 and fixes insist that their fix is going to work for you because it's this one size all fix which makes you feel unseen anyway because you know they're just stereotyping you and lumping you together and saying oh yeah this will work fixes are obsessed with giving you a formula giving you a solution because they know it worked for them or someone else and they'll even listen to you there's no tuning into the nuance of the individuality of the incredible personal nature of your pain so fixers throw out these solutions and you think you know no no no no don't don't do that to me i wish i hadn't said anything because the quickness with which they run to a formula makes you know they ain't heard a thing i just said and this is really costing me to tell you anything