 Adults have got to be safe and they've got to be recognized as that and not just there to teach. Okay, just rewind. Adults have got to be safe. What does that mean? It means that they are approachable by children, they are consistent in their response, they are very calm in their response, no matter how distressed they are by what the child's telling them, they're actually able to respond in ways that contains the child's distress and they're most importantly they're able to spot the signs of when a child is starting to become distressed or upset or experienced some level of difficulty. And do you have to be nice to be safe? No. I think it's a really interesting question, yes we need to be kind and compassionate. Nice is an interesting word, we can be kind and compassionate without necessarily being nice I think. But also the children, we've got to be warm and children who have had really difficult experiences in early life with adults will be drawn towards adults close to those that they recognize. Sometimes they choose the teachers that you think oh my god why would you choose them but it's the closest thing that they recognize to an adult who's been consistent in their life. So we don't all need to be clones of the same kind of person but we do need to be compassionate and kind.