 Entrepreneurship is not easy, especially if you are a solopreneur you often are isolated working on your own. And so when you have difficulties and failures, quote unquote, when launches don't go as you hoped, when you do some kind of outreach and the response comes back. Well, no response or very little. It's easy to get discouraged. And you might be tempted to quit. So, in this video, I'm going to share with you a recovery method way to bounce back from your so-called failures or setbacks and continue the path of entrepreneurship, because only if you continue, can you learn and grow enough to make it successful. And I talk about this from my own grounded perspective experience because I have been full time as an entrepreneur, a solopreneur since 2009. And in all that time, all these years, I have launched dozens of group programs, online courses. I've announced my one-on-one services dozens of times, if not hundreds of times on social media through email newsletters, etc. I've reached out to many potential clients to potential collaborators, colleagues, joint venture partners. And from all of that, you might imagine that there are a lot of ups and downs. There are a lot of times when I've done some kind of outreach or promoted some product or service or program or event. And I've gotten very little response, sometimes no response. So if you have had that experience, you are definitely not alone. Join me in the community of failed entrepreneurs. Well, I shouldn't say failed entrepreneurs, but those who have experienced some disconnection between our hoped for result and the real actual reality that happened. We are never a failed entrepreneur. We are only a in progress learning entrepreneur. Right. There is no failure only be direction, if we're willing to see it that way. And the only true failure is when you say I quit and I will no longer continue trying. But if you always continue trying and, and take on a growth mindset, a learning perspective, then it's all opportunities. It's all data. It's not speaking anything about who you are as a person, your worth, your potential. What it speaks to is, Oh, you had some expectation, and that expectation turns out not to be realistic. So how can we, you know, ideally have little expectation except for what happened the last few times when we did the exact same thing. There's no realistic expectation, but anything else is who knows, right. And you simply have to try experiment and learn so that you can experiment a little bit better next time. So, still to this day, I experienced some setbacks and so called failures right now as of this recording, I am relaunching a program that my opinion was kind of a failure compared to my other programs because the response and the engagement was far lower than I had expected. Right now I'm actually launching, launching another major program, and the response is much lower than I expected compared to in fact compared to previous years. And it's because I made some big changes to the program and that that was part of it, but, but still to this day, I experience so called failures. And I want you to know that because maybe you see me as having a stable business, maybe some of you see me as having successful business, and I do for the most part. I always, I, the only reason I mentioned any number is because some of you actually find that interesting and, and grounding and helpful so my revenue in my business is between two to 300,000 a year. My take home is, you know, well over 100,000 a year it's between 100 200 K after expenses after all expenses paying affiliates and everything. So take me on after taxes, it doesn't matter I live very comfortably, even in San Francisco, you know, one and more expensive cities in the world, I live comfortably, I'm not I wouldn't say I'm wealthy, especially not compared to my neighbors around here. But I'm certainly middle class in my city, I would say. And as a solopreneur, I do have a couple of assistants that work for me a few hours per week that that's actually relatively new just this year I've ramped up my, my, my working with certain assistants and helpers but I've been solopreneur most of my years. So, I'm, you know, I'm successful as most solopreneurs might consider it, and yet to this day I experienced failures. And you say how can, how can that be George you are a an expert, you know in business marketing etc and I'll tell you this. Those of us who are so called experts or professionals, and who have succeeded time after time after time in various launches. You don't see all the typically you don't see all the failures that we don't promote and tell you about. We launch things and we don't see don't see us usually say hey that was a failure, yet another failure yet another failure. So, truly, the, the professionals and the experts and the leaders are often the ones who are willing to so called fail the most, but bounce back and fun and have a resilience process that allows them to continue trying, growing, and therefore create more and more and more successful systems and processes over time it takes years, and a lot of you don't realize this but you will as you as you keep trying. So, as promised, let me share with you this resilience process that kind of came to me one day when one of my failures I was very discouraged and this word came to me just breathe. That was the word breathe. And I said, okay, yes, breathe. Yes, that was helpful. But then I thought maybe there's something deeper here maybe maybe breathe could mean something more than just take a few deep gentle breaths which is always helpful. Over the next few days I reflected on this word, and I love acronyms so I turn it into an acronym for other resilience process that I'm going to share with you now. So, it stands is, you know, breathe. What is it seven letters, and each letter stands for one part of the process so be stands for breathe. And simply like when you're discouraged when you're feeling down when you're feeling maybe like a failure or tempted to quit. Please don't. The first thing you should do is take a few gentle deep breaths and just that act of bringing some more oxygen into your body and your brain will just instantly shift a little bit your energy towards hopefully a little bit more, a little bit more perspective than the immediate state of negativity that you might be in initially so a couple of large gentle deep breaths. That's the first step breathe. That's B for breathe are stands for rest. And if you have been watching my videos for a while you probably have heard that I take multiple naps a day. I love taking naps. So when I say rest of to me that just means go and take a nap. It's going to be okay to go and take a 15 minute 20 minute nap. I don't take naps more than like 25 minutes definitely not more than that because I get I feel groggy the default the rest of the day but 15 minutes is pretty good. It's nice. I don't usually fall asleep in my naps but at least I drift maybe a little bit if I'm lucky or at least just lay down and just relax into, you know, just relax horizontally with eyes closed and try to feel some kind of. I imagine some kind of energy healing from the earth, or from the divine source as I'm laying there and gently breathing and relaxing horizontally. So that's our for rest, rest at whatever way makes sense to you but just take a take a moment take 15 minutes, or half an hour if you can to just rest and do anything else just relax and kind of try to feel some some energy healing from from your divine source or from the earth. So that's our for rest, he stands for extract the good. So he for extract the good. What do I mean by this is that no failure or no experience that feels like a setback, or no, no thing that you've tried that didn't work. Is ever 100% failure. So let me say that again, whatever you did, whatever you tried, whatever action you took, there is something good from it that you can. You can say, you know, sure, it didn't turn out the way I expected, but I'm glad I did that, or I did this at least or I learned this. Okay, so he is to extract some, some goodness from that action or from that situation, whether it's from something you did that some part of what you did that you say you know what at least I did that. At least I can be proud of this at least I tried that, or maybe that aspect of it went well, you know and I'm going to keep doing that next time but I'm going to do this other things differently. What can you learn what what can you appreciate from from the from the situation from the activity and also what what might you learn. So he stands for extract the good from that situation. A stands for ask for guidance, ask for guidance. So you might have a friend you can go to or a coach, or a community of people that you trust. And I just encourage you to go to someone as well actually even before you go to someone. Do you believe in a divine, some kind of invisible support in your life, whether it's God, angels, spirit guide, you know the universe, your higher consciousness. Ask that source that invisible source for guidance and just close your eyes and sincerely take a moment to say, if you have hard time extracting the good you can ask for guidance for that like what can I gain from this situation, what is something good from the situation, like make a sincere ask, and also ask, what shall I do next for the highest good of all. What shall I do next for the highest good of all, including my highest good. And ask your invisible source for guidance and, and then take the next step and ask your visible sources for guidance go to your friend coach, supportive group. You know, colleague, who, who, who you have a great rapport with and say hey you know what I'm feeling discouraged. I had a setback and I just wonder if you have any words of encouragement, maybe even guidance for me. And people, your friends, you know, want to help you. They do you have friends and supportive people in your life, you do, and who want to help you. And we just don't ask often enough, and something simple as this like hey I'm feeling discouraged and wondered if you have any words of encouragement for me I tried this and it didn't work out. I have no words of encouragement or guidance I'm super grateful. Either way thank you for being a support of my life, something like that just just do that. It's so helpful to get in touch with another human beings, please please do this. Please do this right. So as to ask for guidance. T is trust. If you've extracted the good or tried your best you've asked for guidance. It's time to trust that the guidance will come to you. Maybe you sent you set a prayer, and then you also sent a couple of emails or messages no don't ask just one person by the way, ask at least two or three because it'll take them time to get back to you one person will get back to you faster than than another, maybe one or two people will be so busy they didn't see the message and only one person. So ask at least three people. Really, promise me, you'll do that okay ask at least three people. This this kind of question and then T is to trust trust that the guidance is coming to you. It is. Better days are coming to you. I believe with all my heart. I really do I believe 150% in the fact that we are being guided. This is sharing my worldview and you might believe something different but you can indulge me for a moment and imagine this. Maybe true who knows that I really believe that there is invisible guidance all around us and through us. You might call it like I said angels spirit guides, God, the universe. You know, guiding spirits who are incredibly powerful, more powerful than us actually, but they try not to interfere with our free will, and our ability to make our own decisions and experience our own life, including all the failures and setbacks. That's an important part of life for whatever for whatever reason we, I believe we incarnated here to experience all the ups and downs because, and hopefully they, they, they, I think are, are wishing that we will learn from it we will grow from it because why, because the background of all of it is it's truly all good. In my life, I believe our consciousness continues into a better body and into a, you know, into a more powerful perspective, like, there's no death, in my opinion. In my, you know, I really believe this there's no death or consciousness just like a doorway and the body dies sure but then consciousness keeps going oh my god it pops out of the body and go wow, everything's all good. It's all love, it's all power. It's all love and I'm part of the all and I can now go anywhere in the universe and. Anyway, it's, this is just this life in my opinion is just a virtual simulation it's like a very tiny moment. Anyway, I'll stop there with my ramblings about spirituality and just say trust. Trust that if you believe in an invisible source and guidance that's coming to you really is more powerful than you can imagine, they don't they only whisper to you because they don't want to be too loud and interfere with your own free will. Trust also the visible guidance is coming to you right because it just if you want to talk about secular I mean just your brain as you asked for guidance your brain is going to be primed to look for the guidance that you asked for so trust. That's T. H stands for help someone else. It is really remarkable that when we are feeling feeling down and negative it's a downward spiral, and the downward spirals related to focusing on ourselves ourselves ourselves our problems our problems our situation our situation. And that's truly the downward spiral is in into more and more egoism, and I don't mean to judge those of you who are feeling depressed and sad and angry or frustrated or confused or whatever. But someone's got to say it to you, whenever you're feeling negative depressed angry that that that that that that who are you focused on your focus on yourself. You are willing. I know it's hard I mean you don't like to hear this you think I'm judging you think I'm being mean. I'm just speaking what I what appears to me to be the truth, which is what because I know the experience myself. It's focusing on myself. And when I focus on somebody else. There's always someone who is less fortunate than you, of course, we are we, most of us watching this video live in so much privilege, compared to other people in the in the in the world. There's no place in the world a war war torn country, you know, a famine, a community with tons of famine that can barely get today's any meal to eat, let alone, you know, they don't have any homeless shelters or anything just you die in the wilderness. Otherwise, anyway, there's always someone that's kind of extreme. There's always someone you can help in your own community in your own circle. And I'm not talking about going feed the hungry and, you know, heal the heal the stick and, and that's, yes, if you can do that but I'm talking about something as simple as going to a Facebook group and being helpful there that's all I'm saying it's something you can do right now. You don't have to go and travel to war torn country to help out I'm just asking you to take a moment after you've done the breathing resting and the good asking for guidance trusting. Now just take a take 10 minutes and go into a Facebook group that you enjoy and try to be helpful. That's all I'm saying just go to some group or some thread that you enjoy the colleagues of yours, friends of yours, clients or, you know, acquaintances, and go and just be helpful. Go on social media and comment on comment supportively on someone's post there's always someone. I mean, you know how it feels when someone comments on your post you feel great, you know, you feel, you feel uplifted, even though they never write back they might not write back to you or let you know that they feel uplifted. They do right same thing. You've seen many comments in you don't have time sometimes or energy to respond but you feel a little uplift when someone comments supportively and appreciatively do that. Do that for someone it's going to take you five or 10 minutes, try not to get sucked in the social media too much, but just set a timer for 10 minutes. And so I'm just going to go and be a supportive commenter on a couple of posts. Just appreciate them for who they are appreciate what they said. And just by doing that you instantly I think will come out of your, your, your kind of your shell or your downward spiral and spiral upwards again towards the whole community towards the greater all that you are So that's H for help someone and then E finally is experiment E for experiment. Once again. I encourage you to get out there again now I assuming after you've rested you asked for guidance and you've taken some time to rest. Now it's time to experiment again don't take too much time to rest, meaning you know don't don't wait too long to experiment again. Because the secret, you could say of entrepreneurship is to experiment as much as you can try another tiny tiny launch, try posting another piece of content. And the experimentation mindset says I don't know how this is going to work. I don't know if people are going to like it or not, but I'm going to try. I don't know all that means. I don't know, but I'm going to experiment I'm going to try to play with this new idea I'm going to play with this format I'm going to just try to put something out there without judgment of whether without judging myself, and without expectation of what's going to come back it's an experiment. Let's see what happens. Stay curious. By doing these steps, you hopefully will recover and get out there again into action that's the key. You kind of like start off by taking care of yourself, and then you end up getting out there again with action because that's how we continue to learn to grow. And by doing so, we find out what authentic success means for us. We discover the methods that work for us, the systems that we want to grow and develop. And therefore, you become more and more of a seasoned and effective entrepreneur. The key is to have a quick recovery process of resilience process just like the way I've described it, you're welcome to borrow this completely use this teach this to other people, or modify it, and make it your own. You have to have a quick resilience process because the next setback is inevitably coming I know this myself from my own business, and you can't just expect if you have success or something. No, if you if you're willing to experiment, which which is needed for your potential to be reached, then you're going to have a setback or a mismatched expectation versus reality at some point, and having a tool like this to bounce back quickly is so essential. So, I hope you'll give it a try. Or if you have your own resilience process that works well for you. I welcome you to comment below it might really benefit somebody else. So thank you so much for joining me and I appreciate and honor the entrepreneurial journey that you're on. And this community this larger global community historical community called entrepreneurship, that you are in this with us, and we're all in this together. So, I hope that you will continue on remembering that no matter what somehow in some way, all is well. And if we just trust the process, know that all will be well, keep learning, keep trying, keep growing. Thanks for joining me. And I'll see you in the next video. Take care.