 okay let's talk about it signs you have hurt the narcissist there are very clear signs when you have hurt these narcissists but sometimes you may not even realize that you have hurt them it may have been something you said or did I mean I've had experiences with narcissists where you can't even go you can't even go out of the house for 10 minutes they go crazy that's really the most obvious sign that you have hurt them is that they get really angry they want to hurt you and it's really insane how from one incident they can end up being on this never-ending mission to destroy you just because you did one little thing wrong and now they're coming down on you like a ton of bricks just because you made one mistake it's really ridiculous but this is what these people do do one little thing wrong and then they're on you it's like that's it for life they hold grudges they experience a lot of bitterness and resentment as though the situation was unfair doesn't matter if you meant to or not the truth isn't important to the narcissist doesn't even matter if you did nothing wrong they feel as though something was wrong they feel angry or upset about something so you must have done something to them that's how they see it and once they feel like you've done something to them they just can't let things go they're on a mission to hurt you like they say hurt people hurt people once they hurt they don't know how to deal with it they don't know how to regulate their emotions their way of dealing with it is to hurt you to reject their insecurities onto you and that is why they will get very angry they will insult you put you down they will try to punish you they will damage your property they may even become physically violent and if all else fails once they know that you're on to them you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation they will just discard you because that is another way for them to hurt you or at least they think it is they give it a silent treatment they cut you out of activities or interests that they think you want or prefer and they will also triangulate you with other people they'll do anything to hurt you they'll do anything to make you envious or jealous but even then the craziest thing about this which even up until this day I still can't get my head around it but this is the truth this is the reality of it and that is that they actually don't care so much about how you feel or what you're actually going through they're not really that bothered if you're angry or upset about something they did or if you're envious or jealous bitter resentful whatever it is they're actually not that concerned about that as long as it seems like to them as long as they perceive it that way that's enough for them that's really the craziest thing about it is that when you've hurt them they're not really that concerned about having hurt you as long as they can exist in this fantasy where they feel like they've got one on you in some way as long as they can trick you to believe in that for whatever reason you were hard done by you suffered something unfortunate it doesn't have to be true as long as they can trick you into believing that that is enough for them it's really a mind boggling thing but that's how they think but yeah a lot of the time they will want to see blood and I don't mean literally although in some cases that may be true as well but they they will want to see you going through it they will try to hurt you they will try to make your life difficult and inconvenient they will try to set you back in some way because they're hurt a person who is happy and contented and they're actually fulfilled with their lives people like that even if you hurt them they're not going to come after you they're not going to feel they need to punish you if you hurt them deliberately and intentionally they might just cut you off and not engage with you again but they're not going to go out of their way to tear you down that's the difference between a good person and a narcissist because a true victim just wants to be left alone in peace they're not really that concerned about revenge but anyway that's all I've got to say on this topic I hope that it resonated with you if it did please give it a thumbs up and as always leave your thoughts in the comments I do read all of the comments every day thank you all and have a good day