 There's been a huge decline in mental health around the world, which is why we're so committed to creating more content than we ever have, thanks for being a part of our journey. Hey there, welcome to the world of personality. Sure, having above average looks is great, but as we mature, grow wiser, and get to know more people, we realize that personality has a massive, longer lasting impact on our lives than those perfect eyebrows. So what is it about a golden personality that makes it sparkle? Here are a few signs you're attractive and have a beautiful personality. 1. Your success extends beyond pure work According to a 2008 study, individuals with more positive personality traits are more likely to be successful in areas relating to economics. People who know how to keep a good balance of giving and taking in all kinds of relationships and activities, from friends to hobbies to partners, will be better able to do well in all of them. This success might be due to your personality, and good work ethic of course. 2. You're nice to the waiter No, we don't literally mean just the restaurant employee, although they definitely count. We're asking, although you're warm and friendly with your squad, how are you with strangers or someone new to a group? Attractive personalities are comfortable and welcoming, so they're the ones who will give a positive acknowledgement when someone says hello, whether they're a good friend or not. They'll make a point of not excluding the new person, and they don't contact people only when they need a favor. 3. You are commonly courteous Okay, this reminds us of the stuff we were taught, or should have been taught, as kids, like saying please and thank you, and not taking things that aren't ours. Common courtesy or basic manners shows that you have a general respect for others and respect for societal norms. People trust that you're unlikely to steal the silverware or be a jerk in a social situation, because that would be awfully rude. 4. You show gratitude and appreciation Hand in hand with courtesy, showing appreciation and gratitude when something is done for you is a definite must for an attractive personality. It shows that you aren't self-entitled, and that you understand relationships aren't material commodities. Hint. Time is precious, so someone spending time with you is also something to be grateful for. 5. You have good conversational skills This is where the conversation is going so strong that no one realizes it's nighttime until someone says, I can't see. A good conversationalist can keep it rolling because they're able to get others to open up to contribute too. This means no one is feeling disengaged, and they feel wanted. Nothing dies because the inspiration is alive and well. If in person, this can be added to by body language that shows interest in what the person is saying, like facing towards someone and having eye contact. 6. You're also a good listener This also applies to text and chat. Being a good listener means you respond to their whole message and not just pick out the bits that directly speak to your interests. This shows that you acknowledge, value, and care about the other person as an equal. So if you're steamed about a difficult situation and your friend says something like, didn't that manager have some health issues? I still think they're treating you unfairly. The response should include some reflection on whether there were some health issues at play, not just piling on about how unfair the manager was. 7. Drama llamas? Not on this flight. We prefer our drama to stay on Netflix, or Hulu. That is to say, in Hollywoodland. Thank you. Sure. It plays well on screen, but in real life, to have the drama llama crash your group is not so great. It's draining, and often causes unnecessary clashes, fights, and discord. The attractive personality doesn't leave everyone feeling drained, hurt, or betrayed. It brings people together, not rip them apart. 8. You're open-minded. Sure, you still have your boundaries. This is about balance, and not letting those boundaries become solitary confinement barricades. When we're told we're wrong, we reflexively feel defensive, especially if we're told our opinion or emotion is wrong. Having an attractive personality doesn't mean that you don't feel those things. It does mean that you're aware of both how to give and receive information with minimal assumption. So, if you share a song with someone and they say, I'm not sure about this kind of music, do you automatically scold them telling them that they need to be more open-minded? Or do you consider they're simply saying they really aren't sure? So you ask them about their indecisiveness, learning about their point of view. If you were on the other side of this, would you tell the song shareer you hated it, that you were unsure, or give your answer context with an explanation? 9. You are authentic and 100% you. Be yourself. This doesn't mean being static, forcing others to your opinion or never changing your mind unless that's truly the choice you'd make. Authenticity is the ability to still be you despite receiving new information and expanding your knowledge. The water in the teapot may be the shape of the teapot, but it's still water. When you're authentic, people know that they're getting to know you, not some made-up mask. This means they feel they know who they're trusting and can open up. Being able to safely open up to someone is super attractive. As our values deepen, we realize that there is so much more to a person than what a selfie can show. We find ourselves making different choices in who we spend time with, understanding that it's a finite resource. The biggest assessment tool for that is personality. Which traits have you seen? How much do you agree or disagree with these points? Which nuances would you add? We are always working on being more attractive to all of you, and hey, tapping that like button would help. Thanks for watching, and see you soon.