 Chris Land School has suspended other students involved in the sex scandal which has gone viral. The school promised to release an official statement in respect of the scandal in which a 10-year-old female and male students were involved in a videotaped sex escapade during world school games held in Dubai in March. It was disclosed that the girl was the first to be suspended by the school authority after playing the truth or dare game. She was tagged the major participant. The school blamed the girl's parent for not cooperating with it during its investigation. Meanwhile, the legal state government has shut down all branches of Chris Land schools within the state pending further investigations. The state government has also warned members of the public to desist from distributing the footage of students of Chris Land school engaged in immoral act. The government warned that sharing such footage would amount to child pornography and could attract up to 14-year jail term. We're now being joined by a family life practitioner, Mrs. Nikke Ajay. Mrs. Nikke Ajay, good to have you on News Now Tonight. Thank you. Thank you for having me. Thank you so much. Thank you. Looking at the sex scandal in Chris Land school and generally looking at the moral decadence in the country, what would you have to say as a family life coach starting from the home front? All right. Thank you so much. First, I would like to end my view. First, as a parent, there is a moral discussion, and then it changes. This is happening again. And then if nothing is done, Mrs. Nikke Ajay will still have much more of this. Unfortunately, I saw the video. I saw the video of the mom. I saw the video. It's really, really, really, it made me cry. Why? The reason is that for the obtuse time as a family life practitioner, we keep saying every child is a crystal pure gift from God until the child lands in the hand of the ambulance. The ambulance starting from the parents to the custodians at the point where this thing happened. This incident happened. Okay. Like you said, starting from the home front. For me, a 10-year-old child having such video is really, it really calls for concern. If you were a teenager, if you were maybe an older teenager, probably would say it's a child who's a child. For a 10-year-old child to have that kind of situation at hand and the unfortunate video we have, something has really gone wrong fundamentally. And from the home front, there must be something that went wrong either actively or possibly. This is a threat of the social media. Whoever is the handler of the home front, we have to go back there and find out what we did to this innocent child because a child that is 10 years idling in a society that is systemic in a family doesn't give up on a family system. You cannot outrun a system that you have created. So the home front has to be checked for all of us as parents. Then we now need to look at, let's stop on the home front until I hear the next question because we still have to go back to the scope. There is a lot that has failed at the home front as a parent, as a guardian. Whosoever has been in charge of that child, whosoever has been the fundamental handler of that child, looking at the videos, there is a lot that went wrong. We'll move to the scope. Now looking at going back to how this happened and how it was videotaped, first of all, it's surprising that such an incident was videotaped by a fellow student. I've seen that video and it's really, really, really bad. But again, these students were out of their home country in Nigeria to Dubai for a competition. So it then speaks to me that there was no guidance? Absolutely. Absolutely. As I said, we will address issues as they come. Go ahead. Me to handle my child to a school all the way from Nigeria to Dubai, then a system has actually failed. Because at the point when this happened, where were the custodians at that point? To the point of her living in a hotel room, to the boys' hostel or the hotel of the boys, to where this whole act was permitted. Where were those custodians, the teachers that went with them to Dubai? What was the communication amongst the students, among the pupils, I beg your pardon, that even the teachers did not even have an inkling and to stand it at that point? So it's a systemic failure from the forefront even to the school and parental volumes are dropping. That's the issue we keep having. Now schools, when we are going to pick the choices of school, it's now more of the material values we see. Unfortunately, a lot of parents are in this scenario. Material values, the physical values we see, the high my children are going, there's nothing absolutely wrong with all those things. But the major reason for being in school is the values and you may not be able to identify those values. If you do not have a values system as a family, as a parent that drives you, you may not know what to watch out for and your children will be at the mercy of teachers or staff or schools. I'm not talking about kids that are not here. Any school might have been established only for profit reasons. So there are a thousand and one reasons that all these things happen, what we must go back to the fundamental values and statistics. How then can one achieve sanity in homes where these pupils, these children are being faced with what we now call the wider world? You have all the gadgets in place. You have the tabs. You have the phones. You have all the internet stuff going on for these children. So how then do we bring back sanity to the home front? Thank you so much. Whether we like it or not, internet has come to stay. Thanks to parents that have actually infused parental guidance to all what they're doing, restricting the age of the student and the children that can be exposed to all this. But we realize that regardless, as parents and non-availability in terms of our work space, career has taken away our time because the major values, no matter how we take away this gadget or we control, what is very, very critical in the lives of our children is for us to have quality time with them, quality conversation with them. We keep saying also that availability is not ability. We have to be available to our children and we also have to get the ability to instill the right values, values and skills. However, as parents who cannot shy away from the fact that you do not have the capacity, you may not have the capacity to instill all the value system. And that's why we have teachers, that's why we have mentors, that's why we have coaches. But when you know the fundamental values, the ones you know you can't necessarily not give, you now begin to depend on the right-tested and trusted support system, starting from the kind of schools to attend, the friends to keep, the neighbors and the environment to stay with and the colleagues to keep in the office, the community offline of virtual you need to belong to as a parent. These are the things that I would like most truly is getting more challenging. Now there's something, thank you very much, there's something there's something personally I've observed among parents where there's always this trading of blames when a parent is told about an affair or an act by their children was a bad act. They tend to say no that's not my child, my child wouldn't do such a thing and things like that keep going on under their nose. So where is the parent going astray? Is it by not receiving what others observe in their children or by being so defensive of their children's acts? Thank you, thank you. I would also say again we have quite a number of dysfunctional parents who were also not properly parented and that is the major monster that we have. And by our culture as Africans, we have been nurtured to sweep things under the carpet and we have been we have been nurtured to look for the next available person to blame for our ills. The right thing to do as a responsible parent is to find out why and when you do not achieve the why the heart will be different. I also keep saying that many times why we say this thing will keep happening is because of this blame game we keep throwing in. The parents will blame the school, the school will blame the parents, the community will know let's stop it. I remember in the olden days they keep saying that it takes the whole community to raise a child. They never had a formal system but with large extent they got it all right until we all lost it out of social media and a busy state. So what I want to say is that this blame game must stop. When situations like this happen find out how it's not a time to say it's not my child. A lot of many things are parenting our children under our nose wheels. So nobody should hold grip until you are so sure that you have the proper value system and you keep working at it. So you can't you can't blame you can't you can't be throwing tantrums on the overall. In most of this overall now we need to face the reality. We need to separate the symptoms from the sickness and from the source. Many times like this again is another symptom of a systemic default. It's another symptom of a moral decadence. It's another system that our school system is faulty. It's another, another, another, another evidence that we are on the peripherals as a school who want to go to Dubai want to go to the U.S. is another evidence that a system has failed. And I listened to the video of the parent. It's so annoying to the extent that the school also according to our reports also covered up. You did not even tell the parent what happened. You took her daughter for tests and changed according to her changes to pregnancy test without the consent of the parents because you wanted to cover up. That is so that is way so out of place. Image is more not sure here than values. And until we stop that we'll keep going on blinking. Thank you very much. Thank you very much, Mrs. Nikke Hajiye. You're a family life practitioner. We hope to keep talking to you about these issues and hope this wouldn't happen again. Thank you so much.