 Like okay, I know why it's scary because we don't need people aspiring to be Jake Paul I'm so sorry. I came for his brand. Hi everyone. My name is Katie. Welcome to my channel if you're new here and Welcome back if you have been here. Okay, it's sick today We are gonna be talking about the I guess the like I do not dream of labor trend If you are not on tiktok and you are not Like a YouTube fanatic this trend kind of blew up like in the winter time I guess I would say and it was like the sound of like I like I do not dream of labor But tell us what's your dream job darling? I've told you several times before I have no dream job I do not dream of labor. So I am going to be reacting to I think her name is cat Okay, their YouTube name is cat her out and this is the video that was like always put in my recommended page So I'm gonna react to her video and I felt like I could come at this like trend I guess or like do a reaction to it because I come from the perspective of someone who has been on a gap year for now for a year and I am like ready to go back to school like I'm so excited to go to school and I Do I don't have a dream job But like I really love what I study and I think that could just be an interesting thing And I'm definitely not coming from like a place of hate like for this trend like I don't I don't know a whole ton about it So I thought that that would be a good fun thing for us to do together So let's just we're just gonna start on something that I think has been causing a lot of grief for many people Which is what exactly are you supposed to do with your career and to jump right into the piping hot take? I'm here to tell you that maybe you'd be better off with that one I have my trusty girl bossy journal here in which I've scratched down a few notes But really I just want to speak to the transformative power of reclaiming what a career means Okay, like first first part of this like I that's perfectly reasonable to like just talk about it If you're watching this first of all hit the thumbs up That would help me out a lot and subscribe if you'd like but if you're watching this your YouTube homepage You may look a little bit like mine in that every so often a video trickles in there Invalidating the idea of a dream job and I really enjoyed listening to their very personal Reflections on that and I want to add to that discourse in support of all these other great folks who are liberate us from a life of Servitude to companies. I was born and raised in the Bay Area, which is a very work-centric culture I think it gets characterized that way a lot. I never consciously saw that as an example That's so funny because if you go to all of my videos I was just talking about this with my family like I call DC like an academically pressurized area like I literally go back and watch my old content and like take it like take a Shot every time I say that because that's like the nice way to put it But like it's it's like hustle. It's like the hustle culture of like like here Like everyone's trying to get into a good school and like it's a lot and like I definitely agree with that Like I think when it gets like to a point where it's like unhealthy I think it's just like anything in your life Like you got to have good slices of the pie like there's that you know the one Influencers talk about it like the pies at the pie of life I'll be think growing up But what it does do is imbue the youth of Silicon Valley with the intense desire to go to like an elite four-year college And then get a very prestigious brand-name job, which greatly impacts the mental health of literal 13-year-olds It's true stress about their future and their potential and how successful they'll be instead of just Exploring and having fun with friends like I was a bit like concerned about that when I was a kid like I But then I also do like a lot of fun stuff too Like I did musical theater and like I was involved in like creative stuff Like I wasn't so hyper focused on getting into a good school because I think that like and I got I was like a good student And I think that if you do opt to like not kill yourself and like not sleep And you know you do what you're capable of and you do the best of what you're capable of like We still end up feeling like failures and I feel like that's just like such a that I agree with her right there Where it's like it's such a messed up like part of this where it's I don't know it's it's just like it's hard to Feel like a kid and like even when you are in those moments of feeling like a kid like you still have those moments of anxiety because I don't know Like success is just it's always moving around the corner Everyone just wants to be successful But I'm hot take you're already successful if you just you know do what do your best and not like society's best You know because that's that's sometimes all you can do is just your best as soon as I graduated I plopped right into the corporate track and was a happy little letting just charting my course And I remember very distinctly like six months into it being like I don't know if this is for me I don't think I'm qualified. I don't think I'm competent here. Like I don't know what I'm doing I just don't think this is for me Like I felt a core misalignment with what I was doing and I kind of just chopped it up to like Oh, this is how everyone feels like you just have to keep going at a certain point It'll settle out and you'll start to realize that nobody knows what they're doing and you just have to figure it out as you go But yes, I think that what she's saying here is really really true Confidence in like your job or like what you're doing like doesn't come easily I will say pretty much every internship. I've ever started I've been like really nervous and felt like I wasn't qualified and then the more that you do it the more you feel like no I like I know what I'm doing I think that there is a part of Starting a new job or an internship or and I haven't like actually worked like a real-person job But I worked for 10 months this year in one company so like I have like somewhat of an experience with that and I forgot I was gonna say this is why I don't make reaction videos because I forget everything you what she was saying like your Quichite core misalignment she She makes a good point like you should question that like if you're doing a job and you're like I don't this isn't like, you know sparking any like joy in you or you know passion. Yeah I think that's good to question that I think after a while that initial like nervousness and not being confident or feeling like Lost in the job like I think that that is normal But I think there there will come a certain point where it's like if you're down the wrong path Like you should question that and try and change it if you can remember going to the Netherlands And it's like if you ask someone you know what they do they'll answer. Oh, well, I'm a cyclist I'm a father. I'm a writer and then maybe the second to last thing would be like and I'm an accountant But in no way is their labor and their job the formative part of that identity Like they don't center that and who they are like we do in the US and call me looney But like I think it's very plausible that their happiness index and their distance from their jobs Is their identity is linked that does not sound unbelievable to me So I've spent a lot of time over this past year taking in a lot of different perspectives about work and different point of views about Success and career orientation and all of that and I really enjoyed like learning how other people define these things for themselves And in that sort of informal self-study if you will there are a lot of dangers that people speak to of tying your job directly to yourself Your worth your purpose because here's the thing like amongst the dangers are the potentiality that you'll lose your job If your entire self-awareness is centered around a job, and then you lose that thing at the core So okay I think that this also has to do with school and I think that this can make a really interesting point of why people like Who are lost and don't know what they want to do or don't know what they want to major in like why? I think a gap year could be good because being a 20 being like an 18 to like actually I don't know when it's gonna get better being an 18 year old to now like you have so many like existential crises You're like who am I who who is who are they who where do I fit in like you do? you have so many existential crises and when you are a person who's not sure about your major or Something like that when you're in college can be very overwhelming to try to like figure that out while you're and if you lose it too Like if you want to change your major like then like what does that mean about me? But like even people who do have their major like you're just questioning everything to which is like I think the point of why I wanted to make this video because I think that this applies to People going to college and people picking their future and I think that it's so hard to know when you're 18 Human necessities a lot of people want to start a garden a lot of people want to devote their life to art I know a lot of people that would love to become therapists or social workers or devote themselves to some very Giving field, but they can't because the debt that school would put them in in order to get that degree and be able to work Those fields is inescapable and so they just can't do what they want to do like there's so much we're limited by So I would ask yourself like if you didn't have to work 40 hours a week What would you fill that time with and that's a really wonderful way to reset on what your internal passions are alternatively You can also ask yourself What would you spend your retirement doing that's really really sad and bleak that we feel like we have to wait 40 years just to be able to do what we want with our lives Like as if your 40 50 year career is in exchange for like I don't know 10 years of retirement We get to be free and do whatever you want. Well, and I think that this is really interesting too Just to talk about because I think that like trends like these are not Helping and I'm not saying like I think that this girl has the best of intentions like I really do But I think that it's this kind of conversation which like I've had this conversation so often like I am this girl Okay, but I think that this is really contributing to Like at all these like Gen Z kids, which I'm a Gen Z But everyone's like I want to be an influencer when I grow up and that is definitely a scary thought I don't know why it's scary. It's just like, okay I know why it's scary because we don't need people aspiring to be Jake Paul I'm so sorry. I came for his brand He's never gonna see this video. So it's it's fine But we just I feel like that's maybe something that like we don't necessarily need It's like millions of kids aspiring to like prankster life I don't know much about Jake Paul or Logan Paul except the controversies So I'm out of my realm, but you get the you get the you get the picture, I guess Fulfillment another helpful way to frame this is like almost in the shape of a thesis I saw where I live talk about this in a video But when I speak about my life's work, my life's work isn't selling software like that's not my life's work That's not my contribution to the world like my life's work when I think about it And I really journal about it and get into my meditative bag and beyond my Pisces bullshit My life's work is showing up for my friends. It's showing up for my community online in person. It's indulging in creativity It's exploring outside of myself like that's how I wanted to find my life's work because those things well And I think that this part is like really cute. I just like love not cute I just I just call everything cute I don't mean that in a condescending way like I think the people do say it in a condescending way But I just like I think that it's I think that's like how most humans feel that there are just like all these things That we don't figure out and I definitely have felt this way this year I probably had too much time to focus on the other aspects of myself and honestly like I'm ready to get back to work but I feel really solid and it's gonna be interesting and I want to do like updates like when I go back to school this You know in a month like keeping up those parts of me that don't have to do with work And how do you sustain that in a life of like having a career? But also doing the things that you want to do and the other things that define you and I think that it's just balance and You know, I don't I Don't know what kind of job this girl had I selling software that sounds terrible I would I would also make a video like this for my soul But for some people like their life's work definitely is their work, you know And I don't think that it's not like if everybody can't have the perfect job I know that I've had jobs that like and I'm 21 like what do I know about the world literally what but I have had jobs that like I loved So much and I would go back and do them in a heartbeat And then I've had ones that make me want to bang my head against the wall And I think that sometimes it just has to do with the fit and you know What gets you out of bed in the morning? And I think that you know for some people and not that can't always it can't always be work, you know Sometimes it's just circumstantial that you're you know at this one moment in time You have to pay your dues and be in this one spot. I don't know There's also a lot of media out there that can really help you almost see these issues from a distance You know like a bird's-eye view I watched industry on HBO last year And it definitely rides the very thin line between satire and genuine writing But it is a very delicate sophisticated satire of my generation entering the workforce and the perils that go along with a highly demanding job It's not even cartoonish as a satire That's why it's really hard to pick up on the fact that it's a satire because it's not blown out of scale It's hauntingly like relatable like I know people in that lifestyle and I was very close to being that lifestyle So I recommend that show as a nice way to kind of like allow you to take a step back I also love the cottage fairies YouTube channel She completely broke away from civilization period and she's living out a lot of our dreams of just moving to a cabin in the woods and Rebuilding and being in your own self-sustaining ecosystem where nobody else is like placing demands on you like she's living out that dream And she is so mindful about her thought process and shares that all out So I recommend her as well and I would love to see more media like that, you know normalizing taking a gap year It'll love your career normalizing gaps in a resume normally 40 years is a long ass time to pick something at 22 And then just stick with it it actually and I don't think that most people do only do one thing for 40 years I think that that's definitely like more common in the generations above us I feel like it's a Gen Z like millennials have sort of definitely what she's saying is true Like carved the path of like switching things up because I definitely don't know what I want to do the next 40 years of my life And I think it is a good totally good thing to question it If you are one of the magical few that genuinely feels like your work is an 100% alignment with your life's purpose and your vision for your existence Freaking kudos. I just personally don't even want to accept that expectation because I think it's a losing game for me I think if I'm just searching for anything that's gonna give me everything whether that's a person or a job It's unrealistic and that's where I'll leave you. I think that she makes a good point You know, she's very she's pretty convicted I I appreciate that because I find it very hard to express very strong opinions online So I just I give her the utmost respect for just laying it all out there and yeah, I think that she's she's right I mean, I think setting the expectation that you're going to have a perfect career or one that you know You get out of the bed every day and you're like, I can't wait to go to work You know that might not that that's probably not realistic for everybody I don't think that that means that you should stop searching for it though Or have hope because you do have to work for the rest of your life And why shouldn't that be something that you really enjoy and you know If you are doing something that you absolutely hate try try something else try something else that you might love I think that giving up on the concept of having a job that you love is definitely not Going to be a good solution. I don't know I see I totally see her point But I don't think that I don't think you should give up on that because I think that that is that's cool And that's fun and like I really love what I study in school like and I don't mean that like do I love taking tests? No, do I love writing papers? Not really do I like working hard and when I complete something and I know I put a lot of work into it I get a good grade on it or you know It propels me to another situation or it propels me forward I guess into growth like I I enjoy that that definitely makes me feel good. Um, uh So yeah, I think that you know not putting your whole entire self-worth into something is she's right Just for for a person is what I'm saying earlier like that's totally valid and true You know, I think a lot of people really do enjoy their jobs and I don't I don't think it's so black and white I guess is what I I want to say it goes for anything But if you're so entirely set on one thing happening for your life Like you're you're entirely set on having a successful career or going to a school That's gonna make you look a certain way I think that a lot of times we get caught up in how something makes us look and not how something makes us feel and It is really important to pay attention to those things anyway Thank you so much for watching I'm subscribed to post new videos every Thursday But like this video if you liked it and leave a comment down below what you think about this trend because you guys always have like Interesting insights for other people to read so please leave that all down below and thank you so much for watching You