 Hello my YouTube family when the narcissist knows they've lost you forever That is the topic for today's video first. Let's how let's first let's talk about How does a narcissist know That they have lost you forever Of course the first sign may be that you're not as talkative As you were before You're not revealing your plans and intentions Your goals and dreams You're not expressing yourself You're not confiding in them as much as you were before so You're keeping a lot of things to yourself and And you may be not only emotionally distant but physically distant as well Maybe you're just not around them anymore You're not contacting them You're not responding to their texts or phone calls You've cut all forms of communication with them So they're not hearing from you anymore They don't know what's happening They don't know what's going on in your life These are all signs to a narcissist That they have lost you forever Especially if they see that you've moved on Into a new situation And it's like Maybe you've moved to a different town a different city Even a different country you've got new friends Maybe you even have a new relationship partner All of these things that just further distance you from the narcissist It reveals to them that they have lost you That you're not coming back and now let's talk about what happens When they know that they have lost you forever When they know that you are not coming back a lot of narcissists They're not just gonna leave it alone. I just forget about you and let you go Not if you were there grade a source of supply If you were that to a narcissist They're not just gonna let you move on with your life And instead what they're gonna do is they're gonna try and get you back And they may first try to do that by love-bombing you By trying to rekindle the relationship Trying to ignite that spark again Because That spark that chemistry I mean that's what kept you around all of that time If it wasn't for that you never would have been there to begin with That's how they lured you into it Through the use of this false character and the love-bombing The manipulation the lies the future faking So they may try to go back to that again And if they do you need to be aware that yes it is all fake That's where they rely on the manipulation lies and future faking so strongly That's why they do that Because it's not real It's just designed to lure you win or to keep you So they will bring back that false character whenever they think that they need to As long as they think that it's going to keep you around So for a lot of narcissists that is what they will try to do first They will try to return to the love-bombing phase And they will come back where they hoover They will try to lure you back into the relationship again, but in some situations they may just skip that If they already know that you figured them out If you've already Questioned and confronted them as you've made it very clear to them that you know who they are you know what they're doing If you're no longer susceptible to them manipulation Of course, they're not going to try love-bombing you Because they already know that you're on to them and maybe you've maybe you've got so many better things going on in your life So many better things than what you had when you were with them Maybe you've got a new job you're living in a new city. You've got a new relationship partner So it doesn't make any sense for them to love-bomb you if you have got all of that going on in some situations If you are still susceptible, then yes, they will still love-bomb you But just as in the previous situation that I mentioned if it's not effective If it doesn't work on you for whatever reason Then of course If something doesn't work, they're gonna try something else. They're gonna do something different They're gonna see what is gonna be effective on this person What can I do to control them to manipulate them to get them to react in the way that I want them to To get them to do what I want So if the love-bombing is not effective on you What they're gonna do then is they're gonna devalue you and they're gonna intimidate and coerce you into submission Yes, that's exactly what they're going to do They're gonna try to bring you down. They're gonna pull up all of the stops in an effort to control you even if they have to destroy you in the process and They may do this by triangulating you with other people or They may try to get you in trouble with the law they will drag you through the through the courts Or if they can't do it legally Then what they're gonna do instead is they will try to get you fired from your job They will unjustly discredit you They will try to target you financially They will try to isolate you They will start a smear campaign against you and enforce their flying monkeys They will say all of these horrible things about you behind your back They will assassinate your character. They will smear your name They will do whatever they think they have to do to get you back When they know that they have lost you forever Because they look at it like well if everything is on your terms If everything is under your conditions Where you have the ability to govern yourself at your own life in the way that you would like Then they already know fully well, there's no way you're ever gonna go back to them They already know that for sure And the reason why they know that is because yes, they're already aware of how they have treated you Yes, they know that they have treated you wrong They know that no normal sane person would ever want to go back to that type of treatment They know that no normal sane person would ever think that they deserve that so of course They already know that you're not gonna go back to them They know that there is no way in hell that that is ever Going to happen Because it doesn't make any sense if you were abused if you received such bad treatment and You were wronged You were deceived They did all of these things to you. They lied to you. They cheated on you. They stole from you Not just once but so many times They've done all of these things to you You really think they're expecting you to go back to them when they know Just how evil and despicable they are of course. They already know you're not coming back They know you're never going back to them Once you figure them out Once you've watched my videos and you realize you don't want something like that in your life Of course, they know you're never going back Of course, they know that the only way they're gonna get you back is to reel you back in Whether it's through the love bombing the intimidation and coercion The smear campaigns the false narrative Targeting you financially doing whatever they have to do to drag you back in and just they will run a smear campaign They look at it like Well, if you don't want to come back to me, I don't want you to go anywhere with anyone I Want you to remain alone and without Everything that you are and everything that you have Because they look at it like you are their possession an object that exists to serve them so it's like Why should you be who you are and have what you have if you're not with me? That's just how they see it and not only that If you try to get away as I mentioned before they may try to drag you through the courts And they may even try to get you locked up They may try to send you to prison For things that you haven't even done Or they may try to get you to commit reactive abuse They may do all of these things to you and then when you finally react They will take it their phone and record you and take it to the police They have so many tricks up their sleeve And the reason why is because they do not want their source of supply to get away If there's one thing a narcissist cannot deal with It's that fear of losing their source of supply That fear of being rejected and abandoned And even the threat of them being exposed So all of these things combined of the reasons Why they do not want to lose you as their source of supply They do not want to lose you They want you to come back They want you to remain in the situation that you were before When you were under their spell When you believed everything that they said Everything that they displayed to you You believed in their lies and manipulations You did whatever they wanted you to do You were out there back and called when they said jump you said how high Yes, they were quite comfortable with that type of thing They were quite comfortable with that type of environment Because they were heavily dependent on you as their source of supply The last thing they want is to lose that type of arrangement They don't want to see you running off with someone else or somewhere else They do not want to see that And instead what they do want to see Is you Being so Confused and broken down Where your life just continues to deteriorate After leaving them To where you can't even take care of yourself And you're struggling to move on And it's getting so bad so difficult You're struggling to support yourself That you think that maybe you would have been better off If you had just stayed with them Yes That's exactly how they want things to be for you When you're trying to get away from the abuse When you're trying to move on and live your best life They want you to come crawling right back Because it feeds their ego It tells them that they're powerful and important They're worth something, they're significant Because they're not going to feel that way if you are Not just walking but running in the opposite direction They're not going to feel that way then They need you to be there to validate the false character and the illusion That they are trying to portray Because it's not going to be the same with anyone else No one else could do it like you did You made them feel special, you made them feel important And that's why they're going to pull out all the stops when they feel like they're losing you That's why they're going to do whatever it takes to try to get you back I see 195 live viewers Hit that thumbs up button down below If you are finding this video helpful so far But yeah, this is just how it is with these narcissists They can't just let you move on They can't just let you go They can't stand losing you because you are their grade A source of supply So they're going to hold on to you for their lives When you try to move on they're going to feel like they're in a fight for their lives Like it's life or death to them The last thing they want to see is you getting away And in fact, I would even go as far as to say That they would rather that you just stayed with them And they took care of everything for you Than for you to go off on your own Even if you are living a worse life without them Yes That's how it is a lot of times in these relations That's how it is a lot of times in these relationships And this is why so many people get stuck And it's often because of finances They look at it like While these narcissists took care of everything when I was with them So maybe I am better off staying with them And that is not the right mindset to have Because you need to remember everything that you went through You were being abused You put up with so many things from them They did so many things to you They brought you down They made you miserable It took a toll on your health And you need to remind yourself of that anytime that you feel like going back to them When the narcissist loses you And you're beginning to move on There are certain things that you need to prevent them from coming back And to prevent them from getting you to go back to them What you need to do is you need to set strong boundaries You've got to develop your self-esteem Practice self-love Self-love is your greatest defense Against narcissistic people Against narcissistic people And not only that But you need to establish a strong support network If you already have one You need to maintain it Even through the smear campaigns And what you might also want to do is document Any evidence that you have of the abuse Their messages, their emails Maybe even record the phone calls And you can use that to protect you Maybe you can get a restraining order against the narcissist That might help to deter them Because as we know, the very obsessed They have these fantasies in their heads To the point where they just can't let things go They just can't leave you alone And let you move on with your life They've got to keep coming back They've got to try to pull you back in Because they can't stand to see you going off on your own With everything that you are And everything that you have It's just too painful for them to see that I don't know, it's a difficult thing for many of you to understand But you've got to understand it You've got to realise that this person does not have your best interest in mind Remember all of the things they did to you Remember how they treated you You really think that person cares about you Of course not And that's why they don't want to see you moving on Despite everything that they did to you Of course they already know that they're no good for you They've seen the effects that their behaviour has had on you They saw how your life took a turn for the worse As a result of their presence As a result of the things that they were doing to you This is why you need to build your self-esteem You need to practice self-love You need to realise just how great you are Because they realise that enough to want to keep you around And to target you in the first place So this is why you need to remind yourself every day just how great you are It will help you to protect yourself Because you may find a lot of times when you're dealing with narcissists It's like no one is even there to protect you I know a lot of you are alone, a lot of you are isolated A lot of you haven't got a support network, you haven't got any friends So it's like there's no one who is even there for you And that's why I've got to get on Q and share these messages Because I know a lot of you don't have that support And it makes it very difficult for you to move on and to protect yourself from the narcissist 203 live viewers Only 31 thumbs ups Please show your support, hit the thumbs up button down below Helps the YouTube algorithm to get this message out there to other people who might need it Because it's not always so simple When they know that they've lost you forever They're going to try to hold on to you They're going to try to get inside your head They're going to try to come back and make you believe that you're not doing good You're not doing well without them And that in fact you do actually need their support, their validation You do need something from them And even when they do that they'll just come back Just to sabotage what you've got Just to sabotage your success or what you're trying to build Nothing good comes out of dealing with narcissists And we should know that by now I mean I've been doing these videos now for about five and a half years I've got hundreds of clients And I've never heard anyone say that their life had improved from dealing with a narcissist That just doesn't happen The victim is the one who comes in with a lot and leaves with practically nothing The narcissist is the one who comes in with nothing And leaves with practically everything That is the difference That's just how it is And that's always how it's going to be when you are dealing with a narcissist It's never going to be any different than that And so you should expect it, you should know That when you are involved with a person like that That is the only thing that you're going to get from them You're going to end up being abused You're going to end up losing your motivation You're going to end up losing your motivation, your hope, your success Everything that you worked for Everything that you are, everything that you had You're going to lose it all And not only that, but they're going to keep coming back They're going to keep coming back to the source that supplied them That grade A primary source of supply The empath has chosen one The one they can't live without The one they can't find again Because they're never going to find anyone else like you ever again They're never going to find that, they're never going to have that So all they can do is come back and try to get it from you Because they're not going to get that anywhere else And this is why they will typically return to you They will typically try to come back And when they do that, you're just going to shut that door Don't let them back in Don't let them do that to you Because you deserve better, you deserve more As I said, build yourself esteem, practice self-love Realize just how great you are Realize that you deserve better, you deserve more Because they're never going to tell you that They're never going to let you know just how great you actually are Instead all they're going to do is pick themselves up And yet it's like just by being around them Your life takes a turn for the worse You go down Things do not get better for you And yet at the same time they're still manipulating and deceiving you Lying to you in future faking, making you believe in this impossible dream Making you believe that things will get better for you if you just stay with them But when did things ever get better for you before And this is why you're watching this video right now Because you're desiring to leave them You're desiring to move on and have a fresh new start Have a better life without them Because that is the right thing for you to do That's what you need to do And I'm sure many of you that's what you will do So this is what happens This is how it goes Where they know That they have lost you forever When the narcissist Knows that they have lost you They're going to try to find you They're going to try to get you back And if they can't get you back They're going to try to destroy you Because they look at it like If I can't have you I don't want to see anyone else have you So at the very least it's like They don't want you to be good enough for anyone else After they're gone They want you to be so effed up in the mind That you can't even think straight You can't love, you can't appreciate, you can't connect You can't have anything with anyone Because you're so screwed up In the head After everything that they did to you To where you can't get your mind Of all of the things that they did So then you're stuck, you can't move on You can't establish a connection with anyone Because you're too stuck on what they did to you To where it's like You're never going to be good For anyone else You're never going to have anything I would say like that But that wasn't real But you're never going to have anything Real again It's what they want for you You're never going to have anything At the level of what you had Before you got involved with them Before they came in and they turned your life upside down You're never going to return to that level You're never going to return to that state That's what they want for you To never be good For anyone or anything After they're gone If they can't get you back Yes That's exactly what they want Because that's punishment That's to get you back It's to make you feel small It's to make you feel like a nothing An adequate and sufficient Which is exactly how they feel When they lose you This grade A source of supply This chosen one, this empath That's exactly how they feel inside When they lose you So of course They want to make you feel the exact same way Her people, her people And how a person treats you Is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves Anyway That's the message for today And I hope it's helpful For those of you who are going through this right now If you found it helpful Please show your support By giving it a thumbs up down below You can also donate By Giving a super chat through the live chat Or a super thanks in the comment section Or you can donate through my PayPal It is paypal.me.narchsurvivor Hit subscribe and click all notifications So 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