 kumusana and you end up wondering is this true but when you go to the women then you tell you that kaziwa kaziwa no min kumusana some even end up saying that men are that's right you've got it right well welcome this is power talk a very good morning to you my name is ram aguko it is a very fine task day today it is uh the 25th of march 2021 we are broadcasting live from the kena broadcasting corporation here in narubi kena this is power talk where we empower you when it comes to relationships money entrepreneurship business and family as we know it today it's we are asking the question do women you know expect too much from men do women give too much expectation to their men make sure that you be part of this conversation as always the hashtag is power talk show on twitter at ram aguko at y254 channel do women expect too much from men that is a question that you post to you give us your thoughts as you continue with this conversation right here on y254 remember this program airs every Thursday from 11 a.m to 12 a.m and a repeat of the same show as the same same Thursday at 10 p.m now let me go go to my guests to help us in this conversation i'm joined by two powerful people you know them you love them you've seen them on your on your screens uh to next to me is susan grace she's a radio and tv host karubu sana susan thank you very much i am so delighted but i'm here for this particular topic and yeah and uh you you you you this first one is story kaziwa no me ningumu isi that not to part expectation sumob sana to traffic up on i'm also joined by aliwa monewa is a musician actor and tv host karubu sana aliwa i'm very very glad to be in this great show the bar talk show he and why to perform we're always happy to be here is aliwa uh the palace boy the palace the palace boy it's me now it's it's me now once this will last met uh but uh thanks so much uh for coming we remember we would like it to be part of this conversation as always head over to facebook we've also posted a question on our facebook page on y254 and we would like we will sample your feedback as you continue with this conversation power talk starts now all right let's do is it that you give us too much expectation we don't then why do men complain that kaziwa no one awake ningumu sana let me let me tell you this there is a small percentage of women that just expect too much from men but a small percentage a very small percentage oh now it is a slick with slick with uh let me talk on behalf of the sophisticated women oh what is the difference between us between us yeah one of us to have their ducks in a row so i'm gonna talk on behalf of the people who have their ducks in a row okay we don't expect anything from you guys we're trying to make life happen for ourselves so you guys come into our space you interrupt us and then you come bring in all these things you know you're present with communication you guys make us fall in love with you for like five working days then you vanish and then when we start following up trying to understand what is happening you expected too much i didn't expect too much you came up to me and showed me to do whatever you can so where i go will you jerry bia we don't expect anything from you guys we set up the bar too high no i will already feeling the pressure and the quit on the sum up i mean i mean if i didn't economy so early there are two types of women imagine the slay queens and the sophisticated women which don't know the same thing all of them are sophisticated it's not it's not the same thing do women give us too much expectation too much this is too much you know being a boy boy the boy child okay the man boy the man from even if you don't talk about you don't even start from the relationship a bit of it this is too much pressure from a man from a woman a woman perspective from even your mother the day you are just born and you are called a baby boy pressure starts from there guys expect so much but just just just just kidogo just kidogo pressure starts from bath from bath when when when the moment they called you boy boy bouncing baby boy bouncing baby boy this is bouncing baby boy pressure pressure hands are not bouncing you must be bouncing now now as you grow of course now get into now what what she's talking about women women are sophisticated they want to mute to know some things you don't even they don't reveal themselves don't reveal the emotion what they want to you at the end of the day they want money they want good life you as a man in the unsubscribed way to make it in life you start the journey but they want a lot of time a lot of uh there's nagging there's uh there's a lot of expectation ha ha ha it's true it's true it's true uh this understanding that we expect but they want you to understand them more they just this i like the way she she put it i thought maybe she'll give another part of women but she said sophisticated we're talking about this sophisticated live along this lake win but sophisticated women are the same as lake win combined one thing and i would like to add another word to the twist is it sophisticated or complicated sophisticated complicated let let me ask this question yeah and uh pressure comes to them when they are born let me tell you there's something i had um caroline metruko said and she said we women as soon as we come to this world we are trained how to be good moms good wives we are we any it's all about to be a good woman for a particular man are you raised to be a good man for a particular woman no that is why when we come the way we are now you say we expecting too much which is not fair we expect you to understand us we expect you to understand us yeah we we we try our level best to understand you is it the problem with understanding you that you don't you don't reveal yourself you don't tell us what you want when we say what we want it's too much now it's not too much what comes uh what is it that happens in this scenario where a lady does something okay you find a lady uh you ask are you okay she says i'm fine i'm fine you ask again are you okay i'm fine i'm fine but something is wrong somewhere isn't that a complication in itself that women it's a complication directly because the mind of a man is unidirectional one but when she gets to a point where she says it's fine it means she has communicated about the particular thing very many times so this time when you ask are you okay she's like you know what i'm not going to say no and then come off like i'm complaining and just being a nagin woman why don't you notice when a woman complains the first time the second time the third time why don't you pick it up and bring a solution my issue is uh maybe i like the way she she talked about uh kareli matoko well i'll pick it from uh miles moon the late okay she says a woman a woman is built to receive after receiving she incubates and then gives back to the man okay him he multiplies he multiplies then gives back to them that is now what is not there you see when you come to maybe this life we are we are in a relationship something sort as a man of course there is a way that we are i know i know women major women major on the major and women major the minor they are yes it's so true they are they are into yeah those my new things those my new things and sometimes that's where we don't get we don't get sometimes these tiny things like she just said i've been telling you this for for long so the last answer is i'm fine but as we expect you even if you said it for long for progress why don't you progress because you are the head of the house when a woman complains something you should be able to pick up the my complain as a man my complain is this many of these women don't know what is jam they don't have a jam jam to me means that you need to get to the point of almost like the lila okay i'm sorry the lila moment where you know when you know you know when this of scale machine oh my god listen you know when exactly like get this man and then we saw this thing sometime i'm so worked up i'm dealing with some things i will talk about the the major if i'm fighting a war we have only one arrow the antelope that's what we go for as men so when i'm focused on that these other things become minor but on our side is major okay so look for time when i'm calm and everything didn't cancel don't just say okay you're still doing anything when you come and then we come with the same issue you're just like oh my god she can't just let me let me have some peace that she's not exactly so you see me as nagging because why do you say that women are nagging they're nagging to me it's about timing the night will come about timing when i'm worked up sorry i'm worked up or i'm on something i need her to understand to wait you know the nagging bit comes when when you're a bit maybe somewhere busy or some place so there should be a time that she should be able to raise that issue so you can imagine for naivi umetubi just like her also to you for you to get her there's a process okay they say even if you want to have a visa person come from far out on pigi asimunini prepare pokapo so i'm this thing i'm worked up on and just as long as we know that we i'm i'm i'm measuring i'm i'm i'm measuring on the major and i'm a woman of course in the minor and i also have to come in the thing is all about understanding you coming in and understanding me or getting me the right time but usually that's right time i kujangi kama size na nawak na fanya job na fanya job na where na fanya job lakini where una nikama i have to get time with you sudi nini so and when when you put your pressure kubayabit na all those things in others alone asema that for for you to be able to assess an issue where lazimaku akupampa adjue how to talk to you as a man she should know how to present an issue at the right time in the right manner it's two way even then they have that that that bit but you find that on their side it's pressure it's too much pressure they don't know how to do it but if they are time if they are time if you want something from them na wakupabaya okay i want to i want us to give different scenarios i will give different scenarios here i will give different different examples let me start with one marriage expectations of marriage is it that women give men too much expectations when it comes to marriage time for marriage you want him to propose but he is not ready is it too much planning he may be planning i think first of all it comes the pressure for marriage comes from a different kind of women so that's the the the women called the society so it's your relatives who are like you know time is up but if we're dating and i'm not going to pressure you but i want to understand why it's not happening you can't keep me for 10 years and you're not proposing so what is the time limit that for a lady there is no time limit kamaja propose within this time period actually for me i prefer if a man does it when he is very settled mentally psychologically yani everything about him is like now i can do this i don't want him to do it because i'm rushing him okay yeah but i'm just gonna throw in a question just to be like hello i don't see your ring just yet okay okay you so you'll give him some signs yes here and there but no pressure no pressure yes at the right time you'll do it and this is a sensible she is sensible sensible but there are so many men who keep these women you know you don't propose why do men do unfacts i don't think marriage is uh for men i'm sorry yani nikitu we it's the last thing in your i think men have just forced into that thing you have just to be forced into that thing we enjoy when we are the way we are okay most most of men most of the men i know i don't think uh we enjoy when uh because was the one and all of them want you to marry i don't think you are talking about this and i'm waiting i like the way i say she's sensible she's saying she won't force the man she's she she according to her it's when the man is ready even if it takes 10 years wow i love that you said when he is ready thank you when he is ready when he is ready regardless of time now this season i don't think many are ready to wait even for a year or something okay at wait and even wait because i was talking about when you were talking about the pressure is like us i think it's unfortunate even for the boy child it like we were born must deliver must conquer that's that's how we have been built and so in the process yeah you know at one point i need to get a woman my life but as she said and i i i i i i i i that i'm saying she's sensible i want to fulfill some things but somebody else will tell you you want to i am working and i've really specified the kind of work i'm doing Nama kufu nmisa dajivu naafiqa. Nomba nise dhawari... ...ubikawari? ...b clinicikutima dhawari. We had a recent event this week... ...a man says he doesn't recognize... ...that man as their husband. Yes, yes he does it. Fakupu ele kareni? Fakupu ele kamaari. Haku pelikamari. And that's ten years. More than ten years yet, together. More than ten years here. So the told you paid dhawari. Dajivi na pay dhawari. So... So, should the woman wait till the man is ready to pay dowari? Amo yo presyalizu miko'i, because so many men end up in depression because of this. I have a question, is dowari a matter between you and me, or my family and your family? Who should it be? I don't know, cause I feel like it's mostly about one family to the other. It's familiar to the others, but sometimes it encroaches to us. No, I mean, is it asked to make the decision about Dari? It is almost like a must for man. You know the time you're dating and everything, that issue never crops up. But the moment now you get into seriousness, the lady might not say, might be forcing you, let's get married, but now it now don'ts to you that this marriage is Dari. The whole budget. It's fun to say about it. I don't know about the wedding. Wedding is a whole budget. As soon as you propose, I think it's just a whole budget. To me about Dari, I believe my daughters will not do Dari. You will not accept Dari for your daughters? To me it's a very different thing. I don't believe it. No pressure. It's just a very mature agreement between my family and his family. There is a day-to-day thing. Because I don't put too much pressure on Dari. And then we get married, now we don't have money for anything. I want us to go to Facebook. Remember we post the question there on our Facebook platform, Y254. I'm seeing so many comments here. You know, so many times people normally say, men normally say women are complicated, that they want too much. That's the question you pose there. What do you think, is it true that women expect too much from men? Shikuta Francis. I always lock in tune. I select a devi and I say, they expect too much, 100% fire. Ilari lungahi. I say, I postpone the power talk. We are finding the best tactics on how to beat the pharaos. Egypt today. Or Arabistas. Let me see. We have on Facebook, Ibrahim Haimba. And I say, women expect to be treated as queens, yet they don't treat their men as kings. Uli skiawapim into hivi, hivi, akiwa mewa malkia. Let's just observe lanes. Kama otaka kufanywa malkia, lasima uwe tayari kuka, kwa kasri namfalwe. Okay, wow. I'll give you time to react to this. That is Ibrahim. Thank you so much Ibrahim. Next, seeing Tangila. It's true, but at the end, they don't get what they want, but only what they need. Voi is represented. Thank you very much Tangila. Tangila, watching from Voi. Keshokwalo. Expersion is the root cause of heartache. Be de ashli, watching from Macha. Thank you very much, ashli. Kariz babake kriz, gong reskoz, well represented. Nansi njorokia, somehow they expect to move. Those are some of the feedback that we have so far. Ilek, the first one that I read. If you want to be treated like a queen, treat him like a king. That is very accurate. I can't argue with that. Keep texting, keep tweeting. The hashtag is why is power talk show at Y244 channel on Twitter, at Ram Agukko. Head over to Twitter and Facebook as you should continue this conversation. Let me move to the next thing. Money. They want money. Apu yoshida. Apu yoshida. That's why we need a vaccine. Money. Let me ask you alewa. Is it that you don't give, you don't pamper her to the level that she needs? You don't give to her when she wants? Wukimu, aki gwa mbake lasa, Sina, Sina. One of the things that I find pressure on men is that wukinadim. Many guys agree with this. Wukinadim. Sometimes I think we mistake what women want. Because when you look at a woman, the first thing beautiful like her, you think it's money. But some of them really don't go for money. So the pressure sometimes falls pressure on our side. So wukinadim karembo, nipesa. But kuna sasa wale. Kuna wale na kwa mbiukuli, awatu sheiki. You know, you get into a man, if you wanted a man, if your thing was or this is another side job of getting money from the man, go for that man who has money. I agree. I have two sides of this. Number one, I don't know, I can't think of a better way to say this, but you cannot maintain a Range Rover with a budget of a bit. So why did you go for the bit? Don't go for the Range Rover and then start saying, oh, she's taking up all my money. Don't go for a high maintenance, Jake, and say she's high maintenance because you have the bits of a budget. I am being told that Makia ko inakata. Okay, yeah. So let me repeat that. People at the back. You cannot maintain a Range Rover with a budget of a bit. Don't go for an expensive woman and then say, oh, she's taking up all my money. She always wants money. No. You go for the bit. Is bit a bad car? No. Is that all you can afford? That's fine. Maintain bits yako mwenyateza ku maintain your Range Rover ata maintain it. At what point did you know that I'm a bit? No, you're the man. You're the man complaining that she's asking for money, money, money. I'm saying. Yeah, mezoia pesa. Mwacha nene nae. If you knew I'm a bit, wait for this bits if it equips, if it pandits. No, that's on you. Equip from a series. Equip from a series. Okay? The waiting girl, the girl behind, what do you see? I'm a person once upon a time say that look for a woman who can carry your vision. And I'm going to say look for a woman you can maintain. Mwacha kutupigia kelele we're expecting too much. You're not expecting too much. No, no. You found me. I am ex. This is my worst. If it's too much for you, it's fine. Live for it. So at what? So at what point do you discover that this is a range? No, you're the one complaining. So it's you to take your time and realize oh, e manzu dem misi zani. I'm a person who can't be a woman. I'm a person who can't be a woman. I'm a person who can't be a woman. I'm a person who can't be a woman. The other side of things and I know women are not going to like the volume of this. If you can't afford what you're asking from or of a man. Hallelujah. That's right. Don't go to a man. Don't go to a man saying he should buy me a car. Can you buy yourself the car? The car. Okay, at least to say me the car is a million. Can you go and say, babe, I have 800 jeeps. You talk me up to. Oh, I said sensible. You can't afford what you're asking from a man. Thank you. You need to be here for more. This is not a power talk now. It's not a power talk. Let me just take us a few steps back. You've just seen this lady. Madam Bea, me pick up on the way you've met Susan today. How can you be able to determine that this is a bitch based on the conversation you've had on the first day? Test driving. What is this test driving? Get to know me. Get to know what she calls my fancy. Ode manapena kukulapiki. Banda ako sawa. Okay, anata kakvela rosa and the likes. Siyezani, nmuwache. You can tell a woman you can tell someone's, let me not say price tag, but you can tell her worth by getting to know her. Utajua places anapenda kwenna, the things she likes, how often she does her hair. It's very simple. It's not like that. Okay, sawa. Ode manapela kwa kibanga. If she says yes. Aya. At what point should you say that okay, tumifane iwi, omekata hi, omekata hi. So should you just end the relationship there just because or amekata kwenna. Kwenni, you just went straight for the relationship. You just met the babe, you're trying to get to know her and then maybe there are things for sure, there are things you're going to see and you're like I don't think I can keep up with this. So you walk out. Yeah, you can decide if you want friendship or just decide I can't. Aliwa. Jamami kuna nasuti. Hey, you posimata mana. Imagine. Kwa ya? Te haku nasuti. Ha ha ha ha. Ame kuna nasuti. Anasa ma Aliwa he na yosa ya ke he does look cheap. I'm arranged. I'm arranged. Really arranged, sir. I'm arranged. I'm arranged. I'm arranged. Okey. Kumeni We're doing it because We call her Rengiroba We call her Rengiroba But now what she is talking about is now It's a bit... Well I don't want to say sensitive But the worst bit of it Because now I'll be getting a woman I take maybe 2 weeks only to understand her And then I dump that one Then I'll dump the other one And yet maybe I loved her character She's God-fearing If that's what I'm looking for She didn't give up her money Kwa uktii nii hafi uint音 nii mahtire嘛 Nkis breast nine Na hwa gla你好ja na kambayako Abe Tava T과ia koh г LS Hokertgo cha Kwa kani nii bagu sabe I like one thing she has talked about, a woman should empower herself, more empower herself. The pressure comes when she has been empowered by other people. She depends on, especially the men. I'll tell you that I'm just asking, spare the men to be empowered. But if she's empowered herself, it will be very easy to fix herself in this. Susan, what kind of a man would you personally prefer, financially? Manu mubanyana ka haji. Ram, apu kalam. So, personally, I don't focus on finances, but you should be having a vision. Vision, yes. A vision, they say, any string attached to something. They say it's a vision, not a television. Personal. I grew up with a very comfortable life. Always got what I wanted. When you wanted. Yes. But what I didn't get was the things like attention, quality time, those things that you can't quantify. Small things. So for me, when a man is pursuing me, I don't even care what's in your pocket. It's just about can you give me attention, do you have time for me? Can you love me for who I am? Can you appreciate me? Can you not take me for granted? I don't like a messanger. And that's the problem. You want money, but he doesn't love you as much as he loves his money. He doesn't love you as much as he loves his car. But women also need to understand this. You know, we've got into a space where we've given men so much power if you have money. So if you have the money, demand. Yes. I feel like, you know, because women have really demanded you have to be financially stable, you have money, you have to be driving this and this car. So it's got into a point where a man feels like if I have the money, I can disrespect you all I want. I can do what I want. So the money you want, or the disrespect. Disrespect. So when women have been disrespected, now they start saying, oh men are dogs. Men are not dogs. Your choice of men. Someone said, someone said, someone said, can you be in a cashless relationship? Cashless. Is it possible even? Cashless? That's what I want now to ask her. Can you even post it? No, I'm just asking. I'm just asking. You said, after you've said everything, you're not looking at money. The money bit of it is not your pursuit as such. Can you be in a cashless relationship? By cashless you mean we're not talking about money. Money, money, does money matter? Does money matter? It doesn't matter, but there are things that are naturally going to demand money. All right. So if we go out, I'm okay to chip in some money. Or you can both pay the bill. Yes. Okay. What about this question here? A man who is good in kupariqil activity, that expectation. We're done. Let's take a short break. Do we have two men being given too much expectation? Two women being given so many expectations. Let's take this short break. Let's take this short break and we'll be back in a bit. Why 254? I love the pose. Why 254? Imagine. Thank you very much for keeping it Y254. Thank you for keeping it our talk. My name is Ram Maguko. It's a pleasure. If at all you're just joining us you're in town. Remember, you're not too late. It's all about posing the question. Do women expect too much from men? We go to Facebook. Facebook. So many comments that have popped up on our Facebook page. Felix Maganga na sema true. They always expect too much but not all do that. Kariz Babakia na sema Gangrok Rescos represented. Let's go. Thank you very much. Ibrahim Gila. Shikuta. Na sema it's true. They expect too much from men and the reason is the first time a man meets a lady to please her by promising her very expensive things of which he cannot make. Wele. Wele. Shikuta Francis. Shikuta. Tom Hur. Na sema women and money ni kama wali rogwa. Atam kiendea yule unadani ako simple at one point ako too much. Ako na de ma hi tishi do sisi kama stingy men association kmat eru qwe naki bwen Isaac naliyada na sema. It's true because even in the bible they were created from our own ribs watching from Butare. They expect too much because they were created from our own ribs. You are the verses. The Bible verses. Kesho kwa lu na sema expectation is the root cause of heartache. Mist called part na sema exactly. Women really love money hapo dipo. Braio kwa echkiru na sema ladies wana penda pesa sana. The trap kiru na sema yes. But most of them wakona depression ya pesa. They try to compare themselves na mademu wa maju. For real men are not banking with the drovels. ATM. ATM ha. But they do compare your men with other men. That's the question. Some women do. Some women do ya. Pressure, that's pressure. Let's keep this conversation going on on our Facebook page. Hashtag, power talk show at Ramaguko, at Y254. And I'm with Susan Grace and Aliva. Yes. Ya kumbia this conversation is hot. Hot hot hot. Hot hot hot. Hotter in a wire. Moto. I want us to touch on something. Just within a minute. Bedroom expectations. And this is a question that I posed earlier on. Is it that we give them too much expectation? How can we solve that within a minute. Let me get to you, Aliva. I think it's more a peer pressure thing. Peer pressure. Peer pressure thing. I think the pressure is there to be honest. For both sides. Men and women here. Let me touch on the next thing. When the man is in this position whereby they want to go to town or go for shopping. Now these are the small things that you mentioned. The attention, right? Do you expect the men to always carry your bags, hold your hand, walk, give you public display of affection to show you to his friends. Is it something that all men ought to do? No. Let me say this. Relationships can be private, but should not be a secret. Private? No, okay. If we're dating, I know what works for you but doesn't. If PDM makes you uncomfortable, that's fine. No pressure. Carrying my bag, no. Seriously? I'm going to carry my own bag. No, that's weird. Unless we have a kid and I need you to carry one of the bags, it's not my bag. But if I feel like you want to carry? If you offer, fine. But I might still say no. I'd rather have a problem. Can I help you with your bag? Fine. But it's not me telling you you have to carry my bag. That's weird. So, I don't know. There's no pressure. If you don't PDM, that's fine. I'm not going to feel... If you do want it, you will like it. This is the fantasy world. The fantasy world. It feels nice if you hold my hand in public. You don't have to kiss me all around town. I mean holding my hand is like the bare minimum. It's not going to cost you anything. I'm not going to carry my bag. I'm going to carry my bag. You're walking to town and laughing. You're walking to town and laughing. You're walking to town and laughing. I'm not going to carry my bag. You can't even hold my hand. You can't even show me that we're together. Are you ashamed of me? Now it all depends. Why maybe men will do this? Because she's an angel. She's an angel. I want to reciprocate to that word. She's an angel. So the angel should be treated like this. But there's a moment. Maybe sometimes I'm very worked up and busy. I've never forgotten about you. You're still my angel and everything. That time you come. So there's a time you come. Malisafi. But then I'm saying Malisafi niko nayo. Not every time a man will talk about nubi deka. No. So I know she's there. I don't want her to go. I preserve and kill a kid too. But this time I wasn't there. No, no. She talked about attention. At time the kind of attention they want comes at the wrong time. The understanding that this time I'm busy on this. So But you need this. She wants you to show up. I've been showing her bro. I've been showing her bro. Hey! I've been showing her bro. I can't do it five days in a week man. Five days in a week man. I can't do some other things. I need to cater for. I can't. You felt it. I've been showing her. Sometimes it's just too much. But when you get in a relationship you know what you're signing up for. So when you get in it now don't start seeing it too much. You want me to be with you from Monday to Friday. She calls you. I want to see you. Why don't you show up? You better not show up. She wants you to take her somewhere. She wants to go visit a friend. She wants to go out. For today I had reasons. Did she understand? That's the problem. Yes, I can understand. But are you always going to make me understand? I don't want to be the woman who understands all the time. I can understand. We can make her understand. We can try next month. She's telling you, babe today you've seen the job. Now feel to carry on. Let me ask another question there. Friends when he just doesn't recognize you in front of his friends We're going to have a problem. Let me tell you why. Your friends don't want to do it. They know you inside out. So if you're hiding me from your friends Skiya Skiya, babe I'll mafiz. I'm trying to protect you. Let me tell you if you're hiding from your friends there's a problem. There's a question. Your friends, your friends know you very well. They know your character. They know when I come to you When I go to this clique I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. Unfortunately, I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know my name. I don't know my name. I don't know my name. Will you introduce your man to your friends? Yes. That they do comfortably. Because you said how on mafizi Basu the same father flock. Show me your friend and I'll tell you. I'm saying when I met you, babe this clique used to be there around five years ago so I just bumped on them today. Okay. I've been trying to avoid them. You must introduce your man to somebody. Yes. I told them but now you see this one. You cannot introduce your friend. But I believe strongly that if you're serious in a relationship in a very serious note you need to be able to introduce. Introduce it to your friend. He'll never see his family. He'll never see his family. And the problem is now when he's... If you're serious but if you see me not introducing you to them there's a problem with you. That's true. I'm still waiting. But I don't feel like kwaambiawa says hi. What does am chango? Okay. At what point should you start complaining my man is not actually introducing me to the people that are important in his life? They are. How long have we been together? But they just how long? It depends. Because if someone wants you to introduce them after three months. Not three months, three days. One week. They want to dominate so you need to introduce them. And this is the question. You also head over to Facebook and tell us after how long should you expect your man to introduce you to his family and friends? Or is it that you are just giving him too much expectation on a better pressure? Family when there's a ring. When you engage me you can talk family. So he engages you first before engaging the family. Engagement is commitment. It's like safe and it shows commitment. So when you score family you can't face it up from there. I'm seeing up if he Timothy you cannot introduce your friend to that Mzazim Kairi. Mzazim Kairi. Splendid faith and let me put this across. We women don't expect too much from men. When men date as they promise as heaven and earth and when they start asking for the promise and when we start asking for the promise they promised it before or you are too much. Allah. Why did they promise in the first place? People are getting mad outside. Yes, a point. Why are you? You are my heaven enough. I will give you everything. I'll give you the work. I'll do anything for you. I'll travel around the seven seas for you. Am I a dream? We must set the dream. All dreams are valid. So this is the working process too. No, there are things when you say I feel like you actually mean it. If you come to me and we actually have everything is working out so well you promise me you're going to marry me take me to I don't know your family obviously I'm working I'm making the relationship better so that we can get to that point then you just take it away from me and then when I'm trying to understand why you say I'm nagging I'm expecting too much. Let me ask you this question. Earlier on you said that a man should be able to predetermine the kind of a person you are whether you are a viz or arranged Probox or you are a man. Come back. Sir, now I want you to be a red rover. Say that you are a red rover. Won't he make up lies because he knows that this is the kind of person you are? That's what he said that men feel the pressure they feel like every woman wants that high life so when they come into a lady they will pretend that they can sustain that life. Yes, and they feel that you are a red rover well really I'm just simple like, send us to remove. So you can be a red rover but of it? No, I can be a red rover but I'm easy to maintain a red rover. And easy to maintain? So a woman is half class always. Women half class. Some women. Is it an advice? Women half class. You should have class so that when women be a bit sophisticated. But now the question is you are trying to make up lies because you feel like she's not in your league. That's the projection of what you're going through. It's not a projection of her. It's a projection of your insecurity. What should the men do now? Be yourself. If you don't have money if you don't drive a car you don't have to borrow a friend's car but I love you. I don't have money I don't have money I don't have money Will you lie to her just to please her? You see there are many ways of crossing a river. I want to be on your side so we are forced to use ones. I've said I might not be having it but I see a potential someone who can help me cross the other side. If she's complicate maybe this complication was for 3 weeks so I'll go through the 3 weeks pressure and then this man has the range I call her range so I can wait and support this man until he gets the range. Maestro If you want to look for gold be gold. If you are silver look for silver or bronze to avoid pressure and depressions be you and get your march to win the march. The gold sometime is stored in the brewing in the brewing. We want to change gold post. The problem is that we are not patient we are not patient The problem is that we are not patient. We are not patient. Women are the worst when it comes to relationships a woman wants to be heard when she doesn't listen to herself. Wait what? Let me read it. I'm a poski to Refu Lola It's too long He has like 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 points. Women are the worst when it comes to relationships a woman wants to be heard when she doesn't listen to herself a man goes out comes home with a little he's found and a woman is waiting on the other side mouth open ready to attack him for not bringing what she wanted Lola just got the wrong person A woman expects a man to a man to be perfect yet he's just a human being prone of shortcomings a woman expects a man to provide everything she set her mind to want yet she forgets that there is a time a man might lack a woman expects a man to act in a certain way a way that she was designed it in her head and then when the man acts in a certain different way then he becomes less of a man she says Wow Let me skip and go to the next one Hey comments are many and let me give it time to comment on that by the way because a woman wants to be heard when she doesn't listen herself women do they listen you expect him to listen to you but you listen to him question is do you listen that's the complication sophistication and everything Lola listen to me is that selfish being who expects a man to read her moods when she doesn't feel the need to communicate forgetting this particular man ain't an angel thrown from above and the list goes on and way too much from them giving them too much pressure women are selfish Hey I'm sorry? Yes he said it women are selfish and so are men so they are selfish and you believe you are reason we all have a percent of everything that you say in the mind of a man in the mind of a woman first of all all about her it's all about her you come second anyway let me ask I said I'm giving different scenarios another scenario again body features you want a man with a seat bank and buy a corner mask but as you saw in the video cc.duko this is yaw what is it with this scenario how should men handle this you want a man who goes to the gym has muscles all over you know you want a man you want a man you want pressure you want pressure you want pressure you don't feel yourself as a man because that person is saying you want a man if you can't afford what you expect over a man if you don't have the perfect body a flat tummy whatever don't expect a man to have it if you don't have time to go to the gym stop expecting another man to go to the gym women are selfish sometimes because we want this gold but we don't want to work we don't want to work too much of that he'll meet me where I am you want a man who is physically fit start working out as well let me come to you why is it that when you are with a woman and she has tried to politely tell you babe 20 gympa moja 20 funny hipa moja because yes she doesn't have a flat tummy like you but she is saying let's work out together couple goals priorities maybe I will say a postpone I talked about majoring maybe the major right now is not gym the gym thing not now it's a good idea but can you wait so we need to kind of discuss mostly as I come and say she wants us to go to the gym because I am on a kaniyibaflani kandaji mama kwa Instagram ya kwa somebody else she wants me to turn to somebody else so to me it's all about polumini pattern maybe I might be doing some other things so I think like this is not a priorities for now that's why I am not going to the gym I want us to bring this discussion to a close already but it is a problem when I am in marriage but sometimes I believe in I am supposed to reach a certain point I also need to give in to a request in this kind of thing because maybe there is a reason why she is saying that but if she asks you to go to the gym together I hope she also asks you that you work together you do everything together let me wrap this conversation let's go to church a bit hallelujah one of you is church going the other is not how should people handle it when it comes to these expectations that he drinks or he does this he goes to church but I don't go to church how do people meet halfway or how do people get to their destination with all these expectations especially from the family that guy that guy works in this place he does this how do you meet up how do you go through that first of all if he is not a cup of tea you know women have this thing where they try to change men don't change a man you can't change a man a man will change when he wants to change woman can be changed by maybe environment surrounding a man cannot change if he wants to go to church he will go don't force him to go to church if a man doesn't go to church a man is wired even as we are wired differently if a woman wants you to change are you willing as a man to change when we talk church when we talk church is very different now we are inviting God inviting God hallelujah it's not about me fighting it's me but I'm calling the power above to help me do it right of course we are talking about the difference here the dilemma here is when the other person maybe in my work maybe not godly sometimes we are talking in marriage or before because that should be what is the target you are talking about marriage in marriage God you don't like to go to church I think you just so I will continue praying fasting and doing everything until one day but men change I have seen women who pray and they change that is God changing them when he talked about a godly person godly people looking at it differently of course it is said if you are God man woman godly man the other things you will struggle you will fight can I give you 30 seconds each to have a final word on our take home for that guy who is watching whether married or not that potential husband to somebody or that potential wife what would be your final word in regards to expectations towards men let me start with you Oliver so first it is all about time don't rush to things what are you looking for in a woman to me go for a godly person and character the rest will come things like the calves those are not very important to me but first of all look for a godly person and of course character she will wrap it all for me do not promise what you cannot deliver don't promise and say somebody is expecting too much and two for the ladies if you can't do it for yourself don't expect a man to do it for you hallelujah sensible that's what I said let me wrap it up with just one final word no matter how good of a woman you are you will never be good enough for a man who isn't ready say that again hallelujah that was just the name of this conversation God bless you God bless the work of your hands this has been power talk it has always been a pleasure having you each and every 30 from 11 remember I repeat of this show comes again tonight at 10 p.m my name is Ramaguko this has been power talk thank you so much have a fantastic day God bless you God bless the work of your hands