen, we're gonna wrap up I thank y'all so much for being here tonight. Thank you for everybody that sent a blessing, you know, I come on here to do Free Q&A But when I come over here on here, I'm overwhelmed with The questions and the blessing that y'all seeing And I can't ignore But the goal of this is so I can answer, you know, just answer questions But y'all be sending them blessing And I appreciate it and it's always just overwhelming So forgive me if I miss your question. I try to get to the question I try to answer all I can only have but so much time If my phone had battery, I'd probably do a All 24 hours one day or three four hours, you know But my phone, you know, it ain't gonna last that long But listen to me as I'm looking at the questions tonight what I'm noticing Is a lot of times y'all questioning yourself And what you have to remember is that love is or it isn't There is no in between love There is no Little bit of love no thin love love is or it isn't And so If you have to wonder And the person you're with is not convincing you and showing you That he or she loves you Then in that moment in that season there is no love And you got to look within right there. You got to look a little deeper right there And you have to be able to see that there is no love And you got to be willing to walk away Because what's happening is is you get a little bit of love You get a little bit of love and then you stay You get a little bit of laughter So you'll have a day of laughter and then you'll have a six then you have six days of arguing And that next day of laughter that'll buy you another Month of being in that relationship. So what the man knows is Is he knows to give you a little bit of love every now and then So he'd give you a little bit of love and he'd know it refill your little bucket And then now you get love to sleep and then next thing you know is argon argon argon argon And now you look up just like the young lady who asked the question tonight Five years she's been in a Situation ship for five years not a relationship but a Situation ship and so you look up five years down the line and you still with the grown boy or this grown girl That does not love you that's using your using your mistreating you Lean your own and just keep just dangling a little bit of love over you getting a little bit of love And then you start all over and then you get hurt get hurt get hurt Look, you got to realize you got to realize When you step into love and you go into love Love gonna have disagreements Love you're gonna get upset love. You're gonna get hurt. It's not gonna be a fairytale But the intentions will be pure the intention is not to hurt If you get your feelings hurt love gonna apologize love gonna pick you up love gonna talk through it Love gonna work through it and then love is gonna try not to ever do that again And when you truly get your feelings hurt or Upset or angry or mad. It's really it's an accident It's really something to where it happened because you're human It's not something that's intentional Where somebody is trying to hurt you somebody trying to push your buttons Somebody trying to drain you trying to get under your skin trying to manipulate and control you That's not how love operates see love wants to be smooth Love wants to be pure love don't want riffs Love don't want fussing and fighting and arguing if you in a situation y'all arguing every other day Y'all arguing every week It's it i'm going on 14 years of marriage And it's hard for me to tell you when the last time me and my wife argued Because it's not a part of a part of love. We have disagreements But the disagreement don't turn into yelling and screaming and arguing and going to bed mad The the last real argument it probably was Nine years ago because when you go into love you want peace You want clarity you want understanding you want compassion See you want things to be pure you want things to be smooth and your disagreements It might be like do we really need this dining table? Why we got to get that kind of dining table? But do we need that over that that little tchotchky? You said I mean you had disagreements about stuff to where it's just a disagreement or taste Oh, we got to have baked beans tonight. Now, you know what the baked bean do to my stomach? What's wrong with french fries? You said oh, we got to have asparagus again You see how my pee be smelling every time we eat asparagus We can't have broccoli. You said I mean your disagreements be like that when you in love I'm telling the honest god true. I'm telling the honest god true It ain't no knock down drag out screaming yelling cussing fussing fighting My wife got all my codes to my phone. She got all my passwords. I got all her codes I got all her password ain't nothing hidden. She said hey, can you get my phone for me? I could pick up on up. I can get my few scrolls Ain't gonna find me nothing. I said hey baby Before I did this I said hey, baby, can you go in my office and get on the computer and um add my insurance Um to my car note. She come here. She know the password to my computer. Ain't no nasty sites popping up She got my phone. She on my phone. Let me let me hold you phone. I need to check some of the notes She need to look at my notes to see how much she get paid today And she she in my notes seeing what her pay is today And ain't ain't no text message got to pop up ain't nothing. Let me tell you what somebody did Tell you what somebody did somebody think they slid That somebody who got my phone number Gonna text me Oh, I'm coming down the floor And I just need that f Can you come at f me? I'm just I'm feeling stressed and I just want to f I look at the tip I said baby look at this Baby look at this look at what a fool doesn't Look what somebody doesn't Thinking that they finna catch me up like i'm cheating with somebody and that my wife gonna see this And it's gonna start an argument. She gonna think i'm cheating. She gonna bust my phone And then we gonna be on the blog tony and guys tony and sheree guys going through a breakup relationship coat going through a break I said look at this foolishness. No, we did. No, we did the the number one in my phone. No, we did swipe Uh info block Contact delete the message Come on now Come on now. You can't you can't trip. You can't trip. No real love up You can't not see if you want real love. Oh, who texted you? Oh, that's your other woman My wife ain't think twice about that. She was like wow people crazy because she knows she knows she got my phone She knows she got my password. She know he ain't got nothing to hide So she knows she ain't got the work. I was just in the cabin. I was in the cabin My wife was was in the bed sleep before we even get done with our business meeting at the cabin It was me and my mentee's working on a new company Oh, I'm in the cab. My wife ain't calling me. She ain't a FaceTime me and And and and you know some of y'all you in a relationship you got to get on FaceTime and you like that You got to do like this on FaceTime So they could see everything around you Well slow down right now slow down right now Come on. Hey, go back. Go back. Let me see Wait, who that is? That's how you was on FaceTime Because that's not law That's not law I was talking to my mentee. I say man one thing tripped me out about my wife I could be up here in the cabin. I could be on flu one of the city girls in And they could be up there with that thing talking english spanish jamaican french I can have me one of them city girls and flew then But my wife is asleep All right, bro. I'm trying to call her. I'm getting the voicemail And you know what she do Because I haven't seen her do it She get our boys ready for bed. She get them all ready She go to the room and she say i'ma just lay here and close my eyes for five minutes. Just gather myself She'll fall asleep on top of her phone She'll fall asleep on top of her phone phoning on the charger Ain't nothing set And a long remain set and she just be tired And so here I am on the road And well a lot of women calling a man blowing their phone up because they think they cheated If you got to go through all that in love you got to address their relationship You got to check that relationship you got to look deep into that relationship And what you're going to realize is that what you call in love ain't love So understand that right there Look at the sign this ain't rocket science This ain't rocket science to be honest with you. We shouldn't need relationship cultures We're saying you need relationship culture because love is or it ain't It is or it ain't For those y'all speak properly it is or it isn't Okay Love is or it isn't which I shouldn't I should not have a job I shouldn't have no job But when I started teaching on love relationships when I was 22 years old when I changed my life and I got in a relationship with my wife And I started teaching on love relationship trying to get a game away at 22 years old before it was popular Before anybody else was doing it before there was books on it before it was youtube before it was twitter We even had twitter I got on twitter 2009. I was teaching on love relationship 22 years old wrote a book on it and were passing the book out at the mall pat This was 2007 I've been teaching on love relationship And when I saw that it was women in their 40s and their 50s Coming to ask me questions about love and relationship. I say, okay, something going on It ain't enough fathers talking to their daughters And so I say, you know what? I got to do it But we should not need relationship coaching because love is or it isn't So when you look at your situation and you break it down and you make it plain and you keep it simple You're gonna realize that it is or it isn't Hey God bless y'all now. We passed the question part. Um, roxy. God bless you. Gabbana gg God bless y'all We passed the question part. So y'all y'all miss it tonight now um But I don't because I don't want to open back up. So don't y'all send no more questions I think gg y'all came in after Probably because more moderators you can't see more moderators on here To tell y'all no more questions no more questions now But let y'all let me answer um gg And uh, the other young lady question real quick because They'll be Hold on right quick. Let me if I put this super chat back on it probably will show me Because they'll be on the phone with the bank. Uh, yeah Yeah, that was a fraudulent charge a google When you think I'm paying google, I don't know about no google Uh, man, so, uh, you didn't send 499 to a youtuber and you don't Tony asking Absolutely not Tony who? So let me answer these two questions for they'd be on the phone getting charge bikes tomorrow Now don't y'all be calling ask me charge bikes now because you're gonna you're gonna Because you're gonna deal with me you have to deal with google because I won't know the difference But I don't want you to mess up your blessings on the phone line to the bank God got deployed talk before he went away We both agree it wouldn't be fair to date He loves my pics and sends a few messages focus on school gg keep doing what you're doing Gabbana bless you to the new members that's joined the blessed trod god bless you now Uh Lady a bless you now y'all I Y'all ain't got cinema blessing nine What if I would say your cup would be running over? I told y'all nothing. You ain't got to send no more blessing nine Hey, Tony, I'm currently on a journey to self love and have been building A better relationship with god What should you feel when should you feel that you're holy enough to date? When you feel like you can love as if you've never been hurt before That's when you hold enough to date when you have uncertainty when you have too much doubt You have too much fear Because you don't have the knowledge that you need And you haven't done the healing that you need to do You're not gonna want to be in the dating field. So if you got to go into the dating field scare It's too early Keep getting the the knowledge keep reading the book keep watching the videos keep taking the courses And as you do that and you working on you that knowledge builds confidence And then that confidence will assure you that you can go into the dating field and you can recognize the red flag when you see him Hey god bless y'all we went 19 minutes over the night. I told my wife. I was gonna be on here hour So I got to go in here and apologize and make up because I'm in done told a lie God bless you and to the moderators. I really appreciate y'all for helping me tonight to all the moderators um, you know caramel kisses and uh glam rocks and um mama tish and share and um We got one other one The name slipping me right now Slipping me but I see y'all moderators. I really appreciate y'all god bless you and uh nine tonight nine I'm gonna here apologize to my wife and it was one It's only one person that sent a blessing in to say this for your wife So now I'm man of integrity and that was 499. So I'm gonna get that to her But as I told y'all I don't like y'all sending my blessing with my wife name on it But god bless you. We'll talk soon