 So this morning we're gonna start a new sermon series called Emotional. We're gonna talk about in this sermon series is we're gonna talk about different emotions that you will experience in your life and how you are supposed to handle those emotions. You know some of those these emotions do they have a place in your life? Do they not have a place in your life? And if you handle them correctly what will be the results? And if you don't handle them correctly what will be the results? So we're gonna talk this morning first of all the first one we're gonna talk about this morning is we're gonna talk about anger this morning. Okay? I can't even do that seriously. Okay but we're gonna look at the emotion of anger this morning. Is there ever a time in your life to get angry? You know what does that mean for us? You know you've said I've been angry before. I mean I'm sure everyone has been angry before. So what does that mean? How do we handle that? Look down at James chapter 1 in verse number 19 and 20. In verse number 19 the Bible says wherefore my beloved brethren let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. Four so it basically tells us there's a methodology to wrath here. There's a methodology to anger in our lives and we're supposed to be slow to anger. The Bible tells us this is one of those things and then it's very interesting in verse number 20. The Bible tells us here it says for the wrath of man it says here's why. He says here's why you should be slow to wrath. He explains. He says for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. So the Bible says that because of this reason you want to be slow to wrath because your wrath is not going what's gonna come out of your wrath is not righteousness according to God. Okay so look let's look at anger in the Bible. I'm gonna just let's just turn to a few verses in the Bible about anger, about wrath. Look at Psalm chapter 37 and I'll read for you Ecclesiastes 7 in verse number 9. It's a very similar verse to James chapter 1. The Bible says be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. So the Bible here in Ecclesiastes 7 9 is saying again you know don't be quick hasty. He's like don't just get angry just like that. It's very similar to James 1 19 and 20. In Psalm 37 look at verse number 8 the Bible says cease from anger and forsake wrath fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. So this I mean Psalm 37 8 is an interesting one because it basically gives us the clue that anger and wrath for you by the way anger and wrath for us as people is connected with doing evil. Okay so it's making the connection there. It says you know cease from anger forsake wrath and then you know and it connects it to evil that you may end up doing evil and we'll see that a little bit later in the sermon. We'll get verse number look at Proverbs 16 and verse number 32. Proverbs 16 and verse number 32. The Bible says in Proverbs 16 32 he that is here we see it again. It says he that is slow to anger is better than the mighty and he that ruleeth his spirit then he that taketh a city. So I mean here it gives us the idea that number one again we're to be slow to anger and it gives us the connection here that not only so we see that anger evil can come from anger we saw in Psalm 37 but here it tells us that you're able to control that spirit. You see that in Proverbs 16 it says be slow to anger well what do you mean how could I possibly do that because you can rule your spirit because you can control that. I mean that's what's so great about Proverbs I mean just one verse in Proverbs says hey be this way and you have the ability to control that. So I mean first of all we see here in these verses that anger is not a great thing as far as it applies to you personally. Okay the Bible says we should forsake it it says again and again we should be slow to get angry we should not be hasty hasty but look it does not say that it is a sin to ever get angry that you should never get angry look I mean here's the trap that you can fall turn to John chapter 2 here's a trap that you could fall into if you say that you know being angry is always a sin. Here's the thing then Jesus is a sinner if that's what you believe turn to John chapter 2 and look at verse number 13 John chapter 2 in verse number 13 the Bible says and the Jews pass over was at hand and Jesus went up to Jerusalem and found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting so here's these people in the temple of God and they're they're making it their store they're making it their retail store front they're making money off why are they selling these things by the way they're selling doves because that's what people need to sacrifice they're they're using the spirituality that the temple provides to make money to make profit I've been at churches in other parts of the world where they literally do this where you can literally buy a dove and throw a dove off of this cliff or whatever it was and then you're gonna have like many children or something you know I mean people are selling doves like I mean it still happens today so Jesus sees this happening in the temple of God and then the Bible says in verse 15 and then Jesus went in and he said hey hey everybody hey guys what are you guys doing here what is that what Jesus said look what Jesus went and look at verse 15 what's actually just like let's listen to the Jesus of the Bible because the Jesus made up today is fake not real in verse 15 it says and when he had made a scourge of small cords he drove them out of the temple and the sheep and the oxen and poured out the changers money and over through the tables I mean look I've seen my grandpa on the farm braid a braid a horse rope you ever seen somebody braid rope I mean I'm sure nobody knows how to do it anymore who needs to know how to braid rope you just buy a braided rope on Amazon right but I've seen my grandpa sit down and make you know because you can go out and you can buy a horse lead rope for you know 20 bucks or you can make your own and you can braid your own and it takes him just forever to braid the rope and I watched him do it I was like how in the world do you know how to do that but it took him like half an hour to braid out this rope like Jesus made a whip how long did that take I mean he literally saw this he sat down and he fashioned he made a whip I'm sure he was braiding the leather together and I don't know if he was putting things in there or what but look he made a whip and then he drove them out of the temple with the whip now how many people think that he was like hey guys hey look he was mad he was angry and he said under then this old dub take these things hence and make not my father's house and house of merchandise he threw the tables over I mean you think he was like excuse me no he threw him over he threw him over and he whipped them he whipped these people until they left did Jesus sin is the question I mean the Bible says that Jesus is without sin Jesus has God on the flesh he was tempted like as we are yet without sin Jesus has no sin so if it's a sin to ever be angry you know the Bible says that there is a righteous anger folks turn to Proverbs chapter 15 turn to Proverbs chapter 15 probably chapter 15 look at verse number 18 so we see that there may be a reason to get angry there may be there is for sure because Jesus did not sin there is a righteous anger look at Proverbs 15 and verse number 18 the Bible says a wrathful man stirs up strife but he that is slow to anger appeases strife so there may be a righteous cause for getting angry let's look at turn to Matthew chapter 5 and verse number 22 I mean that wasn't the only time that Jesus got angry first of all he went in and he drove the money changers out of the temple twice in the Bible and then I mean do you think when he was talking to the Pharisees and he was calling them hypocrites and you see that exclamation point in your Bible and he's calling them vipers do you think that he was just in a good mood do you think he's like hey brother you honest brother you honest here's the thing about you man I mean you're a viper you know you viper hey buddy you want to go for lunch no he was angry he was angry he was yelling at them calling them hypocrites vipers you know talking about just the how they just twisted the religion that that he he brought to the world look at Psalm chapter are you and now you're in Matthew chapter 5 look but the Bible says in Matthew chapter 5 Jesus says this these are red words in your Bible if you have a red letter Bible the Bible says but I say unto you that whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment look there you can't forget those words there that says without a cause there could be a cause for even you to get angry let me read for you Psalm chapter 7 in verse number 10 the Bible says my defenses of God which saveth up saveth the upright and heart God judgeeth the righteous and God is angry with the wicked every day if he turned not he will wet his sword he had bent his bow and made it ready the Bible says here that God is angry God is angry not only did Jesus get angry a few times in the Bible but God is angry every day with the wicked on this earth and he look eventually he's going to judge the world with his wrath with this anger look at Romans chapter 1 look at verse number 18 Romans chapter 1 and verse number 18 we're gonna go to a lot of Bible here at the beginning and then we'll look at how this applies to us but I just want to prove my point here that God it has gotten angry not only has God gotten angry Jesus got angry and you know why was he angry he was angry with the wicked he was angry with the Pharisees because they were wicked because they were turning people away from the truth look at Romans chapter 1 in verse 18 for the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against what all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who hold the truth in unrighteousness look the Bible even says turn to John 3 36 one of my favorite verses in the entire Bible the Bible says in John 3 36 that the wrath of God abides on the unsaved that if you're not saved the wrath of God abides on you look at John 3 36 he that believeth on the son half everlasting life that's the soul winning verse that many of us use you know in the Bible but you know and he that believeth not the son shall not see life but the wrath of God abideth on him so the Bible says that if you're not saved you know the wrath of God you know it means it rests on you it means you're in danger of it if you're not saved you know look the the wrath of God turn to 1st Timothy chapter 2 the wrath of God eventually will be poured out on the entire earth that's why by the way that's why as human beings because this wrath of God abides on the unsaved that's why we needed a mediator we needed somebody to step in to appease that the Bible says in 1st Timothy 2 fire 1st Timothy 2 5 it says for there is one God and one mediator between God and men the man Christ Jesus so that is what Jesus did was he stepped in to be the mediator between us and the wrath of God think about that I mean think about I mean many of you I'm hoping everybody here is saved but look many of you I mean I know this was the case when I got saved when I got saved and sometimes it will still happen today I will think back when I got saved it was like close one because you think back on times in your life you know maybe when you were in a dangerous situation or you know something was like man that could have gone the other way and we could have died or you know you think about every time you've been in a car and you've been driving people getting car accidents all the time you just think about how you know when you got saved and you realized that now hey I'm free from that wrath now but you realize for your whole life before that you had it on you and it abided on you and you were at risk you were at risk I mean that's that that should scare you a little bit even just looking back on it I mean obviously it's like slid into home made it you know but look I mean you should think about those types of things close call that's all I think about a close call so look I mean you were in danger of hell is what it boils down to and that's the wrath of God you know that's the wrath of God on somebody that's not saved being realized is if they die and they end up in hell so look God is angry with the wicked he's angry with the unsaved but you say does he I'm saved does he ever get angry with me turn to second Kings chapter 7 second Kings chapter 7 17 I'm sorry second Kings chapter 17 here's the thing God has even gotten angry before with his own people with his own people look at second Kings chapter 17 and just look at verse number 18 the Bible says therefore the Lord was very angry with Israel and removed them out of his sight there was none left but the tribe of Judah only so this is talking about when the northern kingdom of Israel was carried off by the Assyrian Empire the Bible says that God was angry with Israel and that's why he allowed that nation to be judged so obviously there's a point where God judges his people with something like the removal of the entire nation I mean that's some pretty serious anger there you know at that point he's angry with them and we could read verses on God being angry with the children of Israel for an hour there's that many but look God turned a revelation chapter 16 so we see that God gets angry with us he gets angry with his own children at times turn to revelation chapter 16 look at verse number one the Bible says that in the end times that God will pour out his entire wrath on the world so he gets angry with the unsaved he gets angry with the wicked and ultimately revelation 16 one shows us that he will pour out his wrath on the world at the end of times and I heard a great voice out of the temple saying to the seven angels go your ways and pour out the vials of the wrath of God upon the earth so those seven vials where all these things are happening and the earth is being burned up and people are being killed like this is after I mean we're long gone at this point as saved believers we're out of here but after that God's going to just pour out his wrath that's why in revelation the saved people are saying how much longer Lord what's right here in revelation 16 one God starts to pour out his wrath upon the earth so what I mean God is angry with the wicked he could be angry with the unsaved and he can be angry with his own children at times so we see that there's many times for righteous anger especially from God now let's look at unrighteous anger turn to Genesis chapter 4 Genesis chapter 4 Genesis chapter 4 look at verse number 3 so here we see you know the story of Cain and Abel we see the story of the two offerings one offering was you know acceptable to God the other offering was not acceptable and we see that it led to anger and what it what happened here look at verse number 3 and in the process of time it came to pass that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground and offering unto the Lord and Abel he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and the fat thereof and the Lord had respect unto Abel and to his offering but under Cain and to his offering he had not respect and Cain was very wroth that means he was angry he was filled with wrath and his countenance fell and the Lord said unto Cain why art thou wroth and why is thy countenance fallen look the Lord said to Cain why art thou wroth the reason he said that is because the only reason that your offering wasn't acceptable is because you didn't bring the right offering it's like it was your fault it was only your fault it had nothing to do with the fact that your brother brought the right offering we're not going to get into the doctrine on that but look one guy did right by the Lord the other guy did wrong by the Lord and the guy that did wrong got angry with the guy that did right is basically what happened here if thou do us well shout thou not be accepted he's like all you had to do was do the right thing so we know that Cain knew what he was supposed to do but he didn't do what he was supposed to do you know and if thou does not well sin lyeth at the door and unto these shall be his desire and thou shalt rule over him and Cain talked with Abel his brother and it came to pass when they were in the field that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and slew him so look he got angry with his brother here without a cause without a righteous cause he was just jealous he was envious over his brother and look he got angry with him and it led to evil it led to murder so we have to understand that just as Psalm 37 said that this wrath this anger can lead to greater things it can lead to evil in this case I mean it led to murder I mean he murdered his own brother so that's why we're supposed to be slow to get to it it's mostly against the wicked the Bible teaches us even when God you know is angry but slow is the main thing not hasty slow that's why I read so many verses about being angry and how we're not supposed to just be this I mean have you ever met that person that's just angry just like that that just like you just one thing and they're just I mean I've worked for people like that I knew people like that growing up I've worked for more people like that and look there's a lot of people like that that are just quick to angry just like that so what's the application to this whole thing so being angry when when should you be angry we know that there's a righteous anger we know that God has gotten angry throughout the Bible you know when should you be angry so let's look at first of all you know these wicked people that are out in this world there are plenty of wicked people out there okay look the entire I mean I'm actually shocked almost every day and how wicked it's getting okay so the question is this should I walk around does the Bible teach that I should walk around being angry all the time should I walk around me and I it's also wicked and I hate everybody should you be like that should you let it own you and take over your life and just look there's plenty of things that are wicked to be angry about I mean no one no one will argue that turn to Romans chapter 12 but here's the thing and here's here's the catch why we don't have to be this way because number one the Lord is wicked with the angry every day okay so the Lord is angry with all this wickedness every single day the Lord is angry every day look at Romans 12 and verse number 19 so when you combine that with this we see why we don't have to be angry every single day look at Romans 12 19 says dearly beloved avenge not yourselves but rather give place unto wrath for it is written vengeance is mine I will repay say it the Lord look the God says here God says here he's like look I understand that there's wickedness everywhere he's like but I got this he's like not only not only am I mad and wrathful and angry with it every single day but I will make it right all these wicked people that are out there hurting people hurting children whoever I mean Jesus says it would be better if a millstone was hung around your neck and you thrown into the into the ocean or the river I mean think about it he didn't say I'm gonna do that he said it'd be better I mean it's better that God avenges than we do because he's better at it and he can do it in an eternal way God can repay the wicked eternally I mean you want to talk about something that is repaid in full that's what will happen turn to Matthew chapter 5 you on the other hand are to be a light in this world how can you be a light if you're walking around angry all the time how could you be a light in this world look at Matthew 5 verse 14 the Bible says you're the light of the world a city that is set on a hill cannot be hid neither do men light a candle and put it under a bushel but on a candlestick and give it light to all that are in the house let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your father which is in heaven so look I will say this the Bible says you're supposed to be a light you can't be an angry light you know you have to be a light to the world but look the Bible does also say that if anyone tries to keep that light from shining you know that should anger you you know I mean think about it you know whether it be church or out soul-winning you know you will find people that try to stop that light from shining and you know what that can anger us but what's the methodology you should be slow to anger look don't get me wrong there's a certain time when you just got to get angry and just just kick some wicked person out there's there's a time for that okay but look let me say this about soul-winning we had a great example of this yesterday but look just as Paul was Paul was angered by bar Jesus remember that in the Bible in Acts chapter 13 he was angry he said thou child of the devil I don't think he said thou thou child of the devil if you please leave us alone he's like thou child of the devil because this guy was trying to stop somebody from getting saved he got angry with him but look we had a situation yesterday we should be slow to wrath slow to anger why is a serpent harmless as doves we're out situation soul-winning yesterday and it was all in Spanish brother David's giving the gospel in Spanish but I knew exactly what is going on because I've seen this kind of situation a hundred times before and here he's giving the gospel to this this lady at the door and her husband keeps walking by he's on he ever seen this guy he's walking around he goes out he's like just says something in Spanish or whatever and he leaves he goes and he starts his truck in the driveway he doesn't go anywhere shuts his truck off comes back in you can hear him yelling some stuff from the back room look he's trying to stop what's happening at the door and then even there I'm just like praying I help this guy just go away or have a call or he has to go somewhere or whatever just keep this guy out of the situation the guy comes and stands up right next to I assume it was his wife and just starts arguing with brother David now look that's kind of a bargees a situation where you know brother David could have been like you know what thou child of the devil but without a bit smart and plus you know we're in a soul-winning situation we're at somebody's house so I mean brother David is just like you know just totally just defuses the guy calms the situation down and the guy finally just like you know whatever you know and he just leaves is able to continue give it in the Lady of the Gospel I mean that's that's why his serpent harmless is dove right there I mean that is smart that is somebody that is being slow to anger slow to wrath I mean like would that have been justified I mean look if you care about that lady soul when you be justified and being angry at that guy but no we're supposed to be slow to anger and look at the look at the payoff you were able to just plant this deep seed with this lady and give her some things to think about I mean it was wonderful it's a wonderful example of being slow to anger and how well that can work for us you know that we shouldn't just be this you know hair trigger you know ready to just go off on people I tell the usher is the same thing you know your job here is to defuse situations is to de-escalate situations were to be slow to anger slow to wrath you know calm things down if there is something that comes up me look sometimes you got to grab somebody and throw them off the street you know it's just that's just the way it is but you know in general we need to be slow to get to that point okay all right now look God's angry with his children too we saw that did we not should you ever be angry with your children let's look at that go back to second Kings chapter 17 so we see with the wicked that God you know God's angry with him every day and God says you know what I will avenge I will repay look if this guy yesterday with some reprobate that's just going to go around stopping his whole family from getting saved look God's gonna burn him in hell he said that's harsh well that's that's the vengeance of God that's the wrath of God welcome to church welcome to the actual Bible that's what's gonna happen to people like that we are to be the light to the other people that are willing to hear the gospel were to be the light to those people so that doesn't happen to them so go back to second Kings chapter 17 let's look at God getting angry with his children look at verse 15 and we're gonna find out you know look there's plenty of places we could go in the Bible with God being angry with his children but I want to show you something that will explain a few things on how you should be towards your children and why the Bible says in verse 15 of second Kings 17 and they rejected his statutes and his covenant that he made with their fathers and his testimonies which he testified against them and they followed vanity and became vain and went after the heathen and they were round about them concerning whom the Lord had charged them that they should not do like them and they left the commandments of the Lord their God and made them molten images even two calves and made a grove and worshiped all the host of heaven and served bail and they caused their sons and their daughters to pass through the fire and they sacrificed their children and used divination and enchantments and sold themselves to do evil in the sight of the Lord to provoke him to anger turn to judges chapter 3 judges chapter 3 the Bible says I don't want you to forget this because this is the phrase I'm going to use again and again in the coming few minutes the Bible says they rejected his statutes really everything can be underneath that statement everything that they did from sacrificing their children to worshiping other gods to following the heathen it's under they rejected God's statutes they rejected him God said hey do it this way here's the way I want you to do it and they rejected that look at judges 3 8 the Bible says and the children of Israel did evil in the sight of the Lord and forgot the Lord their God and serve bail him in the groves therefore for it says for this reason the anger of the Lord was hot against Israel and he sold them into the hand of Tshusha ration net fame the king of Mesopotamia and the children of Israel served him for eight years the Bible says I'm not going to pronounce that name again the father look so the father the Bible says this the father gets angry when the children are in disobedience all right and furthermore it says when they reject his statutes okay don't miss that so the Bible says look you can get angry with your children if they reject your statutes however you know God with his children if you if you think about the Old Testament we're talking about nations here God with his children was extremely long suffering I mean think about this the northern kingdom of Israel Jeroboam came in right after the kingdom split and he made the two calves and he turned the people to bail and he turned I mean it was just he was just wicked God look God judged him individually these kings but the bottom line is he was extremely long suffering with the actual people he was extremely I mean it was 200 some years before they were carried away by the Assyrian Empire so he didn't just destroy the nation just like that I mean we should thank God for that today so the point is this there was chastisement along the way though for the children of Israel turned to Hebrews chapter 12 and verse number six so while God eventually gets angry and destroys the entire nation there is chastisement along the way okay there's chastisement along the way the prophets they come and they say hey you should do it this way you know hey get these people to repent you know Nine of us a great example they repented you know they changed the way they were doing things and God spared the judgment on them for a while look at Hebrews 12 and verse number six the Bible says this for the for whom the Lord love it he chaseneth and scorgeth every son whom he received it so look chase chastisement is meant to correct not destroy you see there's a difference between the wrath of God coming upon the nation of Israel to get them carried away to Assyria where he's just like you're done I'm done with you and the chastisement turn to Proverbs chapter 13 Proverbs chapter 13 so chastisement is meant to correct not to destroy it's meant to get them to the point look it's meant to see something going wrong you always want to be in chastisement mode do you understand where I'm going with this you want to see something going wrong and you want to chastise and correct it before it gets into the point where they have rejected the statutes you see what I'm saying look at Proverbs 13 24 the Bible says he that spareth his rod hateeth his son but he that love of him chase chaseneth him be times that means again and again and again look so the Bible says anger and I mean anger and chastisement do not go together all right anger came from the reject rejection of the statutes you see what I'm saying not correction correction comes out of love correction comes on me in the Bible says that because we are adopted into this family God will chastise us because he loves us that the unsaved are not going to get chastised by God you ever wonder why people get away so many wicked people get away with so many things that's why because they're not under the chastisement of God in this life they're going to pay in hell the unsaved have the wrath of God abiding on them meaning they're going to pay in hell if they don't get saved but you if you're saved you are going to endure the chastisement of a loving father right look so this is why look this is why chastisement as it is first of all chastisement is an act of love we see that here right chastisement is an act of love and I mean if that means you know what that means if you don't do it you don't love your children I mean you could rightly say that you see when you see a child that is not chasing by their their parents that those parents don't love that child you could rightly say that you say but you say what but I love my children what he said well it's really simple your definition of love is just wrong it's that simple so look the reason that you chasing your children is is so look and you don't do it in anger you don't I mean when I when I spank my kids look I'm not going to tell you I've never spanked my kids in anger okay I'm not going to stand up here and say that but look I should have never done it when you spank your kids the vast majority of the times that I spank my kids I didn't even want to do it like my flesh was saying I you I'd rather not do this your flesh will tell you that but that's not of God you know most of the time it was me coming home from work my wife telling you know reading the list of you know the you know the execution orders and and then just taking care of business look my flesh didn't want to do it I want to go out and throw a ball around I want to go fishing I want to do this stuff but look that's not of God when your flesh tells you you know I don't want to do this it's not of God and it shouldn't be done in anger okay but here's the big thing folks and this is how this is where you have to get this first one right because if you do not correct and chasing they will become disobedient they will become defiant towards you look if you if you if you have ever seen somebody chasing their child spank their child and that child gets angry at the parents that's a bad sign that's a bad sign that means that that shape that correction is not doing its job it's either not being done right or not being done enough because that child is getting defiant if you see a child that is chasing they're like ah like a five-year-old no I don't want to get spanked or whatever that is danger territory you as a parent had better raise a red flag on that one because when disobedience when when chasening stops and it turns into disobedience that is when anger will start setting in you ever see a kid that's never been that's not you know that's when they're going to start rejecting your statutes sound familiar and then at that point you have no chance you have no chance when they get older if that obedience is not there that means that that respect will not be there that obedience needs to turn look the obedience needs to turn to compliance needs to turn to understanding you see that and if you miss the first building block you have no chance to getting to understanding do you think that I don't want to embarrass Garrett but do you think that I put Garrett over my knee and spank him I do not I do not spank my 18-year-old maybe some people do I don't if you get to the point where you are having to unleash beatings on an 18-year-old you have lost the fight you have missed the earlier building blocks and I can guarantee you that if you're in a situation where you're going to be spanking an 18-year-old there's going to be anger involved on both sides you see and I provoke your children to wrath but I'll tell you this I'll tell you this they still need correction but you say well how what what do you mean well at that point there should be what the obedience should have led to compliance should have led to understanding and at this point it should be more like minor corrections but you still need a steering wheel and the steering wheel you know what the steering wheel is because you have understanding now right if you've done it right you have understanding you know what the steering wheel is here's the steering wheel but you have to understand this you have to understand these what these statutes if you have a situation where you have not gotten to the obedience step and you have failed there you will never get to compliance you will never get to understanding and now you're beating an 18-year-old who has rejected your statutes and you say well you know what if my 18-year-old has rejected my statutes then I should be able to get angry okay well congratulations you have righteous anger there what are you gonna do now you don't want to be there you don't want to get there that's why you need to pay so much attention on what's happening now when they're two three four five six years old because look I mean you need that understanding that understanding is your steering wheel they're saved they understand the Bible they understand what you're trying to do and that's your steering wheel and look I mean it's a pretty good steering wheel you can make some corrections with it because I mean they're saved right I mean they're saved when they're 15 16 17 years old aren't they saved if not why not they're saved they've got that Holy Spirit in them they should understand the Bible if you're teaching the Bible to them if they're hearing preaching of the Bible they should understand that look the Bible can make some major corrections I mean you can have somebody slip up pretty big and if they have understanding you can make that correction I mean the Bible can correct so what does this have to do with anger you know look I've seen people I've seen people that will not they just won't implement you know the the chastisement on their kids I'm not gonna name names that we knew a family many years ago and they just would not chastise their children and they were not they weren't even really Christians so I mean we didn't really expect them to but look we saw the results of it you know what you had yes a very angry children before they were even five anger it was crazy and then you know what you had you had parents they they wouldn't spank they wouldn't even do anything there was any so I mean look you got a spank look and I'm talking spanking on the bottom I'm not talking about hitting your kids or hurting your kids it won't be stupid but like I'm talking about giving you know some some spanking to children where God has designed them to be spanked but look they wouldn't do any of this stuff so they ended up with angry kids and then you know what you ended up with like rage-filled parents it was nuts I mean just like screaming constantly I mean look when you're when you're screaming at your children you've lost control of the situation okay I mean it should be very matter of fact you know you've done this and this is the punishment and that's it I mean there shouldn't be anger involved I mean it worked but it just and as you get look that's that's slow to anger goes away and pretty soon it's just like this fireball of anger in the house it's crazy seen it happen when when they just rejected the first building block that's the only thing that they did wrong turn to Ephesians 6-4 or just look at the front of your bulletin look at Ephesians 6-4 the Bible says in you fathers provoke not your children to wrath but so no look this is a beautiful verse there's two sides to this verse once again provoke not your children to wrath but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord says says hey provoke don't provoke them to wrath instead do this so it gives you the problem and the answer I mean that's the wonderful thing about this verse and many verses in the Bible so here's the ant you know nobody understands this but the bottom line is point number one is this if you're an angry person you're gonna raise angry children so if you're somebody that's I mean that's just a side note if you're somebody that's just angry at everything all the time and you're this firecracker of a person you're gonna you're gonna raise kids you're gonna train your kids to be that way that's the bottom line yeah but you know at least they'll be well-behaved right but eventually that anger will turn on you that's what Ephesians 6-4 means eventually that anger will turn on you and the main point is if you miss that first building block if they aren't nurtured and taught the admonition of the Lord you have zero chance of building correctly it's not like you might not make it it's not like it's it maybe will work no you have no chance because look it'll lead to this it'll lead to disobedience which will lead here's the other side to rejection of your statues can you imagine having a 14 year old kid or a 12 year old kid who rejects the the Bible that you're trying to teach them it happens all the time it happens all the time it can happen to you if you don't listen to what the Bible actually says you know but you say okay but then if they reject my statutes you know when they're 12 or 13 you know then my anger will be justified at that point who cares you're I mean the problem is is that your children have rejected the statutes that you've tried to teach them who cares if your anger is justified at that point I mean do you really want to be in that place build the building correctly is the bottom line every block is necessary especially the first ones look you'll you'll have no steering wheel when they're older alright so look anger anger there's a place for it we see there's a place for it you know we see that the Lord Jesus Christ got angry a few times we see that Paul got angry in Acts 13 you know when Bar Jesus was trying to stop you know somebody from hearing the gospel but we are to rely on God repaying the wicked and we are to not be angry parents with our children but chastise them in love and nurture you know in general we just need to get our definition of love down properly so many problems in the Christian life would be fixed if people would just quit listening to stupid worldly definitions of love and listen to what the Bible says if you love your children you will you will not listen to your flesh and your your your emotions got me we've all we all have these emotions there's all times I'm sure dads that you didn't want to spank your kids but I mean you're not to be angry about it just do it right get your definition right do it right or you know you will find yourself struggling with anger yourself and with your children years from now which is a nightmare for people and I don't want to see that for anyone here alright so anger there's a place for it God is angry in general God's gonna handle the anger thing folks in our own families we need to manage it we need to do things the way God says I mean that's with anything we just need to do it God's way no matter what culture we've been raised in no matter what we think just just do it God's way it's very simple there's no decisions right I mean that's the I mean that's the easy part of all this right we don't have to sit here and be like oh should I do it this way should I I mean you know everything doesn't have to be a decision in your life you just do what God says that's it I mean have a little faith have a little faith that if I do it God's way that it's just gonna work out I you know it will all right so anger we need to control it we need to be slow to it and we need to realize that God is going to handle things in the end let's bow our heads and have a word