 Good day. Welcome to all my God ministries. I am your host Reverend Anita Morris I wish to come before you and we will talk about relationships and regards to the husband and the wife Also, we're gonna take time to pray also for the weakness in our Infirmities when we are vulnerable and so sometimes we have weaknesses and at the same token God allows us to Yield and trust him in his plan and so that we can continue to conquer Obstacles and those that those things that challenge us on a daily basis And this is not just for husband and wife, but on all relational Relationship matters and as an individual as well as human beings in this world being believers of Christ Jesus Hallelujah, let's go and pray a heavenly father We thank you You are a father who intercedes before the father for us. You are Jesus Christ Our living Savior and we thank you Lord God that your mercies are new every morning We thank you Lord God that in you we live we move and we have our being and we can do nothing without your help And so Lord God we ask for your help during the season of Challenge and also during the summer season when children are Home from school and need extracurriculum activities to do and help us to find the resources to Allow our children to participate in and also to yield ourselves to our our friends who would help and aid in our family Situations where we need to help, but we don't choose to ask But you said ask anything in your name. We shall have the things that we ask if we ask you Lord God So we ask humbly before you that you would help Those that are in need and also that you will continue to watch over the children as they further the education Who are in transition who have graduated from high school college? In Universities this year so we thank you Lord God those who are in transition who have to repeat a grade We'll have to report to summer school or or have been Set back to another grade so we just ask Lord God that your demonstration of your grace Will work in them mightily and give them the wisdom the knowledge the understanding to continue to go further and The education and to never give up we ask this all in your most holy precious name Amen, and amen Now in the Bible in Romans 8 26 It reads so too also the Holy Spirit who comes to our aid comes to our help and Bears us up in our weakness For we do not know what prayer to offer just like now We don't know what prayer to offer into it comes up And then we have an issue or we have a challenge then we pray But oftentimes there could be other challenges that we have not been made aware of and then the Lord Opens our eyes and the Spirit will pray For us upon those weak weaknesses that are discovered because he who is the who is God? allows us to have the Holy Spirit who Demonstrates his will towards us. Amen. He never leaves us nor forsake us And he implanted a seed within us and every believer his spirit His spirit of holiness his spirit of love his spirit of comfort and therefore thereby We are comforted because the Holy Spirit comes to our aid Interceding for our behalf it says for we do not know what prayer to offer Nor how to offer it wordly as we ought to You know not selfish prayers, but worthy of God to answer and to hear us It says but the Spirit himself goes to meet our supplications and please in our behalf with unspeakable yearnings and Gronings too deep for utterance and it continues on in Romans 8 27 and he who searches the hearts of men Meaning all humankind knows what is in the mind of The Spirit because the Spirit intercedes and pleads and And beckons before God and behalf of the Saints according to and in harmony with God's will So we are assured and know That God being a partner in their in labor all things work together For the good for those who love God and are called according to his Purpose his choice his design His will so we thank you Lord God for we know that all things are Working together for our good because we are called according to your purpose and your design and Jesus name So we thank you Lord for covering all our bases even the things that we can't even Articulate that we need prayer for pray pray for our country pray for our nations pray for our enemies pray for The other nations that are suffering who are in chaos pray for those who had demonstration of floods in Our nation which was New Jersey and Burlington area So keep all in prayer and and that prayer and praying for all this allow us to continue to show compassion One to another and God enjoys that when we stand in the gap for each other and we thank God for that and thank God for Fellow humankind like you to do that in the stand in the gap and pray for each other Now I am going to read some of the highlights. It says prayer the power of prayer Or the power of a praying husband by stormy Omar and and this is addition for military personnel, which is not to be placed on Sell so this was given to us when we go overseas or we give this as a chaplain We give these to our marital couples or those who want wish to pray or Pray for each other and to keep harmony and stay connected to their spouse when they go overseas the book here of course she is the Author which is stormy on Martin, but there's some significant things that as a woman you can also Glean from and so some of the points that in chapter one if you ever go get this book the power of a praying husband and we just celebrate it Father's Day, so happy Father's Day and continue on and continue to bathe your significant other babe your spouse and prayers and There's some highlights and chapter one it says that your prayers may not be hindered and It reads Husbands likewise dwell with them with understanding with your wife Given honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel as being ears together of grace of life That your prayers may not be hindered first Peter three seven a lot of oftentimes you can have a rhetoric and Theology where it says weaker vessels, but we already know we are in a society where women are empowered don't call me weak Oh, what have you? Oftentimes we see and the book of Genesis when you read from the beginning that they always point the finger to Eve Who was deceived not Adam, but Adam bull Adam and Eve bull partook of the fruit of Good and evil, so therefore Eve was to receive the the pains and labor and also the man he would always have to Have the adversity of the enemy upon his shoulders, so there was a different mixtures of Consequences that resulted and so that's why we as women need to continue to keep a Shield of covering Over our heads, even if you're not married that God is your husband He is your loyal husband He is your covering and those that are married obviously, you know that your husband's your covering and that he will continue to bathe your mind Amen and words and knowledge of truth of compassion and to not to cause you to feel Let's dignify Because you are the weaker vessel is just an example in the Genesis as well as in concrete terms That we ought to show compassion as sometimes literally some men are more Sensitive than women are and then we as women have to Take a breather and say I have to know who I'm dealing with and take my time. It's just relationship temperaments that you have to be aware of okay, so That is the case of First Peter 3 7 Well with each other with understanding have an honor to one another that your pray is being not hindered again Pray was understanding Well with each other with understanding know your temperaments know how to get along and know how to get back connected honor your wife and also And let you guys continue to grow together as one flesh as God joins you guys together That your prayers may not be hindered. I had the pleasure of marrying one of my classmates Not one. Yeah, one of my classmates in May And it was a beautiful wedding in barrington, Rhode Island So as God does that mysteriously thing to bring them and they become one So you can see the display of that when you see wedding ceremonies and it's so beautiful so awesome But when you take all different things off after the wedding after the event couple weeks down or You know after the honeymoon phase is over then you have the testing and The the understanding of how can I understand this person better? How can I as well with my mate much better my spouse much better? And they go through those different stages. So That's the awesomeness and uniqueness of God that we continue to Allow each other to grow but at the same token staying connected and staying fully up having full understanding of each other And so another point she mentions was in Page 35 be of one mind. How is it to be of one mind? It says in Matthew 12 25 every kingdom Divided against itself is brought to desolation emptiness So it's a place of a pastoralist land. There's nothing growing that when it's divided You can't grow. You can't prosper. It's it's chaotic and every city or house divided against itself Will not stand. So how can you build when you're divided? So oftentimes when when you're trying to build and there's chaos and confusion It's hard to plant something into thrive in a chaotic situation so that is the the frightening situations that could be when we're not of one mind and So she mentions prayer is a key to keep you to be of one mind The second is to be compassionate and I'll read this script for you verbatim On page 37 it says have you ever seen your wife suffering? But you don't know what to do about it. Some men become impatient with that Others feel so at a loss or overwhelmed by it that it causes them to withdraw or even become distant I would say it says if you recognize that happening to you ask God to give you a heart of Compassion so instructing yourself. So when you see your heart dissipating and Becoming withdrawn from your spouse. Okay, that is the time to ask God For compassion towards your wife It says if you recognize that happening to you ask God to give you a heart of Compassion to be compassionate toward your wife is to have a deep sympathy For any area on which she suffers and to have a strong desire to alleviate the suffering Oftentimes, I just wanted to pinpoint That everything that a person goes through is not always your responsibility Sometimes we have to trust in the Lord with all our heart and oftentimes we all should do this Lean on to our own understanding, but in all our ways acknowledge God and he will direct our steps some travails requires just the trust of God with that individual and All you can do is cover that person in prayer that they will do the same So I read a book. I think By Bishop TD Jakes at one time and I think it was regarding the prayer of a Pray of a powerful wife or something like that and His wife Serita Jakes mentioned that she was going through grief of her loved one And there was some so much going on that was in in a turmoil that he couldn't succure her He couldn't secure her or comfort her even to the degree of grief So there's different things of places where you were still gonna be comforting her but at the same token that you can't She mentions the suffers that you have to have a strong desire to alleviate that suffering That's God's job to also do that as she continued to encounter his presence in That grief and suffering so I don't want you to feel that you have to be God for her But she has to be at a place to be receptive to his presence as well as you guard her You know guard her in prayer and submit her to prayer and that God will cover her and I Appreciate you praying for her and doing everything that you need to do for your spouse but some of the sufferings we do go through sometimes it's a God encounter and That the experience that she receives via be a comfort from God can only come from God So I just wanted to pinpoint that and number three it reads be loving It says number three be loving to your spouse your wife It says Jesus loves us with fidelity everybody know what fidelity you know what infidelity is what what is fidelity? Of course loyalty purity and also to have Constancy and passion no matter how imperfect we are someone said in What does the each day Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday it all ends with a Y right and We and I used to be a supply troop so therefore I used to have to make sure everything stays constant and have the right quantity and etc etc and It was like some some days if it's not constant it doesn't begin ends with the Y I could never get that joke, but we are human beings our names does not always end with a Y there's gonna be sometimes when it's gonna be interrupted and we're not gonna show Consistency and of course we are imperfect as she mentions it says if a man doesn't love his wife in that same way He will abuse his authority and his headship and as a result will abuse her so if they're not in constant Committed purity and constancy and passion There's a tendency to be abused Okay, it says because you are one with your wife you must treat her the way you would your own body I also read and one of these Postings it says things were meant to be used and People Were meant to be guided, but if other things are if it's flipped then it becomes a manipulative Situation and you don't want to get yourself into that situation and so she continues on you wouldn't do anything Deliberately to her or destroy it. You love it and care for it Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself So and it says do not withhold good from those to whom it is due when it isn't when it is in your power of Your hand to do so that's in Proverbs 3 27 So when you have the good to be loving to be kind Don't use that as an opportunity to Be careless and reckless with your spouse Okay, number four be tender-hearted Okay, we spoke about that a little bit, you know to be tender-hearted to have a caring relationship with each other to Have patience to bear each other with when they have weaknesses Okay, and so it reads at the bottom of the page 39 ask him to show you how they are Compliment to your strength remember that though the ways you and your wife are the same can unite you the ways you are different can keep things interesting interesting so as a Consulting be ever consulting we call those weaknesses areas as blind spots so if you know each other's blind spots you can help bear each other and bear the load and And and to to sometimes not poke fun But to understand that's again goes back to dwell with your husband or your wife with understanding and so you're you're coping with that as a no longer a weakness for you anymore, but it becomes a Loving strength as you guys grow continue to grow in God together number five be courteous Okay, and sometimes is Sometimes people say it's shivery dead like open the door You know for her or either, you know Sometimes people say that man are supposed that's tradition Man works outside women stay home and do the laundry and do the you guys can take turns This is modern era 2019 So some people take turns some people take out the garbage at least sometimes take out the garbage Sometimes the man take up the garbage them times a man do the dishes while the lady goes out grocery shopping. So it's a it's a helping Relationship in marriage. So that is a blessing. So Say be courteous And it says there is nothing more Wonderful than the male voice it is strong in deep and rich and the sound of a male of Male voices thing and together is one of the most beautiful sounds on earth Have you ever heard of any quartets or gospel male singers? You can even look up one of these gospel music singers. They are the winings if you look at these Gospel greats you can probably hear their Beautiful singing voices and it's in harmony and it's so beautiful as an example It says but the male voice can also be terrifying Especially to women and children. So be careful how you present Yourself in your approach when you're at home among your children among, you know, other friends and adults Because that voice even though you may not think you're carrying a heavy tone But the male voice already has that tone already and that's what she's saying It can be especially terrifying to women and children when it's you know, higher pitch It says most men have no idea about the power of their voice when a man speaks his words have the power to create and The power to destroy his words can be like a shop knife That wounds and kills or soothing bomb that heals and brings life Bomb is something that cures and bring healing and often we know when you read the word of God It says my word will will will not return to me void God says it shall prosper the thing I sent it to do So when God shows for his word when it's sent out by you and I and we speak God's word That becomes life and that becomes Effective and that allows things to we get to have authority in the earth by using God's word and to allow God's word to come into fruition through bathing a prayer and believing on God's word And it says your wife was created as a gift from God to complete you No, it was a man created for a woman, but woman for the man, but she must be treated as the gift from God so don't lose that train of thought don't lose that train of of Giftedness in your wife that she's a gift from God for you that she is Excuse me in an order for that complete lesson to happen in your life Your wife will prove to be your greatest asset if you value and honor her if you continue to do that You would see she is the greatest asset in your life The Bible tells us that whatever we ask we receive from him because we keep his commandments and do Those things that are pleasing in his sight and that's in 1st John 3 22 So pray for God to help you speak to your wife in a courtesy courteous way that is pleasing in his sight and to convict your heart when you do not so women as You were listening as well Those are also insightful things that we can do when we see That our spouse or significant others are not doing the same and not treating us what courtesy are or Act of compassion or sympathizing not that we need a pity party But we could ask that God will bring conviction in those areas where he can be more You know sympathizing a more courtesy and show Compassion or be more kind and loving in those areas if his heart has become callous or become a Terrifying sight where you don't wish to be so you have power and prayer So that's the name of the book the power of a praying husband. So these are some good tool sets to keep and It says she says please pray for yourself that you will be the husband God wants you to be You will be you will know how to really love your wife Pray that you will be led by the Holy Spirit in all decisions That you will be delivered from negative behavior and you will speak words that build and not destroy You will have the desire to pray for your wife and you will grow spiritually emotionally and mentally Okay, so those are the things that Would be very instructional for you to keep and then in closing We have a power of prayer prayer power at the end again It reads Lord creating me a clean heart Renew a right spirit within me Show me where my attitude and thoughts are not what you would have them to be Especially toward my wife Convict me when I am being unforgiving help me to let go of any anger again. This is a prayer Okay, so you're letting your leap release in it unleashing it all to God Okay, help me to let go of any anger so that confusion will not have a place in my mind If there's behavior in me that needs to change and able me to make changes that last Whatever you reveal to me. I will confess To you as sin make me a man after your own heart and able me to be the head of my home and family That you created me to be Lord show me how to really cover and name your wife how to cover This person how to cap cover Sarah how to cap cover Josephine in prayer and able me to dwell with her with understanding and give honor to her so that my prayers may not be hindered Renew our love one another heal any words that have caused a rift Between us a disconnection heal any wounds that have caused Any rift give me patient understanding and compassion. That's what he's asking for it Give me patience understanding and compassion in your prayer Help me to be loving tender hearted and courteous to her just as you asked me in your word in First Peter 3 verse 8 and able me to love her the way that you do and Finally Lord, I pray that you would bring Josephino Sarah whoever your wife's name name her and Speak her name out loud That you would bring such and such and Me to a new place of unity with one another make us to be of the same mind Show me that I need to what I need to do in order to make that come about Give me words that heal not wound Fill my heart with your love so that what overflows through my speech will be words that build up Convict my heart when I don't live your way Help me to be the man and husband that you would want me to be Hey, man and amen May that bless your hearts your soul your mind your spirit and may you continue to go forth and live a Power and a powerful and effective prayer life and Jesus most precious day. Amen and amen. God bless you