 I keep forgetting he's not an officer so I let him open the door right I never know which one to use now let me see I oh well I wasn't too hungry anyway oh no no one's talking to the guest of honor good manners social grace and courtesy are the mark of the successful service woman they can also be used to describe successful people in all walks of life knowing what to do in specific situations is a matter of custom instinct education and good taste wow man you could have knocked me over with a pin that's a beautiful dress where did you get it where did I oh I bought it at lawman's last Thursday you know I wish I could wear one of those they're really cute but well I guess they're a little young for me but I thought well that you didn't dig oh excuse me ma'am well that you didn't like mini skirts and clothes like that no now that's not exactly right we do have certain ideas about how you should look in your uniform yes the tailoring the fit and how it should be kept and I guess sometimes we do express these feelings rather strongly yes ma'am but really that only applies to uniform how you dress in your off-duty hours is another matter now we do expect the girls to show good taste and everything they wear with but that really shouldn't keep you from expressing your own individuality or personality and selection of clothes hair styles and makeup is take many skirts for example I think they're great and you look good and and I really feel the same way about a lot of the other new and exciting stuff they're all fine in the right place and at the right time well you might say that's the key to the whole thing the right place at the right time and I feel the same way about makeup and jewelry because well you probably look a little dirty if you didn't wear you know more dramatic makeup in the evening something that would set off your costume yes ma'am but well I really have no argument with any of it so long as it's appropriate and worn at the right time I well I wow I really never knew you thought that way about it Captain York well I can't wear many of the new styles but I like them fact I think they're just fine well between you and I Captain York a lot of the people around here would be very surprised you know some of the girls think that she's old-fashioned and I don't know you know just down it let me tell you something girls anybody that thinks that about Captain York is like making really one big mistake you know she happens to be an absolutely groovy person and really boy you really changed your mind about her out of hurry anyway I'm glad to see that running into Captain York is for your evening it didn't at all well that's great mine was such a mess really what went wrong everything that could possibly go wrong you know they were all little things but boy they really added up and rest my evening the whole thing started in the restaurant even ordering the food was a big problem and then I won't have the roast beef please and then I would like to have no no no I'm sorry no no no the lady would like to have I'm terribly sorry it was a mess all right a real mess both of us talking at the same time why the audience got so much stuff like it was just horrible well that shouldn't give you any trouble Sandy that's really no problem at all you can find out all about that kind of stuff in any book sure here I'll tell you how it works all you have to remember is to always tell your escort what you'd like to have and then let him place the order for you that's right Sandy just tell Frank I would like this shrimp cocktail please roast beef with a baked potato and a tossed salad good evening sir yes the lady would like the shrimp cocktail roast beef medium rare medium rare the baked potato and a tossed salad what sort of dressing would you like oh Russian please listen to me giving you all the answers if I knew all about it Sandy don't let it fool you I get into plenty of messes myself do I should do well just the other night when I was on my way out it was only a little thing but it was so confusing I have to stop and think these days because I can't remember when I'm supposed to open the door and when I'm not all day long I open doors and stand when I talk to the officers I work with after a while you get used to that but I get kind of confused because after 1700 hours this little pumpkin changes and becomes the lady they stand for me and they open doors for me not bad not bad at all I mean it just takes a little thought and a little remembering once in a while but it's all worthwhile well I really enjoyed this being here I'm glad to see you've got all your problems so I wish I could say the same about myself oh come on Sandy maybe exaggerating it could have gone that way okay okay come on tell mom all about it all kinds of things now listen you know I don't embarrass easily but man as soon as we got in that restaurant I knew I was in trouble I didn't know which one to use and I didn't want to look like a fool that's easy Sandy you don't have to worry about a thing like that I used to get bugged by that too but no more now you can find out what each piece of silverware is for but if you don't know all you have to do is work from the outside of the service into the place that's right Sandy that's right the outside one but that wasn't all oh there's my favorite chaplain excuse me I'll be right back hello chaplain mills how are you today I'm so happy to see you oh chaplain mills I would like you to meet a friend of mine Frank Parker Frank I would like to meet Mrs. I mean oh just remember the rules always present the gentleman to the lady in the military it's the junior to the senior member and always mention the lady's name first it's simple Mrs. Mills chaplain mills they are present Sergeant Parker good evening Sergeant Parker people think it's easy that there's nothing to the social responsibilities a girl has in the service they just don't understand I even have the same trouble with Tom that's the big deal so you have to set up a reception for the new Sergeant major what's so tough about that what's so tough well you may not realize it but there's a lot to setting up in a fair like this it just doesn't happen you know well I would say the first thing we have to do is to get organized and decide what kind of party we want we were going to get the money how much money you want to spend things like that you know this is a very important event well I really think we should have a sit down you know I don't think that's necessary possibly a nice morning coffee decided this time of the month not too few not too many of us have have money to spend to afford a dinner well I think it ought to be a reception buffet myself no coffee no I think it really should be a no I think I gotta get the money up if we really do I think a buffet would be better we finally decided on a reception buffet had to do is find out how much the unit fund could afford to give us and that took some doing and then we had to set up a committee to help select the food and beverages and that was also a lot of time and a lot of work and then one of my jobs was to figure out who to invite and to get the invitations out and if you think that's an easy job you're making another big mistake I didn't say it and I didn't say that and then I spent all afternoon with the first sergeant helping to set up the receiving line and then after that we had to check and make sure everything was according to regulation well I'm glad that's all over with there'll still be a thousand things to do with the reception itself I mean hubby's so glad when tomorrow's over no it really was wonderful after all I told you you'd have a good time what's there to do at a reception if that's so well let me tell you what can happen if all you think about is just having a good time we could have had a very embarrassing situation on our hands if it hadn't been handled correctly there's more to a time than just having a good time as an aid I have to see that it all runs smoothly that each name is passed on to the line correctly and that's what line flow so that the guest of honor doesn't wind up talking to nobody you know getting people to mix and mingle is a very important part of any party Frank we purposely avoided having tables and chairs at this party so everybody would talk and mingle a lot more and here you girls having your own little private party going come on get with it hey girls wouldn't you like to come and meet the new sergeant major come on she's over there okay hey that does take a lot of doing doesn't it I'm sorry sweetie I didn't mean to put you down good appearance social graces personal development of this kind pays off in career advancement social acceptance and personal fulfillment a pretty good deal