 let me see here hopefully everything is working the right way I wanted to pop in and have a little chat just because I'm I'm uh at my son practice and um whenever I'm at practice it's a little tougher it's tougher to record and upload a video because of the the connection sprinter is not always the greatest so I want to pop in and have a little chat because y'all been sending me some post and I'm gonna tell you you know the post I've been receiving from y'all is pretty interesting and pretty alarming and then I went on my tiktok I just posted a video on my tiktok which I'm not a tiktok fan I'm not a tiktok tiktok guy and I'd be honest with you I'm not a social media guy I do it just because it's necessary because you got to to get the message out but I cannot stand social media I cannot stand social media but um on my tiktok and I'm gonna touch on this before I get into the tonight's topic somebody say divorce ought to be the topic we're gonna talk about that but um on my tiktok I seen a a lady put me in a video thank you all of the duet and it was the one where I'm talking about men if a man want you you will know and the lady was like um tiktok showed it to me on the notification she was like I can't believe we still talking about this in 2022 and the thing about it is it's so many women who get upset with men talking to women and I totally get that when a man only talks to women when a man doesn't hold men accountable but obviously the lady don't know me and don't know my message and have not looked within to see my message and don't understand why a lot of guys do not like me is because of the accountability that I hold the standard I hold me into because of the standard I hold myself to and what I'm working on every day as a man and the lady was talking about how you know the article which I did a video on the article about men gonna be the loneliest group and it's kind of like men gonna be lonely until they realize that they're gonna be lonely and then it's gonna be very easy for a man to not be lonely when he get his act together and he grow up and that's the video that I was talking about you know men having to understand that we live in a new world we live in a new world and we used to be in a world where women didn't have a lot of rights didn't have a lot of opportunity and so she needed a man for finances for financial stability and that's not the case today a woman could do anything she want she want to do anything she put her mind to so these women no longer putting up with just any old thing when they have their own and men gonna have to realize that it's going to take more than money and being a being a provider to keep a woman and that's going to be clear and evident and that's going to push men to grow and the thing that a lot of people don't understand about men is that in a lot of cases it's not intentional that men become arrogant or jerks or condescending when they get money and they start providing the thing about it is the reason why that goes to our head a lot of times is because a man's net worth a man's self-worth is equated to his net worth or a man's yes a man's self-worth is equated to his net worth so therefore as men we are made to feel less than if we don't earn a certain amount of money and we are made to feel like money is what matters and if you cannot provide for a household if you cannot earn enough to where your woman doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to work because she wants to be full time in the home or full time with the kids a man is seen as a rooty poo a man who may not have the education or the training or the ability to go out and make six figures is seen as a rooty poo he's seen as nothing in nobody and he's talked about by women and by some men and he's looked down upon so then when a man gets money it can create this ego because now he has the thing that the world says makes him a man and so now he starts to move and think and act different until he comes into the understanding that money does not define him but that's hard to do especially if he comes from poverty he comes from a certain mindset and if you pay attention that's why you see so many men only talk about money and flex and flaunt money of all races you see white men do it black men do it hispanic men do it asian men do it because depending on where a man comes from his net worth is his self worth and so men get money and start talking down to their woman start looking at like they better than and then if a woman doesn't have money she may say i have no other option but then if she does have money she say you know what i don't have to put up with this and men that's what's going to push men to grow and break them out of that programming and that mindset and so we got to understand that and you know people always asking that's what my you my TikTok video was about people always asking you know why men why so many men giving advice to women online and i'll be honest with you just to keep it real with you it's because women losing it's because women losing i remember here in one time i think i was reading a book or i was listening to the book and the man said it was a counselor or somebody and he was he said his parents these this man and woman came to him and they said hey we want you to help our son we want you to reach him and help him and get through to him because he is taking his life for granted and he's not serious about his schoolwork and about this and that and the counselor said well where is your son and they said well he's skiing and he's in colorado skiing and the man said but he has the problem and so he's in colorado skiing who paid for his skis oh we did who paid for the skiing trip oh we did so but you're here for him and the man told a couple he said your son doesn't have a problem y'all have a problem your son got everything he want your son got the life so a lot of times when women ask why men giving so much advice to women why men giving so much advice to women did you not just see that the the mother of six was killed by her boyfriend did you not just see not too long ago a mother of six was killed by her boyfriend did you not just see that a man took the life of his three children and himself did you not see every single day a man is going to prison for what he did to his girlfriend child or to his own child did you not see what is happening in the world do you not have a mother do you not have a sister who is who has been abused in every way of the world in every aspect and do you not see that so men are winning in the sense of men don't have problems because women are giving men the free for all men can have men have multiple listen I see men that look like a troll and I'm not talking about on the internet there are men who look like they live under a bridge like what we use to learn about in school the little trolls in the story there are men who look like trolls and they got a house full of women a house full of women there I just was with some guys and they was telling me by the guy that got two three four wives or women that live with him and the man looked like a nightmare and I see guys who look like somebody to stomp them out and they got a woman who has agreed to allow him to have jump offs there are so many women who have agreed to polyamory there are so many women who have agreed that their man can cheat as long as he cheat respectfully now you tell me what man do you know can you show me 10 men can you show me 10 men that you have heard about in the worldwide web I ain't talking about that you know personally I'm gonna give you the whole world I'm gonna give you the whole world with seven billion people have you heard of 10 men that allow their woman to have multiple husbands to cheat on him as long as she do it respectfully so then women have the nerve to say why are there men giving women advice because women need advice and the same men the men who doing it purely those of us who doing it purely we giving men advice too but you but the thing about it is what you do not realize is the reason why men the reason why we don't waste so much of our breath talking to men because we know the power of the P do you know who taught me about the power of the P and do you know what the P is it's not talking about the P for the man it's talking about the P the derogatory word for the woman a woman taught me about the power of the P I just saw a woman go viral online saying that women use sex for power for manipulation that they use that and that is powerful how did David fall looking at a woman how did Solomon fall with Bathsheba how what who did Adam ignore Adam chose his woman over God here you is the first man to ever be created and you know God on a personal basis and he listened to his woman you know why Eve had them put that thing on him he know how to act he had their release and they know how to act and I'm telling you as a man as a married man when my wife put that thing on me I'd be like a puppy dog for the rest of the week and so what you got to understand is that the woman holds the power the woman hold the power men do what we allow to do and there is no man and this what I need you to think about there is no human that is going to keep themselves in check if their pleasures are reinforced there is no human this go men and women there is no human that is going to do the right thing when the wrong thing is not punished there is no human why do you show up to work because you are required to show up to work to get a paycheck but if your job tells you that you don't have to come to work and you're still going to get paid who in the world is going to work they're going to find you're going to find a hobby you're going to find a passion and you're going to do that it's one out of a thousand people that's going to go to work when the job has told them you don't have to go to work and they go into work to escape home that's the only reason but why do you show up on time instead of 30 minutes late because if you show up late if you show up late every day you're going to get fired you're going to get fired so you show up on time why do you drive a speed limit and we don't even drive a speed limit and there is a ticket and a punishment for not driving you get points on your license and you get a ticket but why we drive a speed limit because it is the law but a lot of times that speed limit is uncomfortable and it don't make sense so here's the thing why is a man going to be faithful to a woman going to talk to a woman with respect going to treat a woman like a queen if it is not required of him a man is not fined to be with one woman unless that is expected of him and that is the standard but if a man could talk to another woman in the DM on the text message and his woman don't say nothing his woman find that and she don't trip he is not going to stop there is one out of a million men that's going to not talk to another woman just because of him he won't talk to another woman because either his woman don't allow it or because his god don't allow it there is rules and repercussions there's things set in place and that is why that is why the good men talk to women because when we look at the world when we look out into the world when I look into the world I don't see men getting beat on but I see women getting beat on I don't see men dealing with cheating now yes men get cheated on but not in their face but I see women getting cheated on in their face I do not see men letting a woman use them use them use them for his apartment use him for his car use him for his savings use him for his connections willingly men are not doing that but women are doing that that is why we give advice to women the reason why I started giving advice at 22 years old because of what my sister was going through and because of what my mama was going through at the hands of men I was pushed into purpose it's not something that I want to do when I when I wrote my first book what daddy never told his little girl the rewrite of it I guess would be Mrs. Wright my book Mrs. Wright it's on amazon when I wrote my first book I lost all my homeboys my best friend from kindergarten got distant and stopped talking to me and he said I ain't reading your little book I said bro why you ain't gonna read it he said because I already know what he's talking about you ain't doing nothing but selling the side I'm like ain't bruh it's like that I'm like man it's not even about you though I'm like it's about me trying to help our mama your mama single going through what my mama going through it's about me trying to help our sisters your sister going through it's about me trying to help our cousins your cousins going through but guess what no bruh they ain't cool man you giving away the game man that's all you doing giving away the game I mean I can't let my girl read that so now what woman and they write mine knowing how how men are about our male friends our friendships it's men who want more guys night than date night with they woman it's men who laugh and kiki and gossip with their homeboys more than they do with their wife it's men who chasing behind their homeboys more than they chase behind their woman so what woman in her right mind think a man want to give advice to women for fun or even for a living because it ain't no money in it that's why Steve Harvey wrote his book and got out the way because ain't no money in it so if you're not gonna dedicate your life to it and trust God to meet your needs in other ways it ain't worth doing but you do it because we can make more money in real estate we can make more money in cryptocurrency we can make more money on day trading we can make we can make more money going and getting a degree and going and getting a job we can make more money and it's like yeah you're gonna see you're gonna see three four men make some money but okay it's a thousand men giving advice and some of them doing it for the wrong reason but the ones who're doing it for the right reason the reason is because when we look into the world we convicted we convicted because of what we did wrong and because of what we see being done wrong and that's what people got to understand that's what women got to understand is you need to be glad that it's some men exposing the games and the lies that your daddy did not tell you and your daddy didn't tell you because he did not know and he still was playing the game and he still was struggling you need to be glad that it's some men exposing the truth because your mama was crying your sister was crying you didn't been hurt you didn't been crying so high in the world a woman gonna fix her mouth and say why is a man giving us advice because who else gonna tell you about a man than a man who else gonna tell you a man by the man than a man a woman can't tell you about no man other than the man she didn't dealt with that's all she could do is tell you about the man she didn't dealt with but a man no man nah a man no man and so I'm like what in the world is this the lady gonna put me in her TikTok video I say ma'am if you and and and the thing about it is it's like ma'am you need the advice you need the advice because I could look at you and tell you is pray you the one gonna be pray you the one not gonna know what you talking about I say boy it's a shame out here and then gonna use my video and she ain't getting no buzz on TikTok then gonna use my video and that's her highest view video I say boy don't come over here trying to use me for clout trying to use me trying to disagree with common sense and you know what the video said the video said if a man want you you gonna know it and you know why I did that video because it's so many women and y'all see it when we do a Q&A y'all see it when I answer the email from inbox at Tony Gaskins it is so many women writing in asking about a inconsistent inconsiderate immature non-committal no effort given man millions of women are with inconsistent non-committal men and then a woman got the nerve to ask why do a man got to tell a woman that because millions of women going through it because millions of women is waiting on a man to commit who is not gonna commit and that's why so now hey I had to talk about that just so you could spread the word when you see one of these women who is bitter and upset because her relationship life ain't going right and instead of want some help she want to argue and complain and still again some insight she want to argue and complain I thought my son practice going to 9 30 I thought I had 45 minutes his 907 practice over now he coming this way now but listen I want to talk to you about this here divorce situation and let me see if my door unlocked look man door unlocked son I want to talk to you about this here divorce situation that's some grill and some chicken wings what what you smell that diesel exhaust and so witness here divorce situation which ain't gonna be a talk to you come on son sit right there in that chair because not all right no I'm saying sit right there because uh you don't want you don't want to vote I don't want you don't just want things um because I don't want that chair squeaking and so listen to me what you're loose so when I be on the highway be squeaking on t put on the um accent like so listen to me now let me tell you about this hill with this divorce situation y'all got to understand that's what I'm talking about it's a lot of women that would do what I think her name is Tia Maori is doing it's a lot of women that'll do that but they can't because the man is the provider financially and they need to take care of their kids and they they're used to a lifestyle and they need that lifestyle and that's why they say men are going to be lonely because if men don't want to act right and grow and do the right thing and what I'm going to tell you is every man every man in the world is immature actually some cut is like every man in the world is immature there is not a man that's not immature every man gonna have an issue that drive a woman crazy it could be he doesn't communicate it could be his hygiene it could be how much he does for his friends and his family it could be his attitude it could be his temper every single woman can give you a laundry list of what their boyfriend or their husband does that she is sick of so you have to understand that a man has to be willing to grow for it to work the man got to be willing to grow and if he willing to grow and change and work on himself it can work but when you see a woman lead after 14 years after Latia Mallory after 20 years after seven years and the woman filed for divorce it is because that man is not changing and he is not grown there is not a woman in the world that has not had to put up with something from a man every woman in the world has had to forgive her man for something and every man in the world has had to forgive his woman for something but the divorce happened and that's why you see in all these divorces say irreconcilable differences irreconcilable differences it's because the person or the both of them who are at fault they're not growing and changing so listen to me i'm feeling dry at home i mean i'm looking at the road i ain't looking at y'all but you know some people be you know oh honey you're gonna be talking and riding and i try to tell them it ain't no different than you riding with me and me talking to you because i ain't looking at you but um i'll let my son real quick because his phone curfew is 9 pm let me tell y'all something about raising these kids too you know we gotta do better they ain't gonna understand it now but i look back at the stuff my daddy did at 38 and i love him i love him for it and i say you know what me told me no i can't go skating and i was literally about to go skating with my girlfriend at that time who turned out to be a lesbian so she wasn't gonna do nothing with me anyways and so and my daddy told me no when i look back now i say you know what ain't even mad at him because he probably felt something in his spirit he probably felt that i was gonna get in the car wreck or i was gonna get in the fight and that's the one time he said no but instead of a little time he said yeah so my son he on a 9 pm phone curfew he 15 years old and i'm sharing that for those y'all with a 15 year old 13 year old if your son your daughter on the phone pass 9 pm you might want to look into that because we're allowing these kids to become phone zombies like we have become as adults and you gotta realize we didn't have a lot of us didn't have social media growing up or cell phones on this level that we have today growing up and we got it as adults and we addicted to the phone so imagine you imagine the kids today starting on their phones and they tablet from two years old when our clean kids get our age they're gonna be brain dead and that's why they say Steve Jobs they let his kids use the Apple products because he understand the brain and what it do to the brain and so that's what we gotta understand if you give the rope to the child they're not gonna help themselves so we got to put them in position to win and when they all enough to understand they're gonna look back in a young man about 20 years old told me that because i reached out to him here athlete division one and i said hey man i'm doing this time living thing with my son on social media do you think i'm being too hard on him he said man my dad did the same thing to me when i was in high school and i was so mad i was so mad but he's like now that i look back i'm glad he did it because he taught me time management and now i'm in college playing sports high level d1 sports but also pre-med and he said i only could balance a pre-med degree or a major with division one sports because of the time management i learned in high school so y'all think about that when we're raising these kids but if i get time when i get home i don't get home to after 10 but i might come on here and talk a little bit more about that divorce and all that so it might be for the west coast because it'd be about 730 over there might come on here and talk a little bit more about this divorce stuff that we see going on but god bless you so set your clock i'm gonna try to get on set your clock for 10 30 eastern y'all on the east coast you might need to go and go to bed but god bless you and we'll talk soon what's going on with you son i'm height you height i'm height what you're about to eat on chicken wing how they taste they were a little dried out at the end of the day and then also you know a certain people can't cook ribs when you don't talk about that