 hello everyone at the beach a different beach to yesterday the sand is a bit brighter quite strong waves today it might start raining a bit so i might have to go back to the car but for now let's stay over here and enjoy the view but yes the narcissist comes back as soon as you do this a lot of you may be quite shocked to even think that the narcissist would come back i mean after everything they did to you everything they said about you they devalued and degraded you they said that you were wrong you were bad you were crazy so it doesn't make any sense because who in the right mind wants to be around someone who is bad or crazy so why would they come back to you but in actuality that is just what they want you to think as if you look at the timeline of when they do come back and not only that but you listen to what pretty much every coach every therapist says we all agree that the narcissist always comes back when the target is beginning to move on when they're beginning their healing journey and they're pulling away from the narcissist the illusion the false narrative the gaslighting all of these manipulative tactics as soon as you start to pull away from all of that the narcissist can sense it energetically they already know that your energy is shifting they can sense it and when that happens they get very jealous they feel like something everything that they've created their work their project on you is now falling apart it's slipping away and they don't like it when that happens it affects them because that is their supply as long as you are under their control but when you start pulling away they can feel it they can sense it and they've just got to reel you back in so regardless of all of the things they said to you all of the things that they did as soon as they start to see that you're moving on you're getting better you're improving in your life things are getting better for you you're becoming healthier and happier you're becoming more successful you're building our life for yourself after the narcissist and you're not thinking about them anymore your mind is on other things as soon as they start to see that they will come back and try to pull you back into it they may come back and straight away try to love bomb you but they may move straight to the devaluation and intimidation to still make you think that something is wrong with you and so you have no right to move on or they may just go straight to the smear campaign they may enforce their flying monkeys and gossip about you because it's all just to try to pull you back into their realm the very comfortable when you just stay where they want you to be instead of going off on your own and you're developing your own interests outside of them outside of their control they don't like it when you do that because that takes away their supply it takes away their power and control it affects their ego their sense of importance because you've got to think about like this their relevance their significance to you is based on the false narrative that they had with you on everything that they did to gas like you so if you go off and you're developing your own interests you're doing your own thing suddenly they have much less relevance and significance in your life which means that they have less control over you so this is all about significance relevance that they're trying to maintain in your life and that is why they come back and if you look at it you will notice straight away they come back as soon as they start to see that you're moving on maybe you've met someone new you're trying to develop something with them and then here comes the narcissist they're trying to enforce their narrative back onto you again they're trying to gas like you and they may even try to turn your new partner against you because the last thing they want to see is you moving on they're very uncomfortable with even the thought of that and of course the reason why is because they have these psychotic delusions in their heads they've created this illusion this false narrative that you are this person who is bad, crazy, wrong, you're insane there's something wrong with you they scapegoat it you because this illusion makes them feel comfortable and sane it makes them feel like their lives are perfect nothing is wrong with them as long as they can point the finger at you and blame you for everything they can blame you for all of their feelings all of their past failures and mistakes they can blame you for all of that and then they can feel better about themselves but in order for them to do that they have to deny reality they have to live in this psychotic delusion and yet we wonder why they're always miserable why they're never happy because to at least be in some level of a high vibration you at least need to practice acceptance but they can't even do that they're always in the vibration of fear guilt desire pride or shame they can't even accept reality as it is they can't even accept that you are actually a decent person you're not as bad as they say you're not crazy and you are trying to take accountability even for where they left you you're trying to pick up from that and move on you're trying to do better but even that it's like they just left you on the floor to die and then as soon as they see you trying to get back up you're crawling away from their false reality then out of their delusion instantly they feel very uncomfortable it's like you're putting a mirror right in front of them and they don't like the reflection because of course it kind of reminds them that they left you in that condition of course they know the things they do they're not completely crazy they understand what they're doing and their behaviors and the effects that it is having on you of course they know that certain actions and behaviors come with certain effects and consequences of course they are aware of that and you will know that they are aware of it because they often repeat the same things again and again they'll repeat the same actions and behaviors things that they know have worked on you in the past they use it to perfect their craft of manipulation and if you look at it everything they do is to distract you from thinking for yourself and trying to move on from them it's like the moment you start to do that they come back with the Hoover they've got to re-engage with you again because it's all manipulation and gas-lighting and yes they are fully aware of that some of you may have been in these relationships for years decades at the entire time that's exactly what they've been doing just look at the timeline look back and see all of the things that they did and not only them it may have been the renablers they're flying monkeys they did all of these things there were all of these situations and events at certain points in your life at certain stages in your relationship where they deliberately took you off your path they took you off of your purpose because their fragile egos couldn't handle it it made them feel very uncomfortable so of course the last thing they want to do what they want to see is you moving on the last thing they want to do the last thing they want to see is you no longer thinking about them which is why they have to come back and re-engage with you again to pull you back into the into the manipulation and gas-lighting they have to come back to make you think that you're crazy and target your self-esteem to make you feel like you're losing your minds when in fact all along i can tell you there was pretty much nothing wrong with you to begin with you were fine you were okay had you ever even seen that before you got involved with them you will notice that there was nothing wrong with you you had all of these things going on in your life maybe your life wasn't perfect but you were developing things you were moving in a certain direction and then they came along and then they took you out of it they pulled you off of your path off of your natural course because they desire power and control to the point where they are even willing to deny reality and create a false narrative an illusion a delusion and then they enforce this into the actual world and they try to get everyone else to see it the same way when all of those people it doesn't matter how many enablers or flying monkeys there are it doesn't matter if you're being gangstalked it is still the same thing they are all delusional they have to delude themselves in order to function because otherwise their fragile egos just can't take it they have to set up the situation and environment in a way where you're far less than who you actually are and they're very arrogant and delusional while being heavily dependent on you and your reactions well simultaneously making you believe that you need to be dependent on them when in fact what you don't realize is you should be getting rid of them they are the problem all of these things that you're saying if you're that they're saying if you're bad you're crazy you're wrong if that was even true it would only be because of them just take them out of the way and things will soon start to improve for you and this is common knowledge among many coaches and therapists who study this disorder it's always the exact same thing as soon as you start to move on and things get better for you that is when they come back and I've seen it myself in my own life I've seen it so many times in my own life when I established my youtube channel I started becoming successful earning money as soon as I started to do that and I had a purpose then suddenly all of these narcissists were coming back into my life then they couldn't leave me alone they come back they're like energy vampires they've got to suck your life force your energy out of you to the point where you don't even know who you are or what you stand for you lose touch with your values your beliefs your principles everything that you believe in everything that matters to you you become a completely different person and I'm sure those of you who have watched my videos of the last few years you may have seen it yourself where I go in and out of these times where it's like for a certain period of time I'm very happy and motivated I have tons of energy and doing all these things and then suddenly for a period of a few months sometimes it could be longer then it's like I'm a lot quieter as though I've entered some state of anxiety or even depression when I was never like that before and I'm sure many of you have experienced this as well and you're gasoline to believe in that it's you but if you look back you were never like that before as I said in a recent video just look at your old pictures and videos remind yourself of who you are they have to see you in a certain way so that they can exist in a psychotic delusion where they are superior to you and by doing that it's not only bad for you but it's also extremely damaging to them it's always damaging to deny reality we should never deny reality we should never just be existing in some delusion inside our heads that conflicts with reality of course as we know this is exactly what narcissists do and yet we look at them and we wonder why they're always so miserable they're always so mad they're always taking things out on you or someone else there's always some problem with them and this is the reason why it's because they can't stand your progress your success your achievements all of the things that you're about all of the things that you stand for they can't stand anything when they go up with you they have to bring you down they devalued you and then as soon as you try to move on as soon as they sense that you're moving on and your energy is shifting away from them then here they come back and they're coming back to pull you down to pull you back into the delusion where you're not who you say you are and then they're suddenly superior to you and they're trying to make you dependent on them but in fact it's the other way around they're dependent on you and that should be completely obvious because they create a false narrative a delusion about you they denied reality just to protect their fragile ego so of course yes they are heavily dependent on you they can't survive emotionally without you but then when you look at it it's not really you at all it's this fake version that they have created in their minds of you that protects their fragile ego and makes them feel sane and comfortable it's just supply but one thing they can't do is get supply from you being who you are from you being in full control of your life making your own choices and decisions and just planning your life out in the way in the direction that you want to go if you're free and able to do that they cannot get supply from you because the whole point is that they need to get you dependent on them for validation and of course to do that they have to make you doubt your own qualities and abilities they have to make you doubt your confidence they have to make you insecure and for them to do that you can't really experience any sustainable progress or success or achievements in your life because otherwise that validates who you are so you see how this works and i know it sounds crazy but narcissists are crazy it's exactly what they do they literally live in a psychotic delusion and i'm sure many of you have seen it yourself the way they constantly push and provoke you and then when you finally react they ignore everything that they said or did to you and they point the finger at you that is a perfect example of someone who is pretty much insane to be able to do that to be able to lie and gaslight at that level to blame shift to reject i mean it really is insane no normal person is going to do that but as we know that's exactly what narcissists do they could abuse you for years even your entire life and yet they will still expect you to behave normally and act appropriately and to not ever confront them to not bring up anything that they've said or done to you even though you may have been under their control the entire time they will still blame you for the end results because they are completely psychotic they're delusional they're insane and this is why they come back this is why they constantly have to have this power and control over you and gaslight you into submission because otherwise you're a serious threat and not because what they're saying is true not because you are bad or crazy in fact it's the exact opposite as you may have noticed before you got involved with them you are highly competent you are a very efficient and effective person so of course they don't want you to go on and do that they don't want you to progress in your life outside of their control because if you did that you would completely show them up you would completely surpass and outclass them and that would completely destroy this psychotic delusion it would destroy all of the things that they're telling themselves about you so that they can extract your energy and get their supply to see how it works this is why they come back and if you let them back in all that's going to happen is whatever you've managed to achieve or accomplish since they were gone whatever it is that makes you who you are makes you feel proud confident about yourself makes you feel like what you're doing is right you know who you are you know where you're going you're going to a healthier more positive and productive place when they come back in it's only to sabotage and destroy all of that everything that you've achieved since they were gone because this delusion in their minds it's not congruent it's not inagreance with what you're manifesting into reality so yes the very fact the very truth is the narcissist and all of their enablers and flying monkeys they are all just as equally delusional and insane as each other and i've always said this i've said this since the very beginning on this channel they are all pretty much crazy they're all detached from reality and the one person who is grounded in reality the one real genuine authentic person is the one person who has a mind of their own who isn't going along with the groupthink mentality behind minds and of course as we all know that one person is you who is watching this video right now you are the only normal sane person who is grounded in reality in that environment it's only you no one else and unfortunately this is the way that it has always been it's been this way since the beginning of time i was watching a video last night by this guy i just found he's got a channel on narcissists as well i think its name is xion and he was talking about i think i've mentioned myself in a past video how every prophet of god in history they were always tainted by large groups of people and there's so many of them it doesn't matter what religion you are it's always the same thing that one prophet the one person the one target that is the only real authentic person in the environment and it has always been that way they're the only person who is actually grounded in reality everyone else is delusional they have these psychotic delusions in their mind which they are trying to sustain at all costs whatever it takes and they're trying to sustain it because otherwise they will feel very uncomfortable they're not going to feel right inside themselves to accept that yes you are set apart from the crowd you are far superior to other people you are far more intelligent i just let myself be an example my entire life i was told i'm nothing i'm no good i'm never going to be anything and now i get on year i've got 170 000 subscribers over 40 million views i'm a highly influential person i can come on to youtube and do live videos for over one hour at a time and it's nothing for me to do that to inspire to motivate people but the entire time i was told something different the opposite so of course that means everyone around me they were all completely delusional about my qualities and abilities about my efficiency and effectiveness and the reason why is because they created this narrative in their minds and they brought other people into it as well just to make them make themselves feel comfortable to make themselves feel secure because they have a fragile ego and if you're out shining them they feel very insecure they feel insignificant in comparison and there's something we can learn from this as well and this is something i had to go through earlier on my journey i had to accept that yes sometimes in life we meet our match we meet someone who is in a different class they're superior to us in many ways and of course i've witnessed that myself in my past and the worst thing that you can do because it's not only damaging to that person but also yourself as well the worst thing that you can do is to deny it is to delude yourself into thinking that in fact they are beneath you and you are superior to them because as soon as you do that you are living in a delusion and you're depriving yourself of the ability to learn from them because if someone is superior to you in whatever way yes you have a lot to learn from them and that is how i managed to become successful on youtube and in my business is from learning from people who of course i already knew were far superior to me in knowledge maybe even experience as well sometimes we just have to accept that otherwise we are damaging ourselves by living in this delusion and of course for most of us it shouldn't be difficult for us to do that as for narcissists no matter what they will continue in this delusion telling themselves that they are right and you are wrong even though deep down they already know the truth deep down they already know that they are wrong it's just their fragile ego will not let them accept it it looks like a storm is about to come in you the rain is starting to come down but yes this is very important for people to understand it's the worst thing you can do for yourself and other people as well you just have to accept it if someone is more intelligent than you they have more experience they're more successful whatever it is even more attractive you have to practice acceptance acceptance is a high vibration and that will lead to your success as well if you just accept it and you stop resisting it and this isn't just something why i'm telling people to do this this is something i've done in my past many times where of course i've come across people who are far superior to me in certain areas of life and i have to submit i have to accept okay yes you know more than me you're more knowledgeable you're more skilled so teach me i'd like to learn and yet narcissists this is something that they can't do because they're very arrogant and delusional they have to feel like they know everything but in fact just that mentality it disables them it prevents them from ever achieving anything and it's why they're always so miserable and yet yes this is why they come back it's just to continue with a delusion and to pull you back into it this delusion of something being wrong with you of you being crazy of not being able to achieve anything and of course if you do let them back in or you fall prey to the smear campaign you see it your life begins to deteriorate it affects your mental health it affects everything in your life you experience a lot of anxiety and depression and despite all of the things that they've done to you they point the finger at you they just use it to confirm their delusion they're just not even alive they're barely even conscious they're not real people because real people are grounded in reality they have real thoughts real feelings real emotions normal behaviors but narcissists are operating from a delusion a delusion where life is so unfair to them and they've been subjected to all of these things by you your mental have done all of these things to them i know that just gives them another reason to punish you which is just even more damaging to them as it pulls them even deeper into their delusions into the rabbit hole but unfortunately there isn't much you can do about that you cannot bring them back into reality they're going to continue on their path all you can do is stay out of the rabbit hole like in alice in wonderland just stay out of it don't let yourself get pulled into it because you're just not meant to be a part of it as i've said you are the only real person in that environment it is only you everyone else is delusional they're crazy many of them are even psychotic and they're just never going to accept you they're never going to accept your view of the world even though everything you think everything you believe it's exactly true but they're just never going to accept it because they need supply and their fragile egos can't take it they're connected to their ego this inflated ego exaggerated self-importance rather than being connected to their soul i mean if they were connected to their soul they would just immediately stop what they're doing of course then they would recognize that all of their behaviors are wrong they're bad they're abusive they're inappropriate of course as we know that is never going to happen they don't have empathy even when it looks like they do it's just manipulation they're just putting you in a pedestal so then you're that much further away from the ground when they come back to knock you down so that's all it is that's the only reason why they come back it's more manipulation it's more gaslighting it's just more abuse it's just an incentive for them to find more of a confirmation to themselves of everything they believe to be wrong with you and that's just how it is it's just the way the brain works as well for anyone if you're constantly looking for something you're looking for evidence of it you're going to find it and it doesn't matter what it is i mean there's all of these studies online whatever study you find that proves a certain point i'm sure i can go and find the study that proves the exact opposite that's just how it is it's like when you buy a new car before you got the car you may never have seen that car on the road and then suddenly you get the car and now it's like everyone has it that's just how it is when you're looking for evidence of something you're constantly going to find it and even more so with narcissist because they need supply so it's very important to them they constantly scan in their environment for threats they constantly look for evidence and the more they do that the more that it just pulls them into the psychotic delusion it pulls them down the rabbit hole because it's low vibration it just pulls them down even deeper and what we need is acceptance we need to accept things as they are let things play out naturally and of course to do that you have to avoid the narcissist you can't get caught up with them because there's not going to be an acceptance with them they have a fragile ego they're going to pull you down they're going to limit and restrict you and because of that you're going to develop all sorts of problems even mental health issues in some cases even mental illnesses or personality disorders and of course if that happens to you they're just going to blame you they may call the police they may try to get you trapped in a mental hospital when there was just nothing wrong with you to begin with the only problem is that you work around them but they don't see it they never look at themselves they don't self reflect they're always outwardly focused they're always pointing the finger blaming other people and that's just how it's always going to be with them they're always going to be that way even when it looks like they're not it's always manipulation it's always that way with narcissists every time when it looks like they're getting better they're just about to change they're changing they're improving they're achieving something they're moving in a certain direction but then what happens is no you've just fallen for the relation again because as i've said before that is all they're going to do all they're ever going to do is manipulate you the best you will ever get from a narcissist is an illusion you're never going to get anything real the only thing that is real is you and likely no one else in that entire environment that you're dealing with it's only you so the only one who's going to achieve long-term sustainable success is you yes it may look like they're coming back the love bombing you they're manipulating you again it's all an illusion and when you believe it when you think that yes they're changing they finally learned their behaviors are wrong now they're going to reciprocate back to you they understand empathy they've had an epiphany they're apologizing as soon as all of that happens you are then very vulnerable if you believe in it that's where then when they're going to attack you and drain you of your energy because you're believing something that is not true something that is never going to be true that is never going to be a reality of course it will be a reality for you because you were never like that to begin with you were fine all along you were never bad you were never crazy they just manipulated you they tricked you into believing that and then you feel like you've had this epiphany and now suddenly you're changing you're becoming better you're just returning to your normal state that's all that is you're not really changing or improving anything you're just healing you're just coming back to normal and yet it tricks you and it makes you think that if you can change you can improve then maybe they can as well when in fact it's just for you you you didn't receive any empathy for such a long period of time no empathy was coming to you so then you felt like you were becoming more narcissistic you felt like something was wrong with you when it's just you had no empathy going in and you may notice that as soon as you watch my videos or another youtubers it's like instantly you've got this empathy coming back in you start to feel better you feel more alive and now you start to develop more compassion for other people for other people's feelings and needs the only time that you act out it's reactive abuse as an empath that is the only thing that you can do wrong you can't do anything wrong as an empath only if you're being abused or if you're being restricted you're not having any empathy coming in then you act out of character you're not yourself these behaviors are natural they're normal for narcissists but for empaths it's impossible you can't do anything wrong if you are grounded in your authentic self in who you actually are you might make little mistakes sometimes but you'll take accountability and instantly learn from it but other than that it's just because you haven't got empathy going in if someone like myself or someone else comes around and they bring some empathy to you they show compassion and understanding you will instantly return to your normal self straight away but when you're around narcissists you feel like you're going crazy you're losing your mind you're not you're not suddenly having epiphanies either you are always that way it's just these narcissists they mess people up they change us they bring up the worst in us so that is just validation for you to know that you are okay you're fine the only problem for you is that you're around narcissists so i just want you to know that and i hope that this video does bring empathy to you to make you feel more like yourself because as empaths that's just what a lot of us need i mean think about it all day every day we're constantly giving out our empathy which is natural to us as empaths and we've got nothing replenishing us nothing coming in of course we're going to feel that we're becoming more narcissistic more cold-hearted but all we really need is just some empathy and you can get it even by watching these videos it's enough to make you feel more like yourself but of course don't go around narcissists even if they're coming back with manipulation love bombing it's all an illusion they can't give any empathy to you all they can really do is reflect back to you who you are and then it reminds you yes this is who i am that's all they can really do but everything is just an illusion it's not really them so that's all i really want to say for this topic but if it was helpful 113 live viewers you can give it a thumbs up down below let me know your thoughts in the comment section if you agree with this or not if there's anything I left out share the video and hit that subscribe button down below for one-on-one coaching sessions you can book with me on my website it is narcsurvivor.co.uk and check out my instagram i've got new pictures and videos 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