 everyone has a certain love style based on their upbringing. One, the pleaser. The pleaser often grows up in a home with an overly protective or angry and critical parent. Pleasers often spread themselves thin trying to be everything to everyone when it's not realistic. Two, the victim. The victim often grows up in a chaotic home. They may end up marrying controllers who mirror the same behaviors as their parents. Three, the controller. The controller usually grows up in a home where there wasn't a lot of protection, so they learn to toughen up and take care of themselves. They don't like stepping out of their comfort zones because it makes them feel weak and unprotected. Four, the vacillator. The vacillator often grows up with an unpredictable parent. As vacillators enter adulthood, they try to find the consistent love they were deprived of as children. Five, the avoider. The avoider often grows up in a less affectionate home that values independence and self-reliance and rely on logic and detachment more than their emotions. Which love style do you identify with? Please share your thoughts with us below.