 Well, hello and welcome to Jonathan from the heart. I'm Jonathan Astley of Jonathan Astley.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today. Our topic do this When he stressed out how to melt his heart melt his heart melt his heart All right really quickly if you're new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button Hit the bell so you can be notified of new content and these are my weekend videos I shoot out on my balcony very similar to the videos I shoot my private group called midlife love mastery This is a group where you can ask me questions directly on a regular basis and I shoot videos Based on your questions just for you. So check out the link below in the description my VIP group called midlife love mastery All right, let's talk about what to do when a man is stressed out and I want to share a story something that happened to me some years ago is actually on a second date It was on a second date And we she wanted to go to Disneyland She was from out of town. So she had asked if we could go to Disneyland. I'm like, that sounds great. That'd be fun Now one thing you need to know about me is I am very I'm hyper sensitive in the particularly in the area of Waiting I have an issue about waiting Not everybody is sensitive like this to me, but I am hyper sensitive I just I'm a slightly impatient person. So let me tell you what happens. We get to Disneyland and When we get to the park, there's at least a 20 minute line Just to park the car and you know, I'm just you're waiting you're waiting waiting I'm trying to suck it up But inside I'm like already starting to get agitated and then when we park the car We had to walk like a mile what seemed like a mile to get to the tram and it took 15 minutes just to get to the tram to Then take us to the park. Okay. So then that's another 20 minutes and 15 minutes And then we get to the park and we walk this long distance to get to the ticket aisle Oh my god, and it took like it took 45 minutes to get a ticket. It was Ridiculously insane. I was just so and I was starting to bubble up on the inside I was really getting stressed out and Now I'm gonna own this is all my own shit This is my you know, not everybody operates this way And I don't know what happened to my childhood that caused me to become this way It just is and she could see I was visibly I'm like the steam was growing up My you know the steam was percolating from the inside out and and by the way when what is Disneyland? Disneyland is a place where you get on to rides and you wait first off You have to wait in line to get a ride So like what's the worst place for me to be is a place like this? so she could see I was visibly getting anxious upset everything and What she did when we entered the park blew me away And that's what I want to lean into today Because rather than judge me rather than see this as a red flag per se and Red flag actually just simply means ask questions Let me read from that rather than see that as a deal-breaker because some people could see that is like hey He's impatient. He's got issues blah blah blah blah blah and to some degree. It's true I am impatient and I have issues But what she did was she leaned into me and I'll never forget she put her hand on my arm as we were walking the park She said Jonathan all is good. We're gonna have a great time today. I Don't want to be stressed out. We're gonna have a lot of fun She just she just just simply by putting her hand on my arm Now many of you know the book the five love languages and one of the love languages is physical touch So as she put her hand on my arm and then whispered in my ear basically it wasn't a whispered per se But it was just gently saying in my ear reaffirming everything It actually brought my level of energy down because she didn't see me as a problem She just noticed that I was feeling a little agitated and what I appreciate about what she did is because she operated from a place of Love and this is what happens. This is why I'm such a big proponent of my book What the heck is self-love anyway because she operated from a place by the way, there's a link below to my book But she operated from a place of love. In fact, what does my mug say do all things from love do all things with love. Oh By the way, do you recognize my t-shirt? It's from a Saturday morning cartoon If anyone can guess which Saturday morning cartoon, please post a comment below So what makes this unique At least it felt unique to me is she came from a place of compassion care and kindness from a place of understanding rather than judgment and oftentimes we can lean into judgment and by the way We have very good reasons why to lean into Judgements or perceptions about people because they often prove us to to be a problematic person Here's the here's an opportunity. And by the way, we ended up we ended up dating for a while Unfortunately, and I made a big mistake. It was a long-distance relationship. I'm so you know, and it had some problems because of that But but this second date went great and by the way when we were in line for all those rides It was a great opportunity to talk to one another I actually found myself going oh, I want to be in longer lines and longer Longer lines because I was enjoying talking to her because she was kind Compassionate loving and caring and it was just fun to be with her. This is why I highly recommend checking out the book Making love all the time by Barbara DeAngelo's making love all the time by Barbara DeAngelo's and why I want you to check out this book is It literally is a recipe Or how to connect with a person's heart? So I think I believe men and women both should be reading this and if it's not the man reading this ladies I encourage you to read this book read this book So you can lean into how we can connect with another human's being's heart because that's what this is really all about Listen, I know the dating process sucks. I know there's a lot of frustration I know there's a lot of men who ghosts disappear emotionally unavailable By the way, there's women who ghosts disappear and who are emotionally unavailable There are people that are thirsty for connection thirsty for connection and at the same time They really have weak emotional skills to be in relationship I get it and if you're following me in my channel, you know, I recommend a lot of different books like my own book To shore up the inside out because ultimately what I appreciate most about her She was in her total sovereignty and her confidence and because she was in her sovereignty and her confidence I don't know why I did that across she was in her sovereignty and her confidence She could lean into what was happening for me and because of that She actually made a stressful situation for me a lot calmer and I appreciate that All right, I think you get the gist of where I'm going. I'd like to hear your thoughts on this once again If you know where this Cartoon this is from post a comment below if you have a question if you have a comment post it below I'd like to hear your thoughts on this. All right, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off Give myself a big gigantic job the bear hug of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love If that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone or a pet or a teddy bear a pillow and give it or Up teddy bear and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it We can use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye. Bye now. Bye. Bye