 So after Trisha Paytas made a series of threads saying that she was going to make a bunch of videos exposing people like Jason Nash, David Dobrik, Jeff Whittick and the rest of the vlog squad, she had a change of heart and as usual there's a lot that we can learn from this. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community and try to take this mess and turn it into a message. Alright so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I don't see what the point is in watching all this stuff go on with our favorite YouTubers or even just YouTubers in general and not try to see what we can learn from it. So yeah real quick before I get started make sure because it is almost the end of the month my brand new book cancelled inside YouTube cancel culture. There is a free version available until the end of the month at my website so that is down in the description down in the pinned comment below. Alright so yeah let's talk about this Trisha Paytas like everybody was kind of waiting in anticipation but she had a change of heart. So as I jump into this disclaimer in case you missed it yesterday go watch the video I did yesterday but those of you who don't know me hi I'm Chris. No I'm not a licensed therapist I'm not a licensed psychologist I am a certified life coach but like most of you I'm a flawed human being and something I try to do is better myself and improve myself and learn from other people's successes and mistakes. Alright and the other thing I want to say before I get started like I do empathize so much with Trisha. It seems like people in the vlog squad did her dirty alright so I just want you to keep that in mind but I'm going to kind of reflect on this and share some of my own personal experience and hopefully you can relate to it as well. Alright so anyways she released this series of Instagram stories today. Guys we just made it to Chicago um I just want to check in with you guys I know I went on a little bit of a rant yesterday I just you know I'm just going to defend myself like I wouldn't feel the need to defend myself. As far as other things I always feel like like the situation when it calls for I will speak my truth um and until it's called for then I'm just going to try and keep living. I was living my best life I'm still really happy and in a good place I'm trying not to go backwards I've been working daily to overcome some like crazy demons that had come out earlier in this year and I've been working really hard on myself and my happiness, my journey, my own mental health and all that stuff like that. So I've been trying to just like let things go and breathe things out but at the end of the day like I'm not going to get walked over either you know what I mean. So yeah I'm glad that she had a change of heart on this and and yeah like I said like I definitely empathize with her and in no way do I want to minimize her experience or what she felt or any of you out there. If you have felt this way right but we do need to take a look and see how we react to situations right because I am somebody who used to continuously get extremely emotional right. Now I get emotional sometimes but it's way better than it used to be alright and the most we can all try to do is just try to improve on a regular basis like something I always ask myself whenever I react or even when I respond to a situation. I ask myself this question and I suggest you do the same right was my reaction or response to that situation proportionate to what actually happened. You see what I mean because some of us freak out right and then our mind will try to justify it in some cases but anyways like the first thing I want to touch on is like you guys we got to learn from this we have to learn from this. Okay first we have Jeffrey star then we had Josh Evans now we have Trisha Paytas and this has happened a wide range of times on YouTube and what am I talking about each one of these three people in a very emotional place told the entire community and all of them have massive followings and said you know what I am going to expose some people that's what I am going to do. Jeffrey star said he was going to expose James Charles he came back with his video saying you know what no I am not going to do that. Josh Evans in an emotional state he said he was going to expose Colleen Beringer, Trisha Paytas, Shane Dawson then he came back and said he had a change of heart. Now you have Trisha Paytas saying she was going to do that to David Dobrik, Jason Nash, Jeff Whittock and the Vlog Squad and then she had a change of heart. So it's like learn from this alright like you're able to witness this on YouTube people who threaten things in a very emotional state but you're seeing it on a public scale like Trisha's video in less than 24 hours or maybe a little bit more than 24 hours has 1.1 million views. Alright so like when you do that or when I do that and we get into that emotional state well if I do it on YouTube and I'll touch on that in a little bit but when we do that like in our regular life it's in front of friends, family members, coworkers you know like we blow up and we freak out so what can we do to work on these things right and there's a slew of things that we can work on. Like for example some things that I do is meditation right, I journal, I vent to my beautiful girlfriend Tristan or my therapist or a friend somebody in my support group. But anyways like I was volunteering at a rehab the other day and we were actually talking about this subject not Trisha Paytas of what's going on with the Vlog Squad but this subject in general right. So for example like when I first got sober I had so many anger issues and I would lash out and I would freak out on so many people and something that I learned is this. The mind wants you to release anger alright and this is true we can't just hold it in and bottle it in. The lie that our brain tells us is that we need to release it on that person right it tells us that we need to freak out on our significant other or our mom or our dad or our boss or our co-worker or whoever it is who hurt us. The reality is it just wants to get out and there are so many different ways to do that like I mentioned journaling venting to a friend like something I used to tell my clients is like before you freak out on a loved one call and vent to me because I promise you. I promise you if you're watching this if you have an issue with getting like really emotional and like angry I promise you if you just vent it out whether to a friend or in a journal or your therapist I promise you you'll feel better afterwards. Alright like I remember a while back Trisha actually was debating on uploading a video when she said on Twitter I can't remember if it was when the nicocato avocado thing was going on but she said I'm going to sleep on it right. And that's something that we got to do like you guys like with the mistakes that I've made like who I could have made a million more if it wasn't for like my girlfriend Tristan just telling me like hey how are you hold off on that you know what I mean or my therapist or my support group. So the last thing I kind of want to talk about is the personal responsibility that we all can work on right there's something that I'm still working on. I hope a lot of you like kind of see where I'm going with this and we all work on this alright. So I'm going to talk like if Trisha were my friend alright or if you were my friend and you were going through this or this is what I would hope somebody would say to me and I do have a lot of people in my life who do say these things to me right. So anyways like you saw in that the Instagram story earlier Trisha talks about how she was sticking up for herself and everything like that and trust me like don't get it twisted. I do think that we need to stick up for ourselves I do think we need to set up boundaries but like when Trisha got sober. She talked about 12 step programs and I'm going to tell you from my experience in 12 step programs something that my sponsor and the program taught me was I always got to look at my part right I always got to look and say did I set off a series of events. So this isn't like a bash at Trisha but like I would have to sit back and reflect on this or I would tell my friend to sit back and reflect on this and say what did you do like did you do anything because it's not always we do something but I would say did you do anything to set off this chain of events. So Trisha says that she was responding to Jeff but from Jeff's perspective he was responding to Trisha because Trisha has gone around sharing this Starbucks story on a bunch of different podcasts and interviews and Jeff finally said something and then she snapped right. So when we're able to kind of calm down for a second we could say oh well maybe he was just responding to what I started in the first place you see what I mean. So there's kind of this personal responsibility like like I said I'm not saying she shouldn't have been upset by anything that Jeff said but part of us has to realize that we set that ball in motion. Like for example would Jeff have ever talked about that incident had Trisha not talked about it multiple times you see what I mean. So I'm not saying who's right or who's wrong in this but when we're working on ourselves and trying to learn and grow we have to ask ourselves what can I control what can't I control right. I cannot control what other people do or say but I can work on trying to control what I say and what I do you see what I mean. And yeah like she talks about like she gets emotional sometimes still and she you know goes off and like it seems like she does have some awareness around it but like check it out you guys like like I said at the beginning of this video. I'm a flawed person too right. I am just trying to get better something they taught me in 12 step programs is progress not perfection. And if you knew me seven years ago you'd be like Chris you come a long way but I get it like even with all the work I do on myself. Sometimes I get emotional and I do something stupid right but like I said we can't justify our actions we got to realize where we screwed up. Like for example a couple months ago on Twitter I clapped back at Taylor Nicole Dean and it was very stupid and immature what I did but my emotions got away from me in that moment. That is why I have apologized to her personally for that you see what I mean rather than going and trying to justify it and pointing the finger and saying well here's what you did you see what I'm saying. So I am still learning from my mistakes and I hope that all of you kind of check in with yourself and as you watch these things go on we see what where we can improve tweak some things and try to benefit from these experiences so we don't make the same mistakes in the future. You know what I'm saying but anyways that's all I got for this video don't forget my brand new book cancelled you can get yourself a free copy until the end of the month down on my website it's down linked in the description and the pinned comment below. There's also an audio book available if you want to check that out and pretty soon I'm going to start working on my next book should hopefully come out in the next month or two. Alright but if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You're all amazing and a huge thank you to everybody who buys my books and supports the channel in other ways. Alright thanks again for watching I'll see you next time.