 people are shocked at what they're seeing this is a chinese father who is actually proud of his son's bad grades listen guys this video got 200 million views in china and it is going viral in overseas asian communities let's run the clip oh man it's so crazy to think that something in a way and or to a western parent that seems so what normal or not crazy went super crazy viral in china because people cannot believe that this guy is still proud of his son despite the bad grades this goes against every traditional strict asian parent stereotype all right guys we're going to dive into it what is really going on what's the translation exactly so please hit that like button check out other episodes of the hop hop boys but you know what people can be proud of is small ass sauce on their food check it out guys smallassauce.com shipping right now i know that the mandarin is hard to understand especially he's speaking very formally but he's like you know i know my son is bad but he has a big heart basically saying like man i just know his heart is good even though my son did not get my academic prowess he can still make it in life in the future emotional quotient is going to be more um important to the changing society instead of just raw grades but just like i'm still proud of him and he could still contribute to society yeah i mean a lot of people support what he says right i mean i would say overall he's getting a lot of support now i wonder if some parents are like don't stay at stop saying that or else my kid will give up on their grades too but i don't know i mean i i feel like that's that's a minority i think the truth is this man the younger generation of parents in china let's just say this guy's 40 andrew they want to break through break free from the world that they grew up in right and me and you and we grew up in a somewhat strict chinese academic family it is harsh yeah it is strict yeah there's a lot of pressure now pressure sometimes makes diamonds but david pressure can also crush you yo and some kids when you get put through the grinder andrew some kids make it out the other side and they're super tough some kids make it out the other side they made it but they're resentful and the truth is and we've seen it at church and in our community growing up some kids don't even make it through right yeah so i guess david what are your quick thoughts before we get in the comment section um i think it's cool to see this video from china i do think there are implications for chinese america even though obviously chinese american parents let's be honest they are more americanized right they're probably split in the difference halfway but this went super viral in malaysia india you know like just a lot of singapore people were talking about it because at the end of the day i think it's cool to see people starting to question the attitudes the super tiger parenting of the old days and uh andrew let's just contrast this with a few other parenting stories that came out of china this dad has a mental breakdown and cries after his son gets a six out of a hundred on a math test yeah i saw this video yeah that's crazy yeah we'll just play that clip andrew this guy made his son uh who's addicted to mobile games play for 17 hours straight to like force it you know how like some parents they see you smoke in a cigarette so they make you smoke the whole right to overdose on that thing so that you don't want to do it anymore right right like and then andrew here's also a video of parents literally beating up their son for spending 40 000 on video games in a long bob like internet pc cap you know it's somewhat of a graphic video so we won't really play it but we'll show you the screenshot so i guess that it's just nice to see somebody i guess being more progressive right yeah no and and i think that he did it in a way like he doesn't seem like a softy parent he doesn't seem like a whack parent he seems like he fully understands i guess he also works in the psychology field himself so of course this guy is definitely more like woke to this type of thing versus other parents who may just be like you know have a different job and just only see the world one way here's some of the internet comments from china they said yeah this is the most clear minded parent in china life is a marathon it is too early to say a person who has won or lost at such a young age every kid aspires for his parents recognition and support if you do not accept his shortcomings how will he be able to face the challenges in society yeah i do like how even though he was apologizing for his son he was still saying yes he can still be the breadwinner and still be very successful somehow yeah he will be yeah because successful because he said that his son has very high eq very high uh like non-academic iq and he was like man he handles problems better than me he can problem solve better than me but he goes uh but i am sorry my my kid he is not good at the test he's bringing down the average of the class uh that's crazy if the teacher asked him and said chow ping you must bring your father in here to explain why your grades are so bad right he's just like um and why do you think that east asian cultures indian uh as well are so notorious for being 10 out of 10 on academics because i looked this question up on quora i looked it up on reddit andrew there was about 800 posts that i could read through of different people discussing why they think it is yeah it's definitely it's a stereotype that essentially in my opinion is true yeah i mean i think there's a bunch of reasons right yeah i mean whether it's confucianism whether it's just upward mobility whether it's i don't know somewhere deep in the culture man yeah um i'm just gonna read some of the uh ones off quora okay there is a significant cultural difference between european and asian countries in europe they view the childhood as the time of fun enjoy your youth free of responsibility make friends go to social parties get a boyfriend travel around the world you won't be young forever an extreme mindset that we see and young people waste their lives away partying drinking and having sex but even that is accepted they will learn they will get over they will be fine you don't get to be young forever that is the european mindset and then somebody was saying yes in the east the individual has nothing parents have children and have to make have someone take care of them in their old age children are raised with high expectations about filling fulfilling obligations to others in this context it would make sense for eastern parents to push for maximum performance while western parents would encourage maximum happiness so like we said andrew there was a ton of posts people are talking about you know they go for it they go against it they want a mix um you know i'll say this man we came from a relatively strict academic family right i would definitely not say 10 out of 10 but it was still like a typical chinese family right um i'll say this man it's cool to see the dad say there's that there's other pathways for the right right he's acknowledging that it's not like it's not like everything that's determined in that classroom is like the rest of his life but i will say this don't you think the dad has to put him on those tracks that do play to his strengths like he can't just like you can't just only put your kid in the school and your kid doesn't happen to be good at school and then you're not providing him an outlet to sort of develop and cultivate the raw talents that he does i would say after school or on the weekends he would have to give his son a platform maybe his son is very good at presenting and selling something you know and there's sales you always need sales maybe his son is very good at managing personalities well you have to somehow expose him to that type of like practice right and honestly he may even want to look into immigrating to another country because obviously another country is going to have more opportunities to stretch the non-academic muscles right right if if that's even a possible but china is a big country i'm sure you can still find those lanes too but you gotta learn you you can't just be all my kids got other skill sets be outside of the books you still gotta cultivate those just like book talent and academic talent still needs to be cultivated and refined um anyway let's just get into the comment section somebody said good for this father man for all the stories i've read about asia man too many parents over there are too obsessed with their children's grades and making sure their children become doctors and engineers and such man i don't know just just look at all the young people resorting to suicide man and all the very successful and wealthy people that didn't even graduate from school or even dropped out um is this person right or wrong or are they looking at it from more of a western lens like and or do you do you agree with them like this person was just like man i always see that my like my students my kids they're asian classmates man it looks like they're not having any fun uh i wouldn't assume just because an asian kid is not laughing all the time that he's not having fun or that he doesn't he's not on the path to being successful i think extreme happiness uh in school is not necessarily the like you don't need that you don't have to be extremely happy all the time but yeah you probably don't want to make your kids super sad yeah and i think there's a variance like you said some kids they get put through the grinder and they almost enjoy the process some kids hate the grinder the academic grinder that asian parents stereotypically put their kids i mean ultimately if you can put your kid through the grinder and they don't hate it then that's actually a kind of a good place if they hate it that's not good but if they just don't hate it and they're like okay with it and they see some larger purpose or the long game then that's great i think you have to incentivize them man i think that that's the biggest struggle i see with a lot of like specifically chinese parents but maybe all old school asian parents in general because asia is kind of known for this like just in an overall narrative it's like there's there's three ways to incentivize somebody you put a carrot stick in front of you like the fire internally deep within them or you prod them in a butt with like a fire brand oh like a poker yeah so imagine there's several ways to make the donkey move right and because you know asian parents are like no i don't i need the donkey to like plow the field because that is how we will all be successful as like a family in a lineage right there's three ways to make the donkey move and of course yeah you don't want to be like that crazy loose western parent where the donkey which is their child in this analogy doesn't move at all doesn't plow the field but there are different ways to incentivize that donkey somebody said i salute this man and his father my late father was the complete opposite he would beat me up for poor grades threaten me belittle me and refuse to attend my graduation for not making it on the honor roll right yeah i mean this is like and people have seen this all the time right andrew there's uh stories of piano prodigies you know they get pushed so hard when they're young but it's not pushed in the right way it can go off the rails somebody said i love how supportive he is his kid can't pass memorization tests it's okay because he will be strong in other areas it's true that he'll be strong in other areas but like we said it's still on that dad to put him on those tracks it's almost like uh if i'm a mountain biker and i don't do well with rocks somebody still got to put me on grass or something or whatever type of terrain that i'm really meant to go far on somebody said the father's totally right i was a dumb student in my elementary due to dyslexia but i over became the odds and became quite successful in my career in government um you know like we said do people need to look at mental health and look at more different options because you know how a lot of asian parents it's almost like if the kid's not good at testing it's almost like yeah my son is he's so stupid yeah yeah it's such a narrow way of looking at things especially nowadays in this current world where there's like a million things that you can even do even in china like there's still so many opportunities right they got riddled in over there who knows there's different optionality somebody just said yep he just has to teach his son to be a politician at least that's how it works in america he just got to be good at talking he doesn't need to be good at anything else um ultimately Andrew what's your takeaways why did this so go viral uh in china it went viral in chinese diasporic communities as well as india just other hyperacademic focused centric cultures i think he became a hero man i think he became somewhat in this sense i don't know exactly how good of a daddy is but in this moment he seems like an amazing dad like he understands the importance of grades but he also understands that his kid may be talented at other things now the way the world is moving that is how you should look at things it's no longer like you have to just go to school and do one thing is it because all the quant work and all the hardcore brain crunching will be done by ai in the future yeah but i still think like school is important because that's still like the structure of general society no it is teaching your brain how to think like it is designing the micro chip processor inside of your brain but hopefully like he can show like at least for like writing essays or maybe presenting in front of the class or maybe his math like whatever it is there's something his son is gonna gotta be good at when it comes to school i don't know what the curriculum is but what i'm saying is that basically this could be very inspirational to a lot of asian parents around the world even in america yeah you know what i think is really interesting i saw a lot of american parents being like yeah this is great for this guy but it's funny because i never really view things as like right or wrong like being a tiger parent or being a loose fun creative parent it's not really right or wrong you just need to have the right balance and i could see that chinese parents especially the old school hardcore like dushu run like scholar ones they need to learn more from the american way but to be honest if you take a look at american aggregate test scores maybe they could learn from some of the hardcore national exam style in asia like everything needs to be a mix because there's pros and cons of like every methodology right so i think that that's my big thing where it's like a lot of people are like yeah like make china all like that or like make asia all like that i'm like nah that wouldn't work either because they still need the hardcore testing and that's just like how the culture is and that's just how everybody's oriented to to respond to it but yes everything could be better balanced right right fix the blind spots guys ultimately guys let us know what you think in the comment section below of this dad why do you go so viral in china and other communities and uh what is the right balance between like cultivating uh you know making sure your kids got a baseline of just like raw test scores but also cultivating what they might be good at do you want to be a dad or a parent like this or did you wish your parent was like this let us know because i looked it up on the internet man there was so many opinions anyway guys let us know in the comment section below until next time we to hop our boys we out peace