 Michelle yo has finally married her longtime boyfriend Jean Todd and based off this photo and this announcement a lot of people got a lot to say Let's talk about it. Yeah, maybe surprisingly or unsurprisingly This sparked a firestorm on all the Asian Instagram some people said this about Michelle yo some people said that All I want to say is congratulations. Congratulations to her Jean Todd Who I believe is the son of Polish Jewish immigrants to France obviously Michelle yo was a superstar in Hong Kong has more recently become a Superstar in the West or like, you know, she always was known but like really increased her profile a lot All right, David Let's talk about why people are even talking about this photo Why does anybody care that she married her 19 year long? Fiancé yeah, I just think that people need something in pop culture to open up a door to a more serious discussion Anything that happens in pop culture, you know Some people overrated Hollywood this way or some people underrated or some people fairly ready whatever But like it just opens a door should it have been the incident to open that door I don't know but it did and when I'm talking about the door I'm talking about maybe the societal gender imbalances or mayor out marriage rates, you know between Asian women Asian men you're talking about the white man Asian woman couple, right? This is what this now. This is what a lot of people aren't using this as that's what the discussion and arguments and You've even devolved into name calling in the comment section. Yeah So I think it's really interesting that Michelle. Yo of all people obviously But anyways, we're gonna get into the comment section Please hit that like button and check out other episodes of the hot-pot boys If you guys enjoy our commentary in the news that we cover. Yeah, I think that first off Michelle yo first of all, she's been married to a Hong Kong billionaire before so she's totally been married to Asian guys Yeah, I think since I yeltsin side and then I think that you know It's just because she's the first Asian woman to ever win The lead actress award at the Oscars and now she's marrying a white guy after 19 years Even though, you know, we could get into the details of like is he like a tall Chad or Z more like a short intellectual type dude But like you know I'm saying like it just fits in with like I guess like a macro pattern that people constantly argue about Yeah, exactly. I mean, I think my thoughts are like what if she married like a Richard Branson like a really rich cool white guy Like would people be more okay with it? Or is it because visually? He's like shorter. He's not as good looking He kind of looks like a gnome I'm sure he's a nice guy and probably loves her because listen at his age and of that wealth A lot of guys could be marrying and dabbling in younger women You mean exactly like Richard Branson? Yeah, Richard Branson or Dan Bills-Arian or Richard Branson is busy with like 30-year-old women versus 70-year-old women You know and John Todd probably loves Michelle Yo, so I guess I'm saying like if there's no like I can't find any evidence of like self-hatred or anti-Asian Guiness or anything like this around this situation in particular Well, I do understand that happens and we should have a conversation about it I just don't know if this right you're saying that you don't know if this is the right key to open up that door But there's a lot of valid discussions probably to be had in that door Of course We all know the statistics like brought up by this guy named Brian shoe this tick-tocker who talks about the stats about how Kind of imbalance it is statistically speaking about interracial marriages white male Asian female is improbably the most common interracial couple they are a quarter of all interracial marriages despite Asian women being only 8% of married women they almost our number Asian male white female white male black female black male white female white male Asian female couples are Statistically weird, but anyways guys, let's get into the comment section because other people had a lot to say somebody said oh my goodness I'm just here for the comments. They're about to be a mess I know the comments are about to be problematic, but I just can't help but lurk This is sort of like the classic popcorn comments, right because they knew Andrew. This is explosive Somebody said oh my gosh some geriatric white man. Congrats though Somebody said he there's not even gonna be a honeymoon unless there's a very potent blue pill Not all these comments are from Asian guys right by the way some of these comments are from other white people Somebody said he looks so old and feeble. He must also smell. I can't believe this Asian queen God with a guy who looks like this Yo when the person was like yo a geriatric white guy congrats though. Yeah, so congrating I mean no you think about this Do you think that they're it's the looks gap because she's kind of sort of like Upheld as this like, you know, she's she's very good looking. She's an award-winning actress She was a model. She was a beauty pageant girl earlier in her life She is considered very very beautiful especially for her age and then she's with a non beautiful man But I just feel like at this age, they're not having kids anymore You know, I don't know like what their relationship is based on they're probably just two older people who found love and you know In a way, it's almost like him being a short king and I believe he's like a he's a Polish Jewish Son of like Polish Jewish immigrants to France. I actually feel like his situation. It's almost like It's hard to say that she's just going with a Chad Brad Cody Dominant super tall Anglo, right? Right. Yeah, it doesn't seem like it just seems like to me too old people And then one woman happens to be prettier. Yeah, somebody said not every white plus Asian couple was a product of fetishization I'm literally mixed with parents like this and I know that there's nothing but true love in between them He waited 19 years for this woman. I doubt it was anything close to fetishization This was a very moderate truthful comment. You know what I like about this comment She's acknowledging that inside of like we always say Andrew inside of a reasoned pizza There's just different slices and I just do not think the michelle yo Jean Todd thing falls into a problematic slice, but there are problematic slices possibly in that pizza Dude, you're engaged for 19 years First, I don't even know what them getting married means if they were like engaged for 19 years at that point I don't know. Yeah, I mean, and there's a lot of problematic things. First of all, I do think that like I said There's real problematic places, but like that that Anna Nicole Smith You know a thing with the older rich oil billionaire from back in the day That's problematic too taking the race out of it Right. Yeah, because they clearly what did she was she attracted to him? Somebody says Seeing people getting upset at how she's not married to an asian man really shows how internalized racism and generational trauma and prejudice Still lives strong in millennials and this comment was left by a girl to be honest. I look at her profile I think she was like 21 Do you think there is generational trauma and prejudice more amongst the millennials than there are would be I guess amongst gen z Okay, for sure They're from a different generation, right? So they've seen different things. It's pre internet. It's pre iphone, but uh It they're throwing a lot of terms out here. I'm not saying that I don't kind of get what they mean But there's a I feel like the devil's in the details Yeah, because they like there's a way to have that discussion in that door that's problematic And there's a way that's less problematic But the problematic people are making even the reasonable people not want to have that discussion Or maybe there is no discussion to be had because power is power and power levels are power levels And also michelle. Yo, this is not it I'm more concerned with these like gen z TikTok Asian girls who are out dis in asian dudes or something like that to me is more like A little bit more questionable than what michelle. Yo is doing of course and there was a lot of arguing between Probably, you know asian guys and asian girls that turned into name calling somebody said listen There's no uh, no nothing wrong with falling in love with whoever you want to fall in love with But you have to take a look at the macro statistics and see that there's a gigantic gap Somebody said shut up and go to therapy It'll make your insecure in-cell looking ass feel better thinking that than yes somebody said, uh I'm guess. Oh, you're calling me sexist, but i'm you're dismissing the Trauma that asian women grow up with so she's referring to the reasonings for this gap. Yeah I feel like on both sides. There's people being oversensitive about michelle. Yo first of all You can marry whoever you want Obviously if michelle. Yo has a history of hating on asian men or speaking ill about asians which she doesn't I'm just like then that then then it's not really an issue But I think that also for the women to be replying back and and and assuming that every man Whoever brings up this conversation is like an in-cell weak insecure asian man I think is super wrong and that's super counterproductive Right well both people are being kind of toxic. Yeah both people are being counterproductive I mean it's sort of like the toxic left and the toxic right right now politically. That's why nothing's getting done It's all gridlocked. Oh, you don't want to bring up who asian women marry. You're a toxic insecure asian male And i'm like no that's not necessarily true either, but yeah, no dude should be accusing Women of anything right off the bat right because every case is different everything is situational and you know The details here they shift to this case that case somebody said I don't understand how asian men will praise other asian men For getting a woman outside of their race, but we'll tear down an asian woman as the same. I'm not asian So please enlighten me. It just seems hypocritical. I mean, okay. Here's my thing I think tearing down asian women For no reason, especially when the asian woman has not done anything to asian people Is wrong completely wrong And I do think the reason why there's the double standard why you congratulate asian men for dating outside is because it's just simply statistically less probable And it's considered more difficult. So just like I would congratulate lana condor if she married timothy chalamet What do you as an asian guy? When am I going to say I'd be like, oh shoot lana condor guy with timothy chalamet That's cool for her, you know, like that's like a hot top white guy. That's great, you know Because that that would be like I guess considered difficult So in the same way like an asian dude who gets with like a good-looking non asian woman It's just more difficult somebody said wow so many insecure asian men in this thread And uh this turned into you know, like we said even more arguing going back and forth Uh, I definitely think here's an interesting concept and let me just posit this. Okay If your social positioning in the western world is not secure Wouldn't you have a lot of logical reason to be insecure? I'm not saying that it would be right for your life or you know What you need to do and get done as a man, but if literally your positioning is super Unsecured like not secured by anything. It's not tied down by anything. Wouldn't you logically be insecure? I think it is tougher for a lot of asian men to feel secure Now part of that is in their head, right and obviously but also part of it is the things that they've experienced I think it is more difficult And unfortunately, I do think that a lot of asian guys have to bust more moves in order to feel more secure Whether that's travel around they do this and that they work out. They practice this Unfortunately, that is the situation and I just you're just sort of like minus points off the red So you got to dig yourself out of that hole Yeah, you have to spend a little time digging yourself out of the hole first And that's the unfortunate truth for a lot of asian guys But I think that there's so much literature and conversation about it that what I wish is that a lot of asian dudes Would find the spaces where they can like work on themselves to do that. You know what I mean or figure things out Yeah, I really recommend I honestly this is like a little bit of an inside like just moving to an enclave for like A lot for a just check it out. Hell. Yeah somebody said uh He proposed less than two months after they met and then they engaged after 19 years What's going on here? Somebody said convenient timing waited for her to make it status wise to pop the question Um for all the comments about why they brought the oscar to their wedding It maybe it was an inside joke that they would get married when she finally won an oscar I actually think that this is true like that she was like waiting to make it Uh, and I'm not saying that she was searching for validation from the western world But sort of like make it in the west. Yeah, I mean I don't think it's beyond to say that michelle. Yo cares about winning an oscar guys I mean, yeah, I know she's a western person Like I heard she grew up speaking english with her parents in malaysia because at that time Kuala Lumpur and Penang there were such strong British colonies that you could actually like it was almost like You you could just speak english with your parents even or maybe your grandparents. Someone said uh yikes We need to stop putting her up on a pedestal of asian representation And then someone else said all these pro asian female celebrities always be with white men on the down low Yeah, I mean i'll say this I do think that we got to stop looking at people In hollywood to just be the markers of anything You know what I mean like that's a very particular system It's a great skill set to have you have to be above average looking to even ensure that fishbowl to begin with but uh That's one thing that definitely I think in america We generally look at hollywood because we don't like follow that many other worlds or like You know, I mean some people do some people don't it depends on how asian or mainstream eyes you are But you know what I mean, yeah, but I think this actually comes to the conversation about like Do like can you do a lot for a group of people? Can you impact that group of people while you still being different from them? It's kind of like having all these half filipinos on the women's Soccer team in the filipines that they won their world first world cup It's like they're a half filipino. They never grew up in the filipines at all Maybe a lot of them don't even speak to golly at all But I'm saying can they still represent and do a lot for the filipines as a country I think given the situation you have to look at it and say, you know Uh Whatever you think is like right or wrong. What is the reality of this situation? What is progress from this realistic point, right? Yeah, and I think michelle yowl has done a lot for asians in media regardless If she's like with an asian guy right now. Gemma chan or whoever, right? Um somebody said uh, this is actually a hoppa guy I believe his mom is asian his dad is white, but he identifies as asian This guy said interracial dating is fine. He's a product of it himself, but the ratio is definitely skewed And you know what's always interesting is the guys that are hoppa sort of speaking up on behalf of asian guys Do you think that their comments are taken differently than a full asian guy saying it? Uh, yeah, I mean I think that um Yeah, I think it's important for people to just point out the stats I mean listen once you have the stats, how can you argue with the stats? You just have to have a conversation about it to me There's definitely a worthy conversation to have but I just know that a lot of dudes in the comment section They kind of ruin that conversation by starting off being very very bitter and emotional right off the bat But i'm telling you guys we can have a lot of these conversations if we're not so emotional about it But if people get inevitably toxic defending either side, can you have the discussion? I think there needs to be a there needs to be a more higher quality discussion with like more I guess, uh Good faith actors somebody said, uh if asian men are labeled as the undesirable toxic unattractive asian women claim They support poc and pro asian despite dating white men and then comparatively put down asian men based on their own daddy issues While ignoring that the ish asian men had to deal with from the exact same type of parents Then uh, what if the roles were switched around like they are in uh somewhat They are in the black american community then what would asian women say right they're just saying Yeah, because uh What is this comment saying well basically it was saying like if the you know It's kind of all over the place people are dumping their emotions and their feelings But this guy was basically saying like what if just the roles were flipped? How would you guys like that, huh? You guys wouldn't like that very much because obviously he was referring to in I guess in the black american community Black males statistically have a much higher out marriage rate than the women. Yes. Yeah, so he's just like asking that question Oh, yeah, I mean of course you could always yeah flip the role role reversal man. It's uh Always right. Yeah. Anyway, let's get skin to our takeaways. Andrew this discussion goes on forever It weaves into so many derivatives that are not fully relevant. Uh, michelle. Yo getting married is jontad But uh, why why do you think it is man? It's just like every opportunity that this discussion gets brought up by this thing whether it fits or not It's just shooting that gap. Yeah, not every White male Asian female couple, uh, does this apply to and is there a conversation to have about it? Um, but yeah, of course guys the stats are there watch brian's video brian shoes video He would be different if he was a tall british guy to be honest because melasia was a british colony And then you could be like you could draw some colonial geopolitical things But uh, like a polis jewish Refugee to france. I don't know 19 years man. I think they love each other man It's just love at that point plus she did marry a hong kong dude before this So you can't say she doesn't like asian men or that she never liked asian men It just didn't work out in the long term. Yeah, I mean, what do you think? Do you think that there's gonna be just I guess is this discussion ever gonna Get into a quality range? Yeah, I mean I almost feel like there is more discussion because he's this guy Jontad is not good-looking like I almost feel like if he was good-looking, maybe more people would understand You think so I almost to me and I'm not saying that you might be right in terms of the majority of people I almost want to say what happened with like monologue divorcing gary lock and going with like a super tall white You know Chad was almost like you could argue that was more So what I don't know rattling what if she went with like a short white guy like that wasn't as good-looking Would it seem less fetish? Right? Yeah, it would seem less like But then conventional hollywood SMV power metrics I don't know and this is a larger conversation let us know in the comments down below But I guess if they're short and not good-looking white guys Then does that mean she married them more for being white or if they're tall and good-looking and they happen to be white It's almost like aren't they just tall and good-looking at that point depends on how I don't know I think it might depend on how nerdy they are Okay, I don't know guys now see this is a tough conversation guys Anyways, let us know in the comments down below what you think shout out to michelle. Yo, she's got she's in a whole bunch of movies coming up Still she's working very hard. She is uh, I guess the asian queen like asian actress queen I would say right right but anyway, man. Congratulations to everybody. It's a it's a discussion, man Until next time we'd hop out boys keep it civil in the comments section. I'm serious till next time. 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