 Chris, what are you doing? What Maya? I had people tell me that Trisha Paytas and Gabby Hannah were beef and so I wanted to watch and see if there was anything I could make a video about. But Chris, you know if you do a video, it'll bring the drama zombies out. I know I know Maya, but I think there's some really good mental health topics that we could talk about, such as relationships, friendships, borderline personality disorder, having empathy. I know, but that's not what the drama zombies want. They want drama. God damn it you guys, don't you remember what happened last time? I had jacked you guys up! Team Gaa... Team Trisha. Oh my god, what is even happening? Team Herpes. Wait, what? Now it's just getting weird. Alright you guys, I warned you. It's time for me to send you all back to hell you mother f- What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health. And if you're like me, you just wasted about 20 minutes of your life watching the back and forth between Gabby Hannah and Trisha Paytas. But the goal of my channel is to take this mess and turn it into a message because there is literally no point in watching all this ridiculousness go on unless we can take something from it and try to see what we can learn to improve our own mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And if you're not yet, follow me over on Instagram at the Rewired Soul and I'm over on Twitter as well. Alright, so yeah, I had some messages and everything about this new beef going on with Trisha Paytas and Gabby Hannah. So those of you who don't know, the month of November is National Writers Month. So I've been doing 30 blogs and 30 days all on mental health over on my website, theRewiredSoul.com. Go check them out. And this is a great time for you to check out yesterday's blog about how you need to ration the amount of Fs that you give because this whole thing and a lot of the drama that goes on in the community is something that you should really, really not care about. But we can always learn from it because when we watch this stuff like what I'm always thinking is how much of this stuff is going on in our own lives and we don't know how to deal with it. Alright, so anyway, it's just long story short. I was sent some messages about this. I watched Trisha Paytas' new video. Yada, yada, yada. Apparently Trisha Paytas is upset with Gabby Hannah because Gabby Hannah was concerned that Trisha Paytas might give Jason Nash herpes but Trisha Paytas is upset about that. And yeah, I guess you get upset if somebody says that you might have herpes. Gabby Hannah went to her Instagram stories and said, yo, I was trying to be a good friend and if I hear somebody has herpes I'm just going to let my friend know and all this other stuff. And then there's a bunch of pointless back and forth. Great. Now you're caught up to speed. Alright, so the first thing I want to talk about is why Trisha Paytas and Gabby Hannah are breaking my heart. Alright, so Trisha Paytas and Gabby Hannah are both people who have been very vocal about mental health, their mental health and it's awesome. Like I'm somebody who just loves, you know, that people are having that conversation. But this reminds me of when I first got sober and I was in my sober living house. So being in a sober living house, I don't know how many of you have ever been in sober living. If you have, let me know down in the comments. But it was my worst nightmare when I first got there, right? Like there was nothing worse for me. Like I can barely have one roommate but putting me in a house with 18 other dudes who are trying to get clean from drugs and alcohol it was pure insanity, right? And this was back when my anger wasn't really under control either and I was just getting passed at everybody and everything, right? Why can't people just act the way that I want them to act? Why aren't they doing what I think they should be doing and all this other stuff, right? And through working on myself, through working with a sponsor, through talking with other people. Like something that I had to get beat into my head was like, Chris, you know you're a sick person, right? And I'm like, yeah, and they'd be like, Chris, you know you're in a house with a bunch of other sick people, right? And I'm like, yeah. You know, because it's easy for us to sit there and think about all of our own problems. You know, I was in California, I was away from my son, I destroyed my life, I didn't have anything, right? And I was already on edge because I had burned my life to the ground and all I could think about was me, me, me, me, me, me, me, right? Well, chances are people in that sober living, like they were in similar situations and maybe they were on edge too. Maybe they weren't acting in the way they, you know, should act because they had a lot of stuff going on in their lives as well. So that helped me develop empathy for these people was getting out of my self-centeredness for just a little bit and realizing they're going through some stuff as well. So when I see Gabby Hanna and Tricia Paytas arguing about this stuff and publicly fighting with each other, which is really ridiculous, it also reminds me of how I had to kind of like do groups every once in a while when I was working in the rehab center and get everybody to chill because you guys like, girl, there's a lot of drama that goes on in rehabs. Like any of you who have been to rehab, you know this, right? And people would just be at each other's throats. Like we had like fist fights and all sorts of stuff, right? And kind of like what I'm doing with this video, I'd have to do groups or I'd want to do groups and just discuss this and just kind of bring that to light. Like what I would ask the clients, I'm like, how many of you here miss your family back home because like 90% of our clients were from out of state, right? A lot of people raise their hand. I'm like, how many of you are stressed out because of the relationships that you have to build or finding a job when you get back home or your financial issues or just the self-hatred that you have for what you've done in your addiction and everybody's raising their hand. I'm like, look around the room. I'm like, everybody's going through stuff. You know what I mean? Like sitting here and fighting and arguing, like we're not thinking about, oh man, that other person is going through something because yeah, some other people might do or say things that we don't like. I made this in her video. I don't know what's going on in her life and her personal life, but it seems like, you know, that kind of fueled this video that she made. But yeah, obviously she's going through her own thing, right? And Gabby's going through her own stuff and you see this, but this is something that we all need to look at within ourselves. Like we're all going through our own things. This is something I'm working really, really hard on doing once again. Like it was just, if I'm being fully transparent with you guys, it was a lot easier for me in a sober living house. It was a lot easier for me in my day-to-day life. Like it still is in my day-to-day life. It's easy to interact one-on-one with people or just friends and family members and stuff. And it's easy for me to see that one person be like, okay, they're probably going through something, right? Like something that I'm actively working right now is it's difficult as a YouTuber when you get like a thousand crappy comments and thinking on an individual basis because you kind of see them as just this mob, right? But it's something I'm trying to do. Every time I read a crappy comment, I'm like, what's this person going through in their own life? Are they struggling? Are they hurting? And Gabby Hanna in her video, she has some clarity on that. She has some clarity and she understands what all of us need to understand, which is hurt people hurt people, right? So I really, I really try not to take it personally and I suggest that you do the same because there is a 99.9% chance that the other person is hurting and that's why they hurt us. Hell, this is something that I teach my son. My son's 10 years old and he's in elementary school. He's in fifth grade about to go off to middle school. But since he was a kid, whenever dealing with just other kids at school who were being jerks or bullies or everything like that, I talked to him about it and I talked to him about setting boundaries and everything like that. But I'd also have him sit there and ask himself, like, do you think that kid might be going through something in his own house? Do you think maybe his parents don't hang out with him as much? Do you think maybe his parents don't play with him? Do you think maybe there's arguing or fighting? And although we don't know whether or not these things are actually happening, it starts to get our empathetic wheels turning, right? One of the strategies I talk about in my book, Rewire Your Anger, is lie to yourself, right? Like something I try to do to control my anger and my emotions is I will lie to... Like if I do not know for a fact like what's going on in the other person's life, like say somebody cuts me off on the freeway, I will make up a story in my head to try to empathize with that person, to try to bring me back down, all right? So feel free to use that strategy and lie to yourself. So the last thing I want to talk about is this. Like Trisha Paytas has been vocal about having borderline personality disorder. And some of you watching this, you might have borderline personality disorder, but many of you out there watching this know somebody with borderline personality disorder. And I just cannot stress to you enough, okay? Something, the first thing that we all, all need to remember, most people are not bad people, they are sick people, okay? This is why I highly recommend that you educate yourself about different forms of mental illness such as borderline personality disorder such as, you know, addiction and how crazy addiction can make us, right? Knowing that even like anxiety and ADHD can make people lash out in different ways. So Gabby Hammett in her live stream, she talks about how Trisha Paytas, you know, says like, and this is why nobody likes you, right? Like that is one of the trademark traits of people with borderline personality disorder. When they come at you, they will try to sting you and hit you right where it hurts. You know what I mean? But when we start to say, oh, this is a symptom, right? Like if somebody with a cold, they sneeze, you know? Like I don't get offended by their sneeze. I'm like, oh, that's part of them having a cold. You see what I mean? Now, now this doesn't excuse their behaviors, but if you're somebody who has somebody in your life who has borderline personality disorder, I highly, highly, highly recommend that you pick up the book called Stop Walking On Eggshells, okay? It is a book written for anybody out there who has a loved one or anybody in their life who has borderline personality disorder. It will teach you how to set up certain boundaries and deal with that person. You know what I mean? Because sometimes it's our sibling, sometimes it's a parent, sometimes it's a spouse, sometimes it's a friend. You know, whatever it is. So educate yourself and learn how to deal with it, all right? Because we either accept it, change it, or eliminate it. All right? So again, all of the drama that happens on YouTube is absolutely ridiculous and a waste of time, but we need to learn from it. So the morals of this story is empathy, all right? Remember, the people out there who are doing things, they're often struggling with something, they're often hurting. You know what I mean? They are not bad people. They are sick people. The other moral of this story, educate yourself about different forms of mental illness, not just your own, okay? Don't just be like, oh, well, I know what depression is like, right? Like, learn what other people are going through so you can try to empathize with them. We are all going through stuff. All right? But anyways, if you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you enjoy Maya, the drama zombie slayer, make sure you subscribe with notifications turned on. All right? But I also want to send out a huge, huge thank you to everybody over there supporting the channel over on Patreon, as well as everybody who supports the channel by buying, you know, merch like this shirt has Wyatt. You might remember Wyatt from yesterday's video. Or if you support the channel by buying my books, like Rewire Your Anger, Rewire Your Anxiety, and all that stuff over at the website. You're all awesome. All right? Thanks again for watching. I'll see you next time.