 Here's our fifth dance lesson. Get the personal stuff right. You know, I once worked with a man who's tremendously successful, a very, very capable guy in the financial community, and he was famous for his work ethic, and he would work long, long hours, and then every Sunday he went into the office and worked late on Sunday night. He was totally devoted to the company, and everybody thought that was just great, you know, his legendary commitment, and but he wasn't very home very much, and I thought, well shoot, I anybody can do that. I mean, I could do that. That'd be easy just to have one dimension to my life and have that be caterpillar, but that's not living life. So you got to get the the leaders I've always looked up to are those that manage, you know, to climb the career ladder, but they also have a personal life because one of these days that man is going to retire and when he does retire, he's just going to be a normal old guy. And what is he going to have is his foundation. So get that personal stuff right. One thing I think about here is your whole person. So think about your physical health. It's important if you don't keep yourself physically healthy, then you're not going to be able to have the stamina and the energy that you need to travel and to do your job. Think about your mental health. That's important and a big part of that. I think we all know is friendships. I have a number of friends including my my exercise lady Betsy and her dog and a number of friends and I go out of my way. I can't do a lot with them. I try to get double-duty friends. I probably wouldn't admit this to them, though they probably know it. If they if it works out like, okay I need a workout partner, then I'll make that person as a friend, you know, to kind of find a way to smush those things together. So my two closest friends, one's a running partner. The other one is my workout partner. But that's an important part of life and maybe you're or maybe you're involved in a church group. Faith is an important part of many people's lives to make sure you get your hierarchy of needs met. Stress relief is important and my my coaching here is don't wait for the stress to build up like you're gonna explode. You know, take a little bit. Sometimes you just need to take us a little tiny little breather, even if it's, you know, 10 minutes for a little indulgence of a cup of hot coffee or hot chocolate, whatever your, whatever your vice is, you just de-stress a little bit. And then I think the most important thing in this kind of fulfilling our hierarchy of needs and being a whole person is forgiveness and forgiveness of yourself. I maybe I was ready to forgive myself for having to throw some of those turkey breasts away if I couldn't get them all cooked before my trip. But you know, this is, that sounds silly, but that's the kind of thing some women think about when you're laying in bed and like I've got to do this. I got it. You're not gonna be able to get it all done. So learn, learn to accept that and forgive yourself for those things that you don't. Another thing about getting the personal stuff right is outsourcing. I have a colleague who's excellent at this. I don't know really all of her secrets, but I can tell you we don't live in a big city. She lives in a small town. So it's not like she's gonna have the green grocer show up at her door, but she's paid somebody. Take care of a dry cleaning. Somebody delivers her groceries for her. She was getting, she's got a very busy job. She's getting ready to move and I thought, oh my gosh, how was she gonna get that done? She says, oh, I've paid some people in there helping me pack my stuff up. And you know, if you can't pay for the dry cleaners, that makes me sick to do that when I could do it myself. But just, if you, some, a friend said to me one time, if the problem can be solved with money, it's not a problem. Okay, think about that. It's very true. And I already have my outsourcing planned for my Christmas baking. I finally concluded I am no good at that and my daughter has a friend who now does baking on the side and I've already got lined up for beautiful Christmas cookies. Then finally, a final little note there and getting the personal stuff right is the idea of a ledger. You know, there's a kind of, try to keep a little mental running list of my family wins, my company wins. And some days, Caterpillar's gonna win. They're gonna get the bulk of me. Other days, my family's gonna win and I might spend a little bit more time there and cheat a little bit on the work side. Maybe cheating that day, but in the aggregate given, giving quite a bit.