 What's going on you guys? It's your boy Lloyd here. So I have a question that might be relevant for a lot of you guys And this guy writes to me and he basically says hey, bro I watch and like your channel for a very long time and I have a really and I really have a hard question I'm talking with a girl that I saw in University and after quarantine I wrote to her and we are really good with each other But she is three years older than me and she haven't hasn't seen me in real life And as far as you know, the University won't be opening until August But I don't think she would Continue talking flirty with me until August without seeing me and I fear that she will friend zone me Should I open up to her through a call or should I just talk normal until August? best regards, okay, so The answer for this guy is actually pretty clear, but let's talk about a bigger subject that has come up a lot So basically this guy had a connection with a girl Before the quarantine started and then once the shelter-in-place orders were happening You couldn't see her anymore And so he's wondering kind of how to keep that fire going and how to pick it back up when school resumes or when things start opening Back up so I get this question probably at least once a week, you know a guy who? met somebody wants to know how to keep that fire going and You know pick things back up where they left off when things start to reopen again, okay? This is something that I deal with actually quite a bit in my own life It's something that I deal with a lot with my students, but you don't really have to do that much, okay? Typically the guys they fall into two camps Guys that are doing it wrong number one They feel like they have to do something special So then they'll reach out to the girl a lot, you know and just kind of acting very needy And they'll push her away by doing that sort of stuff. So they'll be texting her just just too much Or calling her too much or whatever it is and the girl will be you know She'll feel kind of suffocated or you know, she's like why is this guy so so into me? You know and then that doesn't work, okay? And the other way is that they completely ignore her and then she forgets about them starts talking with another dude Or doesn't think that she the guy's really that into her, okay? So they lose it that way now obviously there's a bunch of things that can happen in between So even if you everything right There's a chance it still might not work out, but the best thing to do is find somewhere in the middle And like I said, dude You really don't have to do that much if the girl liked you before the quarantine happened before the shelter in place orders started You'll really don't have to break your back to make keep making them like you and doing that as permission seeking It's needy. It's gets very typical nice guy behavior Of what you should do is you should show interest ask her how she's doing check in on her Keep letting her know that you're interested in her and you don't have to let her know every single day I mean she's got her own things going on I don't know what kind of relationship you guys have but if that's what's going on You probably want to tone things back a little bit me personally. Yeah, you wrote should I call her? I love doing a phone call man phone calls are great. You can get accomplished a lot Over a phone call is seeing their face Especially if you have FaceTime I hearing their voice a lot of times with long-distance things like things get lost in Translation you maybe you think the girls, you know doesn't want to talk to you anymore when it's she was just busy Maybe she doesn't respond because it's there's a time difference or something like that or just a different schedules You know you don't know and especially when you don't know when you're going to be meeting up again Which for a long time with the shelter in place or as we didn't know it can make it a lot more uncertain it Breeze breeze into all these fears So I like to have a more personable connection and actually get on a FaceTime call with them And you don't have to like make it all formal and schedule it like just if you're going back and forth I would just call her right then in there or FaceTime or right then in there Okay, now for this particular guy With the way you're describing it I would say 90% chance is probably not gonna happen with this girl Okay, you haven't even met her up in person. She's older than you. You're at university Like this is not this is not a good position to be in I mean she can literally just log on her phone and meet and be in the same position as you are with her With like 10 other guys Okay So your issue is that you really don't have a whole lot of options and you're clinging on to this woman who you've Never even met to try and make things work. Okay. My advice for you dude personally is you gotta like take advantage of the offer That I have going on right now, which is I'm going I'm helping guys out meet three quality women in Three days for just $33 like this is literally the cheapest program that I've ever come out with ever It's gonna be three days starting June 19th next week So if you're interested in that dude fill out the form down by the way anybody else is just in that fill out The form it's in the description box below. There's a survey and then I'll send you a link Or you can get added to the list. Yeah I mean in things like this like you have to be a kind of doing your own thing as well, too And having your options open like waiting around for a girl to come around or you know That's kind of a little bit old-school and it does work if there's a super strong connection And you guys have like made a commitment for that But if you haven't see if you haven't talked about that sort of stuff Assume that she's probably gonna be dating other people too And so, you know, you should still show interest and when things pick back up. Yeah, sure reach out to her But I'd say 90% chance because you haven't met this person. You haven't really established a strong connection beforehand It's probably not gonna have it man. If you had established a strong connection I'd say yeah, there's a really good chance that you guys will be able to meet back up unless you meet somebody different But that's just not the case So my goal for you is when things are starting to open back up is, you know, you have some options You're not counting on this one person staring at your phone hoping that this girl that you haven't even met is texting you back And if you feel like that's you or anybody watching this video I highly recommend that you attend those sessions fill out the survey in the description box below So that's my answer for you guys again You don't have to do that much if you want to keep things going for somebody over a long period of time I think calls work very very well I think you know just getting a text just so you get a response from her those kinds of behaviors are gonna drive her away So cool. 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